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To be perfectly fair, they're right. By the same reasons one wants to legalize gay marriage, one would legalize incest laws. Anyway, I asked you the question for a specific reason. You have nothing to lose by answering it. You want to ask me why I don't want gay marriage to be legalized? Well, assuming that you are against incest (I know that some people here are), my reason for being against gay marriage would be similiar to your opposition to incest laws. If you can't understand that well... I can't tell you anything else. |
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Views have reasons, either rational or faith-based. "No questions asked" the way you used it, I think, means faith-based, by defintion, because it means that we can't question it, which means you don't have any reason other than you believe it to be truth.
I'm not going to try to persuade you out of it, since you're welcome to have that opinion, but it is analytically impossible for you to say, "I have no problems with gays and I'm happy for them to do whatever they want...but they can't get married." No problems means just that, no problems. What you're saying is, "I'm generally ok co-existing with homosexuality, but simply because it is two members of the same sex, they have not earned the priviledge/right to get married and gain the associated benefit." If marriage is a priviledge, then you're saying that two straight people have earned it and have something that two gay people don't or have done something that two gay people haven't done. If marriage is a right, then they are second class citizens who are not entitled to the same rights as everyone else. Either way, by virtue of their status as gays, you've devalued their status, which means you have a problem with it. |
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That is exactly how I feel about gay marriage. It's wrong and that's all there is to it. (The key point is that the act occurs between two consenting adults, not an adult and a minor.) Quote:
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Insest law do not exist simply because people find it icky or are bigoted against families.
Incest laws exist because most incest is between adults and children (i.e. a situation where authority and power are used to create a "consenting" situation), furthermore, the offsping of such a union are more than likely to have grave genetic deformities. Neither of these reasons have anything to do with same sex marriage. Again, I suggest that your belief that same sex marriage is "wrong and that's all there is to it" has more to do with your deep seated bigotry than anything else. |
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2.) You've completely ignored the point I was trying to make. The way you call me bigoted because I don't agree with gay marriage, I could call you bigoted for not agreeing with incest between consenting adults. Remember, following your logic, what two adults want to do is their business. Quote:
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Even with your newly minted definition of natural, you still presume to know the original function or purpose of things that occur completely through chance. You know what fingers are for? Certainly not for typing on a keyboard. You know what ears are for? Certainly not listening to headphones. Neither headphones nor keyboards existed when fingers and ears evolved. By your definition anything that isn't strictly biologically necessary for survival and reproduction is unnatural in the same sense that homosexuality is unnatural. Which is a completely meaningless distinction on which to base social policy. Quote:
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But it's a strange kind of bigotry, the kind which doesn't actually treat those who differ with any less respect, which doesn't lend itself to any feelings of superiority or preachiness. Which may not even favor any difference in legal rights. (See: civil unions.) I guess I have less respect for your mistake because it's been my experience that your mistake is more of a roadblock to civility/friendship than their alleged yet invisible bigotry. |
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Marriage is a civil right in the United States. This is a fact, and to deny it is to deny reality.
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Homosexuality, however, has a zero chance of producing offspring with genetic diseases. Also, your example isn't really parallel. If you're going to go down that slippery slope, we're already on it. Most incestuous relationships are between a male and a female--it's more closely related to heterosexuality than it is homosexuality. Quote:
It isn't necessary for me to name an ancient culture to disprove these statements. You're making an absolute claim, that it has always been this way, and then setting as your criterion for disputing that claim one small part of it. It doesn't work that way. I understand why you phrase it the way you do. It has more power that way, and if true, carries more weight. It's a dangerous tactic because it makes it easier to disprove, which I have done. Oh, and your last sentence is misleading. People haven't just "tried to challenge that" it has been successfully challenged and changed. "A man and a woman" hasn't always been the norm. For much of recorded history, polygyny has been an accepted form of group marriage, both in Western and Eastern cultures. Finally, in ancient Greece and ancient Rome, to name two, male homosexuality was both commonplace and accepted, especially among the upper classes. Quote:
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Many male homosexuals identify as gay and exhibit feminine characterstics from early childhood, four or five, long before becoming sexually active. Heterosexuals aren't heterosexual solely when having sex. Heterosexual behavior isn't limited solely to intercourse. The same is true of homosexuality and homosexual sex. You're using the same tactic here, making a broad claim--homosexuality is unnatural--and asking for proof that one specific part of that claim is untrue to refute it. It simply doesn't work that way. By the way, I've seen a male dog hump another male dog. Male mammals when stimulated will try to fuck just about anything available, including other males of the same or even different species. Also, what, precisely, is "homosexual intercourse"? I can't think of any sexual activity engaged in by homosexuals that is not also engaged in by heterosexuals. This isn't to say that there aren't I just can't think of any. Is it unnatural only when homosexuals do it, or is also unnatural when heterosexuals do it? Quote:
