A guys first time
 

Scenario:
A guys first time. Not with a girlfriend, but with a random girl he just met. Should he mention hes a virgin?

Do you have to tell her anything? If your dick is sticking up hard enough to get a condom on and you've seen a few pornos before, I don't think it matters much. Just get her nice and wet before you go jamming anything into her.

No. Just go at it and have fun. People tend to be judgemental and they'll very possibly think u'll suck the first time.

I sucked my first time.. of coarse, the fact that she was so loose I couldn't feel anything didn't help the matter.

He doesn't have to tell, but she might get the impression that he came a bit fast ;) (then again, some people do come fast, so that really doesn't matter. This is where pr0n experience comes into the picture, most guys have the background information they need to give the girl quite an experience without even penetrating :D

I don't think a guy's first time should be with some random girl he just met. It would be much more meaningful to be in some sort of relationship first. Then, yes tell her.

i don't think it matters! if he wants to have sex for the first time with a random woman, more power to him! it doesn't seem like he's looking for some great meaning to the sex. he just wants some! i would just say to not go directly for the pussy. give her some nice oral satisfaction all over her body and she won't know that it's your first time. if you cum quickly, just tell her the she's is soooo hot that she turned you on too much and you couldn't control yourself ;)

Heh, first time doesn't always me cumming fast. My first time, I lasted 2 1/2 hours. I don't know how, but I wish I did because now I'm lucky if I last 2 1/2 minutes :(.

Anyhoo, "sex being meaningful the first time" is a standard that people place upon it. It's just sex. Go have fun and enjoy. And if you do suck the first time, you don't ever have to talk to the lady again! :-P

I think that is true to a degree. Many societies seem to place this importance on making your first time special and meaningful and to share the losing of ones virginity with someone special. And I think to a large part we have been conditioned to think that a woman should hold that belief while men don't get held to that same standard.

If a person's first time sucks, it isn't like it is going to stop most people from trying until they get it right.

But back to the original topic, I'd think I'd want to know if I was a girl's first so that perhaps I could be understanding of what she may be thinking. Perhaps a female member would have a perspective on if she would want to know if it was her partner's first time.

If it's a random girl you just met, mentioning it's your first time doesn't seem all that important. It might be to you, but she might not care. Then again, she might think it's the tops that she's breaking in a virgin.

I lost it to a random girl, did not mention I was a virgin, and then she called me up a couple times to do it again.

I've mentioned to random girls that wanted to have sex with me I was a virgin, and all interest was lost.

Well, I've been with a guy that didn't tell me it was his first time. All in all, it's not a big deal. Plus if you don't really know this girl and you don't have an emotional connection it's doubtful that she would care a whole lot. But as people said, she could think it's really amazing and take over just to show you how it's done. I think that it's up to you, I probably wouldn't tell her if it was just a one night stand type of thing because I don't believe it'll matter.

Good advice !

The first time is kinda over-exciting.

However, I don't think watching porn beforehand will let a virgin male into many good things to try on a first sexual encounter. Most women in porn have had sex a lot and don't act like virgins act at all. I have only been with two virgins and it seemed to be better if the woman is on top with the guy laying on his back. That way she can control the deepness and speed of it and pleasure.

My other advice is to practice putting a condom on a banana until you are more comfortable with it. Also make sure you don't have sex in the dark as sometimes you can put the condom on backwards and it won't unroll that way. And lastly is to open the condom wrapper before you get naked with her. That way, it is open already as some of the wrappers are harder to open than others. Just my 2 cents.

Jonathan

If you don't care enough about the girl to get to know her before you stick your dick inside her then why would you feel the need to tell her you're a virgin?


Unless you plan on having a relationship with this girl or even just talking to her again... keep your mouth shut and fuck to your little hearts content.

My first time wasn't with a totally random girl, but not a girlfriend either. She was just a girl I used to work with. I didn't tell her about it since I didn't want her treating me any different, or even worse, having her decide to not have sex with me because of it.

If I were you I would keep my mouth shut. She may lose interest or she may not, but why take the chance?

I wouldn't say anything. You could use it as an excuse afterwards though, if things don't go that well :D

I lost my virginity to a random girl and didn't tell her. Apparently I was "the best she ever had." She had no clue I was a virgin until one of her friends told her. We hooked up several times afterwards until I found out she was a stage five clinger. It is possible not to suck your first time, I guess all the porn paid off. All I wanted to do was have sex. I feel there is a different between making love and having sex. I recommend not telling her and just doing it I never regretted my decision.

I also lost it to a random girl but it happened so suddenly that I wouldn't have had time between when I knew we were going to have sex and having sex. We're still friends and I've never told her that she was my first nor do I have any urge to tell her. I don't understand how telling this random girl you're a virgin could be important or benefit you unless, as others have said, she's awesome and takes over.

:raises hand:

My first time, I lasted about three seconds. Literally: stroke, stroke, str.. boom.

I've gotten much better since then.

My point is: if the girl didn't know I was a virgin, that would have been a problem. As it was, she thought it was kind of cute.

And he might never have an orgasm the first time he has sex, so why take the chance of having the girl lose interest in him?

Oh Jesus Christ... Just jerk off about twenty minutes before you fuck her...

...and use it as hair gel.

The pheromones alone can change your mind...
and allow you to decide for yourself.

Didn't tell my girlfriend she was my first until a month after we'd started having sex. Her initial reaction was, after a long pause, "really"? She didn't believe me, said that I seemed to know what I was doing the first time.

I took it as a compliment.

I vote.. Don't tell her. Just go for it. Worst case scenario, it doesn't last long, and you mess around with her till she gets off, she leaves happy, you leave happy, life is good.

how can you guys even consider 'random girls'. the possibility of getting a STD is just too high, isn't it?

I guess I'm a bit different, I've had sex with virgin men a few times, and when they mentioned that they were virgins, I just took it as an opportunity to completely blow their minds. And yes, mission was well and truly accomplished. :)

I dunno, its a gamble, I think some women will take it as a challenge while it will scare others off...

I'd so no, if you can get it without telling her then keep your mouth shut and do the deed.

I personally couldn't cum my first time. It was just too much pressure I guess, I didnt have any problem getting it up... but no blow... Maybe the years of dry lubeless masterbation made me have no sensation with the condom on.. lol

My first time I lasted like 45 seconds :( I'm not even kidding...It was terrible...not that the girl was expecting anything more. My girlfriend of a year and a half (thats right a year and a half and no poon) had just dumped me and this girl offered pity sex...I gratefully accepted of course.

What do you possibly have to gain by telling her? Just practice putting on a condom beforehand, and be prepared to either be done really quickly or go FOREVER. :)