Is there any way to prepare for the sudden loss of friends when my internship ends? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Undercover_Man · 06-27-2005, 01:20 PM

Hello fellow TFP'ers

I was thinking last night and something came to mind. I am making a lot of friends and meeting a TON of new people everyday while working at Disney World. I have been here a little over a month and will be leaving Jan. 5, 2006. A thought popped into my head that all these people I have met will all go their seperate ways. All the girls who I care for and all the guys who I hang out with will be gone. All the people I work with and see every day will be gone.

Now in the past I haven't been able to make friends very easily. I'm on the shy side

. I feel like the sudden loss of friends and going back to a friendless life back at home will make me go nuts. I haven't had to handle something like that before. And when I go back home, I'll have to continue with my college work. It'll be too soon for me to get back into the mode I was in before I came here. College work was all I had (plus a ton of online friends, forums, and activities) and I was SO concentrated on my work. I'm afraid that whatever I may feel at the end of the year will have some kind of negative impact on my college work and the concentration I had before.

Is there anything I can do to lessen the pain of the sudden loss of friends? Or all these feeling that I will have be inevitable?

- Undercover_Man

Jinn · 06-27-2005, 01:23 PM

One of the wonders of the technological age that we live in is the availability of communication. You don't have to let hundreds or thousands of miles get in the way of "seeing" these people anymore. Get cell phone numbers, IM names, email addresses; if these friends are that important to you, can can keep in contact. With IMing, you can send your voice AND picture with a webcam and microphone.. its almost like being in their presense. Email them, check up on how their lives are going. Unless you can afford the trips to see them all, thats the best that you can do. You'll realize that some you'll stay in contact with, and some you'll lose. Some of my "best" friends from three years ago (who still live in the state) -- I haven't talked to in years. Friends come and go, and the best you can do is enjoy them while you have them.

You'll make more, I'm sure of it. I was the shy guy once too.

snowy · 06-27-2005, 03:04 PM

My best girl friend just got back from the Disney College Program in January. During the intervening months she has spent a lot of time on the cell phone (nights and weekends of course), using the internet to keep in touch with people, and visiting those who are within a car ride of where we live. So it IS possible to keep in touch--you just have to be willing to work at it.

She has also applied for the advanced internship program and will probably be doing another "tour of duty" so to speak, like most of her friends from there have. You won't lose all your friends from Disney--trust me, it's not possible

06-27-2005, 01:20 PM	#1 (permalink)
Undercover_Man Insane	Is there any way to prepare for the sudden loss of friends when my internship ends? Hello fellow TFP'ers I was thinking last night and something came to mind. I am making a lot of friends and meeting a TON of new people everyday while working at Disney World. I have been here a little over a month and will be leaving Jan. 5, 2006. A thought popped into my head that all these people I have met will all go their seperate ways. All the girls who I care for and all the guys who I hang out with will be gone. All the people I work with and see every day will be gone. Now in the past I haven't been able to make friends very easily. I'm on the shy side . I feel like the sudden loss of friends and going back to a friendless life back at home will make me go nuts. I haven't had to handle something like that before. And when I go back home, I'll have to continue with my college work. It'll be too soon for me to get back into the mode I was in before I came here. College work was all I had (plus a ton of online friends, forums, and activities) and I was SO concentrated on my work. I'm afraid that whatever I may feel at the end of the year will have some kind of negative impact on my college work and the concentration I had before. Is there anything I can do to lessen the pain of the sudden loss of friends? Or all these feeling that I will have be inevitable? - Undercover_Man

06-27-2005, 01:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
Jinn Lover - Protector - Teacher Location: Seattle, WA	One of the wonders of the technological age that we live in is the availability of communication. You don't have to let hundreds or thousands of miles get in the way of "seeing" these people anymore. Get cell phone numbers, IM names, email addresses; if these friends are that important to you, can can keep in contact. With IMing, you can send your voice AND picture with a webcam and microphone.. its almost like being in their presense. Email them, check up on how their lives are going. Unless you can afford the trips to see them all, thats the best that you can do. You'll realize that some you'll stay in contact with, and some you'll lose. Some of my "best" friends from three years ago (who still live in the state) -- I haven't talked to in years. Friends come and go, and the best you can do is enjoy them while you have them. You'll make more, I'm sure of it. I was the shy guy once too. __________________ "I'm typing on a computer of science, which is being sent by science wires to a little science server where you can access it. I'm not typing on a computer of philosophy or religion or whatever other thing you think can be used to understand the universe because they're a poor substitute in the role of understanding the universe which exists independent from ourselves." - Willravel

06-27-2005, 03:04 PM	#3 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	My best girl friend just got back from the Disney College Program in January. During the intervening months she has spent a lot of time on the cell phone (nights and weekends of course), using the internet to keep in touch with people, and visiting those who are within a car ride of where we live. So it IS possible to keep in touch--you just have to be willing to work at it. She has also applied for the advanced internship program and will probably be doing another "tour of duty" so to speak, like most of her friends from there have. You won't lose all your friends from Disney--trust me, it's not possible __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau