Ever wish you could back in time to a situation with a girl/guy to change one thing..
 

Here it goes.
I was never one of the cool kids in High School but I had friends. Just after High School, in my first semester at college, I joined a rock band. I played bass, we weren't very good but we had fun. The one gig that we did was at my cousin's (he was the drummer in our band) high school talent show.
Anyway after the show one of the other people in the talen show told me that this girl in the audience, from the high school, though I was cute and wanted to meet me. The girl was hot. I learnt through some inquiries that she was not the shyest or unexperienced girl in th school (if you know what I mean). I was shocked, because as I said I was never one of the cool kids in High.
So I got her number and we talked a few times. We decided to go out to see a movie. She had won a couple passes from some local radio show so she was taking me out. After the movie I took her home and we were outside of her apartment in my car ('91 Grand Prix GT - if any of you are interested in knowing) talking.
<b>Here is the "I wish I had" moment</b>.
She says she has to go and she leans over to kiss me and she puts her lips against mine and I realize that her mouth is open. For some reason I don't respond and we therfore don't go past the little peck kiss.
She gets out of the car and goes up to her apartment all the while I am kicking myself becuase I am a completely inept idiot. I just let this awesomely hot girl who was interested in my out of my car.
I justify my idiocy by the fact that my cousin was getting beat up at school by her ex-boyfriend just for being my cousin.
But that was only a cop-out.

<b>So here it is:
<br>I wish I would have kissed her back</br></b>
<p>Just thinking about it know makes me feel so dumb. What the hell was I thinking.
<p><b>Damn I wish I would have kissed her back.</b>

I've got a bunch of these "missed connections" that I wish I could go back and fix. You know when you're out and about... you see a girl you are really interested in, she looks at you, smiles or gives you a positive signal, but you don't do anything about it.

I've had some really good long term relationships with girls who I just stumbled into at the store, at the park, or where ever. So sometimes I wonder what could have been if I would have pursued one of these missed connections. What if I could go back in time and say something back or ask the girl out? That decision could have changed my life..

Michelle or Janice. Either one, they were both great and I'm an idiot. :rolleyes:

oh man... lots of them happened during my celibate years... i had women strip down to nothingness trying to get me into their clutches...but I would have nothing to do with it.

personally I think that it saved my life since I was always drinking heavily. There were a few hotties.. that would have just been... awesome I'm sure of it.

I would have never aske my X-fiancee to marry me.


I would have waited like everyone said.

I hear ya...

I have so many "shoulda coulda woulda's" it's sad. But, I'm learning to not worry about them so much. Water under the bridge, can't get it back.

But, if only...

damnit man.

And of course I have had as many (if not more) missed chances as the next guy. Most of mine don't go that far though. Mine are closer to davidc209's. One thin I wish I could go back to the first time I did "it" with my last girlfriend (my first time actully) and .. not do it. Not saying I WOULDN'T do it with her (although shouldn't is probably true) its just kinda messed up in my mind as a virgin to then go and lose it to a girl on the second date. Another thing I would change (and this is a both a go back and change AND a change NOW thing) is to stop chickening out everytime and just ask out the girl I truly like.

Back in highschool. My sophmore year there was a pretty girl who started talking to me. Not realizing she might have been interested in me, I didn't really carry on the conversation. It quickly died off and I haven't talked to her since. It would be nice to go back in time to correct myself and found out what she was like.

I have many of them. Looking back I could have had more relationships (or at least gotten laid more) if I had done things differently, but why dwell on the past?

Live for today.

Of course there are always shoulda woulda couldas. My freshman year I met two guys in the same day(both liked me), and I always regretted not getting to know the other guy better before making my decision to date the one. Guy #1 faded out of the picture while Guy #2 and I ended up dating for over a year. This year, though, Guy #1 and I ended up dating after not seeing each other for nearly a year and a half, and now I don't talk to Guy #2. So I guess things will work out how they are meant to in the end :) That's a heartening thought.

just thinking about all the times that one coulda gotten laid or coulda had an awesome time really suck big hairy donkey balls.

Nah, I wouldn't change anything, because I am happy in the situation I am in today. I can honostly say that I'm happy with myself, and what I've become. If I took back things I said to some people, I don't believe I'd be here.

Laura.

Laura came to school one day wearing my sweatshirt (I'd let her borrow it that weekend). This was a sign to everyone in our high school "I like Troublebot and I want you to know it.

