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Parent says NO! to Kindergarten Thanksgiving Costumes because it's "demeaning"
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I do understand the framing of the jews breaking bread with nazis.... but the Pilgrims and Indians? How we teach kids? What about by EXAMPLE? We teach kids the wrong examples all the time, and we think that the children don't know or aren't paying attention. This is one of the many reasons, I'm not having kids, too many fucking other morons out here telling me how to live and raise my kids. |
The situation doesn't really bother me either way. Have the event, don't have the event. None of the people quoted on either side seem like morons to me.
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I always thought the cardboard headband and feather did look silly and I always felt goofy when I had to wear it, but that's just me.
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well, see, she's right.
whether being right about this extends to a rationale for trying to stop this silly dress-up day is another matter. but at the core of things, raheja is right. i'd be cool with a political storm over this that functioned to shift how this ritual was framed for the students--that there is something really quite bizarre about this tradition, about the narrative. basically the problem is straightforward: the europeans were directly and indirectly responsible for the eradication of the native-american population. for example, between about 1617 and 1621, european diseases had killed somewhere between 70-90% of the native american population in new england, varying by region. for the pilgrims, this havoc could have been understood as an aspect of Providence, the kind of thing god does when he likes a population of chosen-types. for the native americans, i would expect that the story was....um......not quite the same. this is one of those ugly historical realities that does not disappear between charades involving little kids. you could say "WHADDYA TALKING ABOUT THIS IS THANKSGIVING FOR FUCKS SAKE LEAVE IT ALONE" but that just raises the same problem in spades. this is the history that this holiday pantomimes, that it sanitizes...but the event being commemorated was also that which was understood by william bradford (whose account of plymouth is its source)...but bradford's is a strange strange paranoid little book---i suppose the kiddies could read bradford and start getting a sense of just how fucking bizarre these people were, how self-consumed they were, how paranoid, particularly about the native americans, who quickly became sex-devils in the pilgrim collective imaginary. i dunno---i don't personally see any situation in which being oblivious is something to protect, in which wholesale revision of the past is something to be proud of, in which avoidance of the centrality of massacre to the making of this america which is defined in part by it's wholesale inability to even start to face the realities, such as we know them, that are effaced behind such happy-face rituals as thanksgiving. but the holiday is also about having survived in a fucked up and unexpected context for a year, about the unexpected kindness of others, about the power of banding together... it's both. face it. there's no amount of snippiness that changes any of it. that said----again---- i don't care if the kids dress up as idiotic stereotypes today or tomorrow. i just think they should know what they're doing. |
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For the kids it's a harmless dress-up occasion where they can have a little fun; On the other hand, if you put the clichés and stereotypes into these children early enough, they become ingrained and hard to get rid off in their own PoV later on. Not saying this one is the worst possible stereotype there is, but the principle is the same. Personally I wouldn't have a problem with it, but I can see where they're coming from. I don't see how they're telling other people how to raise their kids though Cynthetiq. It's taking an active role in raising your own kids at least. And if they didn't, somebody would say "where the fuck are the parents? Why does the school have to decide this for them? Get involved in your own kids' lives!" |
I like the idea of teaching children about perseverance and cooperation between groups. However, I do think that the standard representation of Thanksgiving portrayed to children is a bit disconnected from reality.
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Children dressing up as pilgrims and Native Americans, and re-enacting their historical coming together peacefully and sharing a feast? What's wrong with that? How does that convey any kind of wrong message to the children involved? Now, children dressing up as 19th Century U.S. Calvary and Native Americans, and re-encacting the Massacre at Wounded Knee or the Battle of Little Bighorn – that I can see people having a problem with.
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On a seriousness scale of 1-5, with one being top priority, I'd give this a 7.
These kids are in kindergarten. How deep do they think these kids should get into the true history of the holiday? If this was a high school production they were rallying about, I might see their point but this is kindergarten fer crying out loud. Let the kids have some fun learning about the holiday. They still have many years of education ahead of them to learn the correct history. |
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this is like a movie, then. you can include or exclude whatever you like to reinforce your ready-made position. like the dress-up? leave out everything that makes it a problem. find it suspect? include things that make it a problem. the "historical facts" include context, though. if you leave out context, you're trafficking in fantasy. so let's not pretend that isolating the dinner as recounted by bradford in "of plymouth plantation" is a "matter of historical fact" on it's own. that'd be like saying your winter hat says everything about you, no need to see or do or think about anything else because we have the winter hat.
