A bit of a predicament - Tilted Forum Project Discussion Community

Sleepyjack · 09-24-2003, 07:59 AM

Ok, last weekend (Saturday night) i was fairly drunk, mainly in that i found the next day i didn't remeber a lot of stuff and everything was a bit of a blur and patchy.

Anyway, me and my friends went out for my friends birthday and mainly went to a few bars and clubs. Thanks to some insights in this earlier thread i started http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...=dirty+dancing
i manage to pick up a girl on the dance floor. All went well and we ending up making out etc and then i got her number. Since i don't have a mobile my friend put it in his phone, albeit he was really drunk as well and put it under the name tommy (as my name is tom).

I seem to be adding a lot of uselss info, so here's my main question; i have the girls number although i have no real idea of what her name is? We did talk about this and other stuff, although i don't really rember any of that either...sigh.

So in summing up, the predicament is that i have her numebr although i don't know what her names is. This is all probably appears incredibly superficial, although i do have a genuine interest in getting know her etc cause she was very attractive, pretty face (somehow i remeber that...)

I may have to bite the bullet and call or sms just saying ahhh sorry i don't know your name, but i don't think that sounds too good. Could there be any other way of finding out????

Although for some reason i think her name is Audrey (sp?) although i am not gonna risk that.

next time, less alcohol i think, albeit i was fine the next day??

thanks for any help

Thraeryn · 09-24-2003, 08:05 AM

Dude, you're just going to have to bite the bullet. If you were that drunk and she seemed interested, she was probably that drunk, too.

Play up the fact that you want to get together again, that you wanted to seek her out, and be appropriately sheepish that the alcohol led to a little amnesia. Point out that you don't normally go around forgetting the names of beautiful women, and that you certainly won't do it again.

Averett · 09-24-2003, 08:12 AM

Call her! For the love of god call herrrr...

Now that I got that out of my system... Just explain that you had a lot to drink and that her name escapes you now. She should understand. If she doesnt, she's not a keeper in the first place.

The night I met my now ex-boyfriend he didn't remember my name at the end of the night. But well, shit like that happens when alcohol is involved.

Good luck, let us know how it goes!

Sleepyjack · 09-24-2003, 08:32 AM

Ok, looks like i am gonna bite the bullet. I hope i don't appear too big of a dick....

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[i] Thraeryn said [i/]
Point out that you don't normally go around forgetting the names of beautiful women, and that you certainly won't do it again

will do

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Averett said
Good luck, let us know how it goes!

thanks, will do, i'll have to call tommorow night though atm i am studying for a test and its also 12:30 am, probaby not the best time

That said, i am still quite nervous and anxious about calling....namely cause of the name dealy, otherwise no biggie.

Thraeryn · 09-24-2003, 08:50 AM

Like Averett said, if she makes a really big deal about it, she wasn't a keeper in the first place. Shit happens, especially when you're drinking, you know?

wry1 · 09-24-2003, 08:57 AM

Just do it!!!!

If you have the urge to pursue her, then you really need to go after her.

Regret the things you do, not the things you wished you had done....

skysooner · 09-24-2003, 09:37 AM

Several suggestions. Do a reverse phone number search on the number to see if you can pick up her name that way. You never know. It's also possible she doesn't remember your name due to the circumstances so don't stress over it too much.

Averett · 09-24-2003, 09:46 AM

Oohh! I know here in the states if you do a google search on the phone number you sometimes get the persons name and address. Try that

Or call information. Something like that.

Good idea skysooner!

Cynthetiq · 09-24-2003, 10:58 AM

seinfeld episode

just don't kiss her before you find out her name and shout DOLORES!!!!!!

call her and tell her.. then see her sober... have some coffee and see it from there

sailor · 09-24-2003, 11:11 AM

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Originally posted by Averett
Oohh! I know here in the states if you do a google search on the phone number you sometimes get the persons name and address. Try that

Its worth a try, but it usually doesnt work with cell numbers. I hope she gave you her home number

Sleepyjack · 09-24-2003, 11:14 AM

lol, nice one Cynthetiq
although i don't know if it ryhmes with a female body part.
....mulva, ceast....

also, i got her mobile number not home and google didn't appear to work. I felt a little dodgy using google though....

