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Deltona Couple · 04-23-2007, 06:20 AM

Well, after 10 years being together, and enjoying raising my kids to teenagers from a previous marriage, Mrs Deltona and I are finally going to try and have a child of our own. Since we don't have a VERY long time in which to accomplish this (I DREAD being almost 60 before this new one will be graduating HS...hahaha) How many of you out there can offer us some ideas on how to make this happen quickly? any special positions that always seem to work? etc.... I am looking for ALL advise. Thanx in advance friends!

braisler · 04-23-2007, 06:31 AM

Man, I don't have much to offer about specific ways to make it work. As long as both of you are healthy, you shouldn't have any problem conceiving. It can take a few months, so don't stress about it if it doesn't happen for you right away. You should know her cycle. Usually, two weeks after the start of her last menstrual start is when she is most fertile. You can take it a step further by monitoring basal metabolic temperature which is supposed to trend up slightly when she is fertile.

For us, as soon as we decided to stop trying "not" to concieve, we were pregnant. Seriously, one shot and we were done. Maybe you'll be as lucky.

Good luck and keep at it!

surferlove007 · 04-23-2007, 06:53 AM

Look at it from this perspective, my parents are 55 and I'm 19. I'm just finishing my first year in college, I wouldn't stress being 60 when they graduate high school, they'll just be happy to be there. Nothing wrong with being an older and wiser parent, I'm so glad my parents waited to have me and became established instead of rushing into kids.
Just from the opposite end of the spectrum. Hope it helps

Make those babies!

mandy · 04-23-2007, 07:46 AM

i dont have much to offer you ...but it's great that you guys wana have kids together. it really shouldn't matter to you or your wife what age you are when your kid grads from HS...all that should matter is that it's your kid.

personally i don't think there are any ways to make it happen quicker or faster, if it's in the cards for you, it will happen...

and you my friend, are definitely playing an awesome hand by wanting to have one in the first place.

i wish you and your wife all the best and i hope everything works out for you two...because seriously, there's no greater gift...but i bet you already know that

Deltona Couple · 04-23-2007, 07:47 AM

Thanks you three. Yea we have the thermometer and all that good stuff...lol. Just trying what we can. It kinda makes the sex not as fun since we are "working" at really TRYING to get pregnant, but hey, I'll be happy at the results. Ghostagirl, thanx for the input. Yeah, I know it isn't really a bad thing, just that before we had met, I was not planning on having any more children. I was looking forward to having them graduated by the time I was 40, and then enjoying the rest of my still young life having MY fun. But I love my wife, and she really wants one of our own, so I can't really deny us that one special thing.

Just for the record, so some might understand the situation as well... I am 37, and she is 27. I have 3 kids of my own, 16, 15, and 12.

surferlove007 · 04-23-2007, 07:51 AM

Thats wonderful you're willing to have another baby with her even when you've got your hands full with three teenagers, very commendable. Shes lucky to have someone to love her so much! My folks will be on the beginning stretch of 60 by the time I'm done with college, god help me!
Let us know when you get pregnant!

MageB420666 · 04-23-2007, 08:40 AM

One bit of advice that I've heard is that its best if you don't have sex every day, but take a day off between sessions. I think it has something to do with keeping the sperm count up.

Good luck and I hope things go well.

Deltona Couple · 04-23-2007, 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ghoastgirl1

Let us know when you get pregnant!

Well HOPEFULLY I won't be the one getting pregnant!

Daniel_ · 04-23-2007, 10:17 AM

The only advice I can add is to not invest so much importance in it that it breaks your heart when she has a period.

We've been trying for a couple of years, and have taken serious (i.e. expensive) medical advice which has indicated that there is no physical or chemical problem in either of us but it's crushingly miserable when another month goes by without a succesful conception.

