Rings piss me off..
 

Do rings piss anyone else off?

These three ladies at work were yammering on and on and on about this girl's ring, and how it was so pretty, and it was antique.. and like omg it's platinum and it's 1932 yw something something...

And I had to hold back the vomit. I fuckin' hate rings. Who came up with this idea anyway? It's a god damn rock on a piece of metal, and it's expensive as shit. I buy things becuase they're practical and useful, not becuase they're tiny and ugly.

Anyone else hate rings as much as I do?

I love them, probably almost as much as you hate them. I do, however, hate the whole 'engagement ring' thing. Would you believe another forum-for women-has a huge thread about what to do when he doesn't propose???? And when I stated that if they want it that badly, they should do the proposing....well, you'd thought I'd called them nasty names...
I have a LOT of rings, one or two are very meaningful to me and they don't have stones, aren't gold, platinum, etc. I, however, can't wear any of them to work.
I have rings from trips I took as a teen, still have my highschool ring, I have rings given to me by friends-each has a memory or story(and one even has a not-so-good story). And that, to me, is what anything like rings should be-a reminder of something special.

I love them too. It's fun to adorn your body with special things that appeal to you. Humans have been doing it for thousands of years....count me in! :love:

I wouldn't pay big$$ for a brand new one though.

I have two rings that I wear all the time (except during heavy manual work, when I thread them on a chain for safety - of my fingers, rather than of the rings).

I have a titanium/platinum/diamond wedding band that my wife bought me, and on the opposite hand I have a simiar (but not matching) titanium/platinum band that she gave me when I gave her an engagement ring.

For the record, I proposed to her.

She was so excited that she jumped out of bed! ;)

Well, not all rings are those "platinum 5 carat OMG he spent 8 months salary on it!!!!!!!!!!!"... my husband has a tungsten-carbide wedding band that I find very sexy on him, and it's pretty plain. I bought it for him because he liked it, not because he was forced to wear it. It means something to the two of us.

He also got me rings that I picked out AFTER we got engaged (he asked me, with a $13 Target ring that rocked), and I have never brought up the topic of my rings with anyone... but you wouldn't believe how many women AND men will make some comment or ask about it, how much it cost, etc. People will just grab my hand and start cooing or asking questions, and I'm like... get away from me!

So yes, I agree that I dislike other people's *attitudes* about rings, but that doesn't make me hateful and bitter about all rings as a result. They are nice, meaningful things for a lot of people.

I agree that the amount of money people spend on rings is ridiculous, but I certainly don't loathe them. I like the idea of a simple band as a symbol of marriage. No diamonds or other stones, just a circle of metal.

I only hate them for the money value. Girls freak out over little shiny rocks. it's sick. i can get a quarts or glass stone for 20$ and I wouldnt be able to tell the diffrence... if i could find a ring that my gf would wear for 20$, i would. stainless steel? absolutely! I will not buy her a diamond ring and she knows this. I'd rather take the money and buy a TV or a Car. something we'll use.

And for myself, i don't want to wear one unless it's EXTREMELY valuable. (wedding ring or dead relative ring.)

I have a ring on every finger.


I like being flashy.

I bought my girl a clear plastic sno-globe engagement ring. She loves it.

So nothing fashionable or frivolous is ever purchased by you?

I really hope you are still enjoying your Atari games system and that your clothes made of sack cloth, while extremely practical, do not chafe your ass too much.

lol charlatan

i also hate jewelery. i dont wear watches, rings, necklaces, bracelets, anklets etc. they just 'get in the way' of everyday things. watches get in the way cos i work in construction and usually end up being mangled. rings give me calluses from work and the gym, necklaces and the like are a bother and get in the way.

i do have a nipple peircing though. guess thats the only thing that doesnt get in the way.


Jinn, i think what you really hate is the wives club atmosphere as much as i do though. that really pisses me off.. the talk is so fake and rosy that i'd burn on the inside of i couldnt butt in to make a comment about how i'd disagree.

Rings are some of the only jewelery I like. I love the few rings I have, and they all mean something to me.

My question is why would you let something so small and insignificant bother you this much? I mean really there are more important things to bitch about...

...I was thinking the same thing!


I love wearing/having rings and I'm glad to have the few I own for personal reasons.

I love rings, although I only own 2...my wedding ring and a ring my husband bought me while we were in Mexico. I used to have 2 others that I loved; both were special and meant a lot to me (one I suspect was stolen by my sister in law and the other was lost by a jewelry store when I took it in to have a stone replaced).

I've never gotten into the whole "I need an expensive diamond to symbolize my husband's love for me", and my wedding ring reflects that. It is a gold band with fake emeralds and tiny diamond chips, and I picked it out and adore it. I really don't know why some women set such store by a clear rock; THAT's what I don't like...the attitudes, not the ring itself.

