Monthly Bleh-ness, anyone? - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

genuinegirly · 11-11-2005, 02:49 AM

About this time of the month I get clingy. Clingy and emotional. I expect this has something to do with PMS. I just want to scream "This isn't really me!" I hate knowing that my hormones have more control over my faculties than my rational mind.

How many other women experience a similar quirkiness? How do you deal with it?

little_tippler · 11-11-2005, 03:43 AM

Before my period I get emotional and cranky, and really sensitive about things. I don't actually think that it's not me. That time of the month for me is when supressed problems/issues surface and seem to be all the more poignant, and so I tend to explode.

Thankfully I don't feel that terrible every single month, it varies from mild to really depressing. I hate hearing from people "oh it's that time of the month eh?", but sadly it's true. Meh.

amonkie · 11-11-2005, 04:14 AM

Those kinds of nights become a ME night - no person nearby that I could physically become clingy to, and virtual just doesn't cut it. That is my night to focus on me, relax, and just Deal with it. Often times I'll write, and whatever emotions are playing through my head work themselves out that way.

Shadefire · 11-11-2005, 06:03 AM

I tend to get really bitchy about that time of the month. I'm never happy and I just snipe at everyone. I usually get over it in a couple of days.

pandafaye · 11-11-2005, 06:04 AM

For me, it's a combination of extreme horniness and massive downswings. One minute I'll be completely turned on and happy, the next I'm turned on and annoyed.

JustJess · 11-11-2005, 06:39 AM

I just plain start crying, with or without provocation. It can be pretty confusing for my husband... he'll come home after rehearsal or something, and there I'll be with tears streaming down my face. I also sometimes start an argument or get really oversensitive and then the melodramatic emotions come out... I HATE it. I am usually pretty mellow, and I really don't like doing that to Quadro. Luckily, he has figured it out, so will often not react to the argument stuff and will just hug me. *whew*

I know it's PMS, because it's ALWAYS 4 or 5 days before I'm due.

Sultana · 11-11-2005, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by pandafaye

For me, it's a combination of extreme horniness and massive downswings. One minute I'll be completely turned on and happy, the next I'm turned on and annoyed.

Hello! lol.
Fortunately I seem to be not having the total downswings I used to, but for the most part this describes me.
I think the 2,000+mg of Evening Primrose oil I've been taking daily has helped a lot. But I still experience a lot of pain, but typically for only 24 hours instead of the 3 days straight.
But perhaps I should file this under "MS", as I don't really suffer effects prior to the moment I start (hence, no "Pre-MS"). Once again, I have to credit the Evening Primrose oil.

lurkette · 11-11-2005, 07:26 AM

I get irrational and everything gets amplified for me. It hasn't been so bad since I started taking b12 and calcium at the recommendation of my doctor. Exercise helps, and so do massive doses of chocolate. Cliche, but hell, it works.

genuinegirly · 11-11-2005, 08:38 AM

Thanks for the input everyone. I have heard descriptions of PMS symptoms as bitchiness and irritability. I suppose these are most commonly mentioned because they are the most obvious and harmful to social situations. Clinginess, emotional, crying for no reason, ups and downs... all of these are most often kept inside.

Such personal descriptions JustJess and little_tippler, thank you for sharing.
amonkie, taking a personal day sounds like it's about what I need these days. I'll take your words as a recommendation.
Sultana & Lurkette, thank you for the advice of Primrose Oil, b12, calcium, and chocolate.

ShaniFaye · 11-11-2005, 08:50 AM

Im a mess right before, it takes very little to make me cry and all I want to do is be curled up in bed snuggling with dave hehehe

He loves it

veruca · 11-11-2005, 09:06 AM

Ugh, the 2 days before I am out of control.

I wake up in a rage, at nothing...lol...Mike can see it in my eyes and disappears for awhile. Usually, until I call crying that I am lonely and need snuggling.

I always get all nostalgic about ex boyfriends...cry about everything..get angry about nothing..blah.

I had a co-worker say to me the other day..."Gee, you aren't as nice and talkative as you usual" and I just looked at her and said " You are lucky I don't stab you in the face with this ice scoop". She promptly went the other way.

Meditrina · 11-11-2005, 09:49 AM

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Originally Posted by little_tippler

Before my period I get emotional and cranky, and really sensitive about things. I don't actually think that it's not me. That time of the month for me is when supressed problems/issues surface and seem to be all the more poignant, and so I tend to explode.

I could not agree with this more.

Quote:

Originally Posted by amonkie

Those kinds of nights become a ME night - no person nearby that I could physically become clingy to, and virtual just doesn't cut it. That is my night to focus on me, relax, and just Deal with it.

