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Macros · 06-03-2007, 09:38 PM

Me n my girlfriend are always fighting about flirting and arealways in arguements and tiffs about because it really gets to me. We both have plenty of friends from the opposite sex and we agree on that plus we both flirt but I think my flirting is different to hers, I just think shes going to cheat on me or do bad on me, shes kinda done this before but we werent actually a couple but had there was a mutual understanding of what was going on.. so am I being over paranoid? should I just get the fuck over it and enjoy or what? thanks for any advice.

The_Jazz · 06-04-2007, 04:46 AM

Are you paranoid or do you just have a double standard?

Knowing more about the actual situation, like ages, what happened in the past and exactly why you think your flirting is different would be quite helpful.

AJ13 · 06-04-2007, 03:58 PM

How long have you been dating?

IMHO, if you've been going out for a long time, and you don't trust her with people, you need to seriously evaluate your relationship and have a nice long talk. Not break it off, mind you, but it may end up that way.

If you've only been dating for a little while, it not a huge deal then, it's just going to take some time to build up the trust issue.

That's my advice, take it or leave it.

noodlebee · 06-04-2007, 04:15 PM

Have you already told her what you told us in your first post? I think she should know what you are feeling about your relationship and why. If you talk to her in a rational manner, maybe she can explain, think of a compromise or agree on rules of what is or isn't OK.

06-03-2007, 09:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
Macros Upright	Over paranoid? Me n my girlfriend are always fighting about flirting and arealways in arguements and tiffs about because it really gets to me. We both have plenty of friends from the opposite sex and we agree on that plus we both flirt but I think my flirting is different to hers, I just think shes going to cheat on me or do bad on me, shes kinda done this before but we werent actually a couple but had there was a mutual understanding of what was going on.. so am I being over paranoid? should I just get the fuck over it and enjoy or what? thanks for any advice.

06-04-2007, 04:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
The_Jazz Asshole Administrator Location: Chicago	Are you paranoid or do you just have a double standard? Knowing more about the actual situation, like ages, what happened in the past and exactly why you think your flirting is different would be quite helpful. __________________ "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." - B. Franklin "There ought to be limits to freedom." - George W. Bush "We have met the enemy and he is us." - Pogo

06-04-2007, 03:58 PM	#3 (permalink)
AJ13 Banned Location: Manhattan, Kansas	How long have you been dating? IMHO, if you've been going out for a long time, and you don't trust her with people, you need to seriously evaluate your relationship and have a nice long talk. Not break it off, mind you, but it may end up that way. If you've only been dating for a little while, it not a huge deal then, it's just going to take some time to build up the trust issue. That's my advice, take it or leave it.

06-04-2007, 04:15 PM	#4 (permalink)
noodlebee Crazy Location: Canada	Have you already told her what you told us in your first post? I think she should know what you are feeling about your relationship and why. If you talk to her in a rational manner, maybe she can explain, think of a compromise or agree on rules of what is or isn't OK.