Men and women have been adorning their bodies in one way or another since they lived in caves. I suspect it served the purpose of attracting a high status mate and still does to some extent.

No, can't say as I do. It's a bit of a silly thing to have a hate on for ... Nazis? OK. Pitbulls? You'd get some support. Britney Spears? See "Nazis".

Rings? Pfft.

I have three expensive, meaningful rings that I love, all given to me by my hubby. They are expensive, not because of the gemstones in them, but because of the superior craftsmanship of the metalwork, which is much more interesting to me than gems. I know the jeweler who made the rings. I know where he went to school to learn his craft, and what generation jeweler he is. Do you know these things about your mechanic?

Rings are somewhat annoying but the whole wedding thing is 10x worse. It's a big "look at how much money I can blow while dressed up" fest. "Look at me, I'm so pretty, oh I'm blushing because everyone thinks I'm SO pretty. Oh look how handsome. OHHH look at the length of my dress, I'm so rich." I'm gonna stop because I just annoyed myself.

I'm just curious why you give so much attention and so much energy to hating an inanimate object.

I'm still waiting for the "What JinnKai doesn't hate thread." I'm guessing it'll be really short.

Sorry man, but you tear into people over depression, but you have such hatred over such mundane things. *shrug* Just seems odd to me.

Spectre, we're on the same wavelength today (on a couple of things), man...

rings are some of the most BALLA SHIT EVA!!!!!!!!! BLING BLING

But seriously, they are pretty cool in my opinion. I'm thinkin of gettin one, or at least wearin one in my next serious relationship

I haven't worn my wedding ring or a watch for years. I'm still married and I still usually know what time it is, and I agree with the other posters that it seems a siily thing to hate. Hate wastes energy if it's sincere.





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Here's my take on it..

You don't really hate the ring. You just hate the pressure it comes with. On the other hand, the women don't really love the ring, they just love what it represents. And not the bigger the rock, the stronger the love,... it's how much he knows who you are. My ring rocks. It's no where near a diamond.

Here it is.. since receiving my ring from my fiance :
The cool girls go : "Oh my gawd this is soooo cool! It is fun as hell! It is so you!"
The not-so-cool ones go : "Oh my gawd... he gave you plastic? Diamond really isn't that expensive.. are you sure he's really that into you?"

I'm thinking to myself : I would really love a vintage diamond ring just so I can show it off to those bitches and make them shut their trap, or they can continue to talk about clarity till they are blue in the face and all they get is an expensive wedding, debt, and nothing else.

Meanwhile, I will be travelling the world with my sexy boy.

Women and society are the ones putting pressure on their men with rings. I'm happy as long as I can show off my guy. My ring: cute, fun, kiddy. I don't need a diamond, but I want one that is ME. Cute, fun, kiddy, not 100% me, I AM 30, but he tries. He's a good guy. I have no complaints. But I still want what represents me. If this is how he sees me, then I am showing off this ring with a beam and a twinkle. One day he will know that I am more than this. But right now, it is all good :D He cares enough to find a ring. He wants to be with me. We have tons of fun with the ring (i know.. imagine that!)

THAT!... is 'my' rock.

<3

I think you capped it perfectly.

I love my rings, I especially like my engagement ring, not because it means something (which it does) but because it's just fucking gorgeous ... and yes, I talked about it when I got it and still talk about it sometimes.

ohhh, I am so evil with my diamonds......

Go on... hate me :D

I don't wear rings particularly...well this might be graphic but inside I do :-p (Ladies will understand!) And yes I do love that ring!
The only truly important ring to me was my senior high school ring, that and it cost like $600.
Otherwise I'd prefer wear nice necklaces and earrings.
Goodness your rants seems similar to my friends going off about old people driving...and my response...what are you going to do?

Jinn, I feel your pain.

http://i2.photobucket.com/albums/y29...t/one_ring.jpg

I love my rings, each one of the 4 I wear has very special meaning. My engagement ring, which is sterling silver with an amethyst (the band is the stem of a thistle and the amethyst is the head of the flower) and my sterling silver wedding ring with thistles carved in it. The two together cost less than 200 bucks.

I have a celtic knot "emerald" ring Dave bought me for my first bday we were together and I have my mothers ring that he bought me for valentines last year.

Rings are great...I however have a big problem with people that buy some 20 something a ring equivalent to a new car or a house down payment...there is just no need for it in my book

but I dont hate them

Oh, and I do agree with Jinn to a certain extent...everytime a girl gets a new ring, it's a showoff contest around the school or job or class. Then they go around exclaiming how beautiful it is, how they're so modest about it because they're so excited, and the karat/cost, physical size, etc. If it makes them happy, that's fine, but don't freakin walk the halls like you're a top model showing off a new $10,000 dress. It just screams showoff.

