Should I tell my wife?
 

About TFP? I am addicted, and I was thinking of introducing her to it. But it is kind of nice to have a hang out that she doesn't know about! :D

it depends on if you want to have a secret place all your own that you can go to, or if you want to share something you really enjoy with her and have her be a part of it...just remember, once she is aware of it, you can't undo it....

How do you know that she's not here already?

:D

Oh, honey, thanks for last night, it was grrrrrreat :D best 5 minutes ever :D

I wish 5 minutes!! :D

I think it would be cool to share a board. I am kind of jealous when posters talk about their SO that also post. And I can undo it, it's called PIMP HAND!!

(Just kidding honey, please don't kill me)

...and we never heard from WarMoney again... :lol:

< edit > This would have been funnier if WarMonkey didn't post while I was typing... :grumpy:

The more the merrier!

Don't do it, man!

My wife Skogafoss knows about TFP, she's got no interest in posting here as she's busy doing other things. People know who she is here, some even met her IRL.

Those that have know which is the more personable of the two... :D

My wife knows TFP exists but has never logged on. She's not really into boards.

My wife does have an account. She used to lurk a bit on the ladies lounge, but I don't think shes logged on in a couple of years.

My wife does not know that I post here, and I doubt I will tell her. She would probably crucify me for some of the stuff I've posted about her, not to mention the Titty Board vsists. :eek:

I show my wife the more interesting ones ;)

my mrs isnt into boards either. she knows about tfp.. she knows it as "the website with the green background"

ive shown her some threads after she got curious as to why i frequent the site. i also mention stuff that i learn from this place oddly enough and she asks me how i found out...

if TFP is in you and your into TFP, chances are that she knows already!

but as squeeb said.. once u introduce her theres no going back. i kinda enjoy the anonymity of it all knowing that she doesnt check my threads every day. so it depends on what you're comfortable with.

Same with my SO. I guess he once went so far as to actually look at the site and think about creating an account, but alas. He doesn't care much for forums, and the only one he does frequent is his WoW guild forum. But he doesn't mind coming to meetups with me, and likes to hear stories about TFPers he knows. Generally, if I know your first name, where you live, and what you do--he does too. :) But then a lot of people around here know about him too! :)

He respects that TFP is my space. I appreciate that. You have to figure out if TFP is your space, and if you're willing to share it.

Sharing TFP with your wife!? Oh, hell no!

Hell, why don't ya just share your mistress, too!?

I told my wife 4 yeas ago, she don't care.

I signed my wife up for an account back when I thought we might be meeting Ratbastid and Lurkette on a flythrough (it was the wrong airport, though). She looked around once, but she programs databases for a living, so she doesn't want to look at a computer when she gets home.

sure, have her sign up, but just don't tell her your user name......

Nope, no way. I like being able to rant and get unbiased opinions about things that occur within the marriage. It provides me balance IRL. This is my peace of mind, my shrink, and my little refuge, and I'm not giving it up.

My Wife half teases my by calling the TFP my "Internet Girlfriend". She's not really interested in having an online presence or even snoopy so I get the place to myself. I honestly I prefer it that way, even though I don't vent about her or anything.

It would be a bit like working together. It's more fun to report the interesting travails to her than live through them together.

If you think you'll benefit from exploring posted issues here and shaping your relationship based on the interactions here, then go ahead, but you'll have to be prepared to accept the new openness.

My soon-to-be-ex-wife experienced only jealousy over the Tilted Forum.

Guess who won?

You must share.

My wife knows about the board, and has looked at some posts, but doesn't log in.

I don't think she's too interested - she has other boards that she uses.

I think that the truth of it is that neither of us would actively encourage the other to join "our" group, but neither would we ban the other from looking.

It's one of those "don't ask, don't tell" things... ;)

I don't go on Mrs. Hat's Weightwatchers boards, she doesn't got here.

On the one hand, if you have nothing to hide, sure.
On the other, I did, hid it here, spouse found it, not a good thing.
Now he believes ignorance is bliss and we're both happier for it.

I showed TFP to my wife (then girlfriend) a few years ago. I think she posts occasionally :D

Actually, I think the answer is both. Tell her, tell her why you like it here, and then honestly say that right now, you rather enjoy having a private space. Let her see some of your current posts if you wish - sort of the "not needing private space to HIDE but to have some plain ol' privacy" idea.

Quadro introduced me after he'd been on here a while, and now I post more than he does. We both have met several TFP ppl in real life, and share a lot of things anyway, so it didn't matter so much. Mind you, this means I can never post about that time in Mexico that I... *gasp* I've said too much!!

:D

Well, that's one more thing we have in common, Jess... ;)

Yeah, ktspktsp intro'd me several years ago, and I fell head-over-heels right away. TFP has pretty much been a part of our daily lives ever since... and that's a good thing. It's one of our favorite communities, and it moves with us, wherever in the world we go. :D

I met my lady online and gave her my TFP account info so she would have more information about this cyber space fellow she was interacting about. Madli signed up, but used my account for reading any forums of interest because I had more access. She frankly has zero interest in posting herself, but she does find different threads interesting. She has asked if I was going to post about different things or raise the occassional question here at TFP, but really has little time and energy for the boards due to her demanding RL position. I am perfectly fine with her sitting on my shoulder here. It would be nice if she generated her own input, but I perfectly understand why she stays at a remove.

I like that my wife (TotalMILF) hangs out here sometimes. She goes through post spurts, but she still checks stuff out now and then even when she isn't posting. It's good to share! ;)

I feel so young, everyone here is talking about their wives....honestly it feels good to be one of the "young ones" again. Other message boards I'm on I tend to be one of the older folks lol

I've shared a forum with a lady friend, and it didn't go so well....

-Will

Well, about four years ago when Healer first started working he used to talk about TFP all the time...He may have been a member long before we started dating but i don't know that.

but ya...he always told me to check it out and stuff but i never really did cos i used to like it when he came over and talked about the stuff he learned here and we had conversations and debated the various subjects.

However now, it's alot better. We still talk and debate but it is just soooooooo much better :)

I think he still thinks of TFP as he's place where he can just come and relax after a hard days work or just he's place to browse through when he's got nothing to do at work :)

anyways, i think what i'm trying to say is that it's all up to you.

i mean, i think TFP is my place too and when healer upsets me or irritates me or annoys me i'll just come let go in here. and i dont really care if he sees it :) all the more fun to talk and debate :D

always ends up in some gooooooooooood make up sessions :D

I've shared it with an ex before, and I wouldn't do it again...only because you keep worrying they are reading what you wrote, and then you feel like there's certain things you can't write because they'd be offended/ don't know about and you didn't tell them...so then you end up not having theoption of getting TFP feedback/ support when you have an issue you'd like to discuss, because you feel exposed.

It's a great place, but I keep it to myself mostly - particularly with a boyfriend.

I wouldn't tell my S.O. about this site, even if I had an S.O.

basically, I just feel like I get too much advice about relationships and sometimes I have to be brutally honest about my interactions and how it makes me feel, and I think if the person read nothing but the negatives I posted they would think that there were no positives and probably become upset instead of seeing the balance.

forget about it, let her find her own place to play

my old lady likes to chat in this bride site, and we have been married for 2.5 yrs.

Bride site? Creepy! :)

Keeps her occupied, I bet!