sex during her period-how do I bring it up?
 

So another thread recently brought up the topic of sex during periods. I've wanted to have sex while a girl is on the rag for quite awhile now, but I'm always to shy to bring it up. How do I go about it? My girlfriend has never made any kind of indication she would want to do it, but I think she probably would try it, and in the end like it. How do I bring it up with her and ultimately get laid while she's on her period? I don't know what attracts me to it, maybe its something that makes her extra-femanine or something.

She probably wants to but thinks you'd be grossed out by it.

You're going to have to take the leap here and tell her sometime when she's on her period that you don't care if she is, you still want to have sex anyways. You're just going to have to say it.

Snowy said it best. She probably just thinks you'd think it's gross... so get rid of that idea for her. :) That whole communication thing.

I would tread a bit carefully here. By your description, it sounds like you want to do this because it would be kinky. If that's true, that's fine; however, she might be uncomfortable with that.

Have you ever tried to initiate sex during her period? What has she said?

You can always take a shower with her, and let it happen that way. If she sees your not "grossed" out, then suggest it out of the shower (with a towel of course).

The old adage is true here; if you aren't mature enough to talk about it, you shouldn't be doing it.

I'd just try getting frisky during that time of the month, in the same fashion you always do.... and if/when she tries to stop you just explain your intentions, whether it be kink or just not caring.

Also a selling point for her is that it really helps with cramps. My gf says its the best medicine there is.

in the begining, i was so totally grossed out by it until one day we were getting all hot and heavy in the car and he told me, "baby, just say the word. if you tell me you want me to then i will."

just get her all hot and ask her if she would like to, because ultimately the decision is up to her. remember, if she is grossed out by it, it will be a very sensitive topic for her, so if she agrees and you guys do it, make sure you dont make a big deal afterwards.

If she is grossed out by it, perhaps you can promise her that you won't look at the mess afterward. She can get on top during intercourse, and that will hide the area of said mess from your view and it allows her to get up easier after the job is complete to clean up. Also, it will increase her trust in you because you promised you didn't look, and (hopefully) kept that promise.

We abstain during that time.

My partner and I have done it, but, for my sake, we don't anymore; somehow I had a chemical injury which included my nethers. Now most minor deviations in pH stings like hell.

So, again, if she understands that you don't care, that it will feel just as good (tho a little sticky) and she is willing, have a ball. Go get your red wings.

Never done actual penetration with her....

But she very much enjoys me playing with her clitoris during that time of the month. We usually wait until she's a couple of days in and she always wears a tampon, but she has come a long way in her comfort level.

The key is to just go slow and start small, show her that you are comfortable with it and that she has no reason to be embarassed.

I second this approach. I did this with my previous girlfriend, and when it came time to go down there, it naturally led to discussing whether or not we were comfortable with it. We ended up trying it a few times, but ultimately decided that we would rather just wait until after it was over.

i just asked

she was up
i was up

just not on the first day or two if it's heavy

great cramp medicine

also, i've found that women are generally more up for kinkier stuff during hteir period, but i wouldn't start anything like that till she's up for it.