the mental abuse might just be an idea? The first one to call foul often becomes the "victim". Well, at least unless they're the referee. Or if they refuse the role of victim, and refuse to be one.

Just my 2p worth, from a girl's perspective.

Most guys have far too high an opinion of girls they are interested in, including me. I'm not exactly Satan incarnate, but I am NOT a goody-goody girl, and certainly not the innocent, wide-eyed Angel that exists in the minds of the guys who think I'm cute.

All I'm saying is, be aware that you may have more faith in this girl than is necessarily warranted.