Willravel · 04-23-2007, 10:31 AM

Both of you should get plenty of rest, exercise regularly, and eat as well as you can. You'd be surprised what good general health can do for the reproductive systems. If you're not in good shape, start with walks in the morning together (also romantic, a plus!) and try eating a large breakfast rich in fruit, protein rich dairy, and lean meat (think turkey bacon or turkey sausage) and smaller meals later in the day (don't eat after 6 or 7).

Deltona Couple · 04-23-2007, 11:28 AM

Thanx Will, I never really thought about that. Sounds like We are gonna be spending some romantic evening walks together...After we tie up the kids...lol! I never really thought about the eat right and plenty of rest and exercise.

cadre · 04-23-2007, 12:32 PM

I'm told there are positions which increase your chances of pregnancy but I can't think of anything specific at the moment. I think it was the deeper ones.

I'm sure there are a ton of websites out there with better advice than I can give though so my suggestion is to use the internet to your benefit.

Willravel · 04-23-2007, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Deltona Couple

Thanx Will, I never really thought about that. Sounds like We are gonna be spending some romantic evening walks together...After we tie up the kids...lol!

ROFL. I can relate...

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Originally Posted by Deltona Couple

I never really thought about the eat right and plenty of rest and exercise.

Frankly, it's something I tell everyone about everything. Getting sick a lot? Diet, exercise, and regular sleep. Depression? Diet, exercise, and regular sleep. Joining the military? Diet, exercise, and regular sleep. Getting ready to switch careers? Diet, exercise, and regular sleep.

It's really the tonic for whatever ails you. Speaking specifically about getting pregnant, the reproductive system, like many other systems in your body, are heavily effected by what you eat, how often and efficiently you exercise, and how well you sleep. As well as promoting general health, diet, exercise, and regular sleep can help to improve most specific functions of the body.

Best of luck, and I'm sure you two will continue to make great parents.

04-23-2007, 06:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
Deltona Couple Addict Location: Spring, Texas	Trying for an new member of the family Well, after 10 years being together, and enjoying raising my kids to teenagers from a previous marriage, Mrs Deltona and I are finally going to try and have a child of our own. Since we don't have a VERY long time in which to accomplish this (I DREAD being almost 60 before this new one will be graduating HS...hahaha) How many of you out there can offer us some ideas on how to make this happen quickly? any special positions that always seem to work? etc.... I am looking for ALL advise. Thanx in advance friends! __________________ "It is not that I have failed, but that I have found 10,000 ways that it DOESN'T work!" --Thomas Edison

04-23-2007, 06:31 AM	#2 (permalink)
braisler Addict Location: Midway, KY	Man, I don't have much to offer about specific ways to make it work. As long as both of you are healthy, you shouldn't have any problem conceiving. It can take a few months, so don't stress about it if it doesn't happen for you right away. You should know her cycle. Usually, two weeks after the start of her last menstrual start is when she is most fertile. You can take it a step further by monitoring basal metabolic temperature which is supposed to trend up slightly when she is fertile. For us, as soon as we decided to stop trying "not" to concieve, we were pregnant. Seriously, one shot and we were done. Maybe you'll be as lucky. Good luck and keep at it! __________________ --- You do not really understand something unless you can explain it to your grandmother. - Albert Einstein ---

04-23-2007, 07:46 AM	#4 (permalink)
mandy Addict Location: Port Elizabeth, South Africa	i dont have much to offer you ...but it's great that you guys wana have kids together. it really shouldn't matter to you or your wife what age you are when your kid grads from HS...all that should matter is that it's your kid. personally i don't think there are any ways to make it happen quicker or faster, if it's in the cards for you, it will happen... and you my friend, are definitely playing an awesome hand by wanting to have one in the first place. i wish you and your wife all the best and i hope everything works out for you two...because seriously, there's no greater gift...but i bet you already know that __________________ The Imagination equips us to see a reality we have yet to create

