Mommy?? Daddy??
 

At what age would everyone say does a boy stop calling parents mommy and daddy and go with mom and dad?

My son is is going to be 10 soon, and myself feel that is a little old for him to be calling us mommy and daddy. When friends are over I have never once heard them refere to their parent as mommy and daddy. My son on the other hand while in the company of friends will call us mommy and daddy. On occasion or if he's sad I can maybe see him needing a little mommy love but not on a daily basis.

Any advice???

Maybe it's different for girls... but I see forty year old women still calling their father "daddy." I still refer to my mother as "mommy," but usually only when I'm hurt or sick.

Honestly, this doesn't sound like something to worry about to me, though. Ten is still "little."

I think you should allow him to call you whatever he wants to call you. My best friend, who is almost 22, still refers to his parents as mommy and daddy. So does his sister. If he's talking to his friends, it'll be something else. But he sees no shame in referencing them as mommy or daddy in front of me or others. I find that healthy.

If I call my dad up and say, "Daddy..." he automatically asks what I want. :lol: I'm almost 27, and he's still Daddy sometimes.

And I too call my mother "mommy" when I'm sick or hurt.

I wouldn't worry about it.

:lol: I'm on the other side of that exact same conversation with my 21 year old daughter. She refers to her mother (my ex) as "Mom" but I am, always have been and probably always will be..."Daddy". My 6 year old, on the other hand, calls me Dad and my wife (his mother) Mom.

It seems a little odd to me for a child of 10 to use mommy and daddy, but not harmful. For an adult, though, I think it's a bit inappropriate. Whenever I hear an adult woman refer to or address her father as daddy, I get the impression that she is either high-maintenance or lacks maturity. I've never heard a grown man use those words, though.

I'd say around 12 to 13 it'll start coming off as pretty odd, but, I agree, not harmful...

If it was my kid, I'd start taking steps toward breaking the habit and using more mature terms, but it wouldn't be that big of a deal.

haha I use them on occasion:

Mommy: when she is buying me something/i need something
Daddy: sarcastic or joyfully or whatever; we're best friends. a yell "Daddy! What's up? (hug)"

:confused: I don't get it. Why would there be a cutoff? I still call my parents both, depending on the moment ... ?

Don't worry about it. It only means what you decide it means.

Um, I never grew out of it.

I never felt right changing my parents' names suddenly. Maybe I'm weird, but I only call them Mommy or Daddy to their faces, and they're not social so it hardly EVER happened in front of others unless they came to my house. When I refer to them in conversation, it's been Mom or Dad.

IDK. I never understood why you had to change the names of the two people you had known the longest just to fit in? One of the girls I went to school with called her parents Mother and Father even to their faces, and it struck me as somewhat heartless.

I will be 41 in a week and my daddy is still Daddy...my mother says the only time I've ever called her mommy is when I was sick or hurt (interesting trend here lol) as long as I can remember she's been Mama to me. My daughter called me Mama (never mommy) until about 2 years ago at age 14, she started calling me Mom...I dont like Mom I like Mama better lol...but...my daddy will be Daddy until the day I die.

Dave calls his parents Mom and Pop, I call them Mom and Dad, and he calls my parents Mom and Dad

I find it odd that you think there's a definite cutoff point. I still call my dad Daddy and my mom Momma. Here in NC (particularly my area) lots of people call their dad "Deddy" if that makes sense, not pronounced daddy but more of a short e sound like dead. It will be Momma and Deddy until I die.

The boy in question will grow out of it when/if he is ready. Consider it a term of endearment. Make sure he knows that you two don't mind being called Mom & Dad or Jim & Judy or whatever you think he should call you as an adult.


For me, Daddy will always be Daddy.

I don't remember ever calling my parents mommy or daddy. It's always been mom or dad--though my father became "Pop" starting when I was about 20 or so.

same here. Pop is the title of choice these days.

about the OP, I think you should just let your son grow out of it naturally. It helps if you use the word mom when speaking to him when you reference your wife and she should use dad. It's not a harmful thing, who's bothered by it more? Your son or you? Does it embarrass you when he uses these terms? If so, then the problem is likely on your end not his.

