Love after 50?
 

Do you think its possible to meet someone, unmarried, and fall in love after 50? Or is that a stretch these days?

Beyond Borders (and excelent movie, btw), there most certianally is hope. It is not a stretch at all. 90? Maybe a stretch. 50? No problem.

God I hope so, cause I'm just making into my 40's as a single person, and it feels like it might be a long decade...

Yes. Love can happen at almost any age. Until you reach an age where you are dependant on others for your life's activities, you have that opportunity. Sometimes even after, but it's much more difficult. It has more to do with attitude than age.

Ditto what Borla said. I look forward to your thoughts.

Well I am in the ballpark, I guess. I'll turn 49 this year. My divorce was finalized in December after 25 years of marriage. I have met a truly wonderful woman just this past fall and couldn't be happier about things :crazy: She is in the endstages of her own divorce, so when we met we were both still married, but we were both working on ending that status. I don't know if we will be together till death do us part, but I am seriously considering all the changes my life would require to make that a reality. Beyond Borders, you may find yourself shaking your head at just how lucky you are. Give it time. I am amazed at the turnaround I have undergone. Hang in there :thumbsup:

My grandpa had a girlfriend for several years--he met her in his 70s and they were still together when he died at the age of 84.

So yes, it's definitely possible to find love after 50, if you know where to look.

My grandpappy, rest his soul, and my grandmammy were wed when he was something like 70. Don't worry about it. ;)

lol on no its not for me it's for someone i know. I wa just gaining opinions from the general publicity. Which to me, is fourms beucase i am a hermit lol. However, i appreciate your thoughts and opinions, she'll be glad to hear them!!!!

Oh and Thankyou, I also love Beyond Borders, one of my top favs absolutly!

amen to that my brotha amen to that...

Some years after my dad died, my mother remarried -- at age 75, to an 80-year-old man. That was seven years ago, and they're both very happy.

It's never too late.

Yah, my dad separated and divorced at the age of 43 and remarried at 45

Plus, I figured that with the divorce rate going these days, there's more single person in their 40s than there were few decades ago

My uncle just got married for the first time at 64. The two of them are so much in love it makes me a little uncomfortable.

I thought he would be a bachelor his whiole life. Who knew? And buddy, if my uncle can do it, ANYONE can.

Age is just a number. Making sure you don't smell like an old person and appropriate fashion is waaaaay more important. Don't pull out the argyle and butterfly collars just yet. And don't try to dress like a teenager. Age appropriate clothing.

But I like "the argyle and butterfly collars."

The only thing holding a 50+ back from finding love is the 50-year-old person themselves. As long as you are open to the possibility, love can find you. Too many older people give up.

In urban centers, there are always a lot more older unmarrieds; divorcees and widows, but also a lot of people who just never settled down; big cities attract the restless, and attract them and hold on to them even as they grow old. Of course many of these people are in no hurry to get married, or married again. One of the things I found in the city was that 40ish and 50ish women who are financially secure -- whether there is alimony or not -- aren't especially motivated to get married. They like their independence, and can get all the companionship (and sex) they want from men their age (or younger) without making a legal commitment.

On the other hand, I knew 40ish and 50ish city men who _weren't_ financially secure who wooed well-off divorcees with hopes of marrying onto the gravy train. They always complained to me that "they'll f*ck ya in a minute -- but they won't marry ya!" Funny how economics can dictate who calls the tune in a romantic relationship.

We see it happening in this area all the time...

My buddy of 75 just married another of our friends, and they act like little kids....

at that age you know what you want...and you also know what you DON"T want---I can tell you for a fact, the second time around is a lot better than the first.....

we also see a lot of older people that everyone assumes is married, but they are not...this is mainly because of finacial reasons...usually she will lose a lot of insurance or income from her previous husband....

and, yes love is just as good now as it was then...VG

I hope so! I just turned 50 today.