What do women want?
 

What do women want from their men? Someone please tell me. I haven't a damn clue.

and it will stay that way....

Please post when you figure this out.

The men of the world will thank you.

Girth? :D

Just go with the flow. It's kind of trial-and-error based, anyway. Quite a few women I know aren't too sure what they want from their men either. Guess if everybody knew exactly what they wanted from their partner, the world would be quite boring.

If you have a partner, just keep figuring out what she wants.

When you find out write a book , you will make a fortune

You actually think we're going to tell?

* JadziaDax laughs meniacally and then walks away. :D

You see? That's the problem. Their Union won't let them tell. We need to find a scab...

Yes, it's true--the Secret Organization of Women, or S.O.W. is far too powerful. We will never know the truth.

I get this same answer and the laughing at home. It's a conspiracy I tell you, a conspiracy.

You want to find a scabby woman? :eek:

And that my friends is the million dollar question that we will never know the answer to..

Whatever it is, they aren't telling the guys about it. In fact I think that if we get close, the change their minds and want something completly different.

erm... erm.... chocolate?

All they want is your heart, soul, life force, every cent you'll earn for the rest of your life, your self-esteem, your attention at all times, and to joyfully watch as you deteriorate into a worn-out shell of a human being and die so they can be the center of attraction at your funeral. That's all.

bullgoose seems to be on to their evil plans.

They want what they want when they want it.
And the words don't always match the actions.
Sometimes they know what they want.
And sometimes they don't know.
Don't try to figure it out, it's a moving target.
Just be yourself.

They are not firm & fast like us. (no pun intended;))

Why is everybody acting like they don't know what women want?

Now that's a damn good answer. I hope you get every bit of that and more. We should all be so lucky as to have that.

haha, this is why men call women bitches, too afraid to express what they want, and when men treat them wrong, blame them for not tending to their needs

Here's another question: what do men want? Go for the second answer that comes to mind. :)

You mean beer? :P

More than anything else, to be understood without having to explain it.

At least that's what I've figured out about my wife so far. And we're both the happiest we've ever been in our lives.

wemon don't know what they want. The peoplo who are most succsefull with wemon are able to tell them what they want

Okay, I do not agree with that comment at all... many women DO know what they want. I, for one, am firmly grounded in what I want and I don't need a man to tell me what makes me happy.

Women want respect from their man. We want to be treated with honesty and integrity. The thing that we DON'T want is to be lied to or made out to feel stupid.

Most of us are sensitive creatures. We love to feel secure and we love it when our man thinks of us throughout the day. Thoughtful gestures mean a lot.. it can be as simple as picking up some flowers, or cooking dinner that night, or scratching our back when it's itchy. :) It's the little things that count for me.

I never like to feel pressured to do anything and sometimes I need space to hang out with our girlfriends, without any jealousy or suspicion from my man. There needs to be that trust level.

Last but not least, (the part you've all been waiting for) women love foreplay and SEX. But no two females are alike in what turns them on in the bedroom. This is why you, as men, have to ask and find out in order to be the best lovers you can be. :D

I hope this helps!

women want one thing: to confuse men

if anyone figures it out let the rest of us know.. in the mean time I'll just be myself and hope it's what she wants ;)

Someone to actually care & give when we ARE weak.
No man is totally invulnerable,
and when it seems so, it's an illusion.

I too think that its a moving target, THings women want in my experience can & have 180'd within the space of a few minutes. If you dont keep up youre in trouble.

Well damn.

It's hard to keep making fun of the thread when there are so many serious answers.

Well that's pretty damn close:)

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Originally posted by Melun Jinn
I can't speak for every female on the planet, but I can tell you what I want. I want to feel like I am the most important thing in my man's life. I want love, passion and romance. Above all I want loyalty. Deep, honest and true loyalty. I have to be the only female in his life. I want him to feel like making love to me is sacred. I want tenderness. I want him to hold me when I cry and kiss away my tears. I want poems on our anniversary. I want him to remember important events like birthdays. I want him to say things to me like, "I would sell my soul just to touch your cheek. And when I was drug to the pits of Hell I would take the head of Satan himself just to see you once more."
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Good answer. But after giving this a lot of thought I've come up with what I feel is another good answer: women want TOO MUCH from their men. Their expectations are too high. They want the whole world and all we can offer is ourselves.

At this point I can tell you that there is really no answer to this question, as if you give a women everything that she asks for its not enough, or it's wrong, or late or something.
The best advise that can be given is to stop trying to figure them out and start drinking.

All I want is someone to hold me close at night, someone I can talk to and debate with and still make love to afterwards. Someone who can sit in silence and be comfortable...someone to watch football with....someone to dream with and dance with and giggle with. Someone to love.
Is that asking too much? Hmmmm, and all you men think we are so confusing.