Let people have their happiness and stop raining on their parade. If you got a new car or house or something that make you happy (if anything does), you'd be talking about it too.

If you want to wallow in your hatred, step away from the happy people. You're bringing them down. Jesus, rarely anyone bitches when people complain about everything, let people brag about one thing that brings them joy and get over yourself.

I just hate it when folk waffle on about anything that is so beautiful because it came from somewhere or its this old or its something like that.
possessions are just that, and if they mean something to you it can be for a whole realm of reasons,not because of how much it cost or what it looks like.

I know my silver onyx rings are special to me,because of who gave them to me and the time they were given. I can honestly say I have no idea how much they cost, and do not care if they cost 2pence or £2000.

I wear a bit of tasteful jewelry nearly all the time. Earrings and my engagement and wedding rings are an every day thing, and I like a chain and matching bracelet and watch combo. I'm sure Grace has spent a good amount of money on things on occasion.

I'm not a fan of the big white wedding thing, but I don't have anything against it either. Let them have their fun where they find it. It certainly doesn't harm me in any way.

I thank NuvaRing everyday I don't become a father by surprise..Oh ..wait. You weren't talking about those kinds, I guess.
Hm. A lot of guys like wearing chains. Some are very "blinged out", and some cost more than engagement rings. I have a thin chain, and a few inexpensive bought-off-street-merchant rings, and a wedding band which I like a lot.
The engagement ring I bought my wife had a few small diamonds on it. Nothing taky or ridiculous, and she loves it.
Jewelry will never cease existing. You might as well complain about ALL unnecessary expenses. Cars that go as fast as 3 times the speed limit? Video games? Nice expensive clothes?
People like things, and always will.

Repeat, Hooray NuvaRing! I think any kind of rings apply here :-p

Lists of rings that I do not like:

Ring around the collar (Oh those *dirty* rings!).
Bathtub rings.
Ring of fire (though it's really my fault for all the chilies the night before).
The ring of a telemarketer.
Rings that turn my finger green.
Ring of fire (damn subduction zones and all the tumult!).

Someone else's rings? Nah. As you can see I already have a long list of rings to hate. Why hate something that has clearly brought joy into another person's life? Not only is it a waste of your time and energy but it just smells of sour grapes.

I don't think it's very nice to claim that something someone decided to talk about is "small and insignificant". Isn't the fact that he brought it up proof he doesn't find it insignificant?

As far as rings, I don't wear any, and I probably won't unless I get married. I have also decided that I will not buy a precious stone for a wife if I ever get one. She can deal with that or buy her own.

I think what he's saying is, a ring is a small circle of metal, with occasionally a rock or two on it. It's not a huge deal.

I think what JinnKai really hates is that people think something "so small and insignificant" is so important that people would spend "so much attention and so much energy" on such "an inanimate object..."

So, he's going to spend so much attention and energy on an inanimate object because people spend so much attention and energy on an inanimate object?

I wonder... is all the attention and energy really about the ring or is the ring just a physical symbol of something else? Something you can't point to proudly and say look!

My avatar is my wedding band. I rather like it. I never wore a ring before and I haven't taken this one off in many months, mostly because it has created a callus that would have to be removed with the ring. I'm a bit of a metallurgic nerd and was able to specify the titanium alloy and finish I wanted and thus I never have to take it off. (practical)

My wife has never been a 'ooh, look at my ring' sort of woman. In fact, we downsized her diamond because she decided it protruded too much. She still turns the stone to the inside when she puts on surgical gloves (practical) However, once the engagement ring was on her finger she happily noted how she doesn't get hit on nearly as much as she used to. (useful)

Also, I am a ethno-canada-centrist, and I was willing to pay an arbitrary premium to purchase a Canadian mined and finished diamond.

Sure, they are small insignificant objects, but they are full of (useful) symbolism and meaning. Socially, they serve a real purpose.

I think rings can be beautiful and symbolic, but I also gag when I hear women yammering on about their expensive wedding rings. The symbolism of your marriage should be a personal happiness, not something you brag about around the water cooler.

Funny though, given this thread, we've spent more energy reacting to his one post than he has (considering he hasn't logged in for a couple of days, and hasn't commented at all since the OP).

Jinn, if you're going to start a thread, don't abandon it.

I'm going to start a thread: "People who hate on people who hate rings... I hate them." And then I'm going to post to it 100 times.

Then I'll follow it up with: "People who hate intolerance....aren't they just being intolerant!?"

Anyway...rings don't piss me off. I just don't like that it's always the 2nd or 3rd question I get asked about my wedding. We didn't do rings.

Well, if you thought people were spending an inordinate amount of energy on something stupid, wouldn't you think it was reasonable to spend an equal amount of energy to quell said stupidity?

I don't know...