And I made her take it off.

Why? 'Cause I'm a moron. I liked her and had no idea how to tell her or express it. She gave me an opportunity and I pissed it away. Dope.

This is much funnier.

I'm at a party, fairly drunk, and I'm talking to this girl. Can't remember much of the conversation, but this phrase comes out of the haze.

"I'm a dancer."

Ok, that's cool.

"And I'm really flexable."

Wow. That should have sent off some red flags. In my drunk state I didn't recognize an obvious pick-up and kept talking at her till she walked away.

Unfortunately, I had friends nearby who saw the whole thing happen and haven't let me live it down yet.

Nope.

Sometimes I think that if I hadn't gone the route I went in days gone by, I wouldn't be with scapegoat now. As much as I thought the past sucked at other times in my life, at this point, I'm glad it went down that way.

I wouldn't have said, "I do."

Yeah, this one tall christian virgin I dated. I always respected her and never fucked her. She was scared so I never forced the issue because I actually cared about her. http://www.boomspeed.com/sixate/icon_rolleyes.gif A few times she got drunk and I could have fucked the shit out of her, but me being the nice respectful guy that I am I didn't do it. I wish I woulda tore that virgin pussy apart, then fucked her in her ass and come on her face!

I wold go back to a point in high school, with an entire surgery team, and implant some balls in myself. I missed out on what was probably the best opportunity I ever had, and it's because I was too shy and nervous to ask a girl out as she was grabbing my ass and smiling at me.

In high school, I became very rebellious after my parents got divorced. I stopped caring about school, my health, how I treated people, etc... I began smoking, doing drugs, drinking, and making many other mistakes I will never forget.
Although I like the person I have become and wouldn't be who I am if it weren't for my past...I often sit and wonder what my life would be like if I would have handled myself in a more mature fashion like my younger brother. He has always done well in school, never touched drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, or a woman. Except for him being a virign...I wish I would have been more like him. Sex is wonderful!

getting married at 18 was a tragic mistake for me - doh

When I was a senior in high school I really had feelings for a girl I knew, and I finally worked up the courage to ask her out. We had a nice evening, and when I took her home after the play we saw she invited me in to watch TV with her. It was around 11:00 at night, and I had a 45 minute drive ahead of me. Naturally, I was stupid and told her that I really had to get back home.

I never got another chance to ask her out. A little over a year later she married a guy that was bad to her, and by the time she was divorced from him I was already in another relationship. I still wonder what would have happened if I'd just gone in to watch TV with her at the end of the date instead of retreating like a scared kid.

I didn't realize just how truly horribly inept I am with girls until about a year ago. I was at a store with my roommate and this pretty good looking girl talked to me and was smiling the whole time and I didn't really think anything of it, and we went our separate ways. My roommate, who had about 6 girlfriends stashed across southern Colorado and northern New Mexico at once, saw this and said "what the hell were you doing? She was flirting with you all sick and you didn't even say anything? You couldn't even tell could You?" The sad thing is that I really couldn't, and as I have thought back over the past decade I have probably blown at least 30 chances with girls that were trying to flirt with me. Before that I wished that girls would make the move every now and then, and now I realize that they have done everything short of whipping my dick out and going to work on it to try to get me and I'm just too dumb to pick up on it.

I regret nothing from past relationships, because had things not worked out the way they did then a)I wouldn't have learned whatever lesson I did, and b)I wouldn't be with the girlie I'm with now.

crazybill5280, I've been through those same situations as you, and the way I look at it is it's their own damn fault for not coming out and being more obvious that they wanted me. If they want to be all coy and hope that you'll catch on to their flirting, then they can just forget hooking up with anyone. If a girl wants me, then she had better just come right out and say something. In other words, it's not you who is the dumbass, it's them.

i wish i screwed every cute chick that i didnt screw in college for whatever reason. i remember this one chick inviting me to sleep in her bed (we were already IN her room ON her bed) on TWO SEPERATE OCCASIONS and i left BOTH TIMES. why? cant say exactly. what a jackass I was. now i saw her like last year and she looks like shit, but i coulda had her in her prime.
if i had a nickel for every time i didnt wanna bang a chick for no particular reason even though i could have, i'd have like.... 35 cents.

Lisa, Danae, Kris, Anna

Four women in my life who have brought some pain to me,
and I might have brought pain to them.

I wish I could have handled the situations better.
Oh well, Wisdom through suffering.

