visotech

Its been a few weeks since I got out of a 2.5 year relationship, and just like anyone else I'm feeling hardup. The obvious release is masterbation, but for some odd reason I feel guilty to do it. I think im in fear of turining into a chronic masterbater and becomoning dependent on porn - comming out a relationship I think thats a pathetic way for me to go. Maybe im just rambling but, why the hell do I feel guilty about it - during and before my relationship I would do it regularly...

Charlatan

Dude... relax. Have a wank. There is no need to feel guilty.

You are just coming out of a long term relationship. Perhaps you need some time before you get out there looking for some action from a flesh and blood woman. Take all the time you need.

In the meantime, let off some stress.

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visotech

I just have this fear, i don't want to be "the guy who sits at home and wanks to porn all day". Im sure this is the most stupid thread here, but yeah im not kiddin.

Dilbert1234567

you wont be, give your self time and you'll meet another woman, until then, have some fun.

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absorbentishe

Do you have an addictive personallity? If so, then I'd be worried about it. Otherwise, dl some porn, and wank-a-way! Go look up the polls, you'll see there are a lot of people that do on a daily basis, and a lot are in relationships. Nothing to worry about.

ironman

Someone once said that masturbation is sex with someone you love, so relax and enjoy it.

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BigDonkey2

Masturbation is something that everybody does and is fun. You shouldn't feel guilty doing it, otherwise wheres the fun in that? Like Charlatan said, just relax and have a good wank. There's nothing wrong with it.

Lindy

I have to admit that I've felt guilty about a couple of my sexual encounters, but about masturbation? Never! I do it at least every couple of days, sometimes even when I'm in a regular sex relationship.
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savvypup

Don't you feel great while you're doing it? Enjoy!

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nukeu666

most of the male population is like that when they dont have a partner or broke their arm, so chill...you are just going back to basics

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sprocket

I wish I had a link handy, but i saw an article a few months ago, that was pretty interesting. Apparently men who ejaculate 4-5 times per week are around 50% less likely to get prostate cancer, compared to men who do it less. So unless you have a girl to help you out (we all go through some hard times) its actually a healthy, normal exercise. Think of it like working out!

Fap away!

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BigBen

How about 4-5 times per day?

Although I feel guilty around number 3, you gotta fight through that shit. Number 4 and 5 are worth it.

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FallenAvatar

Well I'll tell you that I don't think it's something you should be afraid of. It's a natural thing and a good way to relieve tension. I think you might be over thinking the situation. Don't be scared of it just go with your flow.

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Ustwo

Are you feeling guilty or just feeling sorry for yourself?

Time to jump back in the saddle and find a new woman.

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Scrub0

i see nothing wrong with getting yourself off, no matter what the circumstances

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doncalypso

My beef with masturbation is not guilt but the fact that it is so damned addictive. It used to be that I masturbated so much that I desperately needed to jerk off in order to be able to fall asleep because I needed that relief of tension.

Generally it takes me about two to three weeks of abstaining from masturbation before I can get over the need for orgasmic relief in order to sleep.

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guthmund

You say this like it's a bad thing. As long as you're not rearranging your schedule to go beat off, I think you're probably okay.

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Ample

The only time I feel guilty about masterbating is when I know the sex later that day, and it is not as good, cause I already cleaned the pipes.

Other than that, jerkin' is natural and one should never feel bad if it does not hurt regular sexual activity.

qweds

hahahaha, yeah some sundays just got sit around and work that shit out. It ain't pretty but a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do.

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visotech

I guess it was just a phase, im back to my old self. It just took me some time to start thinking sexually again after the breakup...

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Plaid13

feeling guilty about masturbation? feel like your taking advantage of yourself? do you have to get yourself drunk first?

paulskinback

Join the club, I just came out of the same length relationship 2 months ago and i've spent many hours alone with rosy palm and her 5 sisters. Its getting less now but you need the release.

Are you thinking about the sex you used to have with your ex? I certainly do. makes it more furious but what the fuck, lets off the steam!

I was also worried that i'd become a serial wanker, but like the song by Ivor Biggun "it does me good like it bloody well should... I'm a wanker, I'm a wanker, and i'm always pulling my hood!"

(smiley holding his cock coz he loves it too)

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murphy54

guilt is there ...and it is right

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gwydion

You know, you might try the less popular thing and not play with your self. It does a lot for your self esteem- there may be some reason why you feel guilty. Your penis just isn't meant to be abused so much. There are better things to do with your body- like take care of it.

Cynosure

A person can indeed become addicted to (or at least, dependent upon) the pleasureable cocktail of biochemicals that are produced/released, upon orgasm. The reason why it's easier for masturbation to become addictive, i.e. easier than it is to become addicted to having with sex with other persons, is because masturbation requires a lot less emotional work and utterly no personal commitment. (It usually requires less physical exertion, as well.) And, of course, masturbation is all about self interest/gratification, which is what's at the core of any addiction.

curiousbear

I dont feel guilty to masturbate. But I feel terribly guilty when I masturbate to porn.
I also feel guilty and bad about myself when I do it while chatting with someone and the person in chat doesnt know what I am doing

Tully Mars

Why do you feel guilty when doing it to porn? That's the reason, mainly, they make porn.

*makes mental note never to chat with the bear*

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snowy

I'd forgotten this quote!

And seriously--there is nothing wrong with masturbation. It's a perfectly healthy practice. Does a body good, I say.

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Acetylene

This thread was 2 years old, and the person who posted it hasn't been online for 2 months. Not that the thread isn't potentially useful for others.

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gwydion

I don't think that you can see the problems with masturbation when you are doing it. The chemicals your body produces are so strong. While it might not be unhealthy for the body (which it probably is) it ruins your mind. Our bodies can be tools to accomplish amazing things- there's and old Chinese saying to bridle you passions to so you can be filled with power. If you just let a horse run rampant it doesn't do anything for you, but if you control it, it can bring to places. The same with our sex organs, if you really want to enjoy your body, you've got to control it. Life is so short, why waste your time going nowhere.

snowy

Hmm...I've gone months, even years without masturbating and I think there is no discernable difference in motivation levels whether I'm masturbating on a regular basis or not. Additionally, I find masturbation on a regular basis makes me more relaxed and less stressed. Who says it's going nowhere? It certainly gets me to a pleasurable place.

As to it being bad for the body--if it "probably is", we would have seen peer-reviewed studies long before now saying so. However, what we have seen is precisely the opposite. Studies have shown us that masturbation on a regular basis lowers a male's risk of prostate cancer.

BBC NEWS | Health | Masturbation 'cuts cancer risk'

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