Don't Cry It's Only a Movie
 

While it should be OK for a guy to cry at a movie, its not a comfortable experience for me. Especially, when on a first date. This happened when I went and saw The Last Samurai. It did not see it coming. I didn’t start completely sobbing, but my chest started uncontrollable short respirations, my lower lip started quivering, and my eyes started tearing up. I started clinching my fists and telling myself I am not going to do this here. I had to tune the movie out. I finally got a hold of my composure, but for a moment there was a possibility everyone around may have seen and heard just how sad the movie was making me. I know I shouldn’t care what others think, but hey . . .its a guy thing. Feel free to list any movies that made you cry. I’m especially interested if there have been any that brought tears at awkward moments, and you suppressed them.

'S okay to cry, bro. Even badasses let some things beyond their thin candy shell into their soft chocolate insides.

First date? Probably not the best thing, but she might've found it endearing.

I'm a female, so I'm allowed to cry during sad movies/scenes. That doesn't mean, however, that I will find it endearing if my date starts sobbing in the middle of it.. personally, I'm more inclined to consider the guy too emotional for me. Especially if it's a first date.

As for me, though.. the movie that can always make me cry my eyes out is Black Beauty. The scene when they're pulling Ginger away on a cart.. gets me every time.

Edited to add: Maybe I'm heartless, but I don't deal with overly-emotional people very well. I dated a guy who could cry at the drop of a hat and bawled every time he drank. It got old FAST. For a first date, I guess that would seem like sort of a warning sign for me.

A man being comfortable enuff with himself to cry at a movie, first date of 50th will ALWAYS make him more endearing to me.

I love that Dave crys at the same parts of movies as I do...one that comes to mind, though there are def more than one...is the part in Sense and Sensibility where Edward tells Eleanor that he didnt marry Lucy

Movies where I've caught my man crying...

I am David
Million Dollar Baby... even the second time
Fearless
Amores Perro

and I know there are more, I just can't remember. I think it's awesome that Mr Machismo is comfortable enough with me to express his emotions in a movie with me. It just shows a capability to be absorbed by a story. Which can be a great skill.

Only time will tell. She either finds it endearing, or she thinks you're a weenie and has already told her friends.

You wanna see me cry?

Cinema Paradiso, man...if you've seen it, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Yeah, and Saving Private Ryan when he asks his wife if he's been a good man. I don't know why that does it, but it does.

"Guy Movies" that have brought a tear to my eye: Braveheart, Gladiator

"Girl Movies": Shakespeare in Love, Fruits Basket

Feel free to mock :)

Edit: Oh yeah that part in Saving Private Ryan, I'm right there with you...

Crompsin is my model for manly machismo. If he says 'sokay, I reckon it is.

Movies don't make me cry. Ever. Maybe I just don't get invested enough in them.

Martian, I thought of you immediately:

Old Yeller??? Here, boy!

When I was in the military I went to hospital corpsman school. The gender ratio was about 50/50. All in all there were about 26 guys in the class. With the exception of a couple, most of the guys in the class were either going to BUDS (basic underwater demolition school/SEAL training) or FMSS (field med service school- where Navy Corpsman become Marine medics). So there was plenty of testosterone in the class. The instructors made the class watch a movie at one point called “Go Into the Light”. It was a funny and interesting experience. Every single person in the room was crying. The guys were either getting up and heading out of the classroom or hiding their faces.

You know what got me: House, MD, season 4, "97 Seconds"
When the guy asks if his dog can be brought next to him, and then asks the doctors to put his hand on the dog's head, literally, my jaw just dropped, and I felt the water works about to leak...

It still gets to me now...


My ex-girlfriend, watching I, Robot, would start her lip trembling when Sonny asks, "Will it hurt?" when he is going to be deactivated. To be honest, I would have, too.

Just about everything makes me cry. I do invest myself in movies that I watch and find that as I get older, I can find myself sobbing over the most joyful and meaningful scenes. I'm trying to think of a movie that didn't make me cry. :lol:

I can understand the macho thing about not wanting to cry. But if it does happen on a first date and she doesn't approve, then you will find someone who will take you as you are and appreciate a man who isn't afraid to feel.

I remember crying during The Lion King; I don't recall at what point. But, I remember hating the movie for making me cry. I was not invested emotionally in the moment, but I could feel how the movie was manipulating me to cry. It felt dishonest.

