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seamaiden · 10-15-2009, 10:27 AM

It took a while for me to make the connection between the position I was in, during sex, and the ability to have, or the intensity of my orgasms. Although it is a turn on to spread wide for my guy, I find that I lose a lot of clitoral sensitivity in that position. Luckily my partner and I switch it up all the time, so I get my fair share of pleasure. Does anyone else find one position gives a better orgasm than another?

Also...question for the middle aged ladies...anyone else notice a decline in the intensity of the orgasmic spasms? It still feels good, but something is missing.

elsesomebody · 10-15-2009, 10:33 AM

You said you lose sensitivity while spread wide, what position have you found is the best?

mixedmedia · 10-15-2009, 11:05 AM

I've never really associated a position in particular with the intensity of my orgasms, but I have found some positions easier to achieve orgasm in than others (without add'l manual stimulation).
Interwined missionary (rather than spread wide with less contact, yes)
and, of course, being on top.
But have also found that orgasm is possible in virtually all positions with the necessary amount of determination (aka, hip placement and hornification).

seamaiden · 10-15-2009, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by elsesomebody

You said you lose sensitivity while spread wide, what position have you found is the best?

I like to be on top, squatting, with my feet on either side of his hips...then I can control the speed and depth of penetration as well as how far apart I'm spread. He gets to relax and have a good view, so we both enjoy this position.

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Originally Posted by mixedmedia

I've never really associated a position in particular with the intensity of my orgasms, but I have found some positions easier to achieve orgasm in than others (without add'l manual stimulation).
Interwined missionary (rather than spread wide with less contact, yes)
and, of course, being on top.
But have also found that orgasm is possible in virtually all positions with the necessary amount of determination (aka, hip placement and hornification).

Hornification. Good word!

mixedmedia · 10-15-2009, 03:13 PM

I have trouble with squatting and thrusting...I get tired very easily.

hunnychile · 10-15-2009, 03:31 PM

Honey, position and spread are what it's ALL about, especially as we age or make love with different sized men. Not that I get to try different men anymore!! LOL!

I always love being on top and that way I could penetrate deeper and control my thrusts. Except when he spins me around for doggy then I am in nirvana and that's usually the second "cumming".

Keep experimenting and never get lazy about pleasuring your man. Tell your lover what you need - when you need it & your orgasms will always be good. They love when you say what you want!

As for middle age orgasms...I love them MORE, though they seem to be less frequent due to life & biorythems. (sp?) Say what you need when you're hot and you'll find that helps make lovin' all the more pleasurable for you both.

crystalan · 11-04-2009, 08:13 PM

On top, laying down, legs spread. I think because my clit is being stimulated and at the same time I can control the depth and speed of him. But sex itself, it's a turn-on when multiple positions are used.

snowy · 11-04-2010, 09:55 AM

Since I switched to an IUD, I definitely prefer orgasms in missionary. My hubby knows that I like to start out in missionary to get me fired up, and then we can switch to whatever position he likes after the first O or two. Otherwise, it's just a lot harder for me to climax.

SOHOTT · 11-13-2010, 08:49 PM

On my knees definitely works best. My orgasms have gotten better with age. After about age 38 or 39 it all got Way better! So glad my husband has gotten better with age too.

Our motto: practice practice practice makes perfect perfect perfect.

tasineah · 11-13-2010, 09:03 PM

I know that if I grease myself up from ankle to breasts, with baby lotion, I orgasm harder, regardless of position...

Marshmellofluff · 11-23-2010, 12:06 AM

With me it's all about the mood I'm in. I can cum in any position but if I'm not into it I I won't at all.

Calypso15 · 12-14-2010, 05:00 PM

Being on top allows for deep penetration in addition to that he can kiss you, kiss your breasts, rub your clitoris, bounce you up and down, you get to see the great expression on his face as you pleasure him...it's one of the best positions out there.

10-15-2009, 10:27 AM	#1 (permalink)
seamaiden Psycho Location: With the man of my dreams in Halifax Nova Scotia	Does your sexual position dictate the quality of your orgasm? It took a while for me to make the connection between the position I was in, during sex, and the ability to have, or the intensity of my orgasms. Although it is a turn on to spread wide for my guy, I find that I lose a lot of clitoral sensitivity in that position. Luckily my partner and I switch it up all the time, so I get my fair share of pleasure. Does anyone else find one position gives a better orgasm than another? Also...question for the middle aged ladies...anyone else notice a decline in the intensity of the orgasmic spasms? It still feels good, but something is missing.

10-15-2009, 11:05 AM	#3 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	I've never really associated a position in particular with the intensity of my orgasms, but I have found some positions easier to achieve orgasm in than others (without add'l manual stimulation). Interwined missionary (rather than spread wide with less contact, yes) and, of course, being on top. But have also found that orgasm is possible in virtually all positions with the necessary amount of determination (aka, hip placement and hornification). __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

10-15-2009, 03:13 PM	#5 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	I have trouble with squatting and thrusting...I get tired very easily. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce

10-15-2009, 03:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
hunnychile Alien Anthropologist Location: Between Boredom and Nirvana	Honey, position and spread are what it's ALL about, especially as we age or make love with different sized men. Not that I get to try different men anymore!! LOL! I always love being on top and that way I could penetrate deeper and control my thrusts. Except when he spins me around for doggy then I am in nirvana and that's usually the second "cumming". Keep experimenting and never get lazy about pleasuring your man. Tell your lover what you need - when you need it & your orgasms will always be good. They love when you say what you want! As for middle age orgasms...I love them MORE, though they seem to be less frequent due to life & biorythems. (sp?) Say what you need when you're hot and you'll find that helps make lovin' all the more pleasurable for you both. __________________ "I need compassion, understanding and chocolate." - NJB Last edited by hunnychile; 10-15-2009 at 03:38 PM..

11-04-2010, 09:55 AM	#8 (permalink)
snowy Kick Ass Kunoichi Location: Oregon	Since I switched to an IUD, I definitely prefer orgasms in missionary. My hubby knows that I like to start out in missionary to get me fired up, and then we can switch to whatever position he likes after the first O or two. Otherwise, it's just a lot harder for me to climax. __________________ If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau

10-15-2009, 10:33 AM	#2 (permalink)
elsesomebody Tilted Location: North Carolina	You said you lose sensitivity while spread wide, what position have you found is the best?

11-04-2009, 08:13 PM	#7 (permalink)
crystalan Upright	On top, laying down, legs spread. I think because my clit is being stimulated and at the same time I can control the depth and speed of him. But sex itself, it's a turn-on when multiple positions are used.

11-13-2010, 08:49 PM	#9 (permalink)
SOHOTT Upright	On my knees definitely works best. My orgasms have gotten better with age. After about age 38 or 39 it all got Way better! So glad my husband has gotten better with age too. Our motto: practice practice practice makes perfect perfect perfect.

11-13-2010, 09:03 PM	#10 (permalink)
tasineah Crazy Location: NE region of the united states	I know that if I grease myself up from ankle to breasts, with baby lotion, I orgasm harder, regardless of position...

11-23-2010, 12:06 AM	#11 (permalink)
Marshmellofluff Upright	With me it's all about the mood I'm in. I can cum in any position but if I'm not into it I I won't at all.

12-14-2010, 05:00 PM	#12 (permalink)
Calypso15 Upright Location: Twilight Zone	Deep Penetration Being on top allows for deep penetration in addition to that he can kiss you, kiss your breasts, rub your clitoris, bounce you up and down, you get to see the great expression on his face as you pleasure him...it's one of the best positions out there.