Highschool friends
 

I'm just wondering, how many of you kept your highschool friends after you graduated? Did you keep them for only a short period, only kept in touch with the closest, that kind of stuff. Any input greatly appreciated.

For about the first 5 years, I was still in touch with a group of friends, since we all were going to the same university, still did things together etc. then after that, it sort of weeded out to about 3-5 that hung out. Now I'm mainly in touch with 2, one that I still consider my best friend, and one that I was just friends with before. I also e-mail a few others, but not with any frequency.

After school I didnt keep in touch with anybody form my graduating class at all (even though some of them came to the same college as me.) But there were some under classman that I got along with really well and kept in touch with, but now that they're off at college I dont really talk to them much anymore either.

After I graduated, i went into the service, my family moved to another town, so i totally lost contact with everyone i attended school with. I saw an ad in the local newspaper detailing a 10 yr reunion for our class and ended up going to it. Not having kept in close contact with my classmates, I found i didn't have much in common with them. It was enjoyable to see them again, but that is about all i could say. Didn't try to keep in touch with any of them after the reunion, either. I guess having moved on and having relocated to a different part of the country changed it all for me.

I didnt have any real friends in high school, just people i'd occasinally hang out with and after high school i pretty much stopped talking to them

I've only kept in regular contact with one person from high school and thats because she has big boobs. (joking) . But I never really cared for a lot of people in high school and didnt see the importance of maintain fake relationships with those people. There are a number of people I do miss but time has its way of pulling people apart...

I graduated high school in 1994. All my close friends are the people I went to high school with. And a lot of them still live around here. As for the ones that moved away, I still keep in contact with them (at least once every couple of months). And we get together anytime they are in town (for the most part).

i graduated 2 years ago and i still keep in touch with those who live in the same city..i think is hard to keep in touch with friends that have gone to different cities and countries

I graduated 4 years ago...I stay in touch with i think 4 people from high school. They are about the only 4 i like. some others contact me occasionally, but i've gone down a very different path in life than they have and we dont really have anything in common anymore. So when I do go to see these other people, I find myself out of place and not enjoying it. So i stick with the 4...strange because we 4 didnt hang out all that much in high school. One was an old childhood friend whom i lost touch with in high school, and then rekindled the friendship post graduation, one i never hung out with in HS but became a friend after, the other two were a year ahead of me in school and graduated when i really befriended them, but we all worked at the local Pizza Hut so we became friends.

graudted 3 years ago only had a few friends the good news is we are still in touch

I graduated 23 years ago. Yeesh...that looks worse in print than it even sounds. Anyway, there is only one guy that I keep in semi-contact with. (i.e the occasional Christmas card) And he wasn't even one of my "best" friends...so, I'd have to say no.

People grow, and move on to other parts of thier lives. It's sad, but true, that the childhood gets left behind in the dust, and childhood friends are left standing on the side of your road in life.

I didn't have any real friends in high school, and the only time I have even seen somebody I went to high school with since graduation was about 5 years ago waiting in line to vote. Even then we didn't say anything to each other. I could care less really. High school wasn't a good time for me.

I've only been out of high school for about 3 years now, but I've held on to a lot of friends that I had back in the day. I had very high standards for who I associated with in high school, so it's a lot easier to keep that friendship alive, knowing they aren't just those fake teenage high school 'im popular your popular let's hang out' friendships.

i´ve been out of school for 5 years now.
i kept in contact with my close friends.
a lot of the people in my year went to the same university straight after, which was interesting since it became a real catalyst for a lot of friendship break-downs.

keep the good ones, see the rest at reunions.

Two that were friends before I started high school. One joined the Air Force recently and the other is at college. I don't see either of them as much any more, but I still consider both good friends.

I don't talk with them regularly, but the social net I was privy to continued on for me after I came to college. Over breaks I go home and hang out with the same old crew. It's not as awkward as I was afraid it would be.

Anyway, thank the good Lord for AIM and LiveJournal.

ive kept in touch with one in person and others via msn... tho I havent gone anywhere and niether have they (it only eneded last year :P) i just work so much :(

400 yrs later, i remain in contact with several of my high school classmates even tho they live far away. of course, some more than others. the last few yrs with the interwebs, email & such has made it easier to stay quasi in touch.

what's pisses me off is that there is one person from college days that i really want to contact & i cannot find anyone who knows his whereabouts.

I graduated with 22 other people.
The day after graduation, I only talked to 2 people.
6 months after that, 0 people.

Kinda depressing that I was dropped like a bad habit, but I guess that's the way life goes.