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While it is true that incest causes an increase in recessive traits, it has very little to do why most incest is outlawed in most cultures. Incest has been frowned upon and, in many cultures, outlawed for far longer than humans have known about recessive and dominant traits, only for the simple reason that it has alway been considered to be taboo. Taboo, in our culture, equals a gigantic "No no". Your reasons as to why incest are wrong, just like many other people, are only a facade to cover up the "I think it's wrong and it shouldn't be legalized!" aspect of it. Similiarly, my reason as to opposing gay marriage is "I think it's wrong and shouldn't be legalized!". Therefore, what's the difference between my stance on gay marriage and your stance on incest? In fact, aren't you guilty of doing the same thing in which people have accused me of? Your refusal to grant another group of the people the same rights in which you are advocating for would make you a bigot (At least, it would be some people's definition of the word). Quote:
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All it means to be a bigot is that you're strongly partial to your own group and intolerant of those who differ. I consider being in favor of depriving people of fundamental rights intolerant. If they're reasonable, and after a discussion have ideas that make sense for why gay marriage is a bad thing-other than because it's "wrong"-then live and let live. That's not a bigot, that's a difference of opinion. If all you've got for me is, "Gays can't be married because they're gay and that's wrong" then I have no problem labeling you a bigot and giving you no benefit of the doubt. That's not even a reason. It's some sort of aborted circular logic whose fundamental premise is hatred of another person simply for being who they are. Discrimination against gays isn't any different than racism or sexism and should be treated with the same degree of scorn. Stop making excuses for people who can't get beyond such insignificant differences. Infinite, my only response, which I've already said once, is you'd have a solid argument for the sanctity of marriage being violated by letting gays get married if 1) marriage was still in any way sacred and 2) if marriage had no associated legal consequences. The decline of marriage as a sacred institution (you can get married without going to a church, didn't you know?) and the heaping loads of divorces people get (I've served drinks at a marriage where it was the woman's 5th and the man's 4th) have totally destroyed any concept of the first. And you're blind if you can't see the enormous LEGAL-not spiritual-impact that getting married has on both people. There's a reason divorce lawyers make so much money and that's because it's a shitstorm when people have to extricate themselves from the tangle of legal responsibilities they created when they got married. Marriage doesn't (and never really did) mean only the union of male and female before god. All you have is your gut telling you that it's "wrong," a premise that you have recongized as a weak position from which to argue. I don't understand why your (and others') belief that it is wrong is reason enough to prevent gay marriage when them getting married has no impact on your life. |
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Furthermore, who are you tell me that my reasoning for opposing gay marriage stems from the hatred of another person (A false statement, another logical fallacy)? Did it ever occur to you that maybe I'm arguing from the standpoint of keeping marriage between a male and a female, rather than simply assuming I hate all gays? Or is it simply easier to label us as you choose, making it easier for you to argue your position? Quote:
Concerning your second point, the legal benefits of marriage were instituted as a way to encourage people to marry. If you would remember, marriage has been the basis of social structure moreso than anything else. This makes me wonder, though... Are homosexuals trying to be married on the basis on "Love" or on the basis of "Reaping the legal benefits of marriage"? If it's the first option, then marriage shouldn't be an issue. If it's the second option, then that would undercut the entire premise of gay marriage (It seems that many people who favor gay marriage love to use the phrase, "If two people love one another, why shouldn't they be allowed to marry?"). I saw you mention it, so I thought I would address it. The only thing a high divorce rate proves is that the concept of "Love" isn't as strong a reason for marriage as one might think (Ironically enough, arranged marriages have much lower divorce rates than marriages based on love, but that's another topic for another day). |
My reasoning is as circular as saying 4 is 2+2 because 2+2 is 4. If you really had no problems (as in zero, none at all) with gays, you would have no problems with gay marriage, because they would be no more different than people with brown hair and people with red hair. You do have problems with gay marriage, so I can conclude you have some (even if it is small and very specific) problems with gays. I don't see how that's circular.
I consider the existance of divorce to be dispositive of the sanctity of marriage. I consider the ability to get married by the state and not by a church to be dispositive of the sanctity of marriage. I consider the fact that people cheat on their spouses to be dispositive of the sanctity of marriage. If something is truly sacred, it doesn't have exceptions. Marriage has lots of them. That doesn't mean it's not still a big deal and reason for many people to put lots of effort into getting married, nor does it mean that some couples conduct themselves in a way that upholds the sanctity of marriage. That doesn't change the fact that the institution, as a whole, is no longer sacred. As I'm sure you're well aware, divorce rates are meaningless. If divorce exists, marriage isn't sacred. Remember the "Til death do us part" section? That "sacred" oath before god is violated every time someone gets a divorce. Funny how that works. |
Of course no one can argue with a factual statement (Such as 2 + 2 = 4), as it's easy to prove it's validity. That's not circular logic, as we can prove the statement to be true without it needing to rely on itself to support its central premise. Your statement, however, most certainly does rely on itself to support it's central premise. You have no reason to call me a bigot other than the fact that I don't agree with gay marriage and, in your mind, the fact that I don't agree with gay marriage instantly makes me a bigot. If you don't see what's wrong with your assertion, then it's useless trying to point it out.
