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ubertuber · 01-25-2004, 02:57 PM

Sometimes I tell jokes. (this is actually true) I figure sex is a time to enjoy yourself, and who doesn't like to laugh? I know that is a little weird...

As far as sexual noises go, I think it may have something to do with the way that orgasms progress. When I have sex, I enjoy it, but don't have orgasmic type sensations until I am near the end. At that point (the last 30 seconds or so before the orgasm) I definitely make noises - I can't help it. Before then, I am having a good time, but noises are intentional. For the women I have been with, I think that the entire thing is more like the last 30 seconds is for me - only less intense. The noises they make aren't intentional, they are reacting to the sensations.

Also, women definitely react well to any noises or body language you give them. Who doesn't like appreciative feedback?

ariekitten · 01-25-2004, 04:08 PM

i think guys in general just need their concentration. i know when i'm really enjoying something, i'm not very vocal....
i think for me it would be more of a turn on for a guy to say stuff....i've been with one guy who moans a lil and says stuff right when he's orgasming, but that's about it. i love guys' voices and that during sex would prolly totally drive me wild.

CinnamonGirl · 01-26-2004, 12:37 AM

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Originally posted by rsl12
would be curious to hear reactions from women--do men do all the work, while women lay back and see what the guy has to offer?

While I can't speak for ALL women, I can say that's definitely not true for me.

heh...the link & other comments explain why my husband's always so damn quiet all the time...Personally, I don't like it when he's completely quiet, positive feedback is ALWAYS a good thing

blockmaan2000 · 01-26-2004, 05:57 AM

We don't really have anything smart to say. You know the old addage better to keep your mouth shut and have people believe you're smart than open it and remove all doubt.

Slims · 01-26-2004, 09:18 AM

I would say that we are so quiet because we are busy having sex.

Andy · 01-26-2004, 04:52 PM

I agree with the first post. I'm too busy worrying about what I'm doing to make noises. Also, I'm spending the whole time trying not to cum. I've heard some guys say they can last an hour or so, but I'm definitely not one of them. I need to make a conscious effort to last longer, and getting into it by making noises would hurt that.

Gotta mention though, I love when girls talk dirty. I just wish I could join in.

motdakasha · 01-27-2004, 11:10 PM

I've heard a lot of complaints from men online that their women don't make enough noises, the indicator that they're doing things right.

I'd like to file the same complaint about men. I'm not psychic. It helps to know if we're doing a good job. You don't have to have deep, lengthy conversations with us about Plato and Aristotle! A moan here or a grunt there will suffice.

bonehed1 · 01-28-2004, 09:43 AM

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Originally posted by motdakasha
I've heard a lot of complaints from men online that their women don't make enough noises, the indicator that they're doing things right.

I'd like to file the same complaint about men. I'm not psychic. It helps to know if we're doing a good job. You don't have to have deep, lengthy conversations with us about Plato and Aristotle! A moan here or a grunt there will suffice.

I agree....I am not very vocal in the bed but my wife is and its nice to hear a grunt or moan here and there to let you know your doing it right......she complains because I dont do that and I let her know I am just enjoying the moment.

Averett · 01-28-2004, 10:07 AM

My ex-boyfriend wasn't very vocal. But that was mainly because there was either somebody else in the room (college dorms, what do you expect?) or somebody in the next room.

2nd guy, well I honestly don't even remember it much. One night stand sorta situation

3rd guy... First time I had sex with him he moaned out a few hearty Fuck Yeah!'s. I tell you what, it made me feel damn good. Does a lot for the ego to hear a bit of approval like that.

gilada · 01-28-2004, 10:53 AM

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Originally posted by Dorito2
I'm always quiet in bed, but that's because it doesn't come naturally to me to go 'Ahh, ooh, mmm". If I do it sounds very forced and I feel like an idiot for doing it!

Ditto... always feel if I'm doing that, I'm immitating a bad porn movie. I get vocal near the end, and my wife gets vocal at her orgasms... but we're not doing porn dialogue, unless we're really drunk.

illesturban · 01-28-2004, 02:23 PM

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Originally posted by Strange Famous
I think it would be quite cool to sing patriotic songs during sex. But I never have.

I think, just personally, I would agree with TM... although I dont think porn has a lot to do with it in my case. It's just a personal, I dont know if it is also a masculine, instinct for me to try and contain my emotions, never to show any more signs of feeling something than you can help.

I mean, the same reason as men cry less than women I would think... somewhere you are conditioned to hold it all down, and keep your feelings inside.

I think I agree with this one; it's just more natural for us, I guess to sit back and do our thing. But just like guys, women want to feel that they are doing something good, so it never hurts to let out an indicator that they are...

bobson · 01-28-2004, 06:44 PM

i know lately i have tried to make a conscious effort to make a bit of noise sometimes, but it is a real challenge. i'd much rather be putting my energy into making it as good an experience as possible for her than uttering a few words.

that original link was pretty funny, and not too far off the truth.