But, I also don't regret having them be a part of my life.
C'est la vie.

I wish I had never got married, I was way too young.

There has been many things that I wish I could have taken back ... one which would have been to take school more seriously later in high school and college. I am now doing the schooling thing again - proper this time - at University and just hopw that it's never too late.

have two situations...

first situation is a simple one. i would've sent myself a pamphlet for the conservatory of recording arts and sciences while i was deciding what to do after high school... my whole damn family was pushing for college college college and i wasn't ready for that. if i had gone to the conservatory i'd be making fat wads of cash right now and doing something i enjoy.

the second one is a little more complex. one night i went out with a buddy to go mess around and we stopped for gas. while he was pumping i saw a purse sitting on the ground... picked it up and couldn't find any kind of id, so i decided to take it into teh store and some chick came up to me and told me it was hers. she asked where i got it and when i told her she told me that appparently she'd just been ditched by her blind date. i should've seen that as a big ugly red-flag, but i'm dumb so i didn't. instead i invited her to come along with my buddy and invited the biggest pile of trouble i'd ever seen into my life... if i had it to do all over again i would've just left that damn purse on the ground... wouldn't have even given it a second thought.

but what's life without mistakes?

Heh - Welcome to the club!
A lot of us have ex-fiancees.

I have a list of women for this thread with one simple answer - Run Away!

Met this beautifull girl at Train Station, she was constantly searching for eye contact but I looked away ( .)( .) all the time ... she sat in front of me in the train. I was reading my book, and she was coloring her lips and so ... you know how that goes, but I kept reading until the trained stopped, she stood right up ... looked at me .. hesitated a bit, waited a sec .. I looked back straight in the eyes ... but I don't know why I didn't had the guts to ask her number or even say something :-( ... now I probably never see her again ...

well I guess a lot of you have had something like that, but that's the only thing I came up with now, because it happend yesterday evening

I have another...

I was friends with this gril in high school. Not really close frieds - like a guy is with the girl he really really really likes but does not ever bring up the courage to braoch the subject - but friends.

Anyway we used to talk on the phone every saturday mornig while we were each still in bed. We flirted alot and we both would mention several times that I should go over to her house and followup on our flirting.

Not sure why I never did go over there. Most probably becuase I never had balls to initiate anything or follow up on anything girl related.
She was hot. She still is.
Man I am an idiot.
I bet that I can think of ten more stories like this one and the one earlier in the post.

Never would have said "Yes" to my ex-fiancee

id say that everyone would have a situation like this, either not reacting to something/someone or saying or doing something dumb that killed the 'moment'

The nicest girl I ever met in high school had a boyfriend so I never asked her out. She told me years later she would have dumped him if only I'd have asked her out. Oh well. The same situation repeated itself years later (different girl) and I did ask - we've been happily married for 12 yrs.

yes, yes there is a time i wish I could go back and do it differently. /me brings back bad bad memories

sure thing.
Getting married to the wrong person at age 18.
I'd undo that fiasco.

When my first girlfriend asks that we should see other people, I would put up a fight

I should've said "Yes I would stay."

That question used to cross my mind often. IMO it depends if your happy with who you are today. I see life like a sculpture: all the mistakes made, lessons learned, goals accomplished, pain, joy. While there is a part of my heart that will always be with "the one" I loved, I’m also equally excited about other realizations in different areas of my life such as my career. I wouldn’t be going in the direction I am if that pain would have not been experienced.

If I could go back to say the age of 5 with all the information and knowledge I have now; yeah.

No, not really.

I think everyone will most likely make some mistakes. I, much like many others, have made my share of mistakes. I put being real jerk to my x-girlfriend top on the list. I wish we we're on speaking terms, but I couldn't put things that were no more behind me.
Other mistakes include being drunk a girls bed in my boxers with a good looking girl I liked on top of me and telling her, and I quote, "we will always be friends." As a point of information I thought she was dating my buddy at the time, who was also at this party she had thrown. They in fact were not dating at the time because she was interested in me, but I know he was interested in her. Incidently they now have been together for well over a year, in some odd way I feel this is both a mistake and the right thing to have done for my buddy.
There are countless other errors, but mostly more minor.

yep.
i wish i didn't reply to my ex's last invitation.
emotional disaster.

There are many things that are tempting to change, but I am a product of all of these experiences, and wouldn't chance losing any of the good things in my life to eliminate any of the bad.

