The Anti-Soulmate
 

Soulmate: A soul's ideal counterpart, which must be found for true happiness and fulfillment.

So then, can it be assumed that the soul also has an ideal nemesis, which can be found for true misery and heartache?

Just as there are two people meant to be together, do you think there are two people who on their own are quite normal, nice people, but together they are a bickering, violent mess?

im stuck i may be a dumbass can yuo explain another way please? :lol:

I like the idea, I don't beleive in soulmates - but just as there are some people we will find easy to be with there will be others who will annoy us as soon as we meet them, I have known a couple of people like that -it annoys me just to think about them

I know a lot of marriages like this. Hate and Love run parallel paths in some people.

Watch Springer, there's a lot of anti-soulmates there...or people that shouldn't be allowed in public unsupervised... :crazy:

yeah, i'd beleive... i already found mine, and dated for about a year.

don't know about a formal theory, but i do believe there is a SO in many people's history where they say "it will never be that bad again...i'll never date anyone that crazy, messed up, mean, whatever" and start choosing more carefully.

I believe that there are people who just don't get along. I have had very strong animosities toward people for no apparent reason. I call them my nemesis as a joke even though that word doesn't fit right. It is funny because I am typically a calm normal person, but whenever the girl's name was brought up, I turned into psycho chic. Of course, it may have been a bit of jealousy to for some reason that I created in my head. Who knows...

However, I assume that you were speaking of relationships. Well, I was in a relationship with a guy once and we just did not get along well together. He became overy possessive and I turned into an unsure, insecure little thing. Finally I broke of the relationship because signs of abuse were arising. He had a new girlfriend a few months later. He was a totally different person with this girl. In fact, he was getting treated by the girl the way he treated me. What goes around, comes around I suppose...

I am not sure if it is safe to call it the opposite of soulmate, but I do believe that some people bring out the worst in others. Not sure if it is a personality thing or a pheromone thing, but something does exist in that area.

I don't believe in soulmates but like I believe people can work well together, there are people who just don't...

It can be any number of things (as ohh_shesus poinst out) pheremones, personality, etc. There are people I have met and within 30 seconds I know I don't like them.

I generally avoid these types of people.

Throughout my life there have been people that have crossed my path that have definitely brought out the worst in me. I can think of one example recently: an old acquaintance from high school whom I never really liked (she was the kind of girl who would abandon you the instant someone she perceived to be more popular walked in the room) kept trying to "friend" me on MySpace. I kept saying no, because in my mind we were never really friends in high school and I'm certainly not going to start being friends with her now. Finally, she messaged me and said, "Don't you remember who I am?" Of course I remember who you are, we stood next to each other in choir for four years, and I still didn't like you at the end of it. So I replied, "No, I'm sorry, I don't remember you, we must not have been friends." She sent a message back saying I should look her up in the yearbook. Suffice it to say, the attempts to be my friend have stopped. Sure, I was a bitch about it, and a friend of mine said I should "give her a second chance, because people change." Bullshit. Whatever annoyed me about her then is likely to still annoy me now. There are some people I just don't like--and she was always one of them.

And my post is the linear opposite. I was initially inclined to say that there could easily be Anti-Soulmates out there for me, but I wholeheartedly doubt it. Tare people who I knew INSTANTLY I didn't like and would never get along with, but their personality changed once I got to know them. I think I'm too optimistic about people and their ability to communicate to believe there's someone so Anti-Soulmate that I couldn't agree with them on something. And agreeing with me on something - that invalidates Anti-Soulmate-ness.

It's an interesting idea. I can certainly agree with Charlatan on being able to quickly discern someone whom I won't get along with at all, and I've also been in situations where I've met people I could almost immediately tell I'd get along with, but I really don't know that it runs to the extremity of Soulmates.

But maybe. If I believed in soulmates, I guess it could almost logically follow that I'd have an anti-soulmate. But the spectrum of people in the world is so wide, I don't see it needing to be anything so minute, as being "one person." Nor do I see a need to spread any kind of discord by saying, in effect, "this person is my enemy."

Especially when I can just as easily spread nasty gossip about them with a shit-eating grin on my face. :p

Yes, and thank god I havent seen him in two years now. I finally got the nerve up to ditch him 3 days before I met Dave :)

I was thinking about this after I posted about the thread I started in philosophy about soul mates. I don't think that you could call these people you immediately hate anti-soulmates. This is because soul mates started with Plato saying we were once all androgenous and separated through divine forces. Since we feel as if part of us is missing we are constantly searching for our other half.
Now, if you believe this theory and that there is an opposite of a soul mate, how would you explain the reason behind the hate? Just interesting things to think about.
However, I don't believe there is only one person that is right so I'd have to be very creative in my thinking of the one anti-soulmate person under Plato's assumption.

/me has something to ponder for the rest of the day