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Rlyss 08-31-2004 04:37 PM

Is this some form of cock-blocking?
 
A few years ago I went out to dinner with my sister and our female cousin. We went to a nearby Italian restaurant, and it was somewhat busy. We walked in and I asked the elderly, Italian sterotype waiter if we could have a table for three. He looked at the two women and said he had a table for those two and laughed. Obviously just a joke, he gave us our table and all was fine.

Last Saturday night I went out with my partner to a nice bar in the city, and we asked the bouncer what time they closed. He said the bar closed at three, but tonight it was invitation-only, but women could come in. I didn't have time to register it was a joke, I must've looked dismayed because he laughed and said he was only kidding, and we went in.

Once in we were standing at the bar with our drinks waiting for a table or couches to free up. We noticed an empty sofa in amongst a group of sofas, occupied by people. We asked the group (mixed young men and women) if they were using that sofa, and at first a woman said no, we could have it, but then straight away a young guy said it was taken, but then, you guessed it, laughed and said we could have it.

I was a little 'grr' about the whole thing while we were having our drinks, and I told my girlfriend that it happens to me a lot, particularly when I'm with my sister, or on a date. I'm young (20), so I can't really imagine the same thing happening if I was 40 or older.

Is this some form of cock-blocking? All three times I was (jokingly) dismissed by other men when I was with my girlfriend. Is it an innocent way of showing some sort of power or strength to another man's partner, some primal way of saying 'I'm tougher than him' in the modern context? She said the same thing happens to her, but I've never seen that happen, even from one woman to another, but it seems like it often happens to me if I'm out.

Does this happen to anyone else? Any thoughts?

lurkette 08-31-2004 05:51 PM

I think you might be a little overly-sensitive about it - it could be that this happens all the time, but you only particularly notice it and are bothered by it when it comes from a guy and you perceive that you're being dissed. Sorta like noticing when the streetlight goes off when you drive by.

I'd say don't take it personally.

nowthen 08-31-2004 05:59 PM

yes, they are all out to get you....

Dane Bramage 08-31-2004 06:20 PM

Couldn't really say, dude. I've never had that happen to me. If it happens with as much regularity as you say it does, then I would think something is going on there.

But all in all, I find that it does help to just have a real "couldn't give a fuck" attitude when it come to stuff like this. Just blow it off and move on, it's not really worth getting worked up over.

DB.

*Nikki* 08-31-2004 07:27 PM

Take it as a compliment. It means you have a hot girlfriend.

tiltedbc 08-31-2004 08:29 PM

I'd agree with Nikki. Chances are your girlfriend/sister is triggering the jerk impulse in these guys.

Manic_Skafe 08-31-2004 09:03 PM

It'd only be cock-blocking if these people and their comments stood in the way of you getting some action - if that's the route you're going with your sister and cousin then you've got a lot more to worry about than rude comments (jk).

As said above, you should take pride in the fact that these (assholes) people go to such great lengths to impress the women you are with and although you might not like it, it you've got a girlfriend that's attractive and is with you and family members that are easy on the eyes....

Take it easy, rocket.

Willravel 08-31-2004 10:36 PM

One thing you have to remember is that a lot of people out there really aren't funny. Because of this, people tend to stick to what they consider funny in all situations. For some people, I guess, this is funny. I would find it annyoing, but I kinda doubt that it's cock blocking. Next time just look at them blankly. Don't give them a pity laugh. As long as you don't reinforce their false belief that they are funny, they should leave you alone, and you might save the next guy who it bothers.

bermuDa 08-31-2004 10:47 PM

yeah, it makes sense that these guys are seeing you with these girls awakens their desire to seem stronger or more in charge by putting you down by making you look foolish or guillible. but it's an attempted cockblock at most.

Rlyss 09-01-2004 12:44 AM

Thanks everyone for the replies!

Manic Skafe, nothing crazy going on with the sister of the cousin, I'm not <i>that</i> screwed up! ;)

I know it shouldn't bother me, but it often does. (By the way, I'm one of those odd people who dislike people saying my girlfriend is good looking (whether in a sincere way or just a guy-joking thing). I'm weird that way - I'd rather people not look at her at all than be jealous of me because they know she's good looking.) I think she's beautiful, and although I hate it, I get a lot of comments saying that she is, so I suppose when these sort of things happen when I'm with her, all I can think of is that these guys are trying in a small way to show me up.

I know I'm looking way too far into this, but this sort of thing fascinates me :)

bermuDa 09-01-2004 12:52 AM

oh ok... you are too sensitive then ;)

Kazic 09-02-2004 08:04 PM

hmm wouldn't call that cock blocking as much as guys all frontin.. heh

Meier_Link 09-02-2004 08:40 PM

Maybe try to escalate the situation. At the door tell him he's going to have to keep you out, at the couch tell him you don't see him sitting there. Then when they say they're fucking with you, you can just smile and nod like "yeah you better be."

This may be bad advice but it's probably what I'd do. Especially if I've been drinking.

RainbowBright 09-04-2004 11:41 PM

First of all you can't but your girlfriend in a bubble so you may as well try to work past the jealousy cuz your only going to make yourself miserable. Maybe try to take pride in how beatiful she is. Second I make that bad joke all the time. It comes out of my mouth before I even realize how stupid it is. And sometimes people don't get that's it a joke and then I have to apologize and explain that they can sit there but then they don't sit there and it's all way to complicated. So just laugh it off and move on and we'll all be a lot happier.

Delirious 09-05-2004 04:11 AM

How about posting some pictures... Maybe it will trigger some of those smartass comments that you enjoy :)

kielvsworld 09-19-2004 12:14 PM

all you have to do is figure out a way to burn on them..might take a few minutes of talking with them, but it's very doable and lets them know your not a retard and can catch on to their fronting. They will be STFU'd.

but for the most part, who gives a flying fuck what other people who can't get hot girlfriends think?

Glava 09-20-2004 07:37 AM

You see empty seats and this conversation ensues:

You: "Can I sit here?"
Them: "No, sorry, somebody's already here."
You: "I'm sorry, your transparent girlfriend?"

Well, maybe not.

pig 09-21-2004 02:41 PM

it may have nothing to do with you...they may be trying to impress someone completely other than you or your girlfriend or your sister. To wit, a lot of girls are attracted to dominant male types. A lot of dominant male types are gregarious. So a lot of guys are outgoing to impress girls they are with, and might not give two flying craps about you or your girlfriend. It might at least explain some of the occurrences.

skills1 09-21-2004 04:04 PM

They just try to impress the ladies but they're losers. Think of it that way ^^


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