I have gladly given all of that and in return I recieved deception and disrespect. When I gave my loyalty I was rewarded with dishonesty. What I learned is that she wanted to take everything from me and give nothing back. To me that is all that women want.

*gag* Please do not use up space on the board for personal conversation, that's what private messages are for. Stick to the subject at hand.

I have to say, minx's answer is pretty close to what I want from a man. Well, along with surprises and little indulgences once in a while.

Most of all, I want him to accept my love and my tokens of affection. I need to be needed.

It all sounds like hard work. Why aren't us men programmed to know that...

They dont know what they want, but I'm pretty sure they dont want Satan's frickin head!!! That would totally freak them out.

romance

All the love and attention you can give them, passion, chocolate, and flowers. And a pony or two wouldn't hurt either :)

All women are different. They all want different things.
To say they want to be treated well rules out masochists.
To say they want excitement rules out homebodies.
Women are people.
Before you find out what women want, find out what ONE woman wants. That's a good place to start.

Women, like men, just want to be happy.

blah blah blah blah. the most intelligent responses in this thread include drinking. i support that answer as the most plausible solution for figuring out what women want.

EUREKA!!

I figured it out!!

I know what ALL women want!!

MY WALLET!!!

Really, though...I don't think that THEY know what they want. That is why we are all baffled by this question. Think about it, they say they want one thing, but who do they usually end up in relationships with?? Exactly the opposite....I am telling you, all women have NO idea what they really want...

There is no answer to this question....

Let me ask one question....this all sounds all warm and fuzzy, but would all this be ok coming from a 62 year old, pot-bellied, cigar-smoking, beer drinking, balding man? I am sure there is some element of looks in there somewhere. I am sure it doesn't hurt to somewhat resemble Freddie Prinze Jr, Val Kilmer, or Vin Diesel....right??

As I said earlier...they have NO Idea what they want...

My last bitter, sarcastic post on this subject were my real feelings; my answer to "what do men want" would go something like this (bearing in mind I can't speak for all men). I would like to come home after beating my head against thewall at work, feeling like shit, checking out the new batch of bills that arrived in the mail, hearing that I have to buy a new dryer 'cause the 4 year old Maytag that I spent a shithouse of money to buy is unrepairable, finding out that I need a thousand dollars worth of transmission work on my Jeep, and still be able to wrap my arms around a woman and think "It's all worth it." It hasn't happened in 56 years; I don't see it EVER hapening.

First off...looks fade honey and what you are left with is the person inside. End of story.
I am the first to admit that to me inital chemistry between two people is vital. That is attraction. But you fall in love with someone for who they are not what they look like.

I want him to listen. I am very expressive. I say what I need very often. Sometimes I'm maybe a little demanding - You'll have to ask Dei37 if that's the case. But I need to be listened to. Not just heard but listened to acknowledged and the thing I need acted upon. My hubby is getting better at this every day. Listening to us as our needs change is the best. I know it's one of the hardest things but I think that's why it means so much to me. When Dei37 says something to me that tells me he heard me it makes me feel special.

Just do everything Homer does for Marge, and everything will be all right... Not knowing is the fun part, isn't it?

More.

Yeah... sadly to say I have to second that... I had the same thing happen to me... I won't get into my story, thats a totally different topic.

However, I do not agree that all women want to drive a knife into your back. I think that there IS someone out there that I can be totally happy with and in return make her totally happy. Just gotta keep looking.

The Moon, on a stick.

On a serious note, the more mentally together each person is, the easier this question is to answer for both parties, because most of the time, none of us know what we REALLY want, and in the cases where we do, we don't know how to communicate it properly.

Perhaps I've grown a little cynical. Or maybe I'm just tired of getting dumped on. Whatever the case I believe in two things; Love and Cancer. They're both diseases.

You'll never know what women want. At least that's what I think. Cause they'll never know what they want. Just like I'll never know what I want.

Life is a journey, not a destination (man that sounds cheesy)


Just find someone that wants to travel the same path ;)

every woman wants a good man to take care of her and guide her. :)

I don't much care what women want. I do however know exactly what my women wants and take care all of her needs as I see fit.

You actually think we don't already know?? Maybe we're only asking so that you'll think we don't know so we can get away with more stuff.
Ahhhh...the game goes deeper!
(suddenly feeling like he's back in pre-school again)
:D

I'm not sure about what they want, but I know all they really need is some good deep dickin!

That's 2 kevin smith references in one weekend. Heh.

I want someone who respects my feelings and who will love me unconditionally....I want Romance, I want to be held tight every single night and know that he will protect me no matter what...I want him to let me do the same for him...I want to be kissed everyday, I want to be told he loves me everyday, I want to enjoy life with him and have him show me what he likes to do and what his hobbies are.... If he doesn't agree with me, I want him to tell me and work it out...I want him to open up and tell me what he is feeling...I want him to let me love him. Plus I want really great sex very often!

Is that all too much to ask for??

