Hot Sex: How To Do It

[Glory's Sun]

This is an article from Tracey Cox My wife and I have a few of her books and I have to say that she's honest and open and her books are quite easy and fun to read.. (not to mention the hot photos)

So here's a little teaser article that she wrote..

'Happiness isn't a destination; it's a means of travelling.' This old saying can be applied to foreplay. Rush through the 'travelling' and you might find the destination isn't quite as exciting as you'd expected. Lavish attention on the whole body and you can't help but take your time.

Erogenous zones are areas on our bodies that create intense sexual arousal when stimulated. Apart from the obvious bits that we all share (like the penis and the clitoris), each of us has our own secret area that sends frantic YES! YES! messages to all the right places. For some, it's being bitten in the small of their neck. Others go crazy when someone strokes their buttocks. But what works for one lover won't necessarily work on the next, so consider each new lover unexplored territory. There are few places on our bodies that we don't like being touched. Why restrict foreplay to the breasts and genitals when the entire body is itching for attention?

Take a body tour. When you get to a new city, you often take an orientation tour to get your bearings, right? Then what's stopping you doing the same with your new lover's body? You can go all out here and even use a few props. Make him lie down naked on his stomach and close his eyes - make sure the room you're in is private and warm - then trail a scarf slowly and tantalisingly across his naked bottom and back. Then turn him over and stroke a feather around his penis and scrotum. You can then move on to using your hands, hair, breasts and mouth on his nipples and genital area, creating different sensations as you search for his ultimate pleasure zones.

Try stroking her face, the back of her neck, her back. Play with her hair, lift it up from her neck and stroke underneath, slide your palms up and down her arms - and this is just while you're watching TV together. Don't even make it to the bedroom.

Massage his feet, kiss his toes, massage his hands, then take each finger into your mouth and suck it, pretending it's his penis.

Don't dive straight for his penis during foreplay. Use long, sensual strokes up his inner thighs until he's trembling with desire.

Bottoms up! Both your bottoms are an arousable area. Try massaging them, stroking, even gentle slapping. Don't neglect the perineum (the bit between your genitals and your anus). Press firmly and massage with two fingers, gently stroking along the entire length; use your tongue to do the same.

Use your fingers to rub along the outline of his lips, then insert a finger into his mouth for him to suck. Do the same with your nipples. He can do the same with his penis.

Get into neck nibbling. Do you know anyone who doesn't enjoy having their neck kissed or gently nibbled? (If you do, they're either incredibly ticklish, or totally uptight.) It's a sadly ignored area that can produce amazing results.

Suck her toes, slide your tongue into her belly button (try diving on her after a shower if you're paranoid about 'fluff) - have fun with foreplay! It really doesn't matter if she laughs instead of sighs - she's still complimented that you find all of her sexy, not just 'the good bits'.

Kiss all over his body, not just on his mouth and genitals.

Use your whole body to massage his. Lie on top of him when he's lying on his back or front, gyrate slowly and revel in the simple sensation of skin against skin.

And for my next trick...

Tie him up. We've all seen it done in the movies. You don't need to pop down to a sex shop and buy one of those leather numbers to slip on (unless you want to, of course) or crack a whip (ditto) to play the dominatrix. But you do need a bedpost (or chair) to tie him to, a couple of long scarves (some old stockings or a few of his ties will do) and a nasty smile on your face. Once he's comfortably trussed (don't cut off the circulation, you need the blood flowing for him to get an erection, let alone keep his heart pumping), you can try out a number of erotic scenarios, like . . .

Masturbate for him. Watching you give yourself pleasure will give him a big kick. The effect will be even more spectacular if you masturbate loudly and theatrically while he's tied up and is utterly helpless. If you want to get him really worked up, simply leave him tied up and then . . .

Blindfold him. Even a see-through chiffon scarf can increase the sexual tension tenfold. It also makes you less inhibited about what you do to him because he can't see you. Tie the scarf across his eyes then build the anticipation by withdrawing completely for a few seconds, then caressing him in his favourite places, and a few he's not expecting. This also lets his imagination run wild - you could be a provocative French maid, slave girl . . . you get the picture

Lick off their body Undress each other. Don't just fling your clothes in a corner and hop into bed naked; let him undress you and vice versa. Stop along the way to lick and caress the body part that's just been exposed.

Play the vamp. Thought the only time you'd use those long, black gloves was on black tie occasions? Put them on now and start masturbating him. Yes, it does come out in the wash.