I wish I could have a ME night when this happens. But with 2 kids and a husband who never seems to have time for them, I don't get much of this.

My doctor gave me a prescription for Sarafem, to take the 2 weeks prior to getting my period. I was really nervous about taking it at first. I was afraid it would mask the real issues. But I do take it, and it just kind of smoothes out the rough edges. The issues are still there, but I am not crying every moment, and yelling the next.

snowy · 11-11-2005, 10:18 AM

Before my period I get really insecure and clingy. Also, anything can set me off. It really, really sucks hardcore. Luckily for me my SO loves the clingy me

shesus · 11-11-2005, 11:20 AM

I also get very irrational and mean. I will cry for no reason and get very dramatic which is not my typical jaded self. I think most of my emotion comes from the annoyance of the physical symptoms that month has to offer. It seems that on Zovia, the symptoms that I used to have all at once (extreme cramps, backpain, migraines, nausea, e.g.) rotate months.

I feel so lousy, I just want someone to hold me. But I'm so bitchy, JJ usually doesn't want to.

Being a woman is wonderful, but PMS sucks.

Rubyee · 11-13-2005, 11:35 AM

Ah- PMS.

I get horny, but don't want to deal with the hassle of having sex.

I get bored, but don't want to do anything.

I love people, but I don't want to deal with them.

Yeah, I feel the effects. Luckilly, there are usually no physical changes for me, other than being really tired.

BlueBongo · 11-13-2005, 12:48 PM

I've never had any real PMS issues... when I was on DEPO (which I DO NOT advise anyone take) I was always more emotional. Was very evil... but now that I am very much back to normal, I don't feel the effects of it. I am just weird like that, I suppose.

jRuntlets · 11-13-2005, 02:59 PM

I turn into satan, point blank. I also need massive amounts of chocolate. However, since I've switched to the Nuva Ring I have a less satanic, crying, emotional time. I love it!

onodrim · 11-13-2005, 03:39 PM

I have honestly never noticed any correlation between my period and emotional/mood swings. Everyone has ups and downs and I do too, but they're usually more governed by stress or other outside events, not my hormones. Just thought I'd throw a vote in for us women who don't, we do exist and many women who feel they do suffer from PMS don't really, they make themselves believe they're having symptoms because soceity tells them it's what women do.

Grasshopper Green · 11-13-2005, 04:31 PM

I become uncharacteristically bitchy when I have PMS. I find myself with absolutely no patience for anything or anyone, really snippy, and just plain ornery. I also had been dealing with horrendous cramps, but hopefully the IUD took care of that. Hubby can tell when I have PMS, and is pretty darn tolerant, bless him. I was taking evening primrose for a couple of months but didn't notice any effects...does it take awhile to work? Or perhaps I wasn't taking enough....

noodle · 11-14-2005, 05:31 PM

All of those symptoms above. That'd be me. However, thanks to Yasmin and a really, really understanding gyn, I only have to subject the world to that hideous black soul that lives in my abdomen and wreaks havoc upon my entire sphere of exisistance... four times a year.

11-14-2005, 06:51 PM

ALWAYS. I am moody, emotional, and can't make up my mind. My bf can always tell too....

eMOTIONal20 · 11-18-2005, 01:18 AM

the week right before I tend to get umm crazy?

i don't really cry or get angry more (sometimes more easily irritated).
I usually have silly over-exaggerated negative thoughts about myself and my relationships with people, and I frequently just end up laughing a lot at them to try and make them go away.
I am hornier...
and... i want to eat a lot more than usual.

raeanna74 · 11-18-2005, 08:54 AM

My body is changing. It has been this past year what with all the physical problems I've had. While I was on the pill I rarely experienced any PMS or any mood swings partly because when I went off the regular pills to go to the placebo or non-hormone week I would usually start bleeding within 24 hrs of missing my pill. My moods took a little longer to catch up. Plus I'd know it was coming and baby myself some. I go through phases of mood swings that seem to be less related to mentration than to larger physical changes and more seasonal. Now that I'm not taking the pill anymore that whole scenario is changing. I had only my second period since going off BC recently and my mood swings along with expecting and planning for company really threw me for a loop. Hubby even commented on it and how MS had affected me. He made the connection himself (and responded accordingly) - What would I do without him.

I have low blood pressure generally, anemic and have a slightly underactive thyroid. Both of which are affected by my hormones. I find that I'm better off when I'm taking Iron for the anemia and Iodine for the thryoid. Both have helped me tremendously.