I oppose gay marriage, but that doesn't mean I have something against gays. To say as much is nothing more than a baseless generalization of all people who oppose gay marriage. I thought religion was supposed to be discluded from this subject? Whether people are married in a church or not is irrelevant, as the whole world isn't Christian. Simply because a marriage doesn't occur in a church, doesn't mean that it's not sacred. I hate to burst your bubble, but very few of my ancestors were ever married in a church (As Christianity hadn't yet reached them)-- That doesn't make their marriage ceremony any less sacred than those who were married in a church. Anyway, if marriage weren't a sacred institution, then you wouldn't need a liscense to be able to perform them; You could pick someone off of the street, have them perform a marriage ceremony and then have the marriage be recognized by the government. Anyway, you state that the existance of divorce proves that marriage is no longer sacred? If that is the stance you take, then marriage would have never been sacred. For as long as marriage has existed, there has always been a way to divorce your spouse and/or annul the marriage (At least, this is the case in the majority of cultures). Simply because all marriages don't work out, doesn't mean marriage isn't sacred. If that were the case, then very few things-- If any-- Would ever be considered sacred. We measure whether something is sacred or not by social attitude, not by the success/fail rate of the act itself. Anyway, I really would like my question from earlier answered, as I am wondering what the answer is: Quote:
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Whether or not a marriage is 'sacred' or not is irrelevant.
One of the original purposes of marriage was to join a woman to a man. Her ownership was transfered from the father to the groom. She little more than chattle (often bought and paid for with a dowry). There is little "sacred" about this. There are other reasons and traditions but in the end but what does it really matter in this day and age? Sacred is as sacred does? Who are you to judge and say that the committment between one couple (let's call them Grace and Gilda) is more meaningful than another? If there is anything sacred in a marriage it is that "love and committment". I don't care if you are married by an Elvis impersonator or in a Cathedral... nothing else matters except that two people are committing to oneanother. The rest is just window dressing. Once you have that out of the way, the reason for a marriage in this day and age is (essentially) a contract (see the post way back near the start where there was a tally of benefits granted to a married couple). If you have no problems with gays in general, you should have no problems with gay marriage. Again, you have yet to provide any reason other than that you think it is "wrong"... and that's just not enough to deny someone's rights. |
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1. infinite: i think you are mistaken in your claim of circular logic. I believe that form is a syllogism. It reads to me like: A person who opposes gay marriage is a bigot. Infinite opposes gay marriage. Therefore, Infinite is a bigot." I believe circular would look more like "A person who opposes gay marriage is a bigot. The fact that Infinite opposes gay marriage and is a bigot proves this." You may dispute that a person who opposes gay marriage is automatically a bigot, but that doesn't make the argument circular. You disagree with one of the axioms...I believe it was filterton's? 2. It really doesn't matter what the basis of a person's motivation to get married, when it comes to addressing the legality of the practice. They could be marrying because they both love the idea of slaughtering panda bears with dull scissors. The question is simply whether or not two people of the same sex can enter into a state-sanctioned marriage contract, with all the rights that are implied, in the same way with the same facility that two people of opposite sex can. I was thinking earlier today that the very issue you seem to be dancing around might be the precise one that the op asked to be addressed. You have said that you oppose gay marriage, and (those are [your] views). You have given some reasons you feel that gay marriage should / could rationally be opposed. It seems to me that many of these have been discredited, but perhaps you do not feel so. Regardless, I think that the issue behind the (these are [your] views) might be more interesting to the op, and the topic. I can promise you that the question of gay marriage has been addressed ad nauseum on these boards. At the very most root, visceral level: why do you oppose gay marriage? Just because you view it as icky and not natural? I hope I don't sound offensive, I don't really care to argue with you. I just don't clearly understand your reasons for your views. |
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Anyway, i was wondering about your definition of unnatural. You said that it meant "a deviance from the original function or purpose." As you must know, humans now do a whole lot of things that we didn't do when our species originally came into existence. By your definition the vast majority of human activity is just as unnatural as homosexuality. If that is indeed the case, how can you use the concept of "unnatural" as a means to justify much of anything? How can you even presume to be able to judge original function or purpose? If you place such a high priority on original function or purpose, whatever that may mean, how can you support any kind of human progress in any sense? I don't think it's that productive or even reasonable to place a high priority on conformity to "original function or purpose" because in doing so you would necessarily deny the value of most any kind of evolutionary adaptations and adaptation in general. |
I can understand people opposing gay marriage because they don't like homosexuality. I don't agree with them, and I don't think their dislike is reason enough to deny a segment of the population equal rights, but I can at least understand it.
I can understand people who oppose it on religious grounds. Their beliefs are not my own, and the government could recognize gay marriages without forcing churches to marry them, but I can at least see where they're coming from. But to oppose it because of semantics, because you'd have to buy a new dictionary? To have no moral or religious opposition, but to oppose it because you'd have to change the wording in Webster's from "man and woman" to "two persons"? I don't get that at all. |
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Let me be clear, though; i don't think bigots are automatically bad people. I know plenty of people whom i consider to be bigots, at least in some respect, that are actually great people(aside from the whole bigot thing). I think that it is also axiomatic that bigots are misinformed individuals. To me it makes no difference(in terms of the application of the term bigot) whether that misinformation is acted on or not. |
I'm late to the party here and most of my views (supporting gay marriage) have already been stated here, so I'll simply say this:
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It's been said, but c'mon...no homosexuality in nature? That's almost as bad as "There's no war in nature." I've personally seen gay birds, dogs, primates, and dolphins, and heard about more species such as the penguins above. And I'm sure there's some gay animals in nearly every species. And as far as our culture goes there have been plenty of times and places were homosexuality was not only accepted, but expected of you. Spartans anyone? They actually cherished the relationship between two men more than a heterosexual one. Hijras (usually castrated males) from India also practice prostitution/homosexuality sometimes even marrying a man and being treated like a wife would. Hijras have been around since about 1000 BC...i think, either way for a very long time though (and spartans in that similar time as well, Im going off memory though).
