Xerxys

... This thread is for us men who can't comment on this thread because it's in the Ladies Lounge ...

Good lord, this actually happens? TFP truly has made the world a better place for me. As I was growing up I was of the belief that women were strongly against sex. (this, of course, was after as soon as I discovered I liked erections) I did grow up with prudes, now that I think about it.

There were many incidents of other kids in my school being punished for indecent behavior that often included exposing themselves to girls and the girls telling on them.

Now, granted inthe thread above, it's not like some men (like me) who are horny ALL the time but still, it's great leaps in discovery of the mind behind female sexuality. Even after I got over the shame of watching my first pr0n flick I realized that the girls there were obviously faking it and didn't like doing it as much as the men did. Once I conditioned myself like this ... I was never able to get off on porn. I mean, I like watching boobies, just can't get me off.

Guys (and gals), as growing up, what was your point of view on sex? What were your thoughts on the entire issue?

Willravel

Women get the itch just like men. It's generally just a matter of a stimulus of some kind triggering a biochemical response releasing certain wonderful chemicals. When your SO gets this, being within arms reach is one of the best parts of life.

The only pornography that ever really communicates the reality of sex is going to be amateur. Watching two plastic people go through the same thing you've seen a million times—kissing, undressing, oral, penetration, change a few positions, pull out and cover her poor face—is to sex as Twinkies are to fine pastries.

In my childhood, sex was first something too alien to even think about, then it was something to explore cautiously, then it was something to try, then it was something to explore further through experience, then it was recreational, then it was finding a way to make it an integral part of a fulfilling, romantic relationship. I'm sure a lot of people have basically the same story.

Skitto

Man was it strange growing up with my genes, I was a real horn as a kid.
I had no idea what sex was because I never encountered the circumstances to experiment with a girl, until middle school all I knew was that kisses made my heart glow just a little bit.

But I did innocent, yet weird things with other boys... and I'm semi-homophobic now, go figure.

Every girl I've been with (excepting one exceptional exception) thought I was a natural at going too far too fast. Only now do I understand how I am...,

Sex to me has always seemed like a natural thing that adults kept under wraps for reasons unknown, ambiguous and, I recently found, medieval as well. All I can say about that, is that the catholics screwed it up for all of us. I knew there was a feminine cycle just like there was a male cycle as a kid, though I didn't know it as such of course. But I'm pretty sure now the male cycle is tied to the act itself, not the time of month, by genetic habit if not by instinct.

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telekinetic

Women are statistically more likely to cheat the few days a month when they're fertile...that's when they typically have the insanely strong 'must mate now' urges...from a biological perspective, it would be silly if they didn't--why waste all the resources dropping an egg and getting it ready to receive sperm if the body wasn't going to try to get the brain to get on some dick and MAKE THAT BABY?

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n0nsensical

She's not lying either. She's hornier than me. =P

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Daniel_

Just wanted to say, for the benefit of the thread (on which I can't post myself) :

A - The thread is awesome, and we love you all

B - Happens to men too (or at least to me - hand to gland combat is never the same as trench warfare)

C - Any ladies needing a private consultation can get me on 1-800-BIG-BOY

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jewels

Daniel, what's a good time? I keep getting a busy signal ...

Dad's Playboy magazines that were in his night table or under the bed were my first exposure to anything sexual. I learned about sex from potboilers novels (i.e. Harold Robbins); the current reading material was always kept on the toilet tank. I was reading those novels by the time I was 7, or at least searching for the parts with the "bad" words. The rest I learned on the street.

My parents never spoke about sex, but I think they thought we (my brother and I) would come to them as they had invited us. I think we both felt more comfortable learning on the streets of the 'burbs, so I don't believe my upbringing had anything to do with my voracious appetite. Supposedly I'm trying to fill a void (so my Christian friends have told me) but I simply enjoy the acts and the intimacy.

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tecoyah

I am the fortunate recipient of a woman who regularly undergoes this terrible affliction, and though I can see the pain she must go through I am willing to help as much as possible, that she may get past these horrendous episodes of torturous physical irregularity.