Gilda · 11-20-2005, 08:46 PM

I tend to get a migrane about 36 hours before my period starts up full tilt, then pretty bad cramps the next day. I can get moody, but it's mostly in reaction to the physical stuff. I don't use any kind of birth control, for obvious reasons.

Sissy, surprisingly, gets PMS like symptoms as a result of cycled progesterone, a headache and lethargy on the 28th day after taking the progesterone from the 16th to the 27th, then gets hot flashes sometimes on the 14th or 15th.

Grace is immune, except for getting a craving for kosher dill pickles.

Mmmm, pickles.

Gilda

5757 · 11-20-2005, 10:51 PM

Where is the "OMF (oh my fucking) gosh YES!! I feel the effects!! (option)

There are only two ways that I change. One is that I may turn bitchy. The other is that I may be highly, extremely emotional.

If pms didn't exist, well, then I would have to say I have mild schizophrenia.

I want to have wild N crazy rough sex as well.

Here's the greatest part about my period. I live with my mom and sister and we all share the same cycle!! Isn't that wonderful!

rlynnm · 11-21-2005, 12:59 PM

I hate the week or two before my period starts...I don't mind so much the little tinge of pain, but I cannot stand the emotional outbreaks. I can be super nice at one point and then just go completely ballistic, and then begin crying out of nowhere... It's hard to find people who understand this, and so I usually end up getting yelled at or told off. Kinda sucks.

Sadly, the only part of pms that isn't actually part of the pms is my sex drive. I think someone installed a vtec engine in my libido....

CaliLivChick · 04-22-2006, 08:18 PM

Emotional, bitchy, clingy, and the night before my period actually shows up, I have to masturbate (bf works nights) because I'm so horny. The good news is, my period only lasts one day (thank you Yasmin), and two Aleve kill the cramps in the morning.

savvypup · 04-22-2006, 09:12 PM

The skin on my face breaks out with eczema - so I have to hide or cover up with a lot of makeup for a week. It's not a fun time. Think I'd rather get moody.

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11-11-2005, 02:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	Monthly Bleh-ness, anyone? About this time of the month I get clingy. Clingy and emotional. I expect this has something to do with PMS. I just want to scream "This isn't really me!" I hate knowing that my hormones have more control over my faculties than my rational mind. How many other women experience a similar quirkiness? How do you deal with it? __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

11-11-2005, 03:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
little_tippler Leaning against the -Sun- Super Moderator Location: on the other side	Before my period I get emotional and cranky, and really sensitive about things. I don't actually think that it's not me. That time of the month for me is when supressed problems/issues surface and seem to be all the more poignant, and so I tend to explode. Thankfully I don't feel that terrible every single month, it varies from mild to really depressing. I hate hearing from people "oh it's that time of the month eh?", but sadly it's true. Meh. __________________ Whether we write or speak or do but look We are ever unapparent. What we are Cannot be transfused into word or book. Our soul from us is infinitely far. However much we give our thoughts the will To be our soul and gesture it abroad, Our hearts are incommunicable still. In what we show ourselves we are ignored. The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged By any skill of thought or trick of seeming. Unto our very selves we are abridged When we would utter to our thought our being. We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams, And each to each other dreams of others' dreams. Fernando Pessoa, 1918

11-11-2005, 04:14 AM	#3 (permalink)
amonkie Drifting Administrator Location: Windy City	Those kinds of nights become a ME night - no person nearby that I could physically become clingy to, and virtual just doesn't cut it. That is my night to focus on me, relax, and just Deal with it. Often times I'll write, and whatever emotions are playing through my head work themselves out that way. __________________ Calling from deep in the heart, from where the eyes can't see and the ears can't hear, from where the mountain trails end and only love can go... ~~~ Three Rivers Hare Krishna

11-11-2005, 06:03 AM	#4 (permalink)
Shadefire Upright Location: Madison, WI	I tend to get really bitchy about that time of the month. I'm never happy and I just snipe at everyone. I usually get over it in a couple of days. __________________ I was covered in blood, but it wasn't mine, so it was okay. - Anita Blake

11-11-2005, 06:04 AM	#5 (permalink)
pandafaye Tilted Location: Maine	For me, it's a combination of extreme horniness and massive downswings. One minute I'll be completely turned on and happy, the next I'm turned on and annoyed.

11-11-2005, 06:39 AM	#6 (permalink)
JustJess Unencapsulated Location: Kittyville	I just plain start crying, with or without provocation. It can be pretty confusing for my husband... he'll come home after rehearsal or something, and there I'll be with tears streaming down my face. I also sometimes start an argument or get really oversensitive and then the melodramatic emotions come out... I HATE it. I am usually pretty mellow, and I really don't like doing that to Quadro. Luckily, he has figured it out, so will often not react to the argument stuff and will just hug me. whew I know it's PMS, because it's ALWAYS 4 or 5 days before I'm due. __________________ My heart knows me better than I know myself, so I'm gonna let it do all the talkin'.