Averett · 09-24-2003, 11:18 AM

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Originally posted by sailor420
Its worth a try, but it usually doesnt work with cell numbers. I hope she gave you her home number

Worked on a guy I had met... Punched in his cell number, got his home address

I think I'll stalk him later

fhqwhgads · 09-24-2003, 01:26 PM

Chances are she doesn't know your voice. Call her from a payphone and ask for Audrey. If she says that you have the wrong number, you know her name isn't Audrey. If you get lucky and that is her name, problem solved...

Dano069 · 09-24-2003, 01:40 PM

Okay, but what if her SO/Dad/Brother answers the phone? Who does he ask for?

"Um, yeah, I'd like to talk to the girl, who was at the bar and um, well, we dirty danced and kissed and um well, is she there?"

Even it that happens, I say make the call.

Apache · 09-24-2003, 10:36 PM

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Originally posted by fhqwhgads
Chances are she doesn't know your voice. Call her from a payphone and ask for Audrey. If she says that you have the wrong number, you know her name isn't Audrey. If you get lucky and that is her name, problem solved...

oh, that's a really good one. I'd say just call her. You know, nothing makes a woman madder than when you say you'll call then don't, or wait like forever before you do. You met at a club, I'm sure she won't hold it against you for having a little to much to drink. Good luck

analog · 09-25-2003, 01:07 AM

RING RING "Hello?"
"Hey, how's it going, this is Sleepy, we met at the bar a few nights back?"
"Yeah hey how's it going?"
"Not too bad.. listen, I honestly (make sure you use that word) don't remember your name. I feel really bad, and I'd like to make it up to you. How about I take you out to dinner?"

or substitute with something else. but just do it straightforward- you're sink or swim on this, so just go for truth. if you lie and she buys it, how perceptive/bright a girl is she, anyway?

inredo · 09-26-2003, 10:29 PM

you are making the assumption she gave you a valid telephone number....

bundy · 09-26-2003, 10:44 PM

you know what.

well, i have to admit, (and this will piss Averett off), that my first thought was... he was drunk, she was drunk... they pashed... numbers were exchanged... leave it at that... a nice pash and dash... she probably gave you some random number.

but then i´m thinking, hey, maybe you should at least try. ya never know. and who cares if you don´t know her name... you´ve got her mobile number... you can find out the name later on.

good luck jack.

Averett · 09-27-2003, 07:48 AM

You bastard bundy! I hate you!

I'm sure that happens much more often than I'd like to know. I just don't understand the whole fake number concept though. Why can't people get some balls and just say "I've had a nice night" and leave it like that. I don't give out my number unless I'm genuinly interested in the guy calling back. I guess I just expect too much of others and only get disappointed. Not losing hope in society as a whole... Yet anyway!

Did you call her yet jack? I hope it does work out for you.

bundy · 09-27-2003, 06:32 PM

(sorry Averett)

hey Jack, its been a couple of days mate, have you called?

Averett · 09-29-2003, 04:34 AM

Maybe he did call, and he's been with her ever since

Sleepyjack · 10-02-2003, 01:05 AM

sorry i have been away for a bit and quite busy.

here's the update though, albeit not too much resolved.
Being a bit of a coward about it and also having my mind on other things, i didn't actually get around to contacting her until monday, like 4 days ago. It was grand final weekend (afl) and i had a bit of a party of my own so basically friday/saturday and sunday where written off, i wasn't feeling to well.

Anyway, i got my friend to sms her a few times and she recipricated and so everything was good. She was keen to meet up again, although she had to work all week, whilst i was also keen i ctually have a week off uni, or more like a Catch up week cause i got a shitload to do....

