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-Ever- 08-02-2004 05:45 PM

How to cope with moving/ living alone.
 
So I just moved out for the first time. I'm 21 and am going to be finishing up school rather soon. I actually lived in London for a semester, but I was studying with my school and was with tons of kids and made friends immediately.

I just moved from the suburbs of San Francisco to beachside San Diego. I've always been a water kid, love scuba diving, surfing, and being active. However, I'm feeling a disattchment from the city or something similar.

My most obvious problem is not having any friends here. My girlfriend and I hang out every day, and we're great buds, but you simply can't hang out with the same person, no matter who they are, all of the time without contact with others.

What are good ways to get on? I've been keeping busy with setting up my apartment. School doesn't begin until September. I'm looking into finding some local scuba and surf clubs, but I'm yet to do this. I'm finding urges to buy some new video games and get my TV fixed so I can get some new DVD's, but I know this isn't the correct and healthiest thing to do.

Any advice? I'm generally hanging in here, so this isn't a call for help. Rather I'm just looking to strike up some convo with anyone else who's been through this kind of thing before, I know it's common.

Thanks guys, take care.
-T

Manic_Skafe 08-03-2004 12:24 AM

If I were you, I'd take in fully what it is to be on your own. I'd do some of the things I've been meaning to do and I'd explore the place I just moved into. You'll be starting school in a month or so and when that time comes they'll be more than enough people to meet.

If all of that doesn't satisfy your urge then go out and meet some people though the things you already enjoy doing. The surf club thing sounds like your best bet.

And while you're at it, download Mondo Medicale by Impaled.

Manic_Skafe 08-03-2004 12:25 AM

http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&i...ego+Surf+Clubs

amonkie 08-03-2004 12:27 AM

Definitely check into the scuba clubs, I know the San Diego has at least one PADI chapter in the area. Are you going to UCSD? If the campus is pretty active during the summer, it couldn't hurt to drop by and just start talking to people. I meet so many interesting people that way :)

The Phenomenon 08-03-2004 04:23 AM

Whats wrong with buying more games? :p

basmoq 08-03-2004 09:14 AM

you need to find a local joint you like and hang out there REGULARLY, your best way to make friends is through familiarity. I've gone to a different school Every year of college, and each time in a new state/island I've tried everything to make friends, and find that if you just float around all the time to different places hoping to strike up conversation, it just doesn't work, the best way to go is hang around one place consistantly till someone begins to notice your not just a passerby, good luck!

st33lr4t 08-03-2004 09:53 AM

i think you answered your own question. you do have ideas on how to occupy your time you just havent followed through on them yet. if your by the beach there has to be some volleyball/soccer/football games kicking around you could join in on. plus you surf so there has to be others out there surfing. all ya gotta do is say "hi" and the rest will be easy.


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