Keeping Sexy Pictures (read: xxx) of Yourself w/ ex-girlfriends...
 

Over the years, I've taken amateur xxx photo shoots with at least a dozen different girlfriends. To date, I have every picture (all digital) and every second of digital video footage I have ever taken. This amounts to over 1000 pictures and a few hours of video.

I know that I'm not the only one who has taken these types of pictures with their significant other. What do you do when you break up with the SO?? Keep the pics?? Delete it all??? How long do you plan on keeping your personal collection that contains incriminating photos of you and another woman???

I like to keep it for nastalgic purposes. It's fun to go back every once in a while and look at the pics. However, I also realize that if a current girlfriend or future girlfriend (or future wife?) would ever see any of this "art", I'd be a dead man. :)

Thoughts on this???

I think you should ask the girls if its okay to keep the pictures when you break up with them.

You probably should get rid of them if you get married, though.

I keep them all for myself when I get older and can no longer get any so easily. Then I can look back and remember the days. Of course I am a dirty pervert...

Simple. Post them on the Titty Board (for archival purposes only of course) :D

I'd keep em, I mean, whatever - they're still nice to look at ;)

As far as other girlfriends and future wife, why is it an issue? I'd presume you'd do the same with them. Just be open and honest about it with them from the get-go - it's not like they don't know you've had past relationships. If it's a problem for them, then do something about it.

I still have some, but with the permission of the girls who are in them, and my girlfriend.

Some girlfriends'll get pissed if you have plain, normal photo's of your exes. If i had any risque photos or videos, I'd keep them. But, where nobody would find them.

I bought a car about a year ago and was looking for the key for the locking lugnuts and found a packet of pictures in the trunk, way down behind the carpet, developed at K-Mart. They were, I assume, the former owners assorted girlfriends in various states of undress. Laughed my ass off.

Post 'em dude. Just post 'em. We know that what you're getting around to anyway.

i agree, just post em...just hope your past or current girlfriends are not also TFP'ers.

The question to ask yourself is "How would I react if I found similar photos of my SO with all of <b>her</b> ex's?" You may find the answer to your first question in the answer to <b>this</b> question. These type of photos are a very personal matter, as is porn in general. But <b>now</b> it affects not only you and your ex/ex's, but a third party as well. In the meantime [whispers] share.

Nope, I give them back or delete them.
If I have erotic pics, I do not want to see them that way again.
Too much temptation, we have broken up, we have moved on.
I have a VERY long memory, that's good enough.
And the normal pics do just fine.

For example, I had a live-in girlfriend who once made for my B-day
A vid of her in the shower and then getting off on the bed afterwards.
When we separated & she moved out, I gave this back to her.

I don't want things to display our past intimacy,
my feelings are too raw, too real & I cannot separate that from my memories.
This is part of my healing, part of me moving on.
Fading those feelings, otherwise I would continue desiring her.
And that's not good for me or her.

What's past is past.
No more

post them? nope... could get into some serious legal problems... (not going to go with the whole Libby Holer urban legend, but still) there are other precedents that will be hard to fight in a court of law.

As for keeping them? I still have some from my first girlfriend....she was the only one that let me take pictures. My wife.. she's too shy to even wear tank tops out in public.

When I was 16, my girlfriend and I took naked photos of each other. I kept the ones of her and she kept the ones of me. They were all destroyed long ago when we broke up.

However, this thread got me thinking; if I had kept the photo of my naked 16 year old girlfriend, would that be possession of child porn now?

I'd keep them with all of my other porn.

As for warrrreagl's question, you probably would get in trouble for it.

I have the perfect solution....send all of your pics to me...(you know for archival puposes) *grin* This way you don't have them and I will create a password protected personal online gallery just for you, and you can come and visit them anytime you want...:-)

Seriously though (I COULD do that), why not find someplace that will host them and put them behind some security, so that way only you know about them and can visit them when you like. That would get rid of the evidence on your computer.

My wife and I have videoed and taken pictures of ourselves. However, I discard them shortly after.

Why? It would be my luck that somehow they'd find their way out of the house. What if someone borrows my camcorder, and I leave the tape in? What if someone swipes it from the house? What if my computer is stolen?

Not worth it to me to have them around.

Get rid of them. They are only going to cause you trouble and heartache down the line.

Yes.

Gotta agree with Rogue. It's hard enough on me that I'm still trying to get over a gf from a couple months ago that I was completely in love with. If I had to look at any pictures of her or even know they were there, the temptation would be too great to go back to her. I know and remember everything we did; that's more than enough. I don't particularly need the proof (artistic as it was :)) that we did it. Thanks but no thanks. If they're just of her, offer them back. If they're of the both of you throw them away.