11-11-2005, 07:26 AM	#8 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	I get irrational and everything gets amplified for me. It hasn't been so bad since I started taking b12 and calcium at the recommendation of my doctor. Exercise helps, and so do massive doses of chocolate. Cliche, but hell, it works. __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France

11-11-2005, 08:38 AM	#9 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	Thanks for the input everyone. I have heard descriptions of PMS symptoms as bitchiness and irritability. I suppose these are most commonly mentioned because they are the most obvious and harmful to social situations. Clinginess, emotional, crying for no reason, ups and downs... all of these are most often kept inside. Such personal descriptions JustJess and little_tippler, thank you for sharing. amonkie, taking a personal day sounds like it's about what I need these days. I'll take your words as a recommendation. Sultana & Lurkette, thank you for the advice of Primrose Oil, b12, calcium, and chocolate. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy

11-11-2005, 08:50 AM	#10 (permalink)
ShaniFaye Submit to me, you know you want to Location: Lilburn, Ga	Im a mess right before, it takes very little to make me cry and all I want to do is be curled up in bed snuggling with dave hehehe He loves it __________________ *I want the diabetic plan that comes with rollover carbs. I dont like the unused one expiring at midnite!!*

11-11-2005, 09:06 AM	#11 (permalink)
veruca Psycho Location: 4 privet drive	Ugh, the 2 days before I am out of control. I wake up in a rage, at nothing...lol...Mike can see it in my eyes and disappears for awhile. Usually, until I call crying that I am lonely and need snuggling. I always get all nostalgic about ex boyfriends...cry about everything..get angry about nothing..blah. I had a co-worker say to me the other day..."Gee, you aren't as nice and talkative as you usual" and I just looked at her and said " You are lucky I don't stab you in the face with this ice scoop". She promptly went the other way. __________________ How you turned my world, you precious thing You starve and near exhaust me Everything I've done, I've done for you I move the stars for no one

11-11-2005, 10:18 AM	#13 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Before my period I get really insecure and clingy. Also, anything can set me off. It really, really sucks hardcore. Luckily for me my SO loves the clingy me __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

11-11-2005, 11:20 AM	#14 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	I also get very irrational and mean. I will cry for no reason and get very dramatic which is not my typical jaded self. I think most of my emotion comes from the annoyance of the physical symptoms that month has to offer. It seems that on Zovia, the symptoms that I used to have all at once (extreme cramps, backpain, migraines, nausea, e.g.) rotate months. I feel so lousy, I just want someone to hold me. But I'm so bitchy, JJ usually doesn't want to. Being a woman is wonderful, but PMS sucks. __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company

11-13-2005, 11:35 AM	#15 (permalink)
Rubyee I'm baaaaack!	Ah- PMS. I get horny, but don't want to deal with the hassle of having sex. I get bored, but don't want to do anything. I love people, but I don't want to deal with them. Yeah, I feel the effects. Luckilly, there are usually no physical changes for me, other than being really tired. __________________ You don't know from fun.

11-13-2005, 02:59 PM	#17 (permalink)
jRuntlets Crazy	I turn into satan, point blank. I also need massive amounts of chocolate. However, since I've switched to the Nuva Ring I have a less satanic, crying, emotional time. I love it! __________________ Horses come and go, but some leave permanent hoof prints on your life.

11-13-2005, 03:39 PM	#18 (permalink)
onodrim Cosmically Curious Location: Chicago, IL	I have honestly never noticed any correlation between my period and emotional/mood swings. Everyone has ups and downs and I do too, but they're usually more governed by stress or other outside events, not my hormones. Just thought I'd throw a vote in for us women who don't, we do exist and many women who feel they do suffer from PMS don't really, they make themselves believe they're having symptoms because soceity tells them it's what women do. __________________ "The world is so exquisite with so much love and moral depth, that there is no reason to deceive ourselves with pretty stories for which there’s little good evidence. Far better it seems to me, in our vulnerability, is to look death in the eye and to be grateful every day for the brief but magnificent opportunity that life provides" -Carl Sagan

11-13-2005, 04:31 PM	#19 (permalink)
Grasshopper Green ...is a comical chap Location: Where morons reign supreme	I become uncharacteristically bitchy when I have PMS. I find myself with absolutely no patience for anything or anyone, really snippy, and just plain ornery. I also had been dealing with horrendous cramps, but hopefully the IUD took care of that. Hubby can tell when I have PMS, and is pretty darn tolerant, bless him. I was taking evening primrose for a couple of months but didn't notice any effects...does it take awhile to work? Or perhaps I wasn't taking enough.... __________________ "They say that patriotism is the last refuge to which a scoundrel clings; steal a little and they throw you in jail, steal a lot and they make you king" Formerly Medusa

11-14-2005, 06:51 PM	#21 (permalink)
:::OshnSoul::: Guest	ALWAYS. I am moody, emotional, and can't make up my mind. My bf can always tell too....