Ustwo's rules of crying at a movie for men.

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Sports movies.
Allowed to cry: Yes

By cry in this case, we are talking about watery misting only, and only allowed if it involves a tragic death of a young sports start, either prior to or early in a professional career.

Moving on...

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War movies.
Allowed to cry: Yes


Open crying IS allowed only if you were at the particular battle, or had an immediate relative, like a father there, who died either at the battle or recently. If not, than misting is allowed, but no tears beyond that.

Further...

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Romantic Comedy.
Allowed to cry: HELL NO

Under NO circumstances are you ever allowed to cry at this type of movie.

The romantic comedy. NEVER even THINK of crying at this sort of thing. If you so much as get watery eyed then turn in your man card and put on a pair of lace panties Nancy.

Moving on again..

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Drama
Allowed to cry: No

While crying watching a drama isn't as bad as crying during a romantic comedy, thats like saying giving a guy a bj is less gay then taking it in the ass. Its still wrong.

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Action movies
Allowed to cry: No

Yea sure maybe his best friend gets killed, his wife is raped and murdered, his kids are eaten by aliens, IT DOESN'T matter. These are just excuses for explosions and bullets on screen. If you are caught up in the story, grab a beer, take off your crocs and pretend to be a man for once.

Comments in closing.

While under some circumstances even flowing tears are allowed (recalling comrades lost in battle for example while watching Tora Tora Tora) under no circumstances should you ever be actually bawling. No sobs, no sniffles, and no asking for tissue. If you feel the need for visine after, or wonder why your date isn't trying to comfort you in your time of need, then you are dating the wrong gender.

Saving Private Ryan did it for me. When the Elder Ryan asks at the end if he's been a good man, while kneeling at the grave of Tom Hanks characters grave, I was definitely squirting some tears. Hey, I'm not made of stone.

I cried like a little girl when Optimus Prime died.

The Champion..when the kids father dies in the ring.

i was about 2 or 3 years old according to my parents

LMFAO! So did my 13-year old daughter! :lol:

Dude, use spoiler tags! :eek:

If you cry during a sports movie, it's because you want to cuddle with Michael Vick and call him daddy. Sorry, that's just way to feminine to be excusable. "Lex Luthor (Gene Hackman) miraculously leads white kids to play basketball and not get completely owned by black players" isn't a recipe for a good cry and then a bucket of rocky road.

War movies... barely excusable. If it's Pearl Harbor, you have to go fly your plane into a boat, though. If grampa died, then go ahead. He was a good man... still, it's a good thing he isn't here to see you cry during a movie.

When in doubt? Nod, knowingly. That communicates emotion, but in a really dispassionate way.

Anyone who knows the brand names of all his clothes he is wearing is automatically disqualified from this discussion.

I really just dont know what to think of some of you men....such a shame that you honestly believe what you're saying

Still, I've never cried during a movie. I'm something of a conundrum. :thumbsup:

You really cried while watching Hoosiers? You may like "Divine Secrets of the Ya Ya Sisterhood" or "Legally Blonde", then.

To be fair, though, many movies purposefully have the retarded person or a dog die just to get an emotional response from people. It's boring and unrealistic, which makes a genuine emotional response from someone looking for substance difficult.

Ustwo, Willravel: I just have to thank you for being the icing on the cake.

:bowdown:

I get kind of teary when I watch Extreme Makeover: Home Edition.


I think the only movie that I've actually cried while watching was Bamboozled.

And if you've seen that movie... It makes no sense as to why I would cry.

Did I say I cried? I said its acceptable to cry, as a male, when sports are involved, and only misty eyed. Not everyone can be an alpha male, so some misty eyedness is acceptable.

Since you lump in 'Legally Blonde' I don't think you have ever seen a sports movie, sport movies involve men doing men things, normally with balls.

If your first thought were not of backetball, football, baseball, or god help you soccer, when I said that, then odds are you are not a real man.

I wonder if capitalists watch that show just sitting there and seething. Ustwo? Is Extreme Makeover: Home Edition a socialist nightmare?

Sports movies? I've seen quite a few. The first I ever saw was "The Air Up There" with Kevin Bacon and a bunch of Africans. I knew it was a stupid movie and I was only like 10 years old. "Cool Runnings" was fun, but it was hardly the staple of manliness. "Ragining Bull" wasn't bad (I saw it when I was maybe 12ish), but I found it hard to take seriously because of Pesci. "Jerry McGuire" just pissed me off. "Rocky" was fantastic, but not only wasn't cry-worthy, but was ruined by goofy sequels. "Field of Dreams" actually made me cut myself... you know to see if "they" would finally come and I could leave.