I had six friends during my high school years. They also were my good friends during elementary and middle school too. I basically grew up with them since I was a wee tike. I thought they were all my good true friends. Gradually throughout the years, things changed. The "good" friends were evolving and starting showing their true personalities. Personally I was loyal to all of them. To me, it was sad how all of the history between us didnt really mean anything by the end of high school. I know people go their own ways and do their own things, but damn at least alittle effort to keep in touch. I tried for a bit to keep in contact but gave up realizing they didnt really care. Overall, I still keep in touch and talk to two of my high school friends. One of them being my best and truest friend I will ever have. What up Chris!

I talk to most of my highschool friends on a regular basis. I was the first to move out of my shitty town, so I dont hang with them as much as I'd like, but then again, moving on with life is always a good thing. Gives me time to concentrate on work and getting my bills paid off in time heh.

Wow, Reading all these posts makes me feel better that I'm not the only one that doesn't(until recently) have any friends left from highschool.

Actually, I am just starting to get back together my HS friends. It's hard though because everyone's getting married and having kids... My closest friends in school and the "friends by association" have reversed, I'm really getting to know people I didn't really have much in common with in school.

After graduation, I went away to college, so I lost touch with all the friends I graduated high school with.

The one friend I had since 6th grade dropped me the day I got married to my ex-husband. I tried to make amends, she wouldn't have it.

A few years before I got divorced, I ran into one of my high school friends. She saw me in a store and screamed my name from clear across the building. We've basically picked up where we left off all those years ago, except she's married with two children now.

When I was a teenager, my father told me things like this would happen. And of course I didn't believe him. I thought the friends I had then would be my friends forever. Forever is a very short time in the scheme of things.

I keep in close contact with two very good friends and a handful of other friends through them; to all the others I generally prefer to remain a mystery.

I've kept in touch with all of my close friends from highschool, but lost touch with casual aquaintences.

I stayed in touch with some friends for a couple of years but as life has gone on, we have separated a bunch in terms of our education, goals, values, etc. My best friend from high school had kids right out of the gate, and they are now graduating from high school. Mine are in pre-K and 1st. We just don't have anything in common anymore. I saw most of them at the 10 year high school reunion and not since then (coming up on 20 next year).

I have 4 people who I graduated high school with that I consider great friends, 6 people who I when to the same high school with that I consider great friends, my sister told me once how lucky I was that I still have my high school friends, she hasn't talked to any of her high school friends for a long while.

I still hung out with my highschool friends through college, but then I moved away (2,200km) after college grad. I kept in touch with some for a while, whenever I'd visit home etc. (HS Grad '85 for context)

Then I just kind of had a different circle after a while, and lost contact with most of my HS friends.

Partly due to distance, and partly due to changes in lifestyle. I think that was the biggest thing. Some people move into different styles of living, and tend to have less and less in common over the years. For example, friends that I used to go hiking with in the fresh air of the Canadian rockies take up smoking and bar-hopping as a lifestyle, so our paths diverge. Things like that.

Now I have moved back to my home town, and bump into some classmates from time to time. It is interesting. One guy seemed really pissed at me when I last saw him, like something I had done really pissed him off. We used to be really good buds, but... Anyways I wondered if it was because of lack of contact that he was pissed ?

Some classmates that I did not know so well are becoming new aquantences and friends now. Life is just moving along.

My only long term highschool friend relationship is my wife ! I still see her every day :-)

Kept in touch with a few for a few months, and flatted with a couple for a summer a couple of years after finishing school, but I'm not in regular contact with any of them any more.

(I feel like I've written this before...)

I graduated in 1995. We had a very big, but tight, bunch of friends during senior year. I would say there were about 20 of us, and we would hang out every weekend, sometimes in different incarnations, but we were always together.

Because we were so close in high school, a bunch of us were relatively miserable when we got to college. (I was among the most miserable of the miserable.) We used e-mail to keep in touch daily, just chatting back and forth, and it wasn't out of the ordinary to have between 50-80 e-mails a day going back and forth.

During that first year of college, we all managed to stay "together-" the 20 or so of us. And like Jadzia said...we really believed we would stay that way forever. Of course, it didn't happen. People dropped off here and there. Interests changed, people relocated. It was sad while it was happening, but it felt natural.

However, the ones I was closest with - and there were about 10 or so - are still my best friends. The only person from college that I really keep in touch with is Quadrette. But most weekends and all parties - my high school friends are the ones I'm with. Our friendships just stayed solid. And they, in turn, have become friends with my other friends, and created new friendships, expanding the "group" and creating some fun hangout situations. I'm very happy with how it all turned out.

i only keep in contact with a few of my old high school friends.. ya know the occasional phone call.. and email spam... its kinda difficult to keep in touch with all of them.. i moved a year after graduation and dont see any of them:(

I graduated from high school in 1982.

I don't even remember anyone from my class except one girl I should have forgotten. I forgot them so fast that it was a bit embarrassing when I ran into one of the few people who treated me well a few years later. Now I know I have no memory for names OR faces.

