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Shyla Loral · 09-11-2003, 04:55 PM

Just a quick question about foreplay. I need it!! I need it to make me want to have sex, or whatever. Now, 99% of the time I get foreplay, and lots of it, but sometimes he just wants to do it! And that's good, and I will, it' s just that I'm not turned yet.The idea of a "quickie" is a turn on, I just need to find a way to get my juices flowing. He does eat me first, though.

So does anyone else have to be warmed up first, or am I kind of cold?

collide · 09-11-2003, 04:57 PM

Sometimes I need lots of it, and other times all it takes are a few dirty thoughts...

siryn · 09-11-2003, 07:20 PM

I'm pretty used to not getting much, but a good example of where foreplay has done amazing things for me is last night. Sir M. went down on me, and I just couldn't get enough of it. I was so close to orgasm and then I begged for sex. I was on the verge of orgasm for like 20 minutes straight, and it was amazing. Ahhhhh, the wonders of foreplay.

mainch · 09-11-2003, 07:26 PM

yeah i def need foreplay, unless im the one whos engaging. being someones blowup doll isnt really my idea of fun.

sexymama · 09-11-2003, 08:01 PM

Foreplay is fun and necessary most of the time! Not only does it turn me on more; but it gets him hotter as well. However, quickies are also good. Use lube and have fun. Once you get into it, your juices will flow.

Eowyn_Vala · 09-11-2003, 09:09 PM

foreplay is definately a great thing, most of the time it doesn't take much, but there are some times where I need a lot!

wannabenakid247 · 09-12-2003, 07:46 AM

Depends how horny i am to start with. If ive been gagging for it for a while i dont really need it lol

Shyla Loral · 09-12-2003, 01:49 PM

Well, sometimes you do just wanna go out at it. My hubby said, after reading this thread "Sometimes I'm so hot for you I just have to have you now" Now, how can I say no to that? Heh.

Baileys · 09-12-2003, 08:09 PM

Depends on who you are with. Towards the end of my marriage I really wasn't into sex w/ my husband. He was a 3-4 strokes and he's coming type of a guy.. .gee what fun is that?

I actually ended up drying up. It was strange. I would think I was wet, but it was quite dry. If he didn't go down on me first, which he was really good at that at least!, then we would need lube.

Then after I left, and I found I wanted to be with the guy I was with, hey... I was no longer dry.... wouldn't need foreplay, but hey, I would never turn it down!

SabrinaFair · 09-15-2003, 06:17 PM

Definetly need some foreplay, and something even that's not enough to get the juices flowing...

And the Lord did grin and on the eighth day he invented ASTROGLIDE!

Shyla Loral · 09-16-2003, 12:53 PM

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Originally posted by Baileys
Depends on who you are with. Towards the end of my marriage I really wasn't into sex w/ my husband. He was a 3-4 strokes and he's coming type of a guy.. .gee what fun is that?

I actually ended up drying up. It was strange. I would think I was wet, but it was quite dry. If he didn't go down on me first, which he was really good at that at least!, then we would need lube.

Then after I left, and I found I wanted to be with the guy I was with, hey... I was no longer dry.... wouldn't need foreplay, but hey, I would never turn it down!

I was the same way with my ex, we ended up like, only having sex 4-6 times a year, and only if I really asked for it. Unfortunately, he never liked going down on me, so we had to use lube. I thought something was wrong with me, medically, that I was so dry and tight.
Now, with meff, I stay as wet as the ocean, but lube is still f un, especially if it's flavored.

mew · 09-16-2003, 06:14 PM

My guy just fingers me a bit to get the juices flowing and plays with my breasts for a bit. I would love for him to eat me though..he doesnt really do it..says its gross and all. oh poo~ too bad I just love it when I do convince him..*melt*

blanks · 09-16-2003, 10:52 PM

what exactly is Meff, and where do you get it?

Ladyhawke · 09-17-2003, 04:08 AM

I like it.....But I really don't need it....I'm always turned on

lady · 09-17-2003, 04:55 AM

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Originally posted by blanks
what exactly is Meff, and where do you get it?