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I just wish they'd teach the real history of Thanksgiving, namely that the pilgrims' socialism is primarily to blame for their need to rely on Indians for their food.
No. Not really. I don't care either way. Seems like whatever this community decides to do is up to them. Cynthetiq, I thought that you didn't want kids because you hate kids. |
*has Adam's Family Values flashback*
I'd be a lot happier if our children weren't taught the Disney version of history. There are plenty of things in American history to be proud of, just not the Native American genocide. That gets put in the "devastating embarrassment and regret" pile. If kids want to get dressed up on Thanksgiving, let it be in celebration of the wonderful things that we have. Let them express thankfulness for liberty (who doesn't want to dress up as Honest Abe or Thomas "Red" Jefferson?). Let them express thankfulness for an economy strong enough that they can have a feast (we can all dress up as turkeys). |
Just make sure this doesn't stop me from having my four-day weekend.
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First the porn teacher aide, now thanksgiving. I HATE parents.
Really. What the fuck is wrong with american people? Every year its like someone is upset or offended with another holiday. Its like these people as kids had a miserable holiday cause daddy was drunk and mommy was fighting and uncle bill touched them in the bathroom and now they hate the holiday and want to be offended by it and stop it or something. I'm gonna start claiming i'm canadian. |
One more thing to sacrifice on the altar of political correctness. Where does it stop?
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fine points, gentlemen.
raheja, a native american person who teaches native american literature and who is also a parent, should stop being such a drag---suck it up, accept the white fantasy origin-myth of what ended up a genocide, and move on. nothing to see here folks. i mean, it's a public holiday for christ's sake and none of them has anything to do with history--the fourth of july--nothing to do with history; memorial day--nothing to do with history. it's a holiday---you know, a moment that enables us all to gather together and thank the kind of god that obviously endorsed genocide, since so much of it was carried out in his name, for the fact that on the bones of these folk a different country grew up, one that didn't loose a war and so can pretend to itself that genocide never happened. but most of all, we can give thanks that we weren't native american. who could have a problem with that? only a party-pooper. sheesh, this stuff continues and people might get the sense that what they've been taught is a little fucked up. wouldn't want that would we. |
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I'm more worried about the parents who send the kids to dress up days dressed as a teenage mutant ninja turtle or wags the dog. Don't these people realise how stupid their children look? Somebody think of the children!!!!
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It always strikes me that the people who express moral outrage at the PC-ification of America have a great deal in common with the forces who seek to PC-ify America. In any case if "tradition" is the only justification you can cough up for a particular activity, it probably isn't all the valuable an activity any way. |
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i grew up with the "traditional' thanksgiving where i learned the pilgrims and their big hats and belt buckle shoes were taught by the indians that planting a fish with your corn makes the corn grow, and they all loved each other and had pumpkin pie. of course that isnt reality. but the fake happy tahnksging rammed down my kinderarten gullet didn't keep me from realizing the truth as i got older. so let the kids have fun. there is plenty of time for the kids to learn that humans treat other humans like shit. why ruin it for them when they are young? i bet the israeli kids and palestinan kids wouldnt grow up to hate each other if they had some disneyland fantasy taught to them. |
Good grief, people, they're FIVE YEARS OLD!
How many kids start out reading Tolstoy? None. See Spot. See Spot be PC. In the 13 years of public education they'll be receiving, they'll get the "true history". In the meantime, give them a little fun time, some dress up and food and find something a bit more meaningful to debate. I would agree that the woman making all the fuss is being elitist. They're not college kids putting on a insulting play....they're freaking 5 year old babies. |
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While I agree about the fun time, there are plenty of other fun activities to be done around Thanksgiving that don't focus on incorrect history. The kids could make hand turkeys or make a piece of art focused around the idea of gratitude. That's what we did in the nursery where I work. |
I found my public education to be rather devoid of the "true history" of a lot of things. Not the Native American genocide, black civil rights, the suffragist movement, the chicano civil rights movement, the LGBT movement, Vietnam, WWII... Hell, I hadn't even heard about some of those until I started my college education.
I'm all for parents speaking out against the bullshit and propaganda that's used to indoctrinate their children. |
Education shouldn't be just fun and games. It should also be...well...educating.