No, I don't. Because the fact is I would change everything. That would be ridiculous. I see everything I have ever done up to a few years ago as nothing but a series of big mistakes. I just let all of my mistakes go and move on.

Yeah! I'd hit it!

First, I would have nailed the girl I took to homecomming my senior year.

God I was stupid.

But there are many things I'd change. I would NOT have been drunk at a set up dance in college so I would have seen she was er 'larger' then I am attracted to while sober, and thats just one of the 'oopses'.

Life is about mistakes, and yea I made a few. Less then many I think, or at least not catistrophic, BUT its very easy to go back and think what I'd have done differenetly.

Currently I'm happy, but I'm sure in 20 years I'll look back and think 'damn I shouldn't have done THAT'.

I agree with this completely. You can't get hung up on hindsight. Everyone probably has something they 'might' do differently, but at the same time what would be the point?

I guess what I am trying to say that there is something you can learn from every experience you go through, and to wish one could go back in time and change a choice made would end up creating a person who never experienced life fully and freely.

Amen to That!! /I now applaud wildly/

I wish I'd had the guts to change the plan that seemed perfect.
Or to have been open & brave enough to share with the person I should have said "I do or I will, or let's please eachother forever and be married....to"

I wouldn't have married as quickly as we did.

I had a girl come on real strong in (cliche incoming) a big closet, at work.I kissed her back halfheartedly.

I wish I wouldn't have thought "oh shit, we're gonna get caught" and instead "holy shit, this is great."
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Hm, what else. Not too many regrets, then again, I've led a tame life. :)

I'd have talked to that girl on Tuesday when I had my chance. But hey, this coming Tuesday is my last chance to do it, after that I'll never run into her again.

I've made more than my share of mistakes. My friends will vouch that my love life has been a serious of the strangest, most horrible stories. But I tend to take that whole, let it be mentality. Sure, I've been through a lot of crap, but I'm happy now. The mistakes I've made are a part of who I am, and oddly enough, I like that guy.

I don't like to regret stuff. You can't change the past... why obsess over it?

I have some regrets...but actually most of them are things I wish I HADN'T done...like chase this one girl through highschool. It was pathetic, but everytime I thought I didn't have a chance anymore, she'd flirt with me, or say something that would get me hooked again.

I do regret not trying to date a couple girls in highschool...I was young and thought that being friends would just be easier, oh well.

Some years back a Uni friend of mine visited me from Australia and we went out for dinner and some drinks and I took her back to her place. We were really close friends before, we flirted with each other but never dated. Anyway, after dinner we sat on the couch and she had her legs over mine and we were chatting. After that, as I was leaving, she leaned over and kissed me on the lips. For some reason, I mumbled something silly like good nite and just went off. I think I got a bit uncomfortable having someone so close to my face.. kind of coming into my private zone. It would have been OK if I kissed back, but I guess it didn't hit me then that it could have been ok to do that. Stupid dumbass.. the next couple of days, I met up with her friends and they asked me "So, did anything happen to the both of you that night?" Hmm.. looks like she may have had it planned and had told her friends too. Maybe I woulda gotten lucky if only I responded a little bit and I didn't! Thing is, I've always wondered what it would have been like with her... stupid stupid stupid.

I guess we all learn as we go along.. several months back while I was clubbing with some friends, I met this girl who started coming on to me. Stood very close to my face while talking to me and this time, I held my ground and I turned around and our lips brushed and we kissed. We ended up for the next 30 mins all over each other in full view of my friends. It was really good cause we had just met and I found out that she was going overseas for many years soon, so I guess she had just wanted some fun. Would have wanted to see her again before she left, but the guy who came with her that night (was a friend of my friends) was really pissed off with me.

I guess I made up for my stupidity many years back. ;) You live and learn.

I would have had wild monkey sex with this girl (OK, her name was "Ashleigh") when I had the chance. I tried for years, got one shot at it and chickened out. Then her boyfriend went and killed himself, and there was no way she was going to let anyone in her pants after that.

There was this girl...back in High School that I dated for like 2 and a half years. (ok, ok...her name was Alicia) We were "IN Love", and everyhting was cool for the longest time. Then suddenly, I became this insane jerk-off that was always pissed at her for something. I really treated her like crap...there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about her and what could have been...this was almost 7 years ago now. Sometimes, it's just really hard to let the good ones go.