Leafs_Fan

Ive been dating a guy for about a month, and weve decided to have sex. Im really small for my age, and Im afraid taht he wont fit :S What are the chances of that happening?

*Nikki*

Well that depends on how old you are.

Leafs_Fan

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Strange Famous

I mean, you know, just take it easy and go slowly or something?

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SiN

that plus use LOTS of lube.

KY or Astroglide are good and widely available.

(and don't forget the condom )

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I love Astroglide.

It's the best thing to happen to sex since the invention of the woman.

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wilbjammin

Well, is he really big? I've encountered problems before with this. There are a few things that can be done.

1) use lots of lube, as everyone says.

2) relax yourself, it is possible to "open up" more if you can get in the moment more and don't worry so much.

What I typically have had to do in the past is a lot of foreplay, and oral stimulation (be careful with this, because sometimes after reaching orgasm the muscles clamp down and then there is no chance to get it in).

3) take is slow, esp. if you're pretty new at this... trying to just jam it in there is painful. It has taken upwards of 15 minutes to do this for me, so don't think that it is automatically supposed to just slide in and then you're off to the races.

Sex isn't about the end result, it is about the experience. So enjoy it.

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SAM821

well... realistically, unless the guy has a cock the size of a zebra, it WILL fit... weather or not it will be painful is a different story... Logically you can fit a baby out of your "opening" so im sure you can had a penis....

So about the pain... follow wilbjammin's advise... that about somes it up...

good luck, and relax and have fun!

PS tell us the results!

omega2K4

Ditto.

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MSD

It's amde for a baby to fit through, so a penis shouldn't be much of a problem unless he goes in dry and way too fast.

LaughinMon

just out of curiousity, why zebra?
and can you tame a zebra and ride it like regular horses?

ariekitten

your body is made to stretch to have sex, so like everyone else says, use some lube. i would recommend a bit of foreplay because when you are in the mood more, it's more likely to feel better. just have him take it slow, and if it hurts or anything, just ask him to wait a few secs before going on. when i was still a virgin i really worried about it not fitting, etc, but for me it fit just fine. hope you have a wonderful first experience!

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Tophat665

Zebras are too ornery to tame on any sort of organized basis. This per "Guns, Germs, and Steel", Diamond, Norton 1999.

As for why a Zebra as a sign of massive endowment, that's a good question. I would have gone with whale or elephant or bear or bull, not zebra.

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SAM821

ARE YOU KIDDING ME??? watch the discovery channel.... those zebras have the biggest peckers ive ever seen on an animal... they put horses to shame....

yea and i dont know that you can ride them.... they are pretty aggressive

nanofever

I'm going to agree with lube and foreplay and then add that perhaps instead of missionary you try "girl on top" as you will have more control of the penetration that way.

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blockmaan2000

Just make sure he takes it slow and easy. If you're relaxed, it will all be good. If you're nervous, it'll never fit.


I didn't just make you nervous did I??

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motdakasha

1) The more turned on you get, the more your vagina stretches. In a resting stage, the average vagina is actually only 3-4 inches long. When a woman gets aroused, her vagina becomes more elastic to allow for/accomodate the penis. My sexuality teacher was saying that something like 9/10 women start having sex before they're adequately turned on.
2) The more turned on you get, the more you produce natural lube. The best lube in the world.
3) If you really think you have a problem, you can get a dilator kit (usually from a Dr/OBGYN, but i'm sure there are similar things in sex store). Basically, it's a kit of dildos of varying sizes. You start out with the smallest and work your way up over a period of time. It doesn't happen overnight, but what happens is you exercise the vagina walls so they become more elastic. Some women are born to stretch, and others aren't. Luckily, it's something you can work on.
4) In the unlikely event that you're so small you can't even fit a finger in it and it's painful, then you need to see a Dr/OBGYN. You might have vaginismus.

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diddagirl

Yes, take it very slow. Regardless though, expect to have some level of discomfort or pain the first time. Even though my first was VERY gentle and took it slow, it hurt quite a bit, because there will always be some degree fo stratching to get in.