11-18-2005, 01:18 AM	#22 (permalink)
eMOTIONal20 Crazy Location: Colorado Springs, Colorado	the week right before I tend to get umm crazy? i don't really cry or get angry more (sometimes more easily irritated). I usually have silly over-exaggerated negative thoughts about myself and my relationships with people, and I frequently just end up laughing a lot at them to try and make them go away. I am hornier... and... i want to eat a lot more than usual. __________________ "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Gandhi

11-18-2005, 08:54 AM	#23 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	My body is changing. It has been this past year what with all the physical problems I've had. While I was on the pill I rarely experienced any PMS or any mood swings partly because when I went off the regular pills to go to the placebo or non-hormone week I would usually start bleeding within 24 hrs of missing my pill. My moods took a little longer to catch up. Plus I'd know it was coming and baby myself some. I go through phases of mood swings that seem to be less related to mentration than to larger physical changes and more seasonal. Now that I'm not taking the pill anymore that whole scenario is changing. I had only my second period since going off BC recently and my mood swings along with expecting and planning for company really threw me for a loop. Hubby even commented on it and how MS had affected me. He made the connection himself (and responded accordingly) - What would I do without him. I have low blood pressure generally, anemic and have a slightly underactive thyroid. Both of which are affected by my hormones. I find that I'm better off when I'm taking Iron for the anemia and Iodine for the thryoid. Both have helped me tremendously. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

11-20-2005, 08:46 PM	#24 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	I tend to get a migrane about 36 hours before my period starts up full tilt, then pretty bad cramps the next day. I can get moody, but it's mostly in reaction to the physical stuff. I don't use any kind of birth control, for obvious reasons. Sissy, surprisingly, gets PMS like symptoms as a result of cycled progesterone, a headache and lethargy on the 28th day after taking the progesterone from the 16th to the 27th, then gets hot flashes sometimes on the 14th or 15th. Grace is immune, except for getting a craving for kosher dill pickles. Mmmm, pickles. Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert

11-20-2005, 10:51 PM	#25 (permalink)
5757 Insane Location: Vegas!!	Where is the "OMF (oh my fucking) gosh YES!! I feel the effects!! (option) There are only two ways that I change. One is that I may turn bitchy. The other is that I may be highly, extremely emotional. If pms didn't exist, well, then I would have to say I have mild schizophrenia. I want to have wild N crazy rough sex as well. Here's the greatest part about my period. I live with my mom and sister and we all share the same cycle!! Isn't that wonderful! __________________ Hey! Wait! I've got a new complaint, Forever in debt to ((your)) priceless advice. - Nirvana

11-21-2005, 12:59 PM	#26 (permalink)
rlynnm Psycho Location: so cal	I hate the week or two before my period starts...I don't mind so much the little tinge of pain, but I cannot stand the emotional outbreaks. I can be super nice at one point and then just go completely ballistic, and then begin crying out of nowhere... It's hard to find people who understand this, and so I usually end up getting yelled at or told off. Kinda sucks. Sadly, the only part of pms that isn't actually part of the pms is my sex drive. I think someone installed a vtec engine in my libido.... __________________ The hardest thing is to be honest with yourself, especially if that means completely redefining the world you've come to know. Don't look too hard, I'm right in front of you.

04-22-2006, 08:18 PM	#27 (permalink)
CaliLivChick In Transition Location: Sanford, FL (between Daytona and Orlando)	Emotional, bitchy, clingy, and the night before my period actually shows up, I have to masturbate (bf works nights) because I'm so horny. The good news is, my period only lasts one day (thank you Yasmin), and two Aleve kill the cramps in the morning. __________________ Don't trust anything that can bleed for a week and not die. Oh wait, that's me... nevermind... you can trust me.

04-22-2006, 09:12 PM	#28 (permalink)
savvypup Crazy Location: Want to run away? Follow the light	The skin on my face breaks out with eczema - so I have to hide or cover up with a lot of makeup for a week. It's not a fun time. Think I'd rather get moody. __________________ ciao bella!