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Back on topic. If a man dresses as a woman, takes on the social role of a woman, and forms a permanent mating pair with another male, I cannot see how that's not either transsexuality or homosexuality. If you accept that as a social sex change, it's transsexual, or at least bi-gender (like Ty Greenstein, my god s/he's hot), and if not, then you have a male/male pairing that is not only accepted but often celebrated, and in dozens of different cultures across pre-Colombian North America. Quote:
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This explains the motivation for the behavior, it does not mean that it isn't homosexual. Oh, and in response to 2, on a paersonal note, last weekend my wife dominance over me--I'm an organism, by the way--a whole lot of dominance. Yeah, that was very nice. I'm hoping for some more exertions of dominance this coming weekend when we both have time. Oh, yeah, I'm hoping for quite a lot of exerting. Gilda |
Arguing this topic makes me sad and tired. I never thought we'd see a government that proactively tried to take rights away from the citizens of this country.
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How about the fact that Gays are absolutely the same as heterosexual people in every way besides who they chose to partner with,thus denying them a right/privelage of said heterosexual person is a gross display of bigotry?
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I think part of the problem is how we're defining "marriage." Why does it NEED to be defined as "one man, one woman" just because that's the way it has generally been? Arguing from tradition, history, even evolution, is irrelevant when those things have been discarded in countless instances to re-imagine social order. Look at monarchy, the class system, slavery, laws against miscegenation, etc. All of those institutions used the same arguments used by opponents of gay marriage to defend themselves from rational challenge. There's no reason inherent to marriage as practiced today why it should be defined as "one man one woman."
Look at the reasons for marriage, and you'll see: - social institution for stability: Marriage keeps society stable because it defines relationships, places limits on behavior, and provides a structure for people to relate to each other. By this definition, including gays in "marriage" would add to social stability rather than detract from it. - providing an environment for raising children: not all heterosexual married couples can or choose to procreate. All credible studies find gays and lesbians to be as competent as heterosexual couples at parenting. - public recognition of a private physical, spiritual and emotional commitment. Again, no reason why two people of the same sex can't be just as physically, spiritually and emotionally committed as two people of the opposite sex. - religious institution mirroring god's relationship with the church. Some religions DO recognize gay marriage, and a particular religious definition of marriage should not be privileged over another through state-sponsored legislation. Given that homosexuality is widely accepted as a biological condition and NOT a "choice" I can't see any valid ethical reason for denying people public and legal recognition of a relationship that would be perfectly acceptable if one of them had a slightly different chromosome. |
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The fact that you want to deprive them of a right/privilege that you think is fine for everyone else means that you think of them differently. And that difference degrades their status in your eyes because they don't deserve whatever right/privilege you don't want them to have. So when you say you have no problems with gays, you don't actually mean you have no problems with gays. The fact that they are gay, to you, means they're not good enough to get married because their condition is unnatural or wrong or something to that effect. I suppose I threw around the word bigot a little loosely earlier. I don't mean you gay-bash or won't interact with gay people or actively hate them, but it's patently untrue that you don't have any problems with them. You're seeking to deprive them of something they desperately want and, as far as the law is concerned, is a civil right in this country. You're entitled to that opinion, but you can't hold that opinion and simultaneously have NO problems with gays. They're mutually exclusive conditions. Also when I said "a church" (as opposed to the church) I meant a religious institution, as opposed to the Christian Church. Guess I should've used less specific nomenclature. |
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Frosstbyte... I believe you have nicely summarized all the issues most of us are having with infinite_loser.
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What I was trying to say is that my opposition to gay marriage doesn't stem from people being gay, but rather that-- In my opinion-- Marriage is defined as strictly between a man and a woman, and not anything else. Edit: Let me clarify something. When I made the pet comment, I wasn't trying to compare gay marriage to that. Don't get me wrong. Both are seperate. Under the same grounds in which I oppose gay marriage, I would oppose something of that nature (If that makes an sense). |
I won't speak for anyone else, but your logic baffles me. I suppose I see what you're saying-that your definition of marriage requires it to be only between a man and a woman-but I don't understand why that definition isn't adaptable to new definitions. There is nothing forcing that definition on marriage besides you. If you don't have any problems with gays, why do you have a problem expanding your defintion of marriage to include them?
