Is it worth losing a friend?
 

Something happened to a friend of mine and his family. The specifics aren't important but it was a prank played in extremely poor taste.

My friend is one of my best friends for over a decade, and yet for some reason he assumed I was behind the prank.
I have been known to be an asshole (My mom said I could be whatever I wanted and that's what I chose) so while I was surprised, it didn't bother me that I was his primary suspect.

The prank came to light over the weekend and when he told me about it and I denied it he said okay if you say it wasn't you it wasn't you.

Later he RSVP'd no to my birthday party this weekend with the reason being "I don't trust you".

We spoke and I told him to his face it wasn't me. He told me to my face he didn't believe me.

Because his friendship means more to me than my pride I sent him an email with "proof" of my innocence and offered another way he could see for himself. He hasn't replied.

I will admit to being a lot of things but the one thing (the ONLY thing) I am not, is a liar.

I don't mind (too much) that he thought i was the prankster but I'm so offended / hurt / angry (insert random bad emotion here) over not trusting me and calling me a liar that I'm just about ready and willing to tell him to to Fuck off.

Discuss...?

I assume whatever the prank is upset him and you have stated you are a reasonable suspect. I would let it rest for a few days until things cool off, before trying to communicate. When things are said in the heat of the moment people get embarrassed by what they said and need time for the truth to sink in.

In a week I would reach out to him in some small manner, so he does not think you are upset. It may be best for the relationship to not bring this topic up for a bit.

I wouldn't give up on a friend for this. Unless the real culprit comes to light, he may never trust you. But he might. It comes off as highly abnormal that he would RSVP to your birthday party with such a remark. Sounds like you're not being sympathetic to how very much he was hurt by this prank. Perhaps you can convince whoever really did it to come forward, for the sake of your friendship.

i say if he wants to turn down a birthday invitation and act like a 9 year old because someone else pranked you, fuck im. you didn't do anything wrong so why should you have to kiss even a little bit ass for something you didn't even do? you told him you didn't do it, if he's not down for cone-shaped party hats, ice cream, pinatas, and alcohol, his loss dude, not yours; you did nothing wrong.