Who's right or wrong here?
 

K so.. picture this.


online gamers, guild of about 300 people from a large MMO.

once upon a time, a couple of 5 years strong, (me and my ex) both in this guild, both made friends. yearly routine of going to a gaming convention.

one day, girl leaves this couple to get with some guy who was also in this guild.

girl, and guy she gets with, quit playing game.


then I quit for a while, get my life sorted out, pick the game back up somewhat off and on, but still play.

convention time again. I like going to the convention for the sake of the convention, im a gamer, I enjoy this stuff, 3 years running.

assume that her, and her new guy do too, thats fine. I have no issue with them going to the con.

however, a post from the new guy basically says his intent is to wind up at our hotel (along with my ex)

I flat out think they aren't invited, considering they both live in the area, they have no reason to be at my hotel (even if there is a party in my room)

she thinks i'm being silly, I think neither of them are welcome.


I donno what to do or how to handle it. I just wanna have a good time, new memories and such, take lots of pictures, and I don't want to have to see them in my pictures for group shots or whatever, to look back at my pictures over the summer and have my new experiences tainted by old foul memories.



so, who's to know how I should deal with this?

It's not 'your' hotel, it's just the same one. Sometimes, we just have to suck it in and pretend nothing bothers us. Be cordial if need be, move on. And if thoughts come up, make'em the really bad ones, so you can say 'well, she's HIS problem now-good riddance'.

I know this isn't the topic of this thread, but I can't help but feel something die inside of me when I hear about these World of Warcraft/some other MMORPG break-ups.

As for being on topic, I agree with ng.

Man up...


If homeboy wants to be childish and try to ruin your time... fuck him. Be the bigger man and ignore it.

Are they coming to tease you? Or are they coming because they want the same thing you do--a good time at the con?

You know, sometimes we get our buttons pushed by random, unpredictable things. The thing to remember is, it's your button, really, and you get to say whether it's pushable or not.

shauk,

i'm not sure i fully understand; are you saying they intend to simply end up in the hotel you're staying at, or are the specifically looking to crash a party in your room? if they're going to be at the same hotel and that's it, just let it go. if they're going so far as to want to get their swerve on up in your rented hacenda, i think you have full rights to not want them coming by any party you and your compadres might be planning. at least, that's my line of separation.

however, if they do crash your party, just smile and ignore. anything else will just bother you more.

what pigglet said

Um, yeah, what pigglet said.

Though if they do show up at your hotel room to party, feel free to politely ask them to get the fuck out.

I believe you're looking for

/admin hotel_ban [new guy]
/admin hotel_ban [ex_girlfriend]

Problem solved.

Sorry.. geek convention, it's gotta be said.

I need to write this down somewhere... I keep forgetting this for myself, lately.

well the issue to me is, i'm driving 4-500 miles.

they both, however, live within the city.

they have no reason to be at the hotel.

anyways, problem is pretty much solved. We weren't even sure if we were going to throw a lil shindig in our rooms or whatever, but I pretty much requested that it be invite only, and not open house. Pretty much agreed upon due to last year having too many people in our rooms, paying 170$ a night to not even have a place to sit until people start leaving isn't going to fly with me.

more information though, she didn't even know she was going, apparently this is all his planning, and she admits that he's a passive agressive asshole so, take out of that what you will.

I, unfortunately, have no problem with letting people push my buttons. if you're going to start something with me 500 miles away from where I live, well, you get to live with your mess, I dont.

Publically suggest a MMF threesome.....

/begin comic book guy voice

...best suggestion EVER

/end comic book guy voice.


but seriously, as pigglet said. if it is a party youre going to, then suck it up or dont go, but if it is YOUR private party, then you can invite or not invite for any reason whatsoever.
Public parties have to abide by nondiscrimination laws, you can choose to kick him out cuz you dont like the colour of his shirt.

Doesn't matter who is wrong or right, what do you think you can live with the morning after.

Shauk,

Either way this turns out, seems like you've come a long way from your posts when you guys were breaking up. Glad to see it. Stick up for youself man, you deserve it.

eh, thanks for the input guys :)

I'm not going to sweat it, I just have to remind myself that I am an individual now from time to time, she's no longer an extension of me and that her actions, and his actions really should mean nothing to me. Kinda hard to forget it after 5 or whatever years but, I'm doing pretty good now, dropped that old pizza job, got a merchandising job, making a trip to L.A. in June, Seattle in August. I'm going to be making the most of my single life this summer, thats for sure.