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First off... You have a 42 year old son and you just said, "should I even be tripping on this?"

Odd.



Your son shouldn't give a shit. He's in your house. Don't change your life for him. He's an adult. But c'mon, six years is way to long for someone that has "some financial problems."

Your life is your life. Your son is an adult and should understand that you are an adult as well and be cool with you dating someone. You can mention it to your son so he's not caught off guard.. but in the end.. it's still your life and your house. I see no reason why he should accept you dating or having your partner over to your house.

You're all adults and it's your house, you can do whatever you want. But if you really do care about your son enough to respect how he feels then the you'll at least discuss it with him beforehand.

Who knows how he'll feel about it? You don't need to ask but you certainly should discuss it.

Your son is a grown man. You shouldn't need to feel bad about having someone over, or worry, or wonder if you should let him know. If he doesn't like it, well, he doesn't have to live with you :)

Does any one see a much more disastrous path leading to distastefull "yo mama" jokes??

Ohhh, advice ... right ...

It's your house. Nuff said.

Your son ought to know about your lover just as a heads up. After all, a total stranger is going to be knocking on the door late at night, and your son may answer. He will see some fellow who possibly looks to be younger than him. Your gentleman caller will see some stranger at the door of his lovers house when he comes calling.
Both guys ought to get some notice, but neither one needs more than a "by the way".

He don't like it he can leave.

What a comical and potentially disasterous situation.


I agree, a heads up is in order - for both men involved.

Worst case - the boyfriend knows the son from Highschool, and they weren't friends... :paranoid:

Thank you all for the input, it was most helpful.

as for me saying "should I even be tripping on it".....why did you find that odd? is it because it is something someone younger would say? Maybe that is why I am dating someone 20 years younger than me?? just a thought. Both of my kiids who are in their 40's laugh at me when I say stuff like that....I said something was " trick" the other day and got a chuckle out of them.

My mom used the word "bling" once referring to my grandma, of all people.

"nana's got her bling-bling on today..."

:orly:

Your son's a big boy, he can handle it.

I know an explanation is not needed, but since it was brought up in one of the answers, as far as my son living with me, because of financial problems for 6 years. The financial problems were solved, after only a year or less, but then, him and my daughter got their heads together, and decided I should not live alone. The crime rate had gone up in the area, and my daughter lives out of state, so she asked my son, not to move out, but to stay and help me out, as far as me not being by my self. I was not consulted on the matter, and when it was brought up, I told them both, I was more than capable of taking care of myself, but they poo pooed me and said ok mom, and nothing changed.. I am fairly passive, and didn't want to make a big stink about it, so here I am...........

Well, if that's the case then don't worry about it. Do exactly what you want, when you want and with whom you want. You can not stop living your life because your son and daughter decided that you can't live alone, and their solution was for your son to stay. Live your life, and then maybe your son will get the picture and move on. It sounds like your son being their is preventing you from living a fulfilling life, and you will resent your son if your relationship with your friend suffers.

I hope this reply isn't to late

It might be a little weird for your son but as has been said before he is an adult
the only suggestion I can come up with is that on the nights when your BF comes over your son might want to spend the night somewhere else, you deserve your privacy and should be able to make love without having to worry about anyone else