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I think the interesting question is what, precisely, is it about gay marriage that you oppose? It sounds to me like you're saying that you don't like it, you view it as unnatural and icky, and you think you can find some rationalizations to oppose legalization of it. What I think might be more interesting, is what do you think is wrong with it? |
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Whether one wants to acknowledge it or not, the issue of children is still a driving force for marriage. I'm not sure of other countries, but I'm perfectly aware that nearly 1/3 of births which occur in the United States each year occur outside of wedlock and I'm also aware of the fact that there are adoptions for single parents. However, it is well documented that children in families which have both a mother and a father generally fair better than those which are lacking one of two (Lower suicide rates, higher test scores, females are less apt to become pregnant younger, etc.)-- As far as child development goes, there is no substitution for a mother or a father. Also, I am perfectly aware that some marriages don't result in child-bearing, whether that be due to infertility or through the use of contraception. Infertility in marriages has been around for centuries. Some cultures solved the problem of infertility by having the male impregnate another woman (Not his wife), and then taking that child for him and his wife to raise while others had a form of our present day adoption. Of course in our modern day culture, many infertile couples choose to adopt a child, which leads me back to my first point about a child needing both a father and mother in a family situation. (You know... I think I talked myself out of support gay adoption. Go figure...) Contraception, in my opinion, is a bit trickier of a subject. I'm not going to go as far as some people in claiming that contraception ruins marriages (I don't really see how contraception leads to higher divorce rates), but I will say that it undermines one of the central premises of marriage; To rear children in a stable environment (That's not to say that all marriages are stable environments, but they tend to lead to better results than situations in which either the mother or father is absent). Before someone asks, the reason why I don't make too much fuss about contraception undermining marriage is because it does more good than harm (Whether that's a good or bad thing could be debated, but that's neither here nor there). Edit: All right. I forgot to address something. While it's true that some marriages don't result in children, the majority of them do. Since when has the minority been indicative of the majority? Everything has an exception to it. That exception doesn't define the original purpose or object, though. Not to turn focus away from the topic at hand, but I don't find it surprising that the countries with the highest divorce rates are generally the countries debating the issue of gay marriage and I don't find it surprising that most countries are strictly opposed to gay marriage. I suppose one could say that in our pursuit of "Social progress" an "Equality", we slowly destroy our own society. Just because something can be changed, doesn't mean it should be. Once again, that's just my opinion. Did that answer your question? Quote:
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I just don't understand, I guess. I think the existance of homosexuals and divorce rate indicate that male/female life-long partnership is not the universal norm for human beings and, at one point in our species's social development, simple survival required that we force it on ourselves in order to guarantee that there were children and that they were provided for. We no longer have that problem, and I don't see any evidence that either homosexual relationships or divorce are destroying our society.
I see a trend towards not holding people accountable for their actions which has led to people getting married irresponsably and having children irresponsably. You're attributing a wide range of social ills to the eixstance of divorce and adovaction for gay rights, when I don't think that either of those things can conclusively said to have the slightest bit to do with those social ills, except that they happen to be happening concurrently. I suppose we destroyed society when we let women vote, did away with slavery, did away with segregation and legalized abortion, huh? Well, we've come this far, might as well knock out another one. |
I wasn't trying to attribute all of societies social ills to one cause particular cause. I simply believe that society has gotten to the point where we try to facilitate everyone's views and appease every group who has a dissenting opinion, thus causing a great deal of social ills. It's just my opinion, but I don't see the reason for gay marriage to be legalized as I can't perceive any benefit to society by doing so.
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You would have to study homosexual couples raising children to determine what kinds of outcomes could be expected, and such study has in fact been done. All of the evidence indicates that children of homosexuals turn out about the same as heterosexuals, and that being raised by a homosexual couple does not harm children in any way. Outcomes are about the same for both groups on average. The major medical associations dealing with the care of children have policy statments favoring homosexuals being given equal treatment in parenting. Here a summary of the research, based primarily on the study of children raised by lesbian couples. Quote:
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"If we did not value the love, commitment, and spiritual aspects of marriage, we would not be married. We also value the several dozen legal rights that come with civil marriage. We also value the social aspects of a state-recognized marriage. It isn't a matter of picking one, all of them matter. Everything on lurkette's list is something that is valuable to us as a married couple." |
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Because of the peculiar nature of my own wedding (no papers, no preist) I did have to look into the legal ramifications of thumbing my nose at the establishment. If you are going to suggest that just because I examined the legality of my union that I have any less committment or love for my wife, I'd suggest you are a fool. Same-sex couples have not enjoyed the rights that have been available to heterosexual couples. They do not take anything for granted. I suggest that you ask this same question in 10 to 15 years from now, in Canada... I promise you, they will be taking these rights for granted just like heteros and it will be all about the love. |
infinite, first i'd like to thank you for your responses. i think that this type of response is potentially more useful for discussion, that a discussion of rights versus privelages or the definition of bigotry at this point; partially because i think that's been pretty well covered.
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That's just not the case in Western societies anymore. We don't need more babies...if anything, we have an overpopulation problem. Homosexuals would presumably have a higher probability of adopting children unwanted by other parents, in addition to not having their own children. That part of the issue, by itself, would seem to be a positive aspect for a society such as ours, as far as I can understand. Quote:
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guess i still don't understand exactly the logic behind your position, but you're certainly welcome to it. however, one of the things about the united states is that while majority rules, the majority also can't deprive a minority of a right, simply because it wants to. it just doesn't work that way. homosexual marriage will be legal in this country one day. |
I still have yet to hear a solid explanation of exactly how gay marriage would erode or undermine the value or sanctity of marriage. I keep hearing that it will, not how it will.
