Priority of Girlfriend over Friends?
 

Most of my friends prioritize their girlfriends over me. It really pisses me off especially when we had plan something but they bail out last minute because of their girlfriends. I'm not like this at all because I think it's quite rude. What do you think? Do you do the samething?

My girlfriend is right at the top of my priority next to my best friends.

If I need to make a choice I will see them as nearly equally important. This means I usually keep my appointment with my friends because I don't see them that often (and my gf everyday). Then again, if the reason for staying with my girl is good enough compared to the reason for going to my friends I will choose her. (the 'goodness' of the reason must compensate for the amount of time ahead i'm cancelling. I.e. if I cancel an appointment for tonight the reason must be extremely good.)

It all comes down to a descision based on equality while keeping in mind how much time I spend with each.
(and how many times I turned them down before...)


EDIT: Lurkette pointed out below that the amount of advance notice you give to your friends must be taken into the equation. I edited my reply to reflect that

I think it has less to do with girlfriend vs. friends than with basic politeness - it's rude to bail at the last minute regardless of the excuse, and if you do anything about it I'd talk to the friends about it without bringing up the gf - bound to cause trouble if you do. Just tell them that it's really inconvenient for you when they bail like that at the last minute, and you'd appreciate more notice. All else fails, find new friends who understand that your time and company are valuable, too.

That said, keep in mind that significant others usually trump friends because of the sex card - who'd you rather piss off? Your buddy or the person who's gonna blow you if you keep her happy?

i get pissed a bit as well, although i am understanding of thier situation and think that maybe myself would've done the same thing. Anyways, iots jst when it constantly happens and you never even end up seeing them for a few weeks. That sucks big time, and makes you feel worthless.

First, your girlfriend/fiance/wife BETTER be your BEST FRIEND, or you are in for a world of hurt latter in life.

BUT, if you've made plans with someone, your SO should be understanding that you've made a commitment and how would they like it if you were the type of person who didn't take commitments seriously?

My wife is my best friend. If she wants me to do something, I will do it. However there is also mutual respect and generally she won't ask me to do something during a period of time I have something else scheduled (and vice versa). I think it all depends on the girl and how controlling she is. I'm just lucky I guess.

Friends come first. Period.

(of course, my wife is my best friend, so...)

I think you have to find a balance. You need to keep your commitments to your friends/girlfriend, while finding time for both.

Exactly, only if my friends knew of this balance...

I definetly put my gf over my friends but my friends kinda suck and most have screwed me over. My girlfriend is way above them all and my best friend. I think in general it's good to keep a balance though.

Hmmmm, well it's like this, for me anyways......my girlfriend has things my boys don't have, see what Im saying.

balance needs to be struck. Friends need to be priortized but not taken for granted or abused.

hos before bros. The girlfriend is usually far more reliable than any of my friends in the first place.

Depends on the friends and the girl i suppose, you can't speak for everyone. But note this, the girl can break your heart with a few words, although being with her is much more rewarding.

a-fucking-men.

Don't make her #1 and she will always want to get there, it gives her a goal to pursue. Sometimes you need a chase to stay interested.

Friends always come first.

Unless the girl has a nice rack and gives head like a porn star then your friends can go fuck themselves.

bros before hoes is the usual motto

your friends should accept that you have a gf and your gf should accept that you have friends

A couple of my friend's gf's are my friends too, so generally it doesn't work out too badly. But yeah, occasionally there can be times when there's just no reasoning, the little lady puts her foot down, and WHAM, bye bye social life.

it always depends on the situation at hand
it also depends on your gf and your friends
if you are very close to your friends and know they will always be there they become a higher priority (some people don't need many friends after 25)
if this is the girl you would marry, put her higher, cause she'll be around longer

it does also depends on how much time you spend with each
if you are gonna see your gf everyday, then make friends higher priority for weekends
if you see your friends all week, leave weekends free for "spending time with her" (what an f'ing crock that is...)

My GF comes first but it never seems to be an issue.

It all comes down to making sure everyone involved - friends and girlfriends (or boyfriends, for you ladies out there) - is on the same page when it comes to how you delegate your time between the various requests for it. If everybody is aware of the situation, then there's bound to be a lot less headache in dealing with the friends/girlfriend conflict.

Give em a break... if they're hittin it I don't blame them either, just remember, friends will always be there, girls don't always put out ;)

You're such a deep guy WK :p

If I have an opportunity to see my girlfriend I'll usually take it unless I already have something planned.

i think the buddies get pissed when they are left out, but the do the same thing right back to their buddies when they have a girlfriend

mates over muff.
thats a saying my friends have.

seriously, do not abandon your friends (all the time) as soon as you start a relationship. because who are you going to turn to when she dumps you and you´ve not caught up with your friends in months, or years??

no man is an island.

Girls are selfish dorks sometimes.
This comes from a girl.

You have a few options:

1) Do your friends a favor and tell them they need to ditch their controlling girlfriends.

2) Find yourself a controlling girlfriend (not recommended).

3) Remind your friends that they CAN say no to a girl. If the girl is worth anything she shouldn't be bothered by the fact that your friend already has plans.

4) Invite the girls along (could prove disasterous).

5) Introduce the idea of a girl's-nite-out/ guy's-nite-out. The girls might make friends with one another and stop demanding so much time.

Hope your friends wisen up.

I try to balance it to the best of my ability. But if I really have to choose, I'd rather be with my girlfriend

I moved away from all my friends to be with my wife, so.. make your own conclusions.. I try to call them as much as I can.