I need to vent...
 

My mother has taken it upon herself to start smoking again.

"I'm down to one cig a day, I swear."

So I go out in the back and I see her smoking a SECOND one today.

This pisses me off to no end. I already lost my father. Now what, do I get to lose my mother to f***ing cancer the way my Uncle Bob died?



THEN, yes, THEN, she goes and tells me to email someone to "give them a message." Well, I'm sorry, but this is between the two of them, and I am NOT involved. Fix your own f***ing shit.

And don't try to switch it over on me telling me you're letting me use your electricity. Don't even f***ing TRY that.

Like I said, fix your shit, don't pull me into the middle of it. I'll have nothing to do with it.

It's your own problem, NOT mine.

ARRRRRRRRRRGHHHH

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Bout all you can do is tell her your frustration, disapointment and concerns............the rest is up to her I guess................?

Instead of yelling, just tell her you want her to stop because you love her. If she actually stops to think about it instead of yelling back, she'll probably seriously consider it.

It's times like this when we need an ad campaign telling kids to stop their parents from smoking instead of the other way around.

It's cool, I have my journal online :)

So you're freaking out about her making a personal decision to smoke more than one cigarette per day, then getting pissed off because you don't want to be in the middle of her personal affairs? Which is it?

I'm freaking out about it b/c I lost my father last April, and to see her doing this to herself is not pleasant. I don't want to lose her too.

Secondly, the persona l affair involves my ex-best friend who screwed her out of money in which she (my mom) is trying to drag me into.

If I want to vent about it, I can.

That's certainly understandable, I know I can't stand to see anyone I care about harming themselves.

It's just that if you want to be personally involved with what she's doing (and there's nothing wrong with that, she's your mom, after all!) then be consistent about it. Be concerned about her smoking, and be concerned about her being screwed out of money. That's my 2 cents.

It's a pain you see...

1) I'm concerned with her smoking.
2) I want her to get her money back, but I don't want to be in the middle of it. Her thing is, she says I have to "stick up" for her, but I have already. When I told her that it has nothing to do with me, she went and used the lame excuses that she's being nice to me by letting me stay here (when she wanted me back here in the first place saying "the door is always open here for you"), that she's "letting" me use her electricity, and why don't I stop doing such-and-such as if she's trying to turn the tables on me.

Damn her being a Taurus. Freakin stubborn bull.

Gah!

i need to vent too .. my ex, that I have not seen since Nov. 2002 just hit me up w/ a paternity/ child suppost suit. The little one that is supposedly mine was born 6/2004. WTF!!! That makes the kid 14 months old and now she wants to claim the kid is mine and wants money .. I am in need of many drinks, got the lawyer covered

Damn, that sucks TheDon....maybe you could simply explain to her that a DNA test would prove her entire case false and you would both be wasting money on lawyars.

Sue,

I certainly understand how that is a tricky situation. I'm extremely loyal to people I care about and can't stand to see them in a bad situation. But I also hate being pushed into doing things, and if someone told me I *had* to stick up for them, I'd be inclined to do the opposite just for spite.

Do you have a source of income? If so, just pay the electric bill and say "There. Now you have nothing to gripe at me about, so leave me alone."