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xxxafterglow · 09-27-2007, 01:16 PM

Sorry if this topic has been covered elsewhere (my search didn't yield what I was looking for)...

I'm looking to get deeper (ha ha) into anal play w/ my boyfriend cuz I LOVE rimming him (and he loves it too) and we're ready for the next step.

So I was wondering if anyone here has experience with butt plugs, beads, vibrator, strap-ons etc? Any preferences? I thought I'd start out with the beads because they seem more interactive than the plug.... which feels better?

And what's the best way to finger the prostate?

Thanks in advance.

Plan9 · 09-27-2007, 01:22 PM

http://www.vibreview.com/how_to/pros..._whys_and_hows

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Don't do beads.

Jenna · 09-27-2007, 01:30 PM

Yeah I'd have to second on no beads.

Well, I've never done anal play on my boyfriend, but he's had fun with me. Anal beads weren't all I hoped.

xxxafterglow · 09-27-2007, 01:47 PM

Ah thanks, that's why this place rules.

mixedmedia · 09-27-2007, 03:12 PM

I don't know, I kind of like the beads. They just don't give you the 'blast' that they're purported to in their marketing. But they're a fairly non-threatening way of delving into anal play.

Butt plugs are good, but work your way up to them using your finger and possibly the beads, because in order to make it worth your while, you have to be able to 'take' a plug with a large enough girth at the bottom to not slip out when you move around. Hope I explained that well enough.

As for the prostate:
1. wear a latex glove, even if your nails are short (you definitely don't want to scratch or tear that extremely delicate tissue)
2. insert your index finger *Edit - palm up!* (or whatever finger you are most comfortable using) just past the second knuckle and then crook your finger a little and feel around...sometimes it takes a little 'familiarization with the neighborhood' so to speak, but eventually you will feel a smallish, roundish, spongy surface and that is his prostate. You can massage it gently while he masturbates, or (if you are very coordinated) jack him off yourself at the same time. It may take some practice, but when it's done right, he will have some spectacular orgasms that are a true delight to take part in.

Here's some more info:

http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howt...tate%20massage

Charlatan · 09-27-2007, 04:39 PM

Go for the strap on... start small and use lots of lube.

Plan9 · 09-27-2007, 04:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Charlatan

Go for the strap on... start small and use lots of lube.

Obvious note: Not all guys will agree to that kind of activity.

Playing with anatomy is one thing, sexual posturing is another.

abaya · 09-27-2007, 10:25 PM

Sexual posturing?

mixedmedia · 09-28-2007, 01:43 AM

Some guys might not be comfortable 'taking it' so literally right off the bat, I think he means.

Plan9 · 09-28-2007, 02:34 AM

A strap-on is more of a role-changing thing, not ananatomy-pleasuring oriented device. That device is what is attached to said belt-of-manhood.

Either way... that shit creeps me out. As it does to most men out there.

...

The only belts I like during sex are the ones left in the pants on the floor.

mixedmedia · 09-28-2007, 02:44 AM

Well, I think more guys are (or could be) into that than you might realize. It's just sex-play. If you're comfortable with your sexuality it shouldn't cause you any psychic discomfort. But if you're not into it, you're just not into it. *shrug*

Plan9 · 09-28-2007, 02:46 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mixedmedia

Well, I think more guys are (or could be) into that than you might realize. It's just sex-play. If you're comfortable with your sexuality it shouldn't cause you any psychic discomfort. But if you're not into it, you're just not into it. *shrug*

"No, I'm on top, dammit!"

mixedmedia · 09-28-2007, 03:06 AM

That's fine, too.

abaya · 09-28-2007, 03:10 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mixedmedia

Well, I think more guys are (or could be) into that than you might realize. It's just sex-play. If you're comfortable with your sexuality it shouldn't cause you any psychic discomfort. But if you're not into it, you're just not into it. *shrug*

Yup.

And really, it's not always about role play. You have a prostate. It feels better than you can possibly imagine, to have it massaged and stimulated. Seriously.

mixedmedia · 09-28-2007, 04:09 AM

Well, I think his qualms are with the strap-on scenario. Being humped by a woman, so to speak. Not necessarily all anal play.

And I can understand that I guess because I'm not really turned on by the idea of it, either.

I guess what I'm getting at is that 'strap-on' is more than just anal play.

xxxafterglow · 09-28-2007, 04:15 AM

Thanks mixedmedia - I'm out to shop for gloves and lube now!