NoseyJoe · 01-28-2004, 08:22 PM

i agree, guys try to postpone it to please the girl, which means more concentration and more quiet

steve urkel · 01-28-2004, 10:46 PM

If I had a couple of drinks, then I make some noise. But if feel that it is better for me to keep quiet and here her moan.

Shyla Loral · 02-01-2004, 09:00 AM

Meff is really quiet too, during intercourse. He moans when he gets a hummer, though. He says it's because he doesn't have to concentrate on anything when he's getting a tongue bath, heh. That makes sense.
But just to put in my opinion, I think it's really sexy when a guy moans during sex. You don't have to wonder if they like it, etc. I get smiles and stuff, and facial contortions that indicate pleasure, but I"m a very vocal person, give me some moaning, heh.
I, for my part, scream loud enough to wake up the neighbors :P
Always good to know someone's gettin some

fallen_angel · 02-04-2004, 03:48 AM

that was almost the funniest thing i have read all night long. thank you so much for that and i guess it is true. thanx

Golgothas · 02-04-2004, 01:34 PM

Guys try too hard =P

Arsenic7 · 02-04-2004, 03:27 PM

I agree with what a couple of the other guys have said...

...when you're trying to please a woman without screwing up it can take a lot of concentration. I'm relatively new to sex so this is especially true.

I find I get more vocal when it's my turn to be pleased; towards the end of sex or during a blowjob or something.

thedrake · 02-06-2004, 09:37 AM

Because I like listening to my fiance making sounds.

Lunchbox7 · 02-12-2004, 02:21 PM

I am totally comfortable with my sexuallity so I dont hold back. Im very noisy. I have always been told it is a good thing. I think it is basically we all communicate to our partners during sex with our noises. It is much easier to leanr what does it for a woman by her reactions. So if a girl is being heaps loud then I know Im doing a good job. I guess it would be safe to assume that women prefer the same feedback from men.

minyn · 02-12-2004, 05:30 PM

since i got dubbed the sex therapist for all my guy friends.

ive heard this is true. more or less in the necessity not to cum early so they concentrate on somethign else to make sure the girl gets off first.

not quite like what that says. dont think i know anyone that worries that much, if you get kicked off the horse.....

on that note- guys , be loud! we (i) love it. im loud. im okay with this. gets kinda messy however if the walls are thin =P meow!!!

01-25-2004, 02:57 PM	#41 (permalink)
ubertuber spudly Location: Ellay	Sometimes I tell jokes. (this is actually true) I figure sex is a time to enjoy yourself, and who doesn't like to laugh? I know that is a little weird... As far as sexual noises go, I think it may have something to do with the way that orgasms progress. When I have sex, I enjoy it, but don't have orgasmic type sensations until I am near the end. At that point (the last 30 seconds or so before the orgasm) I definitely make noises - I can't help it. Before then, I am having a good time, but noises are intentional. For the women I have been with, I think that the entire thing is more like the last 30 seconds is for me - only less intense. The noises they make aren't intentional, they are reacting to the sensations. Also, women definitely react well to any noises or body language you give them. Who doesn't like appreciative feedback? __________________ Cogito ergo spud -- I think, therefore I yam

01-25-2004, 04:08 PM	#42 (permalink)
ariekitten bAck iN aCtiOn! Location: in my imagination	i think guys in general just need their concentration. i know when i'm really enjoying something, i'm not very vocal.... i think for me it would be more of a turn on for a guy to say stuff....i've been with one guy who moans a lil and says stuff right when he's orgasming, but that's about it. i love guys' voices and that during sex would prolly totally drive me wild. __________________ I am known as Valentinez Alkalinella Xifax Sicidabohertz Gombigobilla Blue Stradivari Talentrent Pierre Andri Charton-Haymoss Ivanovici Baldeus George Doitzel Kaiser III. Don't hesitate to call. ~Vash, Trigun >'.'< kitty kitty, meow ^..^~

01-26-2004, 09:18 AM	#45 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	I would say that we are so quiet because we are busy having sex. __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence Last edited by Slims; 11-20-2008 at 04:03 PM..

01-27-2004, 11:10 PM	#47 (permalink)
motdakasha Hiya Puddin'! Miss me? Location: Silicon Valley, CA	I've heard a lot of complaints from men online that their women don't make enough noises, the indicator that they're doing things right. I'd like to file the same complaint about men. I'm not psychic. It helps to know if we're doing a good job. You don't have to have deep, lengthy conversations with us about Plato and Aristotle! A moan here or a grunt there will suffice. __________________ =^-^= motdakasha =^-^= Just Google It. BA Psychology & Photography (I'm not going psychoanalyze you nor will I let you cry on my shoulder. Have a nice day.)

