Bros before hos or hos before bros?
 

Hey guys I'm just wondering how you guys priortize your relationships.

Bros before hos, hos before bros, or do you balance the two?

huh? didn't you just post this?

Yeah had to revise the poll..

lol, yes, everything in moderation :thumbsup:

Hmmm, not really sure how to answer this. 95% of the people I hang out with on a regular basis are women. Would the girls I hang out with count as Bros or Hos? And if you say Hos, you can tell them that, they'd kill me! :D

Do you have to be bisexual to answer this? I'm confused.

I don't like that phrase at all. I'm not a ho.

why did you pick the word 'ho'?? do you mean HOOKERS come before friends or what?

:) using the term 'Ho' you're going to and have already sparked the ire of the women who read this . . .


Sweetpea

:lol:



well I thought this phrase basically refers to friends first, or girls (girlfriend) first? But good interpretation though.

ok, i know i'm being quick to judge... and i don't know you.... but ummm, i'm guessing you're single or will soon be.

you put your loved ones before anything. it doesn't matter if they're men or women, friend, relatives, SO... anyone who makes you choose one group over another needs to look at their own priorities. (ok, when i use "you" in that last section, i meant "me")

edit: ok, i've loosened the sphincter a little. i hope you have more resepect for women than i first imagined. i am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you just like the rhyme of bro and ho. it does have a nice ring to it. if you really feel they're hoes. they're not worth your time.

assuming you mean friends & group activities vs. time alone with the SO, register me in the "balance" section.

Friends come first. Loyalty, above all else, except honour.

I agree. I realize the meaning behind this phrase, but it is gender biased. I don't appreciate its use.

Anyway, in terms of whether I would choose friends over a SO is a tough decision. Really good friends will always be there for you, and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships can be pretty uncertain. Hmm... I'd probably give them equal time... have to keep the balance. ;)

Is you SO isn't a friend, you have issues.

Equal time between my SO and my friends. Life is all about balance. Or so I hear..

Equal time. Women fought for their rights back in the day, so they get it from me. As a guy that's 100% heterosexual, I find the majority (read: nearly 99%) of my friends to be female. I find that I connect with them better I guess.

I don't know what hos or bros are so I can't answer this.

I don't even know if I am supposed to be answering it.

woah!
this was a saying everyone would say back in HS.
Alot of girls I knew would change it and say "ho's b4 bros"
Think if your at the bar, one girl gettin action, the other not and wanting to leave. to convince her friend that they should leave together she might say this.
its all for the rhyme. I dont think anyone really thinks of it as derogatory.

I think it is. And since in high school, not a lot of people cared about what might be considered offensive, that's why I think it was used.

Unsophisticated language stopped when I was 17.

Hmm, I wouldn't say 99% of my friends are female. But 99% of the friends I would consider very close are female. Is this common for males? I always assumed I was weird :crazy:

I've had friends turn their back on me because of their girlfriends so I am really bitter towards the 'bros' portion. But I would definately choose bros. And right now, my girlfriend is a huge part of my life so it would be siding with 'hos' for now.

There's very little differentiation in my case. I have very few friends, and if I'm with somebody they aren't most assuredly my friend as well. In fact, I find the labels slightly silly.

I wish it could be "hos before bros" right now, except my GF is 500 miles away, so now it is "bros before hos" by default. It sucks finding someone you really care about right before graduating and moving.

'bros' (i hate that word) before hoes for sure. friends always come first.

well, i'll take a crack at it.

Both.

:D

My "ho", wow when I use that word in reference to her it does seem quite derogitory! So my girlfriend is alot more important to me than my bros, cause shes been around longer, and been less two-faced than 99% of the bros Ive ever had. She also understands me better and is more of a friend than any bro Ive ever had.

I realize this was addressed to the gentlemen, but as my casual freinds are all male, and my SO female, I think I'm qualified. A long term romantic partner comes before a casual friend.

For the bar question, I'd turn it around. If I were unattached and met a nice girl at a bar, and had to choose between her and giving my friend a ride home, I'd go with the friend. The prior commitment to someone I care about gets precedence over someone I just met.

The term we had for this was "mates before dates." In this case, the "dates" were certainly not girls that had reached the status of SOs, but girls that you might want to ask out. The dilemma was blowing off a friend so that you could hook up with a girl, or even hooking up with a girl that you knew your mate wanted to hook up with himself.

In this case, mates most certainly came before dates.

Depends on how much I care about the girl. If I'm just trying to hook up and my friend needs me then I'm there for him. If I'm in a committed relationship though it'd have to be both. I've also noticed I can't be friends with girls because either they eventually crush on me and I hurt their feelings or the other way around and that sucks :(.

I've managed to have one or two good girlfriends in real life though but one was quite fond of me and when I told her "just friends" I know it hurt her but then she embraced the idea and we became good friends. Distance has kind of killed the relationship though. I haven't talked to her in forever. I should get back in touch.

Asta!!

everybody is gettin too irrational about this saying haha, just in my opinion. Bro's befo ho's fosho. And i know somebody will probably quote me, givin me some "be more of an intellectual, chuckles" but these forums are also a place to shoot the shit and loosen up, this isn't work nor is it a classroom. Dont automatically judge people just on some of their responses and/or statements.

^ Be more of an intellectual Chuckles! j/k

Asta!!

The people i care about are the people i care about, i don't have any bros and i don't have any hos. Given a situation where i had to choose between people i care about, well, it all depends on the context. I doubt i would choose to remain a friend with someone who had such little respect for me so as to force me to make such a choice.

Relationships are too complex to be summarized with simplistic slogans.