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wilbjammin

Woah, that's it!? I always thought it was a circumference issue.

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motdakasha

It's an issue of elasticity & the woman not being turned on enough to allow for the stretching (which is in all directions, lengthwise and circumference).

Vaginas look like shriveled raisins in their resting stage. We don't look like wind tunnels...

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wilbjammin

Ahhh... well, good thing I already take my own advice! Thanks for that bit of information, it puts things in perspective, and makes a lot of sense. Don't know why I didn't piece that together before...

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Dixie_Wrekked

KY has always worked for me, but she also used some lubricated disk that she inserted into her vagina before hand, it was enjoyable, but she wasn't tight or anything

Kadath

That might have been a diaphragm.

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gabshu

You'll be fine, just go really really slow. The first time for me was not all that good, it hurt a lot, but from then on it keeps on getting better.

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skysooner

Even if she is turned on there are certain times of her menstrual cycle when she will be dry regardless of how much she is turned on. We find this to be the case for about 2 days after she finishes her period. We use lube during these times just to make it easier on her.

ratbastid

Lube is your friend.

Some women can be embarassed about having to use it, though. Like there's something wrong with them if they don't have an instant oil slick down there. If that's going on for you, just relax--most people use SOMETHING.

Personally I'm not a big fan of KY or Astroglide. KY is kind of gooey, and Astroglide is too runny. I found a brand sold by Adam and Eve called ID-Glide that is just the right consistency. Just thick enough that it stays where you put it, and it doesn't dry sticky like Astroglide does.

smithja0423

I'll second ratbastid on ID-Glide.. right inbetween KY and Astro. Good lube is key to a good first time - especially if you're nervous.

denim

And if you don't mind, let us know how it went. Or post that to the Ladies Lounge.

Mutant X

Yes, i'm quite interested in knowing how everything turned out. Hope it went well.

The.Lunatic

Myth one - Your not to small you might think you are, but you can pass a baby through there.

If its his first time he'll only last 10 seconds anyway don't worry about it.

Myth two - Lube is only for buttsex

Astroglide is the best lube way better than KY its availbe for like 8 bucks at drugstore.com and comes discretely

First time its gong to hurt assuming it is your first time i didn't read to well.

Finnally god yes it will fit "laughs" you might have a short vagina and if he's long he might poke your cervex that sucks, and lets hope your long enough so he can't pound away and never discomfort you, but just let him know what feels good and say that it all feels good, but your just kinda tender guys don't want to hear that they've hurt you.

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Astroglide is the bomb.
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LaughinMon

unless the woman has gotten frisky with a zebra a little too often

and if you could tame lions and tigers and bears oh my!
......if you could tame such creatures, why couldnt you tame a zebra?

skier

really enjoyed this post, thanks man.

as to the Zebra question, they are a very aggressive species, and while you could perhaps train one enough to pet, it is another thing entirely to put on a contsricting saddle on it plus a 120+ lbs person on it's back. Breaking a horse was initially given the term because of the difficulties in training. And this is a widely known "domesticated" animal. Although it is now much better understood how to train horses to accept a rider, it is still difficult with a horse regualrly bucking off a rider dozens of times. I think it would be an extremely time consuming and painful task of teaching a zebra.

As to the vaginal size issue, this guy is in all likelyhood going to be happy enough just to have sex with you Leafs_fan, and i am sure will try his best to accomodate you.

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lucidity

kudos for motdakasha on mentioning natural lube. foreplay is key- relaxes a woman, primes her for sex. I have never, ever needed personal lubricant. I can imagine some women need lube because their bodies perhaps do not create enough natural lube... but i think a lot of people rely on astroglide, etc just because its easier. People treat it like the cure all for sexual excitement in a woman. Spend lots and lots of time on foreplay, sex starts in the mind.

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mattevil

lots of good advice so far. only thing i can add is if your not in the elastic category(i've heard of couples not being sexually/physically compatable before) that you could switch to oral sex,handjobs,etc. as a backup.

LaughinMon

What about wild broncos? Theyve been able to break those. And what about when man first set out to domesticate horses? werent they just as wild then as the zebras of today?