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I'm quite sure that you'll find that article interesting to read. You have both advocates and opponents of gay marriages alike questioning the validity of the studies done in the 70's, 80's and 90's. It's not a good sign when one of the major proponents of gay marriage rejects the studies which would help to strengthen her own cause. Quote:
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Any couple's ability to be good (adoptive) parents should be judged on a case by case basis regardless of race, color, creed or sexial orientation. Studies that show that a mother-father parenting situation is good shouldn't give neglectful, abusive straight couples a free pass, nor should it disqualify any and all couples who are not mother-father |
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Second, you exaggerate. The studies cited are not "under heavy fire" from both sides. Supporters of gay marriage and gay adoption are not generally challenging the conclusions of those studies, and the concensus of the mainstream medical and psychological community is that such studies provide evidence to support the conclusion that homosexual parents do not harm their children by being homosexual. This conclusion has changed over time to match the evidence as it comes in, by the way, which gives it more weight. Has it been proven conclusively? Of course not. Nothing in psychology ever is. However, that's where the best evidence available points at the moment. I agree completely that more study is needed. My therapist was telling me during my last meeting that there's some new anectodal evidence that gay male couples are actually better parents than lesbians or heterosexual couples, though the sample sizes are a bit too small, and it may be due to factors not primarily related to their sexuality. In essense, because gay male couples have the most difficulty becoming parents of any of the studied structures, they have to be much more committed to the idea of being parents than lesbians or heterosexual couples, and thus begin with the advantage that unwanted parenthood has been selected out. That's a tangent, though I did find it interesting and passed it off to one of the gay male couples at church who have two boys of their own. Adorable kids, too. Third, that a claim has been challenged does not mean it isn't supported by the evidence. Fourth, disproving one claim does not mean that the opposite is true. All of the studies on point that I've seen support the conclusion that children of homosexuals are about as healthy as those of heterosexuals. More study is needed, definitely. Quote:
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The purpose of marriage was to transfer property. It has nothing to do with "stable family relationships."
People figured out how to mate long before they figured out what property was. Once people had land and goods that they wanted kept in their families, they decided to come up with a method that would ensure that their property went to their progeny. Mating and generational property transfers worked well together, for obvious reasons, but the concept of marriage has much less to do with creating a stable place for kids to grow up (in some developmental and emotional sense) and much more to do with the economics of keeping people and families alive over multiple generations. You say repeatedly, "the purpose of marriage is to provide a man and a woman a stable environment for rearing a child." It really was a tool to allow two men to make a financial transaction that they hoped would strengthen both families by trading a son or a daughter to the other for access to resources. Children from the union were a convenient, if necessary, byproduct of that transaction. What we think of as the purpose of marriage now would be very alien to the people who came up with it, and indeed, to most people in all but the most recent generations. It worked to keep people/families alive. It no longer serves that purpose, and our definition of what marriage is, consequently, has changed. The new purpose of marriage has little reason, if any, to exclude gays, since the current purpose of marriage has everything to do with uniting two people who are in love. |
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Yes that was an interesting op ed piece, which cites a single critic of the research from "my side" Notice the "from my side" part. Leaving that out changes the meaning drastically. Your claim was that the research I cite is "largely in question" and "they are under heavy fire from both sides". This isn't so. One critic was cited from "my side", which does not equate to the studies being "largely in question" or "under heavy fire" from "my side". My side consists of pretty much every mainstream medical and psychological organization in the United States, and you can see their positions cited above. Some cite the studies, some have null positions that basically say "no harm has been shown". Quote:
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But the proponents? The concensus of the mainstream medical and psychological community is that there is no evidence to support the idea that children of homosexuals are harmed by being raised by homosexuals. You've found one pro-gay marriage critic of the research, and she concludes that the studies are flawed, not that homosexuals are harmed. Quote:
First, that's really two separate premises--A. Marriage is between a man and a womand and B. marriage is for the purpose of providing a stable environment in which to rear children. Second you conclude that a marriage should be between a man and a woman. You've used your conclusion as a premise in your argument, which renders it invalid. However, let's look at those two premises for a second. Let's start with B. If marriage does in fact provide a stable environment for the rearing of children, wouldn't this be true also of the children of homosexual couples? Now let's look at premise A. Extending marriage rights to homosexual couples would not in anyway change this. Marriage would still be between a man and a woman. It would also be between a man and a man and a woman and woman. Even if we accept this argument at face value, it does not preclude extending marriage rights to homosexual couples, because that purpose--providing a man and a woman with a stable environment in which to rear children--would still exist unchanged. A man and a woman could still get married, have and rear children. Your claim there is both fallacious and doesn't even support your conclusion. Quote:
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I was posting links that give evidence in support of the position that homosexuals do no harm. My point was that even if do manage to disprove those studies, which has not been done, you're not showing harm of any kind. Until you can show harm caused by homosexual parents, your argument is not a valid one for denying homosexuals the right to marry. Nor is it even one then. Quote:
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What is the accepted norm among gay marrieds? Do the women refer to each other as wives and the men refer to each other as husbands most times? I am not trying to be difficult but am genuinely interested in using correct terms that do not offend anyone. |
