Guys - Older women
 

I hope the ladies don't mind but since we are discussing whether men can be attracted to older women or not I wanted to get your guy's input. So here's the "brother" thread to the one in th ladies forum.

http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...=1#post1686310

hmm.. Interesting topic, thanks for the opportunity to let us men have an opinion here... I don't think that anyone should be having sex because it's a marital duty. You do it because you love the person and want to be with them. As far as physical attractiveness goes, it helps.. but we all know that you would have to be pretty shallow to not wanting to be with the person you stated you would love, hold, "sickness" and Health, till death. If you can't get into sex at an older age after gaining a few pounds, sagging, or wrinkles, then were you in the relationship for sex or for love? On the oppossite side of the coin, how can you have sex with someone you don't find attractive... I mean, if your partner became utterly disgusting.. gaining massive weight.. then.. ok..maybe..I can see not being physically attracted, and maybe unable to "get it up" but from a mans POV, we take it when we can get it.. If I can get it up when I'm 80, I'll still be pumping away at my wife... However I foresee her not being interested in sex at that age...

Aside from marriage.. for single people, every person has their attraction.. I' was with a 56 y/o woman when I was 19. She was slammin hot! you would never have known.. matter of fact, I did'nt till I saw pictures of her grandchildren on her wall !

Thank you for moving this one over. I was having a hard time keeping my mouth shut. My wife will turn 50 in a few days, she still looks very attractive to me. Throw in 25 years of history together and sex is better today than it was in our 20's. We've had to make some adjustments due to age, but the concept that your sex life ends at 50, is quite amusing. My wife and I are very active, we eat well and take care of our health. Neither of us have any intention of growing old gracefully. His and her's motorcycles fit us better than a pair of rocking chairs. We both get a kick out of embarrasing our 20 year old daughters and their boyfriends, I hope to be embarassing my grandchildren, as well. Sex isn't something either of us is willing to give up easily.

okay, well first of all, what do you mean by "older?" i'm only 24, and while my last girlfriend wasn't "old" by any means, she did happen to be 11 years older than me, so to me that's "older."

now, if by older you mean 50+, i have met women who were older than 50, some of them even a LOT older than 50 who i thought were very attractive.

all that is beside the point though i think. because by the time i'm 50+, i hope to be happily married (seems reasonable, right?), and my attraction to my wife will be on a deeper level than just what she looks like. i'm sure that i will find her more attractive because of how close i am to her emotionally and spiritually. if i could see what my future wife would look like right now, when she's 70 years old, honestly, i might go "bleh... ummm..... okay...." but that's because i've got a lot of changing to do until i really do see my wife at 70. at which point in time, i really believe i will still be banging 'er. :-)

My ex is 10 years older than me. I am 29 now and was 24 when we started going out. My current gf is the only girl younger than me I have dated (~2 years). So I guess I have no problems with seeing older (or younger) women.

As a 20 year old, I wouldn't rule much out (although once you hit the age of my parents chance of attraction is slim at best). I've seen women twice my age who I was attracted to, and might consider pursuing at some point.

Surface, surface, surface.

Age is just a number, maturity is what counts. If you're prepared to dismiss someone based on the number of years they've been alive, rather than the collection of experiences and characteristics that make them who they are, then you're about as deep as a spider's piss puddle.

I'd rather be with someone 20 years my senior who understood that, than someone my own age who didn't. It simply is not important.

I agree that age doesn't have anything to do with attraction but it's still a bit "stigmatized" for a young guy to date an older woman. Not that I care but I took a lot of flack in the beginning with my ex gf because she was a couple of years older than me.

If by older women you mean 50+ I'm pretty reluctant, not because the signs of age is unattractive to me but because the range of experiences is so different. I am a bit hesitant to the idea of longterm relationships with large (10-15+) agegaps, what is there to talk about? What do they have in common besides sex? Some couple can probarbly make it work, but that takes a serious ammount of respect from both sides.

But if it's just for fun, age is not relevant to me.

I am of the opinion that Sex is something that only gets better with practce, and tweaking of technique. Thus maturity breeds enjoyment of this goddess given activity. While it is true that Males tend to focus on Visual stimulation, A truly functional relationship should involve much more than eye candy and firm breasts.
I am not in a position as of yet to comment on just how good sex will be with my 50yr old wife...as I married a Harpie 10 yrs younger than me. That is not WHY I married her though. Visually I can see beauty in the many aspects of the female form.....it is The most attractive thing on this planet.....hands down. I will admit some aspects of the Younger woman are more attractive to me....but then, Many things I find arousing are only to be found in the Mind and Body of maturity.