I have the same thing with my ex-girlfriend. The relationship really IS over, so there's no temptation or anything. It's not even pornographic (to me ;) ) because I knew her quite a while. It's more of a fond memory of nice moments. I don't wank off with them. I've hidden them from my girlfriend, but if she would find them I don't think it would be too much of a problem.
It is fun to go back and remember, I agree. I'm not a person with a good visual memory, so it helps. As for throwing them out... Don't know, maybe I will someday, maybe not.

I don't have any, but if I did, I'd ask the girl's permission to keep them after we had broken up and moved on. I definitely wouldn't ask during the break up, though - might as well just delete them right then if you're thoughtless enough to do that.

Your Ex-girlfriends were kind enough to let you take photo's and Videos. They put a faith and trust in you.
You know in your heart what to do...Don't you? Enjoy them. They were made for your enjoyment and yours only!

yeah, just keep 'em only if you have their consent.

The temptation to keep them would be real great, but you had better be prepared to deal with the consequence if a current girlfriend finds them.

my ex and i took pics and vids, but we made sure we deleted everything. For example we'd film, then watch and delete, everything was digital so it made it easy. Both had the thrill with no mess to worry bout

Put them on CD's and hand-deliver them to the people involved. Tell them that you found the pictures whil going through old stuff, and ask if they want them deleted. Give them the CD, what happens to it is their choice. If you get the OK to keep your copies at home, encrypt the files and put them onto CD's. Delete what's on the hard drive, and if you ever want to look at them, decrypt them into a temp folder, and clear it after you're done.

Question: if X poses for the picture and Y takes the picture, who does the picture belong to?

Y owns the material...

I have pictures of old girlfriends. I've been dating the same woman for two and a half years now, she knows about the old pictures. She doesn't care about them, she knows where they are at, has looked once or twice. I don't figure I have any reason to destroy them, I'll keep em to myself.

After reading this post, I just realized that I have picture of my ex. I looked at them the month or so after we broke up but I've more or less forgotten about them. If she asked me to get rid of them, I totally would but she probably forgot that she posed for them. I think I know where the pics are but won't be looking there for a while.

Great thread, I had a friend who was killed along w/ his wife in a car accident. They apparently enjoyed erotic photos of each other. I say this because I was asked to be the executor of their estate (they weren't wealthy by any means but did own their home etc.) and the responsibility of organizing and disposing of their belongings fell upon my shoulders. Let me just say this, if you never want anybody else to see these pics, don't keep them around, this kind of stuff happens.

Yeah, i'm gonna say if your current lover finds them... you'll be in shit.

The best way to think about it is, what if you found some pictures of your girlfriend with her Ex-boy...

POSTING THEM IS NOT AN OPTION

Its against TFP rules and frankly its just not right to do that.

That being said, keep them. They are yours. A gift from each individual person to you. I still have pictures and video of various exes and I plan on keeping them until the day I die. Memories are nice, but being able to show these to the other old farts at the old age home......Priceless.





If they are asked to be returned to you, different story. Be the better person and return them. It'll only cause you problems.

Great point cj2112, but in my case, I don't care what people think after i'm dead. I won't be around to care. My first wife liked me to take erotic photos of her, but when we divorced, I gave everything to her. Figured the next GF or wife wouldn't appreciate them, and it would give her some peace of mind as well. I'd have wanted mine back after all if any had ever been taken.

Great Scott has a good point... reminiscing is always fun, but id have to say get rid of them, they will only cause problems down the road

Personally I don't care what pics my bf keeps of other people. I definatly trust him and would not care if he kept ones of me. My only hesitation with this comes from an experience my mom/I had at work. A daughter (freshman in hs) of a girl my mom works with found "interesting" pics of her mom from when she was younger in a safe. She decided it would be funny to give them to another girl my mom works with. To make a long story short the girl who ended up with the pics decided to give the enlarged photos to their male boss for boss' day!

...you never know what may happen...

if you are in the military hide them in a very safe place. i had some really good pics of my ex girlfriend and lol and behold my boss went through my stuff one day and found them. he called me into his office and told me to distroy them. what he did not tell me was that he showed them to all his friends. one of who was my ex-girlfriends boss. my ex calls me up that day and well it was very bad. not only that but everyone on that base found out about it. guess who didn't get laid for a long time afterwards.

dude do not post them... it gets around