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1.) You can't disprove the notion that a marriage is between a man and a woman and 2.) You can't disprove the fact that a marriage isn't for providing a stable environment in which to raise children, since numerous studies which have been conducted which prove that children raised in the confines are marriage typically do better than those who aren't. Quote:
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I do know of a married MTF couple that prefers that no label be used other than their names, feeling that such labels are and should be irrelevant. Unmarried homosexual couples tend to use partner or boyfriend/girlfriend, as do the unmarried heterosexual couples I know. My beef with Infinite Loser was that I'd clearly been referring to Grace as my wife and he switched to partner in direct response to a post in which I'd used wife. I interpreted that as his refusal to accept that we are married, which he later confirmed was an accurate inference, and objected to it on those grounds. It wasn't so much the word as the implied criticism behind it. So long as he's polite in further usage, it shouldn't be an issue any longer. Gilda |
Yes, marriage is currently defined as being between a man and a woman. The fact that this is the current definition is in no way a legitimate reason not to redefine the word
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Also, I haven't been disputing that that is one of the functions of marriage. It is not, however the sole one, and is not a requirement, and that argument works in favor of gay marriage, not against it. If marriage is beneficial to children, then let's extend that same benefit to the children being raised by homosexual couples as well. Quote:
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People against gay marriage are homophobic not only because it's usually out of an irrational prejudice to homosexuality in some form, but because they believe in enforcing some form of discrimination against homosexuals. How does that translate to people for gay marriage being heterophobes? That's horrible logic. People against straight marriage and not gay marriage would probably be heterophobe. Heterophobe is a ridiculous word nearly always coined by neo-cons who can only argue through emotionally weighted strawmen, it's a good idea to steer clear of it. I think there is far too much tolerance of homophobia in this day and age. It's not the same thing as being a heterosexual like some people write it off to be, it's something that should be frowned upon because it causes nothing but strife. If people would only listen to logic so many of the "blurry lines" would becoem distinct. Quote:
Can you imagine Martin Luther King saying "I have a dream - but well, I have to admit the KKK DO have a point in their whole "Black people should die" thing". It's complete nonsense. Being against discrimination doesn't mean you can't be for "discriminating" against things which are actually proven to be wrong in some manner. Most discriminatory views are simply quite illogical and not based in fact. Writing claims off as opinions and beliefs is a wonderful way to let them keep them long after they're proven wrong. Homophobic arguments are pretty much without exception non-sequitor if you consider the facts of homosexuality, homosexuals, and relationships in general. When you get down to "opinion", protecting someone's opinion that those kind of people should all burn in hell is ridiculous. Nobody is going to control someone's thoughts, but we should take a stand against that which is simply unacceptable and leads to nothing but hardship. There is nothing to be gained by protecting homophobia in the manner in which people do online, constantly. Ultimately, the people protecting homosexuality are the ones that get banned first in a heated argument. It's complete idiocy and it's time someone took a stand against it. Quote:
He is not voting against bigot's right to marry, is not spreading ridiculous propoganda as to how they should burn in hell. What's funny about you and many "relativists" is that you're acting exactly in the manner Neo-Cons need for their fallacies to remain in place, protecting arrogance as equally as wisdom. Quote:
Again, a person is not a Bigot for thinking that a rapist is doing something wrong and should be stopped. Similiarly, as bigotry has a proven track record of violence, social rejection of victims and removal of civil rights, it is something which should be stood against. I will say I am intolerant of other people's views if they are in someway harmful, and I have no shame in it anymore than I do in saying I am tolerant of people who do not set out to hurt or discriminate against others who do no wrong. I do not believe they should be "Medicated" for it like some people believe homosexuals should be, however, just that it be socially discouraged. So attempting to making me out to be that which I hate fails in more areas than one. Not to mention how tired I am of fence-homophobes using that argument. |
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Well said Kittie Rose. I've read two of your posts and I like you a lot already.
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I don't really care what people do behind their bedroom doors, but what really bothers me about gay marriage is the fact that they cannot reproduce. Of course there are other ways that they can raise children, like adoption, but those are often difficult and expensive to come by. If it is too difficult for a couple then they may decide not to do it.
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Quite frankly, this is just plain insensitive to anyone who's suffered homophobia. Yeah, homophobia doesn't exist. Nobody gets beaten up for being gay, nobody has to fear any form of social rejection for being gay and apparently "godhatesfags", Fred Phelps, and Pat Robertson don't exist. You are an extremely insensitive human being. Quote:
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The word "bigot" wouldn't exist if your model existed - since nobody could actually use it. Where is your actual argument? Your entire post seems to be saying that there should be less opposition towards hatred of gay people and discrimination against them, and that homophobia doesn't exist, in an extremely insensitive manner. Why exactly should I have any decent level of respect for you if this is how you present your so called "opinions"? Please, come back with an actual argument or don't bother at all. I'm not arguing semantics with a neo-con. |
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Before I begin, I would just like to say that I saw the unedited version of your post. You need to chill out. Seriously. It's just a debate.
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Unles of course, you can prove me wrong and wow me with your amazing reasons as to why gay marriage should never be. But I've seen it all before. We all have. And we no there's no defense for it, just good old enforcing traditional values on people, which is just plain disrespectful. |
1) Marriage has benefits.
2) Two adults fall in love, get married, and receive those benefits. Two other adults fall in love, aren't allowed to get married and don't receive those benefits. 3) If one person, couple or group doesn't get the benefits another person, couple or group gets (because of 'differences'), then that's discrimination. I'm not sure sure where the breakdown in 'logic' is occuring in some of these posts. If you don't agree with #1, then I could see a person thinking "no problem, what's the big deal?". But #1 is demonstrably false. Gilda gave a great (partial) list earlier in this thread. #1 is just simple fact, and I haven't seen anyone argue otherwise. #2 also seems like simple fact. It stands on point 1, but it's sort of the premise everyone accepts to have this conversation - gay people can't get married. #3 seems to be where the stickiness is. This also hinges on point 1. It seems people want to argue against point 3, while ignoring point 1. That doesn't really fly, does it? I'm certainly no master of logic, but this doesn't seem that complicated. |
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Am I against gay marriage? Yes. Am I against a civil union between two same-sex people? Not at all. Marriage is a union, in the eyes of God, between a man and a woman. Period. The only way to make "gay marriage" legal is for the churches to accept homosexuals... but that'll probably never happen in our lifetimes. The word "marriage" is what's causing all the uproar. It's a religious term and all the ultra conservatives will fight with every ounce of strength (and money) they have to keep it from happening. If the homosexual community would fight for "same-sex civil unions" they'd face a less-daunting task than fighting for "gay marriage". I believe that if two people want to "legally" join and have all the rights, protections, benefits, etc. that they receive then they should have every right to no matter their sexual preference. |
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There's a reason homophobe IS a loaded word. Your stance is wrong and unlike most people online I don't mollycoddle this rubbish. Unless you can defend your position without basing it on fallacy, it's a pile of cack. A pile of cack that keeps people from the rights they deserve. Maybe most people stand for that, but I don't. I'm telling you right here and now that it's wrong and not a viewpoint you should be proud of, and not as an opinion, but according to the current facts which indicate nothing is wrong with legalising gay marriage. Quote:
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Are you on the debate team, Kittie? Did you just take logic? Did you find a textbook on logical fallacies wedged underneath your couch? For someone who got after Infinite for nitpicking, you're sure being picky about responding to his posts and making sure every logical fallacy is identified and used with exacting precision. We're having a discussion on an emotionally charged issue. Carving a swath through it with perfectly constructed treatises on logic isn't going to help us much.
I'm the first to concede, as I made evident throughout this thread, that, to me, there is a fundamental disconnect in Infinite's adamant stance against gay marriage and his contention that he has no problems with gays. So I, and everyone else, I think, stopped posting, because attacking that point over and over didn't move the discussion anywhere. We'd made our points and that was that. I don't understand where re-hashing 5 pages of thread has gotten us. If Infinite was looking to be convinced, he has ample evidence to allow him to change his mind. If you were looking for his reasoning, you have opportunity to read several pages of it. I guess your tone and how you've gone after Infinite feels to me like you're looking for a fight in an effort to force everyone to "listen to logic so many of the 'blurry lines' would becoem [sic] distinct." Though in principle I agree with you, your approach is very hostile, and I can't figure out why. |
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Oh, logical fallacies! You just took a Debating 101! Amirite? Amirite? His argument is clearly based on two huge fallacies. That's not nitpicking. It's pointing out the entire premise for his argument is wrong. If we can't use logic because it's an "emotional" argument, what CAN we use? This is my problem with arguing on the internet in general - facts and logic become suspended just so some hypothetical moron can have an opinion. If you want to know why I seem so "hostile" that's exactly why. Logic is there for a reason. Fallacies don't determine the whole nature of the universe, but they do point out invalid reasoning. Somethings are just plain wrong and we need to accept that. |
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There definitely isn't any point in debating with someone who refuses to adhere to basic logic. Logic rarely kills anyone- lack of logic has, however, as stupid, arrogant decisions are often made that cost lives.
There's more to life than "respecting opinions", and it doesn't make you a better person just for claiming to "respect my opinion" when I do not respect yours. There are real issues in the real world, and sometimes agreeing and disagreeing isn't enough, it has to be determined what is actually right. Having the guts to stand up for what's right is often preferable to "agreeing to disagree" - which leads nowhere. There is no place for relativism here. Gay Marriage either works or it doesn't. The majority has no right to control the minority in a way that doesn't affect them. Gay Marriage has been successfully legalised in various countries around the world, and it hasn't hurt a soul. And that's pretty much the end of it. If you TRULY believed in respecting everyone equally, then you wouldn't "disagree" with this, seperating your personal preference from what you think should happen. So I'm going to take your "look at me I'm so respectful" with a bag or two of salt. |
Some issues some people will agree with you on and some they will not; However, you should still respect my opinion just like I respect yours. That's basically what it boils down to. It's as if you can't accept the fact that people have opinions which are differing to your own.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and no one needs to be insulted for them. Differing opinions are no reason to be abrasive, rude and just flat out beligerent. You instantly attack anyone who holds an opinion which you don't agree with. Why that is well... I really don't know. |
This thread had died a troubled, put relatively painless, death.
The revival has been nothing but a lurching zombie in flames. Beating a dead horse is never a good thing. All it does is make your arms tired. Thread Closed. |
This thread is a great example of when one person gets just a little too personal, and then one or two others spend the entire rest of the thread whining and crying about it, rather than attempting to steer it in a better direction or just hitting their back button and not continuing to bait the person who "started it".
If you want to complain about someone's tactics, report their post using the "report this post" link on the post itself, and keep us informed, don't continue to make post after post telling the person how you're done talking to them. Because you aren't. You had no intentions to actually stop arguing or else you'd have said your peace and not posted again. When you post "i'm not going to argue with..." 3 times in a row to the other person's subsequent responses, you're still arguing with them. And this thread was actually going really well for a bit there. Shame. |
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