Don't worry your kid about this. Most likely his friends will police his language and he'll change it to whatever is cool with his peers. Just roll with it. My daughter calls me Daddy (sometimes Deddy) still, she's 11, and I don't reckon it hurts a thing. My mother is always Momma, and father is Dad.

If your kid is calling you anything but jerk or asshole, you probably ought to consider it a blessing.

I'm 25 male and I still call my Dad "Daddy" and my Mom "Momma." might be a Southern thing. it's never too old to be using those terms. my father called my grandpa Daddy up until the day he died.

Mine did too, he's 65 and he stills refers to my grandfather as Daddy....my mama does as well (for her daddy)

I just got off the phone with my mom, apparently mommy and daddy went out the window for me around 7. A short while later she says I started calling her Mother. She said I used to say it because I thought it was funny to get a rise from her. She thinks I laid in bed at night and thought up ways to irritate her. About 12 years old dad became pops, he is pops to this day.

Seems that women and girls will always have their daddys.

I guess I should say that its a matter of when and how he says it that makes me think he is a little old for it.

I'm not sure when I stopped, but I'm still "sweetie" and "honey" to my mom. At least she stopped saying it when I'm around friends (on the rare occasion that I'm with them and she's there)

My daughter is 9.

The biological mother left when the daughter was 3.

In our house lives me, my wife (step-mother to the infant) and the child, this has been the case since she was 4 1/2.

I am called "Dad" or "Daddy".

My wife is called "Mum" or "Mummy".

The ex is called "J######" (i.e. her name); this was not something we imposed, but the infant adopted it, quite possibly because that is how we refer to the ex (I do not think it healthy to bad mouth the other household infront of the child, but we DO admit when there is tension and try to explain it).

At the ex's house, I am called "Dad" or "Daddy", the boyfriend is called "John", the biological mother is called "Mum" or "Mummy J" and my wife (the step-mother) is called "Mummy D". Interestingly, the ex always tells the infant that everything is rosy and that there is no tension. The infant can see through this, and is quite aware she's being lied to - she asks us why J does it.

At school, she talks about both women as "Mum", "Mother", "Mummy" and allows context to sort it out; much to the consternation of her teachers.

(aside: in a recent homework project she had to write sentences using prefixes. She wrote "My mum has an ex-husband, an ex-boyfriend, and an boyfriend", which made us laugh, but hasn't yet been shown to the subject)

She also in the last year has started to call my wife "Mum" and the ex "J#####" to strangers, teachers, and other authority figures.

I think we should ask Daniel when he's going to stop calling his 9 year old "infant" lol

I call my mother "mom" or "ma" - I don't remember calling her mommy - though I'm sure that I did when I was younger. My step-dad I call "Dad" because he's always been a bigger part of my life than biological father. My real dad - when referring to him - I call "MY dad". I don't think it's odd that your kids are calling you "mommy" and "daddy" though I know lots of people who are older and call their parents that.

What's odd and semi-unnerving to me is when kids call their parents by their real names...to me it seems like they have a stand-off'ish relationship.

I will call my mother Mama for the rest of my life. I always have. My dad is usually referred to as such. Sometimes my folks are referred to as, "Mama and Papa Fair" to third parties.

When she's 20 or so. :D

I do think there is a point were you should stop calling your parents mommy and daddy. But who is to say if it is harmful. Well at least your kids arent calling you from your name like my 18 month old does to my husband. I think it is cute, and funny. But I think my husband gets upset when she does.

When he turns 30 and he's still calling you mommy and daddy, you can start questioning his manhood. Sooner of latter he'll get lazy and start using mom and dad.

Personally, I call my mom, "Mother." I always make it sound creepy in a Norman Bates kind of way.