Five-year-olds aren't just dress-up dolls. They remember things. |
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While we are at it, lets just tell them the truth about Santa and the Easter Bunny. |
I agree with Snowy... nobody is saying take away "the fun". What is being said here is why perpetuate a false stereotype? There are many fun things that can come out of Thanksgiving that don't involve falsification of history (nobody at Plymouth wore those freakin' hats and buckles by the way... it was used by the painter who came up with the traditional image because he thought it looked old-fashioned).
The idea behind Thanksgiving is a powerful one. |
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Of course, maybe I assume too much. You didn't say that none of those things had been taught, just that you hadn't heard them. |
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So wait - teaching kids a historical fallacy where people get together and not fight is bad. (Pictures some beauty pageant contestant wishing for world peace). Yet violence in not the answer? What would you have them do in lieu of cooperating and not fighting? I can see the script now for a 5 year old dressed up as a native scalping his cowboy garbed classmate... Wait wasn't this like an episode of south park?
Besides, the whole thing turned into a fantastic marketing arm for any company that sells Turkey... |
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i'm not going to waste my time outlining rudimentary history and worrying the question of what is and is not genocide in a thread about a bunch of 5 year olds dressing up like pilgrims.
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Here's a thought: Kids don't care. At 5 years old, kids will do whatever you tell them for whatever fucking reason you give. You could dress them up as zombies and humans and tell them that they're celebrating the truce that ended the Great Zombie War and it would have the same effect on them. It might probably be just about as accurate a reflection of reality. I think its interesting how quick folks are to overreact to something like this, especially since their main complaint is that the something is an overreaction. "I just hate it when people make such a fuss about insignificant things so badly that I will make a big fuss every time somebody makes a fuss about something I consider insignificant." |
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If it were my child's school, I would save my chips for a bigger battle.
But at the same time, I find it a bit narrow-minded when some can only respond with shouts of "here they go again with forcing their political correctness on us!" when they are confronted with something that bucks the status quo. IMO, sincere attempts by some parents to end what they consider to be the perpetuation of fables as history, including false and often degrading stereotypes, are not PC. What is so bad about suggesting that schools teach (not just with books and lesson plans, but with such tools as skits, costumes, and other interactive means) in a manner that is HC (historically correct)? |
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Still, I hold my stance on this issue. |
The "oh cry me a river" issue? Don't you feel that what happened to the people native to North America was unjust? And who does it serve ignoring that part of our (our meaning the United States, not your family) history?
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I believe that the generation that is responsible for a great misdeed, is likewise the generation that should be held responsbile for apologizing and for making reparations for it, e.g. the Germans of WWII. If not that generation, then maybe the next generation after it – but that's as far as it should possibly go. After that, the statute of limitations, so the speak, has run out. If an apology and reparations haven't been made by that time, then it's too late. It will just have to go down in the books as yet another unatoned atrocity in human history. |
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If you're not sure what I'm talking about, watch this: Hulu - 30 Days: Life on an Indian Reservation - Watch the full episode now. |
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As for the bleeding hearts, the politically correct, and those with a huge, generations-long chip on their shoulder: Quit using Thanksgiving as an annual opportunity to get up on a soapbox and admonish the "white man" for his atrocities against Native Americans, which took place generations upon generations ago. Face it, we're all human beings, and thus we're all – no matter our race, religion, creed, or whatever – capable of committing atrocities, if put in to the "right" environment and subjected to the "right" conditions. |
you know, this conservative "i'm not responsible for the past, even though i benefit from it" line is really tedious. everything about your line of defense, cyno, is tedious--nothing more, nothing less. the only interesting thing about it is the extent to which benefiting from the past becomes part of the landscape, something for which you need accept no responsibility at all. whatever: it's boring.
my actual position on this question was in my first post to the thread. the holiday is double. it is necessarily double. if you had read the thread, or if you were smarter in how you played the game of debate, you would have gone to that point and pushed at it. but you didn't--instead you preferred to play the victim role. you don't know shit about the past, it comes up, you're the victim. you, and not the people being referenced---you are the ultimate victim of all this. poor you, having to maybe think about the historical reference point around which this holiday is built. poor you. cry me a river indeed. i'll catch you in another thread. done here. |
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Too many people are constantly looking for ways to point out how evil the white man is. If they're not pointing this out, they're trying to find a reason to take offense at any little thing that could even be remotely related to their pet causes.
