Today I found out a friend committed suicide
 

He lives in another town. It happened at the end of Sept. We kept in touch with email, sporadically. Sometimes months would go by without any contact. It's taken a while for the word to spread. Another friend emailed me today. He had just found out over the weekend. It really knocked the legs out from under me this morning

He had his demons, for sure. This isn't the first time he attempted suicide. In fact, the third. And he wasn't a young kid, he was 55. I know what caused the other two, the last time was his divorce. This time, who knows?

Asphyxiation by helium. At least it was painless. I hope he is too now.

What an empty feeling this leaves you with.

RIP

My heart has joined the Thousand, for my Friend stopped running today.

Peace be upon him, and upon his spirit.

And yours.

And here I was just contemplating participating in Movember to help raise awareness of men's health issues, which, of course, includes depression.

I'm sorry to hear this, man.

I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope you're able to find some peace in this troubling time.

I am so sorry to hear this! As we say in my tradition, hamakom yinachem otcha, May the Omnipresent bring you comfort.

Suicide is so hard on those left behind. I hope you find peace and resolution from this experience.

That's awful....I remember being told a friend of mine died on christmas one year after I texted him Merry Christmas and his sister called me back. It's an awful feeling. Having had suicides in my family, all I can say is my thoughts are with you and the family.

I am so sorry for your loss. Suicide in unlike other deaths. You are left with so many questions. It defies ones own fear of their own mortality.

My brother committed suicide when he was 24 and I was 18. My life was forever changed after that. Its part of the reason I need so much control in my life. And why I worry about things I dont need to worry about. I didnt worry about him and look what happened...

I shall light a candle and sing a low loving prayer for him...and for you and all those he left behind...

I have gone through this and it is hard. My thoughts & prayers are with you. Please accept my sympathy.

Sorry to hear this Craven.

I hope that he's in a better place now. My thoughts are with you.

Sorry, Craven.

I can only say I am deeply sorry you have to go through this.

if you want to talk, i'm here.

having tried many times myself, i can understand it must be pretty hard for you right now

Thanks everyone, I'm fine. It's just such an empty feeling though to find out that this happened 6 weeks ago. It's over and done and then you find out - regardless of the cause. My last email to him was about the new Keith Richards book. I just realized he never responded. Didn't think too much of it at the time. I now know why.

RIP Bobby, we had some good times. I hope you're at peace.

man I'm sorry to hear this. Not a day goes by that I don't think of my friend that I know took a step off his roof. Fucking sucks.

weird that the other day a mutual friend of mine called me from out of the blue. we talked about that period of time because we our friendship fractured around that time. it was nice to see her again and we talked about him.

fuck. man, this sucks. :(

*hugs*

Craven, sorry to hear this and sorry that I missed it the first time through. That's tough news. Let us know if we can help - these are the occassions where TFP does good.

I'm sorry for your loss.

A brief story, if I may:

Many years ago, my buddies and I used to get together for some pick-up softball. One day, one of these friends brought out a fellow named George, who wanted to join us. He was a nice enough fellow, but a little odd, in his ways. So George joined us, in our games. Maybe a year or so later, this friend, George and myself were at the park throwing the ball around and hitting some fly balls to each other. I happened to mention, to this friend that I wanted to go to the ball game at the stadium that night, but he told me he coudn't make it. George happened to overhear, and said he wouldn't mind going. Sadly, I remember thinking to myself something like "Oh man, I'm going to have to go with George!" So we both went to the ball game that night. For some reason, it turned out to be a really fun night. I don't know if my expectations were very low, or what, but George turned out to be this very nice, outgoing person. I seem to recall the game going something like twenty or twenty-one innings, nevertheless we had a great time.

I mention all this because sometime, during that subsequent winter, George committed suicide.

We don't often know the demons some people are dealing with. Some handle them much better than others, while some people become overwhelmed by them.

I hope that George and your friend, finally, found some peace and happiness. My condolences to you and your friend's family.

Take care!

Craven,
Yes you will always wonder why he did it but never know. I can sympathize for loss and pray for your lost friend.

Sorry about the loss of your friend.

Really sorry to hear this, thoughts are with you.