01-28-2004, 10:07 AM	#49 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	My ex-boyfriend wasn't very vocal. But that was mainly because there was either somebody else in the room (college dorms, what do you expect?) or somebody in the next room. 2nd guy, well I honestly don't even remember it much. One night stand sorta situation 3rd guy... First time I had sex with him he moaned out a few hearty Fuck Yeah!'s. I tell you what, it made me feel damn good. Does a lot for the ego to hear a bit of approval like that. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

01-26-2004, 05:57 AM	#44 (permalink)
blockmaan2000 Crazy	We don't really have anything smart to say. You know the old addage better to keep your mouth shut and have people believe you're smart than open it and remove all doubt.

01-26-2004, 04:52 PM	#46 (permalink)
Andy Upright Location: Cambridge, MA	I agree with the first post. I'm too busy worrying about what I'm doing to make noises. Also, I'm spending the whole time trying not to cum. I've heard some guys say they can last an hour or so, but I'm definitely not one of them. I need to make a conscious effort to last longer, and getting into it by making noises would hurt that. Gotta mention though, I love when girls talk dirty. I just wish I could join in.

01-28-2004, 06:44 PM	#52 (permalink)
bobson Upright Location: New Zealand	i know lately i have tried to make a conscious effort to make a bit of noise sometimes, but it is a real challenge. i'd much rather be putting my energy into making it as good an experience as possible for her than uttering a few words. that original link was pretty funny, and not too far off the truth.

01-28-2004, 08:22 PM	#53 (permalink)
NoseyJoe Tilted Location: Michigan	i agree, guys try to postpone it to please the girl, which means more concentration and more quiet __________________ "the only difference between suicide and martyrdom is press coverage." -- Chuck Palahniuk

01-28-2004, 10:46 PM	#54 (permalink)
steve urkel Upright	If I had a couple of drinks, then I make some noise. But if feel that it is better for me to keep quiet and here her moan.

02-01-2004, 09:00 AM	#55 (permalink)
Shyla Loral Crazy Location: Austin	Meff is really quiet too, during intercourse. He moans when he gets a hummer, though. He says it's because he doesn't have to concentrate on anything when he's getting a tongue bath, heh. That makes sense. But just to put in my opinion, I think it's really sexy when a guy moans during sex. You don't have to wonder if they like it, etc. I get smiles and stuff, and facial contortions that indicate pleasure, but I"m a very vocal person, give me some moaning, heh. I, for my part, scream loud enough to wake up the neighbors :P Always good to know someone's gettin some __________________ "Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead" Ben Franklin, Poor Richard's Almanac. Meff r0x

02-04-2004, 03:48 AM	#56 (permalink)
fallen_angel Psycho Location: Somewhere between the Havens and the Earth	that was almost the funniest thing i have read all night long. thank you so much for that and i guess it is true. thanx __________________ from the Havens I have fallen. . . to the earth as a mangled form. . . writhing in pain, my wings torn and bloodied. . . I have one purpose, only one goal. . . to find you and love you, for I am your. . . fallen angel

02-04-2004, 01:34 PM	#57 (permalink)
Golgothas Tilted	Guys try too hard =P

02-04-2004, 03:27 PM	#58 (permalink)
Arsenic7 Insane Location: Corvallis, OR.	I agree with what a couple of the other guys have said... ...when you're trying to please a woman without screwing up it can take a lot of concentration. I'm relatively new to sex so this is especially true. I find I get more vocal when it's my turn to be pleased; towards the end of sex or during a blowjob or something. __________________ This is no sig.

02-06-2004, 09:37 AM	#59 (permalink)
thedrake Banned Location: Iowa	Because I like listening to my fiance making sounds.

02-12-2004, 02:21 PM	#60 (permalink)
Lunchbox7 Addict	I am totally comfortable with my sexuallity so I dont hold back. Im very noisy. I have always been told it is a good thing. I think it is basically we all communicate to our partners during sex with our noises. It is much easier to leanr what does it for a woman by her reactions. So if a girl is being heaps loud then I know Im doing a good job. I guess it would be safe to assume that women prefer the same feedback from men.

02-12-2004, 05:30 PM	#61 (permalink)
minyn young and in bloom Location: under the bodhi tree.... bling	since i got dubbed the sex therapist for all my guy friends. ive heard this is true. more or less in the necessity not to cum early so they concentrate on somethign else to make sure the girl gets off first. not quite like what that says. dont think i know anyone that worries that much, if you get kicked off the horse..... on that note- guys , be loud! we (i) love it. im loud. im okay with this. gets kinda messy however if the walls are thin =P meow!!! __________________ "Woke up this morning with a blue moon in my eye" ~A3 "woke up this morning" "Don't compromise yourself, you're all you've got." -Janis Joplin