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snowy

This thread is awesome, and I love you all. I'm pleased that Xerxys learned something about women through it.

Yes, we get really horny sometimes, just like men do. I'm reminded of when I first entered puberty, and my libido just went INSANE. Of course, being 12 there wasn't a whole lot I could do about it. Now, it's not nearly as bad, and it does not happen constantly like it did when I was going through puberty, but it's much the same--I just get this hankering for cock. MUST HAVE COCK. Sometimes it comes out of nowhere. Sometimes it is stimulated by reading some smut or writing some smut. Either way, I'm thankful to have an SO who is totally cool with me throwing him down on the mattress and having my way with him!

So yes, we're absolutely subject to strange hormonal urges too. Oddly, twisted, for me it does not line up with ovulation, probably because I don't ovulate. For me, it's usually the first week after inserting a new NuvaRing.

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lostgirl

I get no complaints.

I was raised in a very religious conservative home. My parents never talked to me about sex, except to say it would only be good and feel good if I waited till marriage. My sister caught me masturbating when I was 11 and she told my mom. My mom just told me not to do it cause it was a sin, I didn't listen. I don't think that they had much affect on my views about sex, most of which I learned from other kids at school.

My first introduction to porn was when I was 12. I found videos of my brother-in-law's porn collection, I would watch them when no one was home. I masturbated all the time, but had no interest in loosing my virginity until I was 18. Since that very first time I have been a very horny girl, I wanted sex all the time. Doesn't mean I just give it away to just anybody, it's always better with someone you love. I'm just an open minded, adventurous, sex loving girl.

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snowy

And there is nothing wrong with that!

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Xerxys

Dude, I totally feel your pain, and if you ever need someone to err, cover your shift ...

Yes, yes it is.

ROFL at hand to gland, so using that next time!! And sadly true

squeeeb

where the fuck do i meet those women????????

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Shaindra

There is plenty of truth to the mythical fear men have had about women's unbridled sexuality. We want it. We want it a lot. And the worst part is...knowing we can have it pretty much anytime we want.

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FelixP

They don't actually exist.

I dunno...I once had a shot at a bi nympho, and she could not keep her hands off of me. And believe me when I say I'm not god's gift to women. I guess women are similar to men in that some have a higher sex drive than others.

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ring

At the laundromat:
Watch for the ladies who straddle the washing machines,
during the spin cycle.

cellophanedeity

Love it. I lost my virginity at 15, and have wanted sex every day since.

Growing up I was taught that sex was good and fun, but you had to be knowledgeable and safe to be happy and healthy. I had a good liberal upbringing.

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thespian86

We keep getting all these discussion of a similar nature from lovable, social inept friends like Xerxys (I love you man!) and it's not just a male thing. Lots of little questions about the "rules of sex" and "genres of women" or "phenomenon involving sexy situations of sex".

Here's the idea:

Women aren't "kinds". There is no system. There are no rules. Expect that they like what most human beings like naturally: good food, humour, sex, art, honesty, nature, thrills, adventure, etc.

Women, like men, just need to fuck sometimes. I get the same feeling of restlessness when I'm incredibly horny. Such is life. For both sexes.

Everything exists somewhere on earth man. And, as a rule, there are always more then you'd expect.

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Cover his "shift"? You never know man, maybe in a couple of years that "i" might be an "a" and you'll feel much less out of place.

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EX: Whats new?
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EX: uh...
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elsesomebody

There was a thread asking about experiences with CraigsList personal ads and casual experiences, and it seemed that everybody agreed most of them were bs (at least w4m). I checked them out last night, and I found them hard to believe. I'd love to have a hot 21 year old want to ride my shaft, but I find it unlikely. Like Groucho said, "I would not join any club that would have someone like me for a member". It seems like a young women who is desperate for a fuck probably isn't hot. However, after reading the thread in the Ladies Lounge, I'm starting to have second thoughts that some of the CL posts could be real.

thespian86

I have slept with several incredibly beautiful and horny girls. I called them actresses. I now call them "women who want to sleep with me".