It's hard to point to your ring and say "Look! He loves me so much he got me this ring!" At least, it's had to do that for any length of time. Presumably, the conversation will turn to their actual relationship and not the ring...

Then again, it's easy to point to your ring and say "Look! See how big the diamond is? ...and it's pure gold." He got it from so and so and it cost this much and it's really unique and can't be found anywhere else and it's cut just so and... works really well as a symbol of wealth and status.

Now, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with showing off your money, I'm just saying lets not euphemize it.


Personally, I've never understood symbols. As far as I can tell, I don't have any (beyond utilitary ones). For example, I would never die over a piece of cloth and I think anyone who would is badly misguided...

But isn't a symbol of wealth and status something that some people aspire to in a relationship? People make all sorts of conspicuous purchases for all sorts of reasons. Boiled down, those purchases all have symbolic meaning. They say something about who you want people to think you are.

In that case, I would say the argument against rings that was made in the OP has little to do with rings per se and everything to do with how the OP feels about conspicuous consumption.

This does not change the fact that a ring can be symbolic of love and commitment as I have argued above. Rather it underscores how love has been, to some extent, commodified in our culture.

WOW. I've never disagreed with anything less, ever.:love:

Thank you, KnifeMissile.

That's definitely the best way to put it.

Yet you took the trouble to create an avatar ... obviously, symbolism has some degree of importance to you, as it does to most people since the Cro-Magnons.

I know what a symbol is and generally recognize one when I see one.

Here, I'll quote myself except that I'm going to leave in all that pesky context that you seem to dislike:I have an avatar so that people can, more easily, see which posts belong to me. It reveals a little something about my interests but does little beyond that. It doesn't hold any particular importance or meaning beyond its utility.

Obviously, I use symbols all the time but they don't mean anything to me beyond their literal symbolism.

Just to bring this back to the OP. Based on the one brief reply we've had from Jinn, it seems that it isn't rings per se that are the problem, just wedding and engagement rings...

If that's the case, I would say that this hatred is just a symbol of something more deep-seated in Jinn.

It may be a symptom of something but I don't think it's a symbol...

I don't think it's wedding and engagement rings that JinnKai has a problem with. For instance, if girls were to swoon over a ring that happened to not be a wedding or engagement ring, I think that JinnKai would still have a problem with it. If I were to guess, I'd say that what he hates is that some useless piece of metal around one's finger is so important to some people that they must do what they can to bring so much attention to it and it, specifically. It may be one thing to talk about an important event for you, like your wedding, but to talk about the ring, specifically, instead of talking about, say, what the ring is supposed to symbolize is asinine.

That's just a guess...


As another personal aside, I've never liked jewellery. I don't think it adds to anyone's appearance and I especially don't like wearing it, myself. Having said that, I do enjoy fashion, even if my fashion sense differs from the rest of the world's...

Thank you, yet again. Said much more eloquently than I could.

I dislike rings for a completely different reason than what everyone else has been talking about. I hate them because they hurt when you try holding hands with your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife.

Man, I really hate rings too. I hate when I'm like, walking along and a rings comes out of nowhere and I am forced to listen to it!

It's like, put your phones on vibrate, goddamn it!

OK. Now we are getting somewhere in terms of understand just what was meant by the OP (because it really wasn't clear before now).

I go back to my original comment which was:

I still argue that it is not the ring that is the issue. Rather it is a dislike of people who like rings. Otherwise you might as well hate *any* big ticket item that people gush about (cars, houses, travel, clothing, etc.).

Get over yourself. Stop being such a hater. Your negativity is hurting no one but you.

i'm not a huge jewelery fan but i do apperciate it. on a daily basis, just my gold necklace and a cheap target sports watch for work (busted too many to risk ruining a nice sports watch). don't wear my wedding band (gold w/ 1/2 ct. in 7 stones) to work do to risks on the job. but at the same time i don't put it on as soon as i get home. i tend to only wear it when my wife and i go out.

whats really sad is my ring has more diamonds than my wife's. bad, hubby, bad

/looks for new ring for wifey
//she didn't get me that ring until a year and a half later

I have nothing against rings. I despise the materialistic attitude and enculturated insecurity that leads people to believe that more money spent equals loving them more. In my eyes spending ridiculous amounts of money on someone looks like an insecure person trying to buy another's affection. Sentiment speaks louder than money, if all that matters is the money, it's just shallow and mindless conformity to stupid expectations.

i can't say i hate them, but there are NOT my best friend. they do cost way too much money & that kinda pisses me off. what annoys me the most is that they always seem to be in the way. like they are just there, either they are too tight or too loose.

but mostly the image they have just pisses me off. like why are woman so happy to say a rock are their best friend? okay, men get a dog & we get a rock. what is that? i don't get it.

I don't know this post doesn't make much sense to me. I've never hates anything purely on my instinct to hate it before.