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Rubyee · 11-24-2003, 04:26 PM

Alright, I will just jump right in on this one. My boyfriend and I have decided to give anal sex a try. Is there any words of wisdom or precautionary advice that anyone can give me?

lurkette · 11-24-2003, 04:33 PM

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Make sure you've pooped first

Try a thin anal toy or a finger first to get used to it

Start with you on top backing onto him so you have control of depth and speed

Relaaaaaax

I've (really!!!) enjoyed it the few times we've done it, and look forward to trying it again. For some reason it's not been working very well the last couple of times we tried - I think we didn't take the first piece of advice.

Have fun!!!

JadziaDax · 11-24-2003, 04:41 PM

first, don't forget the 10 rules of anal sex.

and second (from Sexual Health InfoCenter), read the following advice for beginners:

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Tips for beginners

To prepare yourself for anal sex, the first thing to do is learn to relax. This may include a hot bath beforehand, an erotic massage or even just a good workout. Remember that the sphincter muscles around the anus will not allow things to pass through easily unless you relax and take it slow. Do not start with something the size of a dildo or penis. Start with either: a) your partner's finger or b) Small Love Plug. The plug provides a unique sensation and many couples consider it an exciting addition to the bedroom. If you're more comfortable with a partner's finger then start with that. The basic principle is to start small and work your way up.

One partner should lubricate or place a lubricated condom over his or her finger. Take the finger and arouse the surface of the anus, perhaps making small circular motions as you go. Always pay attention to your partner to indicate whether or not he or she feels comfortable. Slowly attempt to push your finger (or plug) slightly inside the anus. Do not use force - stop immediately if your partner complains of discomfort. If it is difficult to enter the anus, you probably need more lubrication. The first time you try this, the receiver may feel a bit of pain. Anal sex is not for everyone, and if you feel uncomfortable stop and perhaps try again later. Think of this process as training for later anal encounters. Even a finger can provide intense stimulation when it is inserted in the anus.

Once you have tried penetration with a finger a number of times then you can move towards something that is a bit larger. First you have to decide on what type of anal stimulation that you enjoy. Do you enjoy the movement of a finger, the fullness of a plug, or the feeling of entry and withdrawal? You may wish to proceed by being penetrated with your partner's penis or by using an anal toy. For those who enjoy the feeling of penetration more than motion or vibration, try butt plugs which are designed specifically for this purpose. A butt plug sits inside the anus, and is not generally used for thrusting back and forth.

la petite moi · 11-29-2003, 09:21 AM

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Originally posted by Rubyee
Alright, I will just jump right in on this one. My boyfriend and I have decided to give anal sex a try. Is there any words of wisdom or precautionary advice that anyone can give me?

Did you use a condom?

11-24-2003, 04:26 PM	#1 (permalink)
Rubyee I'm baaaaack!	Advice needed Alright, I will just jump right in on this one. My boyfriend and I have decided to give anal sex a try. Is there any words of wisdom or precautionary advice that anyone can give me? __________________ You don't know from fun.

11-24-2003, 04:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
lurkette My future is coming on Moderator Emeritus Location: east of the sun and west of the moon	Lube lube lube lube lube Make sure you've pooped first Try a thin anal toy or a finger first to get used to it Start with you on top backing onto him so you have control of depth and speed Relaaaaaax I've (really!!!) enjoyed it the few times we've done it, and look forward to trying it again. For some reason it's not been working very well the last couple of times we tried - I think we didn't take the first piece of advice. Have fun!!! __________________ "If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing." - Anatole France