I remember a few people I was friendly with from the next class back, but that's all. I maintained no friendships from anyone at that place for more than about 1 year.

Unfortunately, they all remembered me when I went to an informal reunion last year. :( (sigh) I'm darned if I know why.

I graduated almost 5 years ago. I still talk to one friend about twice a week and we get together every few months (harder now that I moved 1200 miles away!). Beyond that I barely remember anyone from back then.

The friends that I had in highschool were great, the truest of buds. But in the end, we mostly went to different universities, had different interests. Occasionally one of us will ramble into town at the same time, get a cup of coffee or a beer and shoot the shit, but its nothing like in high school.

The funny thing is, I didn't really make many 'replacement' friends at college -- I simply shortened my circle, made a lot of good aquaintences.

I started to say that I keep up with three of my High School friends, but then I remembered that I see one every day. My wife. Guess I considered her more than a High School friend, but she was a friend in High School. Same goes for her sister.
One of my three High school friends I still keep in touch with is married to someone from High School, so now we're up to six.

Interestingly, I got to know two people that I went to High School with again in law school, and email them occasionally. Actually, we're just on someone else's email list, so eight so far.

My wife keeps up with some of her friends, and so I sometimes see them too. So we're up to about 14. Only three of those I classify as "high school friends" though.

My old highschool friends are still my best friends today. I see them almost every day. We go on roadtrips and random vacations together, and we keep in touch with each other very well. I don't think I'd enjoy life if my highschool buds weren't there. Some of my college friends have told me "you and your friends are connected at the hip." And, of course, I always reply with, "that's a good thing!"

I'm 25. I still see a couple of my close friends. But for the most part, I rarely see anyofthem

i talk to very few classmates after 14 years. i did go to my ten year reunion and here is the kicker....there were some female classmates who approached me about having a crush on me during highschool and wanted to drop me right there and get it on. i admit that two of these ladies got there wish at a later date.

I'm not very tight with any friends from HS. I haven't seen my HS best friend Stan in over 6 months. I see my friends from my IT classes that I took for 2 years at a different school more than I do my friends from my HS.

I come from a relatively small town, and the friendships I made in high school were relatively tight just because there was nothing to do other than talk. My best friend from high school and I still hang out whenever I'm in town (once or twice a month) and I AIM or e-mail a couple of them. My high school boyfriend/other best friend actually goes to the same university I do and we hang out once or twice a week. I'm still social with other acquaintances whenever I happen to run into them back home.

It's kind of sad seeing my new friends take the place of the old ones. I mean, its only natural to be closer to the people I see every day, but I've known my home group since elementary school. (although we weren't always real "friends") The photographs are being replaced...I don't call every time something happens to me...it's life, but it kind of sucks.

Zero... I hated High School, moved shortly after graduation.

I live with my best friends from high school. We all went to college together and got a house near campus. But I am about to leave the state, and the rest of them are starting on their careers. I don't think we are going to be hanging out much longer. It's ok though, I've learned that no matter how close you are to someone, leaving only hurts for a while, and there are a lot of people out there who want to be friends if you only look for them.

I have lost touch with almost all of them. I would love to get in touch with a few of them, but I have been unable to find them so far. My Friends weren't the kind that signed up for Classmates.com and things.

I'll be honest: I really didn't want to keep in touch with most of the people I went to high school with. A couple of people I was friends with (and wanted to stay close to) went to the same college as I did, but life has a way of separating us all, and I only got reacquainted with them at my 10-year reunion (a great time, but that's another story).

...but once again, time has intervened and I only chat with them occasionally via e-mail.

So I guess the answer to your question (as far as I am concerned) is no.

I play in a basketball team with old high school friends and we still see each other quite often. We're still generally the best of friends as well. Which is good.

Although other close friends i've had at high school are growing apart quite fast....

I had a really great high school experience so i'd like to see more of those people still. BUt, you still get to meet other cool people elsewhere, so it doens't amtter too much....

I've been out for just about 19 years now. I stay in semi-regular contact with two friends, though one's in Iraq now and I don't go out of my way to see the other when I go back to town. Otherwise, with the exception of an occasional Christmas card to one other friend, I don't see or think too much about any of them.

The number of twists life has taken in those 19 years is astonishing. Falling out of touch with most of those friends is the least surprising of all of them.

I had a fairly tight knit group of friends in high school, but 12 years later, I'm in contact with just a couple of them, through rare emails.
We all live in different areas, so it's tough to maintain close friendships.
Of my college buddies, I only keep regular contact with one. Shame, but that's pretty much how life goes.

20th HS reunion coming up this year. We'll see.

I graduated last year and since I go to college in the same city as my high school, I see not only a lot of my friends, but a lot of people I wasn't friends with. I still hang out with and talk to my close friends on a regular basis.