I'm all about questioning our institutions and ways of doing things, but you have to draw a line at some point. Taking offense to the behavior of 5 year olds around Thanksgiving is a bit of a stretch. I can't help but to think "soccer mom" and "I've got too much time on my hands, so I'm going to inflict my socialist sociology teacher's half-brained and emotionally-driven rants on whoever will listen." |
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A mother questioned the policy of the school to perpetuate a fable rather than use the opportunity to educate the 5 year olds about a national holiday on a more factual level. Why cant adults have reasonable discussions about her concerns without raising the "PC boogeyman" or "socialist sociology teacher's half-brained and emotionally driven rant." Who is really doing the ranting? timalkin.....How does socialism come into play here? |
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The fact that you think this has anything to do with socialism just makes you even more ridiculous. Speaking of half-brained emotionally driven rants, check out anyone in this thread who has complained about the school's decision to have the kids not wear costumes. |
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Let me realign your comments, mrklixx:
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Preparing left over Thanksgiving turkey and awaiting the annual red alert from the right that the next battle is imminent:
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I just thought it odd that you would choose to focus on what I had said instead of what timalkin had said, especially when timalkin said what he said first. He "brought it there" as they say. I thought that someone whose outrage was as searing and bright as yours would focus his rage on everybody who had acted in the way that had ostensibly caused his anger. I see where you're going, though. I'll send you pictures if I ever dress my kids up as a stereotypical soldiers in the war for Thanksgiving. After you settle down, perhaps we can get together to express our pure and searing outrage at the fact that other people express their outrage. |
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I don't know where you, or Tully, or anybody else got "rage" out of my posts. I didn't call anybody names. I didn't swear. I didn't make sweeping generalizations about a group of people. What I did do was concisely, and 100% factually show that it was you who first mentioned socialism. Then I pointed out that I can agree with part of what someone says, without agreeing with everything they say. So there's no "settling down" to be done since I was not unsettled. |
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Point of clarification- My attempted intervention wasn't aimed at any one member. I read through the thread and it seemed to me that many on this thread were writing long letters on short pieces of paper. |
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I was the first person to mention socialism, but it was in a completely different context. I brought up socialism to mock people who bring up socialism under ridiculous pretenses, and lo and behold, timalkin obliges me by bringing up socialism under a ridiculous pretense. I responded by again mocking him for bringing up socialism under a ridiculous pretense (you apparently agree with the ridiculousness). So you were 100% factually correct that I was the first to bring up socialism. Congratulations. You were also apparently 100% factually unable to place the significance or context of my use of the word socialism. As for "sweeping generalizations," when I see a nuanced argument in favor of keeping the costumes, one that isn't solely based on the assumptions that tradition is automatically in and of itself valid, or one that isn't based on vapid appeals to the innocence of children I'll rescind my "sweeping generalizations". Until then, you can cry foul all you want about my "sweeping generalizations"-- it don't matter to me. |
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Woah, I thought Thanksgiving was a (even though it may have been a short time, because wars soon followed it) time when Indians and Colonists got along...
How would it be bad to have children dress up as Indians to celebrate that time of cooperation? It's not like the schools are having the Indians do war calls and hold tomahawks and do massive raids and slaughters on stage... That would be bad. |
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Hmmm,...it's not ok to dress your kid up as a pilgrim and try to leave an impression of a Thanksgiving tradition but it's ok to put Prop 8 buttons on other 5 year olds. Something is not right here Lucie!!
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I hope in the future, kindergarten kids are forced to dress up like Roachboay, Will, filtherton, cyno, Mrklixx, and everyone else, and re-enact this thread.
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My kids will be dressed as animals this year :)
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Wish I had more time to get into this (or maybe not, heh), but I just wanted to add that when I taught US History to 11th graders and actually DID use bits from Zinn and others, emphasizing as much of the "true history" as I was aware of, myself... I was accused of being (at various times) a communist, a socialist, a democrat (haha), and someone who hated the US. Straight from the parents' mouth, to be sure.
