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Memalvada · 06-25-2003, 02:38 PM

What can you do when saying sorry is not enough?

Like when you've hurt somebody you care about so badly that simple words won't have any effect, and when you're too far away to do anything...

Please help...

MSD · 06-25-2003, 09:55 PM

Actions speak louder than words.
Time heals all wounds.
Quitters never win, winners never quit, don't quit when you're ahead unless it's impossible to move farther forward.

Show it, don't say it, give it time, don't give up

rogue49 · 06-25-2003, 10:22 PM

Maybe send a gift that expresses your thoughts & feelings
and that you do care about them & theirs

Battlefield · 06-25-2003, 11:36 PM

send gifts, do SOMETHING. Whatever you do don't just give up, I think girls always want to be comforted--maybe sorry won't fix it but if you just leave it alone I don't think it will help(in most cases)

Antagony · 06-25-2003, 11:38 PM

A good session of cunnilingus always wins.

absorbentishe · 06-26-2003, 07:29 AM

You have to give something from your heart, a peom, note, what every, but it's got to come from you.

i8one2 · 06-26-2003, 06:24 PM

I completely agree with absorbentishe and can only add use your own handwriting and whatever the gift(if you choose to give one) be made by you.

losfp · 06-30-2003, 06:01 PM

Words may not be enough, but you have to start somewhere, right?

lurkette · 06-30-2003, 06:27 PM

Without knowing more about the situation, 1. do whatever it takes to clean up after yourself - all the things people have been suggesting: write a letter/poem, apologize profusely, send a gift, whatever. 2. promise never to do whatever you did again. 3. if necessary, and if it wouldn't make the other person not trust you, and if you've already done the things above, a grand gesture is often a good tonic for poisoned friendships: fly there and apologize in person, send 5 dozen roses to where (she?) works, whatever. Do whatever it takes to make things right again, and make sure the other person knows how sincere you are and how sorry you are.

Slims · 06-30-2003, 08:28 PM

A flower a day, each with an apology

QuasiMojo · 06-30-2003, 08:42 PM

Some times you CAN'T do anything.
Some times Time is the only remedy.

But heartfelt words go a long way
If you really fucked up *gifts* can be trite and actually backfire.

vermin · 06-30-2003, 09:46 PM

I agree with Antagony, go the cunnilingus path; unless it's a close relative you've pissed off. In that case, don't worry about it. They're family. They HAVE to forgive you.

rodgerd · 06-30-2003, 09:52 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Memalvada
What can you do when saying sorry is not enough?

Like when you've hurt somebody you care about so badly that simple words won't have any effect, and when you're too far away to do anything...

Please help...

Book a plane ticket. Apologise in person.

06-25-2003, 02:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
Memalvada Psycho Location: South of the border	when saying sorry is not enough.... What can you do when saying sorry is not enough? Like when you've hurt somebody you care about so badly that simple words won't have any effect, and when you're too far away to do anything... Please help... __________________ "The weak are food for the strong, so die and let me feast!" - Makoto Shishio (RK)

06-25-2003, 11:38 PM	#5 (permalink)
Antagony Psychopathic Akimbo Action Pirate Location: ...between Christ and Belial.	A good session of cunnilingus always wins. __________________ On the outside I'm jazz, but my soul is rock and roll. Sleep is a waste of time. Join the Insomniac Club. "GYOH GWAH-DAH GREH BLAAA! SROH WIH DIH FLIH RYOHH!!" - The Locust

06-26-2003, 06:24 PM	#7 (permalink)
i8one2 COMPLETED and A TRAINER Location: BEAN_TOWN	I completely agree with absorbentishe and can only add use your own handwriting and whatever the gift(if you choose to give one) be made by you. __________________ LEATHER, LATEX and LACE "SSC" "Nothing That Gives Pleasure is Bad" Quality is for those who know what they want and are at peace with what they have. "S/M is about emotion; the erotic tension between my impulse toward something and my resistance against it."-- Virginia Barker

06-30-2003, 06:01 PM	#8 (permalink)
losfp Tilted Location: Sydney, Australia	Words may not be enough, but you have to start somewhere, right? __________________ Grrr... Argh....

06-30-2003, 06:27 PM	#9 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Without knowing more about the situation, 1. do whatever it takes to clean up after yourself - all the things people have been suggesting: write a letter/poem, apologize profusely, send a gift, whatever. 2. promise never to do whatever you did again. 3. if necessary, and if it wouldn't make the other person not trust you, and if you've already done the things above, a grand gesture is often a good tonic for poisoned friendships: fly there and apologize in person, send 5 dozen roses to where (she?) works, whatever. Do whatever it takes to make things right again, and make sure the other person knows how sincere you are and how sorry you are. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

06-25-2003, 09:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
MSD The sky calls to us ... Super Moderator Location: CT	Actions speak louder than words. Time heals all wounds. Quitters never win, winners never quit, don't quit when you're ahead unless it's impossible to move farther forward. Show it, don't say it, give it time, don't give up

06-25-2003, 10:22 PM	#3 (permalink)
rogue49 Loser	Maybe send a gift that expresses your thoughts & feelings and that you do care about them & theirs

06-25-2003, 11:36 PM	#4 (permalink)
Battlefield Crazy	send gifts, do SOMETHING. Whatever you do don't just give up, I think girls always want to be comforted--maybe sorry won't fix it but if you just leave it alone I don't think it will help(in most cases)

06-26-2003, 07:29 AM	#6 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	You have to give something from your heart, a peom, note, what every, but it's got to come from you.

06-30-2003, 08:28 PM	#10 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	A flower a day, each with an apology __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence

06-30-2003, 08:42 PM	#11 (permalink)
QuasiMojo King Knave Location: Lancaster	Some times you CAN'T do anything. Some times Time is the only remedy. But heartfelt words go a long way If you really fucked up gifts can be trite and actually backfire. __________________ AzAbOv ZoBeLoE

06-30-2003, 09:46 PM	#12 (permalink)
vermin Indifferent to anti-matter Location: Tucson, AZ	I agree with Antagony, go the cunnilingus path; unless it's a close relative you've pissed off. In that case, don't worry about it. They're family. They HAVE to forgive you. __________________ If puns were sausages, this would be the wurst. Last edited by vermin; 06-30-2003 at 09:49 PM..