Hehe Meff is Shyla Loral's husband.

raeanna74 · 09-17-2003, 02:22 PM

I'm used to not getting foreplay. I'm also on the pill and it keeps me pretty dry. I find even if I get really turned on by thinking about it and even looking at pics and playing by myself before I approach him that I dry up fast while we play. It's just the way things have worked post pregnancy and on the pill. I keep a bottle of astroglide near the bed 24/7 and grab that often.

cherylcannady · 09-19-2003, 09:42 AM

I've found that foreplay is more necessary for Mr.S than it is for me. How strange is that! Since I only see him on the weekends right now, I'm all set for a sex marathon as soon as I see him. Doesn't really take much to get me excited. Most of the time, all we have to do is talk about it, and I'm ready to go.

Mr.S has been really tired lately, and not quite up to the sexual energy that I'm throwing at him all the time. So I'll play with him a lot to get him in the mood... and then I'll pounce.

I don't need foreplay really. I enjoy it, but it's not necessary for me. Mr.S likes it though. He enjoys going down on me (YES!!!!) and touching me and sucking my nipples and all that good stuff. And hey... if it makes him happy and it feels good for me, then I'll participate!

Dryness issue: hmmmm... only certain times of the month, and then we'll use ky.

Apache · 09-21-2003, 07:52 PM

Well it's a good thing that my hubby LOVES going down on me. I do usually need something to get me going. If he was to come in the room and say let's go do it, I would go but i couldn't walk into the room, strip and go at it, I would still need a min. of foreplay. Doesn't take a lot to get me going

I usually stay up later than my hubby and so I have been known to watch a little porn which will get me wet in a min. and suprise him in bed

wannabenakid247 · 10-17-2003, 04:41 AM

Totally depends on the mood and monthly cycle i find. But i do seem to have quite a wet one most of the time lol

ally · 10-22-2003, 11:58 AM

I love to be hugged and petted and romanced.
But there are many many times when I love to wake him up and get in a quickie ten min before I have to be in class. It gives me someting to smile about for the rest of the day and I feel great.
I'm very lucky to have a bf who can not only get off, but also get me off VERY quickly!!

gabshu · 10-27-2003, 08:17 PM

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Originally posted by collide
Sometimes I need lots of it, and other times all it takes are a few dirty thoughts...

Same here, depends on the time of day, how tired I am, how honry, etc. I thikn foreplay is always nice tough.

shannon · 10-28-2003, 02:48 PM

i usually don't get tons of foreplay, because we live with parents so it's a take what you can get kinda thing. but lately especially he tends to like to go down on me first, which i love. i get more into it with forplay, but even with none i'm good to go after a minute or two of good sex.

vveronica · 11-13-2003, 12:46 PM

what I like about bound sex.. lots of foreplay... I swear some guys idea of foreplay is "HEY! kiss kiss.... You Wet?"

torn lace · 11-13-2003, 08:09 PM

mmm. foreplays is the best. i sometimes wish that when my relationships become sexually active, that sometimes we could just make out fr hours like we did before having sex, because ahh! that gets me so wet. ee! just thinking about it gets me all hot and bothered!

anti fishstick · 11-14-2003, 12:45 AM

mmmm i love making out for hours. i think people neglect how wonderful making out can be when they just want to get to the 'good stuff' like sex. and bah for that.

i enjoy foreplay more than sex at this point ^.^

dana · 11-15-2003, 03:13 PM

I am so tired of the way my husband makes love to me and we have been only married for two years. NO foreplay no tenderness afterwards, he is just like a jack rabbiton, on then off and then to sleep. I am ready for something new and it wont be long.

dana · 11-15-2003, 03:22 PM

the only foreplay I ever get is when I decide to play with my clit during sex.

dana · 11-16-2003, 10:10 AM

After two years my husband has turned into a real jack rabit. He know only one position, with me on the bottom, and the whole act is over in less than 5 minutes. And to make matters worst he falls asleep imediately afterwards. The only foreplay I recieve is when I indulge in myself.

c-angel · 11-20-2003, 05:22 PM

hmmm.... i learned something about this. my ex fiance would never have any foreplay and was quick about it. blah... luckily, i ended up calling it off and hooked up with my current boyfriend about a year later, we didn't even have sex for the first 2 month because he "wanted to know about how my body reacted to him first" (thinking, "ummm.... well, k.") but it ended up working sooooo well, he knows all my little spots i'm sensitive in and is REALLY into foreplay, god, i love it.