Actually, I can only think of a handful of sports movies that are even worth sitting through:
Rocky, Bull Durham, Brian's Song, Miracle, Caddyshack, The Natural, and The Hustler. Oh, and Pride of the Yankees. Can't forget that. Still, I'd feel really awkward if a man started crying during any of these, you know if it wasn't Lou Gehrig. He can cry.

Why would it be, its not tax money paying for it, I don't think you 'get it'.

Caddy shack is not a sports movie, its a comedy with tits, the best kind of comedy, and The Hustler doesn't count either, I shouldn't have to explain that. If you are going to sports movie name drop, at least realize that not all movies which have sports in them are sports movies. In fact the only type that would qualify to get misty eyed over is Brians Song and Pride of the Yankees, and really only Brian's song truly applies as Lou had a long career.

You've not golfed until you've golfed with a buzz. If you have, then you understand that Caddyshack is the greatest sports movie of all time.

Dude, it has woodland creatures fashioned from plastic explosives. It is the ultimate sports movie: gopher hunting.

For me if the movie holds my attention and I really enjoy it and the characters, when subject of death + father relationship is brought up there is potential. I thought The Armagedon scene at the end was sad. It was this combination in the Last Samauri that was pushing the buttons. When Dreams May Come had a scene where the character is at the gates of hell with his son I thought was sad. From me it is always death; representing the end or the last time the person or animal will ever seen or experienced. Visual media if done well can bring me in, unlike reading a book which has never invoked much emotion, only interest.

will, I challenge you to watch Go Into the Light without any distractions and not get choked up even a little. Like I said every guy in the room was not able to hold it together. Understand allot these men appeared to be the kind of guys that would never admit to crying at a movie. Everyone was pissed they showed it.

You've not golfed until you've golfed with a buzz. If you have, then you understand that Caddyshack is the greatest movie of all time.

FIFY

Seriously, you've never cried watching a movie?!? I'm not talking about uncontrollable sobbing, I'm thinking more along the lines of...

*sniff* *sniff* "Way to go Rudy!! Way to go buddy! *sniff* *sniff*

I thought every guy cried watching Rudy. Twice actually...

SPOILER ALERT!!! Just for you willravel

Twice actually, when he finally gets the acceptance letter and when he gets a sack at the end of the game. I thought that it was mandated by God.

/SPOILER ALERT!!!

If you've seriously never cried watching Rudy, which I tend to not believe, I have a movie you need to watch. I don't know a father alive who has watched this movie and not squirted some tears... (You may not be a father, but maybe you can just imagine being one.)

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Thats right... Jack the Bear. Stars Danny DeVito and Gary Sinise. This film went under the radar when it came out in 1993, but I have not EVER watched this movie without balling like a sissy little school girl through the entire movie. I'm not talking about little sniffs... I'm talking about waterworks on the level of a woman watching Steel Magnolias. If you can get through this movie without crying, you either have no heart or feeling whatsoever... or you're a child molester. Even before I was a husband and a father, this movie destroyed me.

Finally, for the Op, on veterans day, at church, they played the "Tell me I've been a good man" part of Saving Private Ryan and although I have seen that movie a hundred times, my body decided to start leaking out of my eyes. I couldn't stop it. I don't think anyone saw the tears, but I'm sure my wife noticed. But, she's watched Rudy with me so she didn't think anything of it.

Rudy.

I win the tear-jerker sports movie pissing contest.

Moving on.

EDIT: Oh DAMMIT! I had this thread up on the screen for a while and missed bmadison's post. Okay: bmadison wins the tear-jerker sports movie pissing contest. Moving on.

The fact that people like movies about sports makes me want to cry.

Don't feel too bad. It took over a half hour to show up. I tried to post it twice, actually, but the board would not let me.

I'll have to check Jack the Bear out, despite the title suggesting bestiality.

Its one of my favorite SAD movies. If you watch it and think its crap, you can come on here and beat the ever loving hell out of me, but I haven't had anyone do that yet.

i have only cried during ONE movie. The Other Sister. During the "other sister's" wedding.