So i was gonna call her monday night but i got home a bit late form my basketball game and so then called tuesday. Now in heinsight this was absolutely hilarious, i copied the number incorrectly off my friend (i think i was a little hungover when he gave it to me?) and then preceded to call that number (this is now tuesday).
Although i called the wrong number (not to my knowledge at the time), a relatively young girl (15-20) answered the phone and to my horror didn't know who the fuck i was. She even conceded to having a boyfriend. I was quite confused at the time, although very relived to know that i had the wrong number (got a 9 and 8 mixed about, somehow).
So i then called her again yesterday (right number this time), although she was unable to answer her phone or it was switched off or something and i managed to leave a message.
Fortunalty for me, on the message service she said "this is Audrey's phone, please leave a message and i'll get back to you", so i got out of jail for free on the not knowing the name thing. Albeit i was right somehow anyway?

I just hope she calls back today or if i can call her again tommorow and contact her. i don't know the nature of her work, all i know is that she had to work all week, so don't know what times she's available. Hopefully can hook up or arrange a hook up before the weekend.
yeah so thats it for now, but i am praying it works out.....

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Averett said
Maybe he did call, and he's been with her ever since

hopefully it works out that way

Sleepyjack · 10-05-2003, 05:08 AM

yay!
although probably no one really cares, i did get through to her today, this tiome actually talking to her and have set some things up for next week. She also forgave me for being a drunken fool and forgetting everything.
Should be good, hopefully.....*fingers crossed*

10-05-2003, 05:50 AM

Check the white pages online. Enter the number, get her info.

Averett · 10-05-2003, 05:54 AM

Nice Sleepyjack! Im glad to see things have worked out so far

09-24-2003, 07:59 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	A bit of a predicament Ok, last weekend (Saturday night) i was fairly drunk, mainly in that i found the next day i didn't remeber a lot of stuff and everything was a bit of a blur and patchy. Anyway, me and my friends went out for my friends birthday and mainly went to a few bars and clubs. Thanks to some insights in this earlier thread i started http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...=dirty+dancing i manage to pick up a girl on the dance floor. All went well and we ending up making out etc and then i got her number. Since i don't have a mobile my friend put it in his phone, albeit he was really drunk as well and put it under the name tommy (as my name is tom). I seem to be adding a lot of uselss info, so here's my main question; i have the girls number although i have no real idea of what her name is? We did talk about this and other stuff, although i don't really rember any of that either...sigh. So in summing up, the predicament is that i have her numebr although i don't know what her names is. This is all probably appears incredibly superficial, although i do have a genuine interest in getting know her etc cause she was very attractive, pretty face (somehow i remeber that...) I may have to bite the bullet and call or sms just saying ahhh sorry i don't know your name, but i don't think that sounds too good. Could there be any other way of finding out???? Although for some reason i think her name is Audrey (sp?) although i am not gonna risk that. next time, less alcohol i think, albeit i was fine the next day?? thanks for any help

09-24-2003, 08:12 AM	#3 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Call her! For the love of god call herrrr... Now that I got that out of my system... Just explain that you had a lot to drink and that her name escapes you now. She should understand. If she doesnt, she's not a keeper in the first place. The night I met my now ex-boyfriend he didn't remember my name at the end of the night. But well, shit like that happens when alcohol is involved. Good luck, let us know how it goes! __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

09-24-2003, 09:46 AM	#8 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Oohh! I know here in the states if you do a google search on the phone number you sometimes get the persons name and address. Try that Or call information. Something like that. Good idea skysooner! __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

09-24-2003, 10:58 AM	#9 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	seinfeld episode just don't kiss her before you find out her name and shout DOLORES!!!!!! call her and tell her.. then see her sober... have some coffee and see it from there __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

09-24-2003, 11:14 AM	#11 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	lol, nice one Cynthetiq although i don't know if it ryhmes with a female body part. ....mulva, ceast.... also, i got her mobile number not home and google didn't appear to work. I felt a little dodgy using google though.... Last edited by Sleepyjack; 09-24-2003 at 11:19 AM..

09-24-2003, 08:05 AM	#2 (permalink)
Thraeryn Loser	Dude, you're just going to have to bite the bullet. If you were that drunk and she seemed interested, she was probably that drunk, too. Play up the fact that you want to get together again, that you wanted to seek her out, and be appropriately sheepish that the alcohol led to a little amnesia. Point out that you don't normally go around forgetting the names of beautiful women, and that you certainly won't do it again.

