thespian86

I am a Christian and my parents arn't. Growing up it wasn't that tough except for my step father's self importent rants about how I shouldn't lecture him about how much he drank or swore. I have never had any other problems but now that I'm taking my faith more seriously, my Step father is finding every spare moment to call me and poke fun at me. He will go out of his way to ask me questions which he knows hurts my feels and gets under my skin.

I've had enough. I am almost getting to the point where I want to turn it around on him. He is making it hard for me to be anywhere near my mother who I love alot because he is always asking me "Two kids died last night, wheres your effing God now?" or so on and so forth. I feel like I need to do something about this.

Any advice?

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maleficent

I admire people who have a strong belief in their faith, despite obstacles in their path, sometimes, more often than not, those obstacles are people.

You aren't going to change your step father, sounds like he's a bit of an obnoxious drunk, but for whatever reason, your mother loves him, and you love your mother. How about considering him to be a test of your faith, that he's God's way of showing you if you can love him, in spite of his behavior, than you can love anything and you are ready for anything.

When he says hurtful things, find something in your faith, that can counteract his claims. It's tragic that two kids died, but did any good come out of it at all? Maybe not for the families, but maybe their organs saved the lives of 5 other people, or whatever. Turn around his blasts, and show him that he's not hurting you, and eventually he would get bored with the taunting and stop. Bullies generally do.

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Meier_Link

Just remind him that's he a worthless heathen and that when he dies he's going to hell....

/sorry, couldn't help myself

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Journeyman

"Christians aren't perfect. They just want you to be." I won't rant, but if it's not for him, it's really not for him.

On the other hand, the guy's married to your mother, which means it would be OK for you to step in and ask that he be a better man for her... unless she drinks and swears all the time, in which case you don't have much of a leg to stand on.

In terms of him poking fun, "Two kids died last night, where's your God now?" - "Sittin next to them, watching the game on the really, really, really big screen TV." Yeah, I'm bummed out by all the suffering in the world, but I remind myself that the good get eternal paradise while the pricks get eternal punishment (or something of the like).

You also need to remind him that he needs to simply let up off you. It's not ok for him to take jabs for fun at what you believe in. And in terms of it being hard to see your mother, let her know how you feel and maybe she'll help him knock it off.

iliketoast

"Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you." Matthew (ch. VII, v. 6)
I really dislike Chritianity, but I won't get sidetracked by that.
If he is an alcoholic, you might try umm, alanon I believe it is. Groups of ppl that have been close to addicts. i e family / friends of alcoholics.
The fact that he swears alot, if it really gets to you that bad you need to toughen up your skin or you will have a rough time getting by in the world.
Good luck in your faith, keep your eyes open and look out for the people that wear Christianity as a mask or use it as a tool.