Now that I think about it more, I think I've talked to maybe 3 people from my High School since I left for college, and those were brief online conversations.

I think what happened was that I lost a lot of respect for them when nobody was open minded enough to go to school away from home. (Orig. from CT, only one other student in my Grad. class moved further away than I did to Georgia Tech, but he's going back to CT because he's flunking out.) It's not even an issue of money, because most who did stay did NOT go to a state school, but rather one of the few private schools, most of which are about 15 minutes away from home if that with insane tuition rates (above 30k a year for tuition alone). But rather than just admitting that they just wanted to stay close to home, they made up BS excuses about "oh, well, uh, this school is really well known for its ______" when it really isn't by any means.

I was homeschooled but was in a homeschool group and graduated with a couple other kids. We never even tried to stay close. We weren't expectionally close before hand but all of us went very different ways. One girl is a vet and married with kids in another city. I went for education at a college hours from where she went. Another guy and his family moved who knows where. I did go to public school for elementary school. Of my 6th grade class there are several now in jail and a couple dead already. 3 of them were partying prom night and crossed a railroad crossing, trying to beat the train, and they were drunk - at least until the train hit them. Kinda glad I didn't go on to highschool with them. I haven't heard about any of them going on to do much with their lives. Sad really.

I've stayed in close touch with two of my school friends, but I have made much better friends over the years through college and work so I don't feel I'm missing out by not keeping up with my former classmates. Most of us went our separate ways.

I stayed in touch with my closest friends for quite a few years. I was already dated the woman I ended up marrying, but when the started getting serious with new "girlfriends", it wasn't convenient to hang with us anymore. So, needless to say, after 13 years, we have all gone our separate ways. I see old friends and its nice to catch up, but that's about it.

As of right now Im still in touch with all my friends from high school.

I talk to two guys from high school at least once a week. One guy lives 75 miles south and the other is 60 miles north. We get together to go camping, fishing, drinking and smoking pot (hey, we live in BC). We are all 45 so this has been going on for a very long time.

I hung out with all the potheads in high school. Shortly after I graduated I realized I didn't need any loser friends who wouldn't amount to shit so I stopped hanging out with them. From what I hear they're all still loser stoners who don't work and don't give a fuck about anything other than getting high. Moving on and staying away from those morons was one of the best things I ever did. I don't even know why I ever hung out with them because I never even tried any drugs, even though they all tried to get me to.

There's still 2 people I talk to from time to time. One is a dude that was on the basketball team, and the other is a chic I dated who would love to marry now, but there's no fucking chance in hell that's gonna happen.

I have two really close high school friends we can go months without talking and pick up like we had never been apart. But only two out of like a 1000 people I graduated with. Big school.

Drop the losers still keep in touch with 3.

I've lost most of my friends from high school 6 years ago. They either stopped talking to me or moved elsewhere. I only have like 3 friends from high school I still talk to. It's kind of sad. Oh well. It's different for me after graduating college. I still keep in contact with a lot of friends and associates. It's called networking.

My younger bro and sis are going through high school right now, so they are friends with a lot of the younger siblings of my friends. As a result, I keep in touch with more people than I might have chosen to, simply because we're picking up and dropping off those permit holding kids.

On the plus side, one of my good friends from high school still remains a great friend, so yay!

It's been a year since my high school graduation. None of my friends go to the same university that I go to. I lost touch with of them b/c of the fact they're either busy or they simply moved on since high school.

I still hang out with my best friend from HS and I married my HS sweetheart. My best friend married his HS sweetheart and we are close friends with another couple from HS that also got married. Scary to think about it. There are a bunch of other friends from HS that I keep in close touch with as well.

Given the fact that there were about 1000 kids in my graduating class, hanging out with a dozen or so friends from HS isn't so weird, especially when you consider not many moved from this city. The fact that I'm 34 and still keeping in touch with them does seem a bit weird when I explain to other people how long I've known members of our "group".

I graduated in '97, my close friends are still here, for the most part. I still have my best friend from 6th grade, most of the other friends I have I met before 10th grade.

I had no desire to go to my 5th year reunion, I figured that the only people I want to see are the friends I already see.

I feel fortunate to have friends like these. They have really been there through the good and the bad. You feel not so old and alone when you are with people who are going through the same stages of life with you.

I still hang out with a lot of them. There are a few who are such close friends that I would still keep in touch with if I was in witness protection. Some of my friends are too close to let go.

I've been out of high school for only about a year and a half. There are maybe 4 people I talk to on a regular basis and a few more I would stop to say hello if I passed. For the most part I don't plan on talking to the rest of them ever again. Everything was just so fake in high school.

Oh yeah, I graduated with 299 in my class.

I am only 9 months out of HS, but I still talk to most of the people that were in our group...I'd say 4 people who I see every time I go home, and then another 5-6 who I see every-other time, but email regularly.