04-23-2007, 07:47 AM	#5 (permalink)
Deltona Couple Addict Location: Spring, Texas	Thanks you three. Yea we have the thermometer and all that good stuff...lol. Just trying what we can. It kinda makes the sex not as fun since we are "working" at really TRYING to get pregnant, but hey, I'll be happy at the results. Ghostagirl, thanx for the input. Yeah, I know it isn't really a bad thing, just that before we had met, I was not planning on having any more children. I was looking forward to having them graduated by the time I was 40, and then enjoying the rest of my still young life having MY fun. But I love my wife, and she really wants one of our own, so I can't really deny us that one special thing. Just for the record, so some might understand the situation as well... I am 37, and she is 27. I have 3 kids of my own, 16, 15, and 12. __________________ "It is not that I have failed, but that I have found 10,000 ways that it DOESN'T work!" --Thomas Edison

04-23-2007, 08:40 AM	#7 (permalink)
MageB420666 <Insert wise statement here> Location: Hell if I know	One bit of advice that I've heard is that its best if you don't have sex every day, but take a day off between sessions. I think it has something to do with keeping the sperm count up. Good luck and I hope things go well. __________________ Apathy: The best outlook this side of I don't give a damn.

04-23-2007, 06:53 AM	#3 (permalink)
surferlove007 Junkie	Look at it from this perspective, my parents are 55 and I'm 19. I'm just finishing my first year in college, I wouldn't stress being 60 when they graduate high school, they'll just be happy to be there. Nothing wrong with being an older and wiser parent, I'm so glad my parents waited to have me and became established instead of rushing into kids. Just from the opposite end of the spectrum. Hope it helps Make those babies!

04-23-2007, 07:51 AM	#6 (permalink)
surferlove007 Junkie	Thats wonderful you're willing to have another baby with her even when you've got your hands full with three teenagers, very commendable. Shes lucky to have someone to love her so much! My folks will be on the beginning stretch of 60 by the time I'm done with college, god help me! Let us know when you get pregnant!

04-23-2007, 10:17 AM	#9 (permalink)
Daniel_ Evil Priest: The Devil Made Me Do It! Location: Southern England	The only advice I can add is to not invest so much importance in it that it breaks your heart when she has a period. We've been trying for a couple of years, and have taken serious (i.e. expensive) medical advice which has indicated that there is no physical or chemical problem in either of us but it's crushingly miserable when another month goes by without a succesful conception. __________________ ╔═════════════════════════════════════════╗ Overhead, the Albatross hangs motionless upon the air, And deep beneath the rolling waves, In labyrinths of Coral Caves, The Echo of a distant time Comes willowing across the sand; And everthing is Green and Submarine ╚═════════════════════════════════════════╝

04-23-2007, 10:31 AM	#10 (permalink)
Willravel ... a sort of licensed troubleshooter.	Both of you should get plenty of rest, exercise regularly, and eat as well as you can. You'd be surprised what good general health can do for the reproductive systems. If you're not in good shape, start with walks in the morning together (also romantic, a plus!) and try eating a large breakfast rich in fruit, protein rich dairy, and lean meat (think turkey bacon or turkey sausage) and smaller meals later in the day (don't eat after 6 or 7).

04-23-2007, 11:28 AM	#11 (permalink)
Deltona Couple Addict Location: Spring, Texas	Thanx Will, I never really thought about that. Sounds like We are gonna be spending some romantic evening walks together...After we tie up the kids...lol! I never really thought about the eat right and plenty of rest and exercise. __________________ "It is not that I have failed, but that I have found 10,000 ways that it DOESN'T work!" --Thomas Edison

04-23-2007, 12:32 PM	#12 (permalink)
cadre The Worst Influence Location: Arizona	I'm told there are positions which increase your chances of pregnancy but I can't think of anything specific at the moment. I think it was the deeper ones. I'm sure there are a ton of websites out there with better advice than I can give though so my suggestion is to use the internet to your benefit. __________________ My life is one of those 'you had to be there' jokes.