Shyla Loral · 11-25-2003, 02:29 PM

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Originally posted by dana
After two years my husband has turned into a real jack rabit. He know only one position, with me on the bottom, and the whole act is over in less than 5 minutes. And to make matters worst he falls asleep imediately afterwards. The only foreplay I recieve is when I indulge in myself.

Dana, I'm sorry, you deserve so much m ore than that. have you talked to him about it? That can't be very satisfying for either of you.

la petite moi · 11-30-2003, 10:06 AM

i usually get turned on immediately by my SO, since i don't get to see him ever other week usually [the exception is right now-- i don't get to see him for 3.5 weeks!! =(]. all i really need is just a little touching and i'm wet. haaaahahahaha.

la petite moi · 11-30-2003, 10:09 AM

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Originally posted by dana
I am so tired of the way my husband makes love to me and we have been only married for two years. NO foreplay no tenderness afterwards, he is just like a jack rabbiton, on then off and then to sleep. I am ready for something new and it wont be long.

you should really give him a try again. you CAN teach old dogs new tricks...it might be difficult to approach him on the subject. when he tries to have sex with you next time, you should refuse on the basis of what you told all of us: 'hes a jackrabbit...on and off and then asleep.' unless there are some other relationship problems, sex should not be the reason you quit a marriage, which i gathered you might be doing with what you said in the end: 'I am ready for something new and it wont be long.'

em1014 · 12-01-2003, 07:24 PM

I tend to go in spells. Most of the time it depends on how long it has been since I had sex last and what kind of sex it was (quickie, marathon, rough....). Lately I've been good to go with only a little kiss and the twinkle in his eyes but I don't think it's going to be possible for a while. I'm definatly worn out for a few days...isn't that just a great feeling?!?

Cherry · 12-04-2003, 10:02 AM

I find that more often than not I would prefer foreplay. Sometimes just a nibble on an ear or a lick across a nipple is all it takes to get me fired up, and other times some oral action is necessary.

09-11-2003, 04:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
Shyla Loral Crazy Location: Austin	Foreplay Just a quick question about foreplay. I need it!! I need it to make me want to have sex, or whatever. Now, 99% of the time I get foreplay, and lots of it, but sometimes he just wants to do it! And that's good, and I will, it' s just that I'm not turned yet.The idea of a "quickie" is a turn on, I just need to find a way to get my juices flowing. He does eat me first, though. So does anyone else have to be warmed up first, or am I kind of cold? __________________ "Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead" Ben Franklin, Poor Richard's Almanac. Meff r0x

09-11-2003, 04:57 PM	#2 (permalink)
collide Turn off your TV. Location: ... .- -. ..-. .-. .- -. -.-. .. ... -.-. --- --..-- -.-. .-	Sometimes I need lots of it, and other times all it takes are a few dirty thoughts... __________________ "inhuman fiery goat worship" is an anagram for "information superhighway" -kingvolc

09-11-2003, 08:01 PM	#5 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Foreplay is fun and necessary most of the time! Not only does it turn me on more; but it gets him hotter as well. However, quickies are also good. Use lube and have fun. Once you get into it, your juices will flow. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

09-11-2003, 09:09 PM	#6 (permalink)
Eowyn_Vala Insane Location: There's no place like home..	foreplay is definately a great thing, most of the time it doesn't take much, but there are some times where I need a lot! __________________ Cain: I know what you're doing. I've lead troops into battle before. DG: And, how am I doing? Cain: Well, there's less hugging when I do it

09-12-2003, 01:49 PM	#8 (permalink)
Shyla Loral Crazy Location: Austin	Well, sometimes you do just wanna go out at it. My hubby said, after reading this thread "Sometimes I'm so hot for you I just have to have you now" Now, how can I say no to that? Heh. __________________ "Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead" Ben Franklin, Poor Richard's Almanac. Meff r0x

09-11-2003, 07:20 PM	#3 (permalink)
siryn Tilted Location: Long Beach CA	I'm pretty used to not getting much, but a good example of where foreplay has done amazing things for me is last night. Sir M. went down on me, and I just couldn't get enough of it. I was so close to orgasm and then I begged for sex. I was on the verge of orgasm for like 20 minutes straight, and it was amazing. Ahhhhh, the wonders of foreplay.