From this girl's perspective... I think it would be really hot to slap my man with my harness dildo, blow and screw him silly and generally milk him dry. A strap-on seems like a nice way to do double duty... if you know what I mean.

09-27-2007, 01:16 PM	#1 (permalink)
xxxafterglow Crazy Location: Berlin	Anal Play for Beginners... Sorry if this topic has been covered elsewhere (my search didn't yield what I was looking for)... I'm looking to get deeper (ha ha) into anal play w/ my boyfriend cuz I LOVE rimming him (and he loves it too) and we're ready for the next step. So I was wondering if anyone here has experience with butt plugs, beads, vibrator, strap-ons etc? Any preferences? I thought I'd start out with the beads because they seem more interactive than the plug.... which feels better? And what's the best way to finger the prostate? Thanks in advance. __________________ Uh huh her.

09-27-2007, 01:22 PM	#2 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	http://www.vibreview.com/how_to/pros..._whys_and_hows ... Don't do beads. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

09-27-2007, 01:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
xxxafterglow Crazy Location: Berlin	Ah thanks, that's why this place rules. __________________ Uh huh her.

09-27-2007, 03:12 PM	#5 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	I don't know, I kind of like the beads. They just don't give you the 'blast' that they're purported to in their marketing. But they're a fairly non-threatening way of delving into anal play. Butt plugs are good, but work your way up to them using your finger and possibly the beads, because in order to make it worth your while, you have to be able to 'take' a plug with a large enough girth at the bottom to not slip out when you move around. Hope I explained that well enough. As for the prostate: 1. wear a latex glove, even if your nails are short (you definitely don't want to scratch or tear that extremely delicate tissue) 2. insert your index finger Edit - palm up! (or whatever finger you are most comfortable using) just past the second knuckle and then crook your finger a little and feel around...sometimes it takes a little 'familiarization with the neighborhood' so to speak, but eventually you will feel a smallish, roundish, spongy surface and that is his prostate. You can massage it gently while he masturbates, or (if you are very coordinated) jack him off yourself at the same time. It may take some practice, but when it's done right, he will have some spectacular orgasms that are a true delight to take part in. Here's some more info: http://www.babeland.com/sexinfo/howt...tate%20massage __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

09-27-2007, 04:39 PM	#6 (permalink)
Charlatan Getting it. Super Moderator Location: Lion City	Go for the strap on... start small and use lots of lube. __________________ "My hands are on fire. Hands are on fire. Ain't got no more time for all you charlatans and liars." - Old Man Luedecke

09-27-2007, 01:30 PM	#3 (permalink)
Jenna Psycho Location: Wisconsin	Yeah I'd have to second on no beads. Well, I've never done anal play on my boyfriend, but he's had fun with me. Anal beads weren't all I hoped.

09-27-2007, 10:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	Sexual posturing? __________________ And think not you can direct the course of Love; for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. --Khalil Gibran

09-28-2007, 01:43 AM	#9 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	Some guys might not be comfortable 'taking it' so literally right off the bat, I think he means. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

09-28-2007, 02:34 AM	#10 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	A strap-on is more of a role-changing thing, not ananatomy-pleasuring oriented device. That device is what is attached to said belt-of-manhood. Either way... that shit creeps me out. As it does to most men out there. ... The only belts I like during sex are the ones left in the pants on the floor. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake."

09-28-2007, 02:44 AM	#11 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	Well, I think more guys are (or could be) into that than you might realize. It's just sex-play. If you're comfortable with your sexuality it shouldn't cause you any psychic discomfort. But if you're not into it, you're just not into it. shrug __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

09-28-2007, 03:06 AM	#13 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	That's fine, too. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

09-28-2007, 04:09 AM	#15 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	Well, I think his qualms are with the strap-on scenario. Being humped by a woman, so to speak. Not necessarily all anal play. And I can understand that I guess because I'm not really turned on by the idea of it, either. I guess what I'm getting at is that 'strap-on' is more than just anal play. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

09-28-2007, 04:15 AM	#16 (permalink)
xxxafterglow Crazy Location: Berlin	Thanks mixedmedia - I'm out to shop for gloves and lube now! From this girl's perspective... I think it would be really hot to slap my man with my harness dildo, blow and screw him silly and generally milk him dry. A strap-on seems like a nice way to do double duty... if you know what I mean. __________________ Uh huh her.