LOL! Thanks for the responses guys. Some of you guys need a sense of humor. Oh well. The title of the thread was a joke anyway. I had just got out of a 2.5 year relationship over a year ago and currently enjoy being single at the moment. I personally give my close buddies(not casual friends, I should of mentioned that in the poll) and SOs equal time no matter what. I think it's selfish to devote all your time to one person and cut off others. Currently I have a few close friends who have basically been forced to cut me off because their dominating girlfriends won't let them have time outside their relationships. So yes you could say I am a bit bitter.

I'm married, and have no friends...

But if I were single, I'd probably go with 'bros first'.

This is part of growing up.

You go from being a 'pack' of young males, to being 'mated'.

Ethology at its core.

And while some people take this to an extreem early on, aka 'whipped', always in the end your SO comes first, period. The few men I've known who try to continue as a young male after they get married soon find themselves not married.

I'm not a ho!!!

I have no friends so I can't really answer. If I make some next year, I'm sure the majority of time will be spent with my "ho". Or we'll make couple friends and have potluck's like old farts do.

It should be bros first, but we are all selfish bastards. So in reality, it's a nice saying, but come to it it's every man for himself.

Carpe diem!

This is exactly the meaning of "bro's before ho's" in my opinion.

ex. In a bar, meet a girl, have an awesome time, and she's going to go home with you. The problem is that the friend that came with you had a bad night and got piss drunk. Do you go home with the girl or take care of your buddy?

Bros before hoes.

Every single time I've chose otherwise it's came back to bit me in the ass.

My thoughts exactly.

I think if either group - be it bro's or ho's - made you choose between them, then neither are worth your time. I'm in a 2-year relationship so I try and get a balance while prioritising at the same time. Impossible? I think not.

So if your SO's birthday and game 7 of the NBA finals are on the same day, take your girl to the game and get her name on the big screen :D

bros before hos is an old school saying... lnot really but its a good saying that i have heard plenty of times before

Wow what kind of women did they marry? So you're saying that males as they get older are destined to become lonely? That's not how I want to live my life. Why would anyone want to live their lives like that? :confused: Being whipped sounds like the movie Shawshank Redemption :lol:

definately Bros b4 Hoes...


mates are forever whereas chicks come and go...


(i'm only talking from my limited experiance as an 19 YO male)

i have a mate who is whipped... he had bn with his GF only a few weeks when he started blowing us off and spending time with her and only her... now he's gone and gotten her pregnant, so hes gunna have even less time to spend with his bros...

we'll miss him.

I made a decision (by myself ^^) to place my gf before my friends. My gf proves to be a better friend than my close friends are, and much more than that, too. I'm not going to vote, though, because I don't like the word choice. I have too much respect for my gf to associate her with anything remotely derogatory. Lighten up nothing.

What if your gf dumps you? Who will you turn to since you decided to drop all your friends for her?

dude, if you're taking your girl to the 7th game of the finals... uhh, can i be your girl??? (never mind the adam's apple and the stubble) :lol:

You shouldn't equate me placing my gf before my friends the same as me dropping them for her. Fact is I love my gf more than my friends so I prioritize her before them. Now, if one day my gf should dump me, I wouldn't know what to do. One thing for sure though, I wouldn't turn to my friends. I've never turned to them when I'm in trouble or have problems and I don't plan to in the future. It's kinda weird how things work with me...ehhh...

I noticed that you're also vietnamese so here's a phrase to think about (hope you can read Viet): tri ky de kiem, tinh lang kho tim.

Because all my friends are males and I've always tended to have a very "male" attitude toward women, I vote bros before hos. However, I respect the desire for pussy, and so I understand when a bro cuts out to hang with his girl. In my mind, a little time spent on her equals huge rewards for him, and if he's happy, I'm happy. Just don't bail on our goddamn LAN parties.

I don't think you get it.

Your wife comes first, period, but that does not mean you dont' have friends. My wife doesn't care if I go out etc, but if it comes between say something my wife really wants me to do and something my friends do, the wife wins.

Hell my wife is about as good as they come in this reguard, I married quite well.

The biggest issue here is that your wife should be your best friend. I feel sorry for those people who's wife isn't their best friend.

:lol:

My now oldest friend I met when I was 21, most others are far more recent. I couldn't even tell you the names of more than one or two highschool friends.

Trust me, most friends come and go, and unless your lives take you in the same directions, you will find you have less and less in common with them until they are strangers.

I've always been "bros before hos" because I believe that friends last longer than girlfriends. Case in point: Oldest Friends - known for 12 years. Oldest Girlfriend - 4 months and 2 days. My friends will always be important to me, because of our history and the fact that I have fun with them. HOWEVER, what happens when your "ho" is your best "bro..?" I realize that they're gender specific words, but the question becomes moot when someone can be both.

I'm putting my ho before my bros because my ho is one of the bros. Circular logic.. world implodes.

As for the word choice -- lighten up. :)

Ha, probably depends on whether you've just started a sexual relationship or are just ending one.

Marriage inevitably destroys everything anyway.

Go with the one your sleeping with. If your not sleeping with someone for whatever reason, then go with the ones you don't sleep with.

"Bros before hos" already implies a greater value placed on friends than casual female acquaintances. Obviously, in my book, a good friend will always get priority over a girl I've just met. I've heard another version of this that girls use: "chicks before dicks", which is just as derogatory, but is used in the same context.

Also, I've been in situations where a guy that hooks up with a truly awesome (physically or otherwise) girl would get some slack from any "bro" he would be with. Similar to "bros before hos" is "take one for the team", where a guy would let himself be stuck in an unpleasant situation, so that his friend might get an advantage. This would entail some sort of recompense after.