09-11-2003, 07:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
mainch Banned	yeah i def need foreplay, unless im the one whos engaging. being someones blowup doll isnt really my idea of fun.

09-12-2003, 07:46 AM	#7 (permalink)
wannabenakid247 Registered User Location: Wales, UK	Depends how horny i am to start with. If ive been gagging for it for a while i dont really need it lol

09-12-2003, 08:09 PM	#9 (permalink)
Baileys Tilted Location: if you want to know, you'll ask	Depends on who you are with. Towards the end of my marriage I really wasn't into sex w/ my husband. He was a 3-4 strokes and he's coming type of a guy.. .gee what fun is that? I actually ended up drying up. It was strange. I would think I was wet, but it was quite dry. If he didn't go down on me first, which he was really good at that at least!, then we would need lube. Then after I left, and I found I wanted to be with the guy I was with, hey... I was no longer dry.... wouldn't need foreplay, but hey, I would never turn it down! __________________ Baileys

09-15-2003, 06:17 PM	#10 (permalink)
SabrinaFair Junkie Location: Louisville, KY	Definetly need some foreplay, and something even that's not enough to get the juices flowing... And the Lord did grin and on the eighth day he invented ASTROGLIDE! __________________ "With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy." -Desiderata

09-16-2003, 06:14 PM	#12 (permalink)
mew Psycho Location: Canada	My guy just fingers me a bit to get the juices flowing and plays with my breasts for a bit. I would love for him to eat me though..he doesnt really do it..says its gross and all. oh poo~ too bad I just love it when I do convince him..melt

09-16-2003, 10:52 PM	#13 (permalink)
blanks Upright	what exactly is Meff, and where do you get it?

09-17-2003, 04:08 AM	#14 (permalink)
Ladyhawke Crazy Location: Dallas	I like it.....But I really don't need it....I'm always turned on __________________ Whatever

09-17-2003, 02:22 PM	#16 (permalink)
raeanna74 I'm not a blonde! I'm knot! I'm knot! I'm knot! Location: Upper Michigan	I'm used to not getting foreplay. I'm also on the pill and it keeps me pretty dry. I find even if I get really turned on by thinking about it and even looking at pics and playing by myself before I approach him that I dry up fast while we play. It's just the way things have worked post pregnancy and on the pill. I keep a bottle of astroglide near the bed 24/7 and grab that often. __________________ "Always learn the rules so that you can break them properly." Dalai Lama My Karma just ran over your Dogma.

09-19-2003, 09:42 AM	#17 (permalink)
cherylcannady Upright Location: Central Wis.	I've found that foreplay is more necessary for Mr.S than it is for me. How strange is that! Since I only see him on the weekends right now, I'm all set for a sex marathon as soon as I see him. Doesn't really take much to get me excited. Most of the time, all we have to do is talk about it, and I'm ready to go. Mr.S has been really tired lately, and not quite up to the sexual energy that I'm throwing at him all the time. So I'll play with him a lot to get him in the mood... and then I'll pounce. I don't need foreplay really. I enjoy it, but it's not necessary for me. Mr.S likes it though. He enjoys going down on me (YES!!!!) and touching me and sucking my nipples and all that good stuff. And hey... if it makes him happy and it feels good for me, then I'll participate! Dryness issue: hmmmm... only certain times of the month, and then we'll use ky. __________________ ~I wonder who I am today. Any ideas?

