Quick question...

[LLL2]

Alright, I met this chick at a club. She was grinding hard on me that night, i was trying to take her home that night. Who isn't ? anyways , she didn't want to do it. So I said let me call you sometime. So she gives me her number, we talk for a couple days and then we go see a movie after i got off work, I was tired as hell. Anyways i was trying to spark on what was going on at the club at the movies when the movie was playing. Didn't seem to work out. So after the movie we start walking to our cars, I'm offering her dinner ,or walk on the beach anything so we can talk. Well she says let's go get ice cream, I'm cool with that. Anyways we start talking at the ice cream place for maybe 45 minutes and she had to go. But now here's where it got funny. When i walk her back to her car she kisses me w/ tongue and all. She said call her in a couple days. I'm like alright. So I try calling her and it goes to voicemail,and she never calls me. What's the deal with that ? Was i too aggressive in the movie theater ?

[Mantus]

I can write a novela about this...but I have no time, so some tips will have to do.



LLL2. I have a feeling that you didn't establish comfort or a connection with this girl. She has to trust you. Attraction is not enough.

Also, movies...lame venue...too distracting, too much of a big deal, too corny.

PLZ tell me you didn't pay for everything as well........

[thingstodo]

Dude...she still may call you...you have no idea what may have happened. I interviewed for a job once and didn't get a call back when I thought I would. I found out later that the guys wife was in a serious accident and he was gone from work for several weeks.

If she doesn't call back, move and and don't worry about it. It probably wans't meant to be and there are plenty more ladies out there, one of which is just right for the both of you!

[savvypup]

She may have been grinding, but that doesn't mean she's going to be easy. Some of us don't want to jump everything that moves. Don't wait for the phone to ring, but don't read anything into her actions either. Call her - you've got nothing to loose. If she's not keen, so be it.

[3Z3VH]

That or she may have a bit of 'guy' in her, meaning that she was simply keeping her options open in case something better comes along.

Sure, it sucks for me to be so blunt about it, but clinging to something that happend so briefly isn't the best way to be confident in yourself

If she liked you, she will call. Simple as that. Give her a call in another couple days inviting her to something else as if you are going to do it anyway, with or without her, and you would like her company. If she doesn't bite, move along.

[SaltPork]

Originally Posted by 3Z3VH

That or she may have a bit of 'guy' in her, meaning that she was simply keeping her options open in case something better comes along.

Sure, it sucks for me to be so blunt about it, but clinging to something that happend so briefly isn't the best way to be confident in yourself

If she liked you, she will call. Simple as that. Give her a call in another couple days inviting her to something else as if you are going to do it anyway, with or without her, and you would like her company. If she doesn't bite, move along.

I agree with number and letter guy. Don't dwell on it.

[analog]

Dude. Grinding means nothing in relation to how far you'll get with them, sexually. Just because many girls are easy and grind crotch, does not mean all girls who grind crotch are easy.

There's a saying that people fuck like they dance- but that doesn't mean a crazy/great dancer will sleep with you right away.

To many girls, grinding is just part of the dancing connection, having little or nothing to do with whether or not they'll let you stick your cock in them.

So, yeah, you may have seemed too eager in the movie theater, like you think she's the type that gives it up right away... and that's pretty much the quickest way to lose a girl.

[LLL2]

Thanks for the advice guys, let me add another question ,why would she keep kissing me for like 2-5 minutes and never to call me again ? I must be a bad kisser . Anyhow I don't really care about her, it's part of the so-called game right ? All i say is NEXT.

Oh yeah i seen her at another club tonight,i believe she seen me, but i didn't get a chance to say hey or hello. I'm not going be a dick because she doesn't like me. It's her lost.

I just wish some of these chicks will be straight up though. If you don't want me to call, be straight up and tell me it's nice meeting you and later.

I didn't really care about paying for this date, it was only 17 bucks. Now i might have been piss if it was over $25. If a chicklooks like she can run a tab i'm going be taking her somewhere cheap. I'm a dollar menu guy.

[3Z3VH]

Kissing for longer than usual ? She prolly just likes kissing. I know I may be guilty of that one sometimes

[Val_1]

Originally Posted by LLL2

Why would she keep kissing me for like 2-5 minutes and never to call me again ?

You know, for all the bad raps guys get, they're not the only ones that are players. Women play the game too. I'm not saying she is, just beware she might be.

I just wish some of these chicks will be straight up though. If you don't want me to call, be straight up and tell me it's nice meeting you and later.

Wow, honesty. How nice would that be! Dating would be FAR easier if people were just honest with each other.

[Toaster126]

Originally Posted by analog

There's a saying that people fuck like they dance- but that doesn't mean a crazy/great dancer will sleep with you right away.

The older I get, the less I find this old adage to be true.