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BeatYaToIT · 06-09-2003, 04:19 AM

ok ladies, my friend has very bad self-esteem and when it comes to asking girls out hes kinda on the shy side, hes a true mate and i want to help him but i really cant think of how to do it, i cant really say if he's ugly, after all i am a guy and i dont really know my way around these things so i was wondering if any of you ladies would know how i could get him to ask out a girl he's been googling at for ages, ive tried pushing him towards her, ive tried asking her but shed rather have him talk to her, and he doesnt really have interests in women, he just wants someone to go to he movies, etc... with, or so he tells me

plz help me help him

BoCo · 06-09-2003, 07:09 AM

The way my friends always got me to ask girls out is by ridiculing me until I finally did it. When they tried to give me a positive encouragement, it never seemed to work, but if they told me I was a big pussy who was too scared to just ask out a girl, it always pushed me to do it. Sometimes a challenge your friends put in front of you works better than anything else.

rockzilla · 06-09-2003, 02:00 PM

Are you friends with this girl too? Try to get them both together in a group setting, there'll be a lot less pressure on the guy if there are a few other people around. You won't be able to do much more than steer the conversation to topics your friend can talk about and making your friend look good, if you can get him talking he'll gain some confidence.
Aside from that, your friend just has to want it enough. You've talked to the girl, does she seem at least a little interesed? If he ever complains about how he wishes he can ask this girl out, tell him that if he just had the guts to ask, she'd probably say yes. He's the only one that can do it, all you can do is keep to the sidelines and sorta coach him along the way.

06-09-2003, 04:19 AM	#1 (permalink)
BeatYaToIT Upright	Friend has low self-esteem.... ok ladies, my friend has very bad self-esteem and when it comes to asking girls out hes kinda on the shy side, hes a true mate and i want to help him but i really cant think of how to do it, i cant really say if he's ugly, after all i am a guy and i dont really know my way around these things so i was wondering if any of you ladies would know how i could get him to ask out a girl he's been googling at for ages, ive tried pushing him towards her, ive tried asking her but shed rather have him talk to her, and he doesnt really have interests in women, he just wants someone to go to he movies, etc... with, or so he tells me plz help me help him

06-09-2003, 07:09 AM	#2 (permalink)
BoCo Fear the bunny Location: Hanging off the tip of the Right Wing	The way my friends always got me to ask girls out is by ridiculing me until I finally did it. When they tried to give me a positive encouragement, it never seemed to work, but if they told me I was a big pussy who was too scared to just ask out a girl, it always pushed me to do it. Sometimes a challenge your friends put in front of you works better than anything else. __________________ Activism is a way for useless people to feel important.

06-09-2003, 02:00 PM	#3 (permalink)
rockzilla Junkie Location: The Kitchen	Are you friends with this girl too? Try to get them both together in a group setting, there'll be a lot less pressure on the guy if there are a few other people around. You won't be able to do much more than steer the conversation to topics your friend can talk about and making your friend look good, if you can get him talking he'll gain some confidence. Aside from that, your friend just has to want it enough. You've talked to the girl, does she seem at least a little interesed? If he ever complains about how he wishes he can ask this girl out, tell him that if he just had the guts to ask, she'd probably say yes. He's the only one that can do it, all you can do is keep to the sidelines and sorta coach him along the way.