Women who are 21 and crazy about fucking me blind simply want to fuck me blind. The end.

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EX: Whats new?
ME: I officially love coffee more then you now.
EX: uh...
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Plan9

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thespian86

hahaha directed at me Cromp?

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EX: Whats new?
ME: I officially love coffee more then you now.
EX: uh...
ME: So, not much.

Gabbyness

Umm, huh?

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Shaindra

This thread makes me want to revisit my cougar days.

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Plan9

You are not the total thread.

I assure you that was palmface of mass destruction.

If I had some delicious booze to stimulate my braincells, I would comment further.

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Xerxys

DO, Do revisit ...

thespian86

Some men believe there is some secret code to women; that they are something to be won or whatever. The topic are women who, sometimes, need to get laid. And the majority of the comments were "these exist?", "where can I get one?", etc. The comment I was replying to involved a point that craigslist has "21 years who want to ride my shaft" and how that doesn't exist.

So, in other words (the sum of all of these points), is that there is some ulterior motive, OR they don't exist, OR etc.

My point was that women are just women. they think and approach problems like us. they live just like us.

When I first started having sex I thought: "these girls are just insecure, they would never JUST sleep with me".

then it was: "they are actresses and they like my talent".

Then I grew up. Women who want to have sex with me have sex with me BECAUSE THEY WANT TO. Otherwise, they wouldn't. There is no code. Either they like you or they don't.

So, in response to the aforementioned "ride my shaft" comment. To which I replied they do exist, and they do it because they want to.

Clear enough?

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EX: Whats new?
ME: I officially love coffee more then you now.
EX: uh...
ME: So, not much.

Plan9

I'm available on Thursdays after 1300. I don't have genitals, but I do have strong forearms.

...

I visualize this thread turning into another "men / women + wired differently + sex is lust vs. sex is bonding."

Don't let that happen.

Keep it on horny girls.

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Skitto

Squeeb:"where the fuck do i meet those women????????"

Skitto: They're everywhere, man. It's just that women's restraint is naturally very high, they're so used to holding back like that, that you won't know until they're drunk and on that TV special you buy from the Comedy Central commercials...

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elsesomebody

My disbelief in a hot 21 year old wanting to hook up with me arises from the fact that it seems that she wouldn't have to resort to finding a 30 year old man on CL when she could just go to a bar, have somebody buy her drinks and take her home. As I type this though, I realize you could end up with scumbag regardless of whether you use a bar or CL, and exchanging pics is possible with CL, so when you factor in the convenience of CL (not having to go out to a bar), I suppose its not so hard to believe after all.

Shaindra

Sorry, smooth spots need not apply. The original thread was about a woman just needing to be penetrated by actual cocks.

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Martian

Girls get horny?

Next thing you're going to tell me they expect to leave the kitchen to vote.

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thespian86

Dude, every Canadian knows nice women don't want the vote.

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EX: Whats new?
ME: I officially love coffee more then you now.
EX: uh...
ME: So, not much.

Plan9

Whoa, whoa, whoa...

Who hacked Martian's account?

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Manic_Skafe

This explains it all.

Fin.

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Magpie_1

I did

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elsesomebody

So now there is a new thread in the women's only forum about Casual Sex. It seems that of those that have tried it, most aren't big fans. Between these two threads I get the feeling that there are tons of women out there aching for a screw, which sounds good, until you realize they won't let you screw them (ie not fans of casual sex).. I don't think I'm doing a good job of explaining what I'm thinking, but in short: Women just can't stop fucking with my head.

lostgirl

I think it may be biological. Women have more too lose if they get pregnant by someone who is not going to stick around. It's kind of hardwired into us to need some sort of connection.

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Xerxys

Totaly off topic ... ^^ WTF!! When I read elsesomebody's last sentence then saw your upside down avatar I knew I had lost it, took me a while to acclamate!!

lostgirl

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