No, not at all. When would you like me to start?:icare:

Stand in line, you are not the first or daresay the last to make that offer. :rolleyes:

not for you, not at all. You deserve those and much more. And they are coming for you, very soon.;)

If you insist, but I generally prefer my bodies alive, breathing and warm; perhaps you'd like to reconsider:suave:

your'e right , breathing and warm is much better hmm:

it''s an unrealistic goal for what women want... Every guy is human... now, some guys might embody most of what they are looking for, but not all... Just like guys... we want an incredibly hot virgin chick who knows everything when it comes to sex and can suck start a leaf blower... can cook, etc...

If this REALLY is what women want, then why is it that they spend their time dating the biggest sack of shit that they can get their hands on?

Edit: No, really, I'm not bitter. Honest!

:lol: :lol: :crazy: :lol:

Kind of a rough topic. All of the serious replies from the women basically include a guy giving her his entire heart, soul, and attention. This seems hard to me because I feel that it is extremely important for me to receive all of these. You say that there can be "mutual giving"? Well in my last relationship, I gave all of this and was basically thrown out because she thought I was desperate (she never said this, but it's what I have put together). I gave her my my love and attention that many you say is important to receive, and instead of cherishing what I gave her, she chose to suck it all in, dominate me for a while, then spit me out and move on as if she never knew me.And no, I never gave any love away because of desperation. I 'm a very caring person in general and love to tuck my lover into bed and make sure I let her know that I care for her, but I call some of you hipocrates (sp) because while some of you do "want" and "need" this kind of attention, most of you don't know how to handle it and seem to let the potential for taking the upper hand get to your heads.... :rolleyes: :( I remain close friends with my ex girlfriend, however sometimes I think the fact that she keeps me around stregnthens my arguement; She knows that I truly love her and still has lots of love for me, but she's young and sometimes looks at me as "been there, done that". I understand this behavior and would love for her to date around so she can grow even more even if she still loves me as a lover, however I recomend to most guys to be extremely cautious in giving away their heart, even if it's mutual for the time being... you never know what she might chose to do with it.

-Ever-:
I predict within seconds that you are going to be overcome by screams of "over generalisation" etc.

However, I agree with what you are saying, and know that it happens. I don't think that many people realise that they do this, can only give em the benefit of the doubt that they don't mean to be vindictive.

Oh and by the way, if you feel hurt, you're just an over sensitive pussy!

Generalisation? Do you think you can sum up the entire world's population of women without generalising? :confused: ;) Hence why I used words like "Some women" and such...

And I say you're wrong about feeling hurt. We both mutually gave our love to one another, and after about 2 1/2 years, she chose to grasp mine and take advantage of it. Am I an oversensitive pussy in general? Yes. However I feel justified saying that what she did would make lots of men hurt.

-Ever-:
Ooops! Appologies, the oversensitive pussy comment was supposed to be alot more obviously sarcastic! Of COURSE you would feel hurt, but many people wouldn't see that!

Girls want what you do not have. If you have something a girl wants, she will change what she wants, simply so you do not have it.

The more women I meet (I'm only 20 years old mind you~) the more I am convinced that most women want the same thing.

To be treated like garbage.

It doesn't seem enough to them that a guy is caring and willing to do damn near anything for them. No no, you seemingly need to be loud, obnoxious, rude to her, and generally a tard to get a decent woman these days.

Of course, I could be wrong (hopefully I am), and I'm quite sure there are tons of women out there who would appreciate a "nice guy" I guess those type just don't live where I live.

(No offense to the ladies out there, but I just went through a stupid nasty break-up, and I'm rather bitter, can you tell? )

I totally support this. While I can think of a handful of women who really do want to be treated with utmost respect (IE: the actual men they date/marry are kind to them....) , I find more and more women to want the kind of men you're describing. I think it has much to do with their natural motherly instincts and might feel obliged/complete when they have an obnoxious man to take care of and tender to...

having not read all of the 70+ posts:

there's only thing women want en mass... confidence.

have confidence in your self, and carry a confident attitude and women will be responsive to you.

everything else is circumstantial.... romance and sh1t is nice, but the reason that it is percieved that all the good women go out with douchbags is because all women are attracted to men who are independant and of strong charactor. Not all indepentand men with strong charactor are as5holes, but have you ever seen a wormy and elusive nerd with a great women?

If your nice, and confident in yourself, you have nothing to loose.

If a woman says she knows what she wants, like flowers, romance and bending over backwards type stuff, she'll be dissapointed when that doesn't satisied her. That shit is fine, by all means, but it's not going to make you, or her, fall in love.

In my experiance women fall into three catagories. Totally messed up in the head, taken by another guy, or a combination of the two. Maybe I'm wrong, but I can list all the women I've ever known and tell you which catagory they fit in.

I hate to admit it being as happily married as possible, but this is exactly right.