I'll never forget when one 17 year old girl looked up at me, frowning, after I taught about the shit that went down during the whole Panama Canal acquisition/construction, and said, "You're making me feel like America did a lot of bad stuff." Now, you cry ME a fucking river. This was in spring 2003... not that they gave a shit about the Iraq war starting, either. |
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Generation have been spoon fed a sanitized version of US history. I find it odd how upset people get when they hear anything even remotely negative regarding our past. Well guess what? We really did hand out disease ridden blanket to the indigenous population. But we only did that when it turned out shooting them was costing us too many lives. We really did lock up all the American citizens who happened to have Japanese genes. Probably all of the signers of the Declaration of Independence owned slaves. We've started/supported wars in 3rd world countries just to get a better deal on banana's (might be some sugar cane and tobacco in there too.) People want the "we are the great, always have been, never did anything wrong" BS. Why? I have no idea. I do know recently I watched a show on George Washington's family farm and after a lot of digging and searching they concluded there never was any fucking cherry tree. Well that's not what my 8th grade US history book told me. The list of crap we've done wrong is probably equally long as the list of shit we did right. I'd hope we could learn from our mistakes, if we keep denying them i hold out little hope. |
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However, I've heard that rant so much, it's almost becoming a cliché. Take some Kanchou chill pills, man. |
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It bothered me at a very deep level that the students I was teaching did not care to learn what was true. They wanted to "feel good" about their country--they did not want their dreamworld patriotism to be messed with, not even when that unquestioning patriotism witnessed thousands of young men and women of their own age marching off to a foreign war and getting blown up, or not getting blown up but coming home with PTSD and all kinds of other life-changing ailments. They wanted to remain blind, and believe all that was good about America (e.g. WWII)... and covered their eyes and ears when I would show slides of what America had done in other places, accusing me of making things up, that their nation couldn't possibly be guilty of doing anything wrong, ever. It was fundamentally disturbing, as a teacher, to face that kind of reaction in a classroom... and to know that the parents who were reinforcing those beliefs on the other side, were a brick wall that I could only bang my head against. Sometimes though, very rarely, I contemplate going back to teach US History and fighting that massive brick wall in American public education. Sometimes I think it's the most responsible thing that I could be doing with my time (particularly since I already have the qualifications for it, so I could step right back into it with my teaching certificate and advanced degree). But sometimes I don't want to think about facing that wall again... it all feels so pointless at times. It's the same feeling I get around here sometimes. |
sometimes it seems that ignorance is understood in the states as a fundamental human right. you could say that the states finds itself in the trouble it's currently experiencing in part because the ideological backdrop against which arguments concerning the world gets formulated is rigid, one-dimensional and naturalized. the way "history" is presented in public school is of a piece with the larger tendency to conflate existing political arrangements with nature--it's where the logic gets rehearsed.
fantasy is seamless: it follows that folk would prefer it. but maybe relativizing the past. dealing with ambiguity and/or problems, is a privilege of fading empire. we'll soon find out. |
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In the end it may work out for what's left of the tribal population in the US. They seem to be winning back the county one hand of black jack at a time. |
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I can't let myself believe that the whole system is so fucked up that everyone with a brain and a conscience should abandon it. There has to be something salvageable there... not all of the kids/parents are so reprehensible (I sure did get a lot of kids interested in Iceland back then, hahaha!). A few of them do like to learn. I think what frustrated me is that I had mostly the screw-up kids (as a first year teacher), while a lot of other teachers jockeyed to get AP and Honors kids, etc... and those were the ones who really cared, and whose parents encouraged them to learn the truth, etc. I don't know how fair those divisions are, but I do know that there was a marked difference between the average kid I was teaching, and the average kid that my neighbor teachers had, who would join Model UN and Science Olympiad and all the rest. I just didn't know how to bridge the gap. If I did go back, I would be afraid of losing my job at times, but I would also feel like it was my responsibility to teach the truth... and if my head rolls as a result, then so be it. I'd move on. But it doesn't mean we shouldn't stop fighting the good fight... or does it??!! Gaah, I still have one year left of my idealistic 20s, can you tell? :p -----Added 4/12/2008 at 09 : 51 : 13----- Quote:
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It's not just an American thing either. I spent six months living in Japan. The version of WWII and it's causes they learn differ from that taught in US schools by a shocking margin. I had a conversation one day with a friend I met there. He knew Japan had troops in China, but thought it was mainly to keep the Chinese from invading Japan. So you invaded another country to keep them from invading you? Why does that sound familiar? I didn't ask him what he knew about how the Japanese treated POW's. |
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