09-21-2003, 07:52 PM	#18 (permalink)
Apache Insane	Well it's a good thing that my hubby LOVES going down on me. I do usually need something to get me going. If he was to come in the room and say let's go do it, I would go but i couldn't walk into the room, strip and go at it, I would still need a min. of foreplay. Doesn't take a lot to get me going I usually stay up later than my hubby and so I have been known to watch a little porn which will get me wet in a min. and suprise him in bed

10-17-2003, 04:41 AM	#19 (permalink)
wannabenakid247 Registered User Location: Wales, UK	Totally depends on the mood and monthly cycle i find. But i do seem to have quite a wet one most of the time lol

10-22-2003, 11:58 AM	#20 (permalink)
ally Insane Location: Boone,NC	I love to be hugged and petted and romanced. But there are many many times when I love to wake him up and get in a quickie ten min before I have to be in class. It gives me someting to smile about for the rest of the day and I feel great. I'm very lucky to have a bf who can not only get off, but also get me off VERY quickly!!

10-28-2003, 02:48 PM	#22 (permalink)
shannon Psycho Location: Canada	i usually don't get tons of foreplay, because we live with parents so it's a take what you can get kinda thing. but lately especially he tends to like to go down on me first, which i love. i get more into it with forplay, but even with none i'm good to go after a minute or two of good sex. __________________ "When I look down I just miss all the good stuff. And when I look up I just trip over things"

11-13-2003, 12:46 PM	#23 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	what I like about bound sex.. lots of foreplay... I swear some guys idea of foreplay is "HEY! kiss kiss.... You Wet?" __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

11-13-2003, 08:09 PM	#24 (permalink)
torn lace Upright Location: East Village, NYC	mmm. foreplays is the best. i sometimes wish that when my relationships become sexually active, that sometimes we could just make out fr hours like we did before having sex, because ahh! that gets me so wet. ee! just thinking about it gets me all hot and bothered! __________________ make it electric.

11-14-2003, 12:45 AM	#25 (permalink)
anti fishstick Post-modernism meets Individualism AKA the Clash Location: oregon	mmmm i love making out for hours. i think people neglect how wonderful making out can be when they just want to get to the 'good stuff' like sex. and bah for that. i enjoy foreplay more than sex at this point ^.^ __________________ And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin

11-15-2003, 03:13 PM	#26 (permalink)
dana Upright Location: France	I am so tired of the way my husband makes love to me and we have been only married for two years. NO foreplay no tenderness afterwards, he is just like a jack rabbiton, on then off and then to sleep. I am ready for something new and it wont be long.

11-15-2003, 03:22 PM	#27 (permalink)
dana Upright Location: France	the only foreplay I ever get is when I decide to play with my clit during sex.

11-16-2003, 10:10 AM	#28 (permalink)
dana Upright Location: France	foreplay After two years my husband has turned into a real jack rabit. He know only one position, with me on the bottom, and the whole act is over in less than 5 minutes. And to make matters worst he falls asleep imediately afterwards. The only foreplay I recieve is when I indulge in myself.

11-20-2003, 05:22 PM	#29 (permalink)
c-angel Upright Location: pullman, wa	hmmm.... i learned something about this. my ex fiance would never have any foreplay and was quick about it. blah... luckily, i ended up calling it off and hooked up with my current boyfriend about a year later, we didn't even have sex for the first 2 month because he "wanted to know about how my body reacted to him first" (thinking, "ummm.... well, k.") but it ended up working sooooo well, he knows all my little spots i'm sensitive in and is REALLY into foreplay, god, i love it.

11-30-2003, 10:06 AM	#31 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	i usually get turned on immediately by my SO, since i don't get to see him ever other week usually [the exception is right now-- i don't get to see him for 3.5 weeks!! =(]. all i really need is just a little touching and i'm wet. haaaahahahaha.

12-01-2003, 07:24 PM	#33 (permalink)
em1014 Crazy	I tend to go in spells. Most of the time it depends on how long it has been since I had sex last and what kind of sex it was (quickie, marathon, rough....). Lately I've been good to go with only a little kiss and the twinkle in his eyes but I don't think it's going to be possible for a while. I'm definatly worn out for a few days...isn't that just a great feeling?!?

12-04-2003, 10:02 AM	#34 (permalink)
Cherry Tilted Location: Yonder	I find that more often than not I would prefer foreplay. Sometimes just a nibble on an ear or a lick across a nipple is all it takes to get me fired up, and other times some oral action is necessary. __________________ In walked a man in the shape of a man, holding a hat shaped hat...