09-24-2003, 08:50 AM	#5 (permalink)
Thraeryn Loser	Like Averett said, if she makes a really big deal about it, she wasn't a keeper in the first place. Shit happens, especially when you're drinking, you know?

09-24-2003, 08:57 AM	#6 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	Just do it!!!! If you have the urge to pursue her, then you really need to go after her. Regret the things you do, not the things you wished you had done....

09-24-2003, 09:37 AM	#7 (permalink)
skysooner Registered User Location: Oklahoma	Several suggestions. Do a reverse phone number search on the number to see if you can pick up her name that way. You never know. It's also possible she doesn't remember your name due to the circumstances so don't stress over it too much.

09-24-2003, 01:26 PM	#13 (permalink)
fhqwhgads Junkie	Chances are she doesn't know your voice. Call her from a payphone and ask for Audrey. If she says that you have the wrong number, you know her name isn't Audrey. If you get lucky and that is her name, problem solved...

09-24-2003, 01:40 PM	#14 (permalink)
Dano069 is Nucking Futs! Location: On the edge of sanity	Okay, but what if her SO/Dad/Brother answers the phone? Who does he ask for? "Um, yeah, I'd like to talk to the girl, who was at the bar and um, well, we dirty danced and kissed and um well, is she there?" Even it that happens, I say make the call. __________________ I may look attentive, but I'm taking peeks down your blouse faster than the human eye can follow. Last edited by Dano069; 09-24-2003 at 01:42 PM..

09-25-2003, 01:07 AM	#16 (permalink)
analog Banned	RING RING "Hello?" "Hey, how's it going, this is Sleepy, we met at the bar a few nights back?" "Yeah hey how's it going?" "Not too bad.. listen, I honestly (make sure you use that word) don't remember your name. I feel really bad, and I'd like to make it up to you. How about I take you out to dinner?" or substitute with something else. but just do it straightforward- you're sink or swim on this, so just go for truth. if you lie and she buys it, how perceptive/bright a girl is she, anyway? Last edited by analog; 09-25-2003 at 01:17 AM..

09-26-2003, 10:29 PM	#17 (permalink)
inredo Upright	you are making the assumption she gave you a valid telephone number....

09-26-2003, 10:44 PM	#18 (permalink)
bundy . Location: Tokyo	you know what. well, i have to admit, (and this will piss Averett off), that my first thought was... he was drunk, she was drunk... they pashed... numbers were exchanged... leave it at that... a nice pash and dash... she probably gave you some random number. but then i´m thinking, hey, maybe you should at least try. ya never know. and who cares if you don´t know her name... you´ve got her mobile number... you can find out the name later on. good luck jack. __________________ Ohayo!!!

09-27-2003, 07:48 AM	#19 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	You bastard bundy! I hate you! I'm sure that happens much more often than I'd like to know. I just don't understand the whole fake number concept though. Why can't people get some balls and just say "I've had a nice night" and leave it like that. I don't give out my number unless I'm genuinly interested in the guy calling back. I guess I just expect too much of others and only get disappointed. Not losing hope in society as a whole... Yet anyway! Did you call her yet jack? I hope it does work out for you. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

09-27-2003, 06:32 PM	#20 (permalink)
bundy . Location: Tokyo	(sorry Averett) hey Jack, its been a couple of days mate, have you called? __________________ Ohayo!!!

09-29-2003, 04:34 AM	#21 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Maybe he did call, and he's been with her ever since __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

10-05-2003, 05:08 AM	#23 (permalink)
Sleepyjack Fast'n'Bulbous Location: Australia, Perth	yay! although probably no one really cares, i did get through to her today, this tiome actually talking to her and have set some things up for next week. She also forgave me for being a drunken fool and forgetting everything. Should be good, hopefully.....fingers crossed

10-05-2003, 05:50 AM	#24 (permalink)
2thumbsup Guest	Check the white pages online. Enter the number, get her info.

10-05-2003, 05:54 AM	#25 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Nice Sleepyjack! Im glad to see things have worked out so far __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.