Women are just freakin' Amazing....regardless of Age. It is the brain that makes a real difference.

Yeah.....I know.....totally Cliche, but true.

Hmm. Interesting discussion. I'm usually more attracted to people older than me (though I am only 18 so I guess that's normal). I've been on dates with people over twice my age, and age really isn't an issue with me. I find myself attracted to women with experience and confidence more than others, which usually puts people my age range out. The one time I dated someone younger than me it was because she was one of the most confident and self-assured people I had ever met. So yeah, age, not an issue. Attractiveness is an issue, but not necessarily physical attractiveness.

For me, there's like a 'holy crap' line. You must blow me away this much before you can ride the Thome. How I'm blown away isn't important, and age doesn't factor in at all.

The longest relationship I've had has only been about a year, which is mostly due to my own immaturity. I can't comment on age's importance in a lasting relationship. And practically every man I know of my age dates younger (the status quo here is usually to date a year or two younger until you divorce at 40, at which time you start dating 18-30 year olds until death from heart failure), and I had inslts and envy thrown my way when I've introduced girlfriends to my friends. But provided you're both attracted to each other that really shouldn't matter.

If you care for another human being enough to want to spend time with them and share yourself with them on such a deep level, then age (just like race) is completely irrelevant.

I'm 23. I'm dating a 28 year old. Personally, I prefer "women" to "girls". Someone who knows what they want - something meaningful - and fully know what they are getting into. "Girls" are just not capable of acting responsibly in this way - granted, being a "girl" vs. being a "woman" is not always a factor of age, and there are plenty of mature 18 year olds, just like there are extremely immature 30+ year olds, but in most cases, age does correlate with wisdom.

i had a relationship with a chick 8 years older than me last year for a couple of months and for both of us it was pretty great. for me i learnt some new things about sex which i wouldnt have learnt with a chick my age (i was 21, she was 29) and for her i had energy and wanted to experiment with everything (she also confided in me a little while after our first time that she was expecting me to be a stunned starfish).

in saying that i find older women very attractive, but at the same time i also like chicks closer to my age. in having an older woman you have experience and hornyness which only comes with age, but with a girl the same age you can grow at the same time and both experience new things together (something you wouldnt have with an older woman).

i personally dont think that age matters once you get to about my age, its more about whether you can talk or not (one of the best things about the older chick i had last year was that we could talk for ages and ages in bed, but i get that with girls my age too).

My wife is my age, but I've always had a thing for the fantasy of an older women. All stems from mowing lawns at this ladys house when I was in high school, and she came out looking great and without a bra... and wondering/fantasizing what might have been. The hot teacher that just got in trouble just fuels that, too.

Until you consider the fact that she was with a 13 year old kid.

older than me????youve got to be shitting me...

that would be some one around 75 with a walker...:D

Of course. I'm kinda twoards the younger end of the age range around here, but whenever I have found myself attracted to a woman beyond the physical sense, she is always older than me (or same age). It's just a maturity thing, I'd rather have a woman that is more mature than myself.

I'm 20 and my last girlfriend was 29. It was fun until she decided she wants kids after which we mutually ended it.

Well, sweetie, you know my thoughts on the topic. I enjoy older women very much. I would tend to think that having sex with a woman 32 years your senior would prove that!!!

Ben Franklin said it better than I ever could...
All Cats are grey in the dark. Clever old codger. Right on the button as usual, though.

My wife will be 43 this year. She's hotter than she was when we were first married. It's all a state of mind, really. My Mother-In-Law is in her sixties and she's sexy as hell too. I just don't understand why someone would believe that when you reach a certain age, that's it. TW (The Wife) is getting sexier as she gets older.

My experience with older women has left me slightly bitter. Back when I was in college women in the 23-30 age group wouldn't give me the time of day once they found out that I was a student and didn't have a job. Ahh, the difference a year makes. Even though I'm only a year older, now that I'm a professional athlete I find that older women are a lot more interested in me. Is it my charm or the money? I have my theory.

To answer the question, yes, I am attracted to many older women. I just tend to stick to my own age group. I don't want to settle down with someone older anyway, just a personal preference.

My Mom's husband is 17 years younger than her... They've been together going on 20 years now.

In the beginning I thought she was having a fling... When they got married (about 15 years ago) I realized it was for real.

I think love is love.

This thread makes me happy.

I love younger guys. :D I've only dated two guys older than me--most all of them have been at least a year younger. Oh, I don't want to be anyone's Mrs. Robinson...younger guys are just more carefree at this point.

On the flip side, I really like older guys too. Much older guys. They have character.

Hmm...oh, and I certainly hope I'm still having sex at 50+. Me not have sex? Forget it!