Make it good enough to eat. Whipped cream, bananas and berries aren't just good for fruit salads. Take them out of the kitchen or, better still, stay there and satisfy two appetites at once. Having a feast off each other's bodies is a laugh more than anything else, but even if it simply makes sex more fun, it's worth the experiment. Unless you're talking hot and spicy foods, it's safe to smother or insert most foods in and around the genitals for both of you to devour. While you're at it, grab some ice-cubes from the freezer, put them into your mouth, then suck his penis.

Drop it. Leave the sisterhood stuff outside the bedroom door. If he fantasises about you dressing up as a waitress, serving him exactly what he hungers for, he is treating you like a sex object - but isn't that the point?

Go for the cliche - most men love it. Invest in some sexy black underwear. After a night out, take off your clothes to reveal stockings and suspenders. (Even better, flash him a glimpse while you're out.)

Tease, tickle and titillate. Brush your lips over his mouth but don't let him kiss back. Put his penis momentarily in your mouth, then withdraw and start kissing his neck. Sit on top of him and let him partially penetrate you, then get up and walk away. The trick is to keep him unbelievably aroused rather than frustrated. At some point, though, you have to put him out of his misery by bringing things (and him) to a fabulous finale!

So do you view sex as a adventure or are you more a "as long as I get mine I'm happy" type of person? Has anybody tried all of these? None of these? Thinking about it?

My wife and I have pretty much tried all of these and enjoy the whole experience of sexual fun. Sure there's room for a quickie now and then, but it's much more fun when we have the time to play and explore each other. It makes the ending much more enjoyable and keeps things fresh and fun.

thoughts? ideas? stories? share them here If you aren't comfortable, don't forget you can post anonymously. Just remember all the same rules apply even if you are posting anonymously!

[snowy]

We mix it up. Sometimes we take our time and play and tease, sometimes we don't have time for that and just go for it. I get off pretty easily, so quickies can be just as good as taking it slow. Sometimes we just masturbate together. It really depends on our mood, when we get to bed or what time of day it is, and where I am in my cycle. I would say we typically have hot sex.

But I will have to take some of these suggestions and play with them; unfortunately my SO is incredibly ticklish in some very inconvenient places.

[Strange Famous]

I certainly dont feel like as long as I "get mine" then thats all I want.

Obviously Im not gonna start talking about techniques in a public forum.

[Glory's Sun]

Originally Posted by Strange Famous

I certainly dont feel like as long as I "get mine" then thats all I want.

Obviously Im not gonna start talking about techniques in a public forum.

*points to the anonymous option again

[Xerxys]

**exhales again**

Goddamn it.... this kind of threads should be banned........ during the day...

[botabota]

Originally Posted by Xerxys

**exhales again**

Goddamn it.... this kind of threads should be banned........ during the day...

HAHA it turn you on ... did it not?

[Anonymous Member]

Say, "Hey baby, let's go for a jog."

Jog. Come back. While her skin is glistening with sweat, Jump her. Slippery, glistening skin.

:shivers:





Gawd dammit, this dry spell needs to end. Now.

[snowy]

Originally Posted by Anonymous Member

Say, "Hey baby, let's go for a jog."

Jog. Come back. While her skin is glistening with sweat, Jump her. Slippery, glistening skin.

:shivers:





Gawd dammit, this dry spell needs to end. Now.

Hot.

I'll have to remember this when we start frisbee practices.

[Xerxys]

Originally Posted by botabota

HAHA it turn you on ... did it not?

**sighs**

[Plan9]

Originally Posted by Anonymous Member

Say, "Hey baby, let's go for a jog." Jog. Come back. While her skin is glistening with sweat, Jump her. Slippery, glistening skin. [/SIZE]

I've done that before... and I can verify the hotness of it. Especially if it's on the floor, crawling towards the shower.

[Xerxys]

Originally Posted by Crompsin

I've done that before... and I can verify the hotness of it. Especially if it's on the floor, crawling towards the shower.

Why ..... why for the love of god ..... WHY!!!

[Plan9]

If you're not full-body sore from a romp the next day... it wasn't hard enough.

TFP Sexin': It's like fight club with your crotch.

[snowy]

Originally Posted by Crompsin

If you're not full-body sore from a romp the next day... it wasn't hard enough.

TFP Sexin': It's like fight club with your crotch.

Amen.

I like it rough. Bruises are part of the deal.

[ngdawg]

Suck her toes, slide your tongue into her belly button

Anyone tries that shit with me won't get to use their junk for a couple days....and I don't mean that in a good way.

Massage his feet, kiss his toes,

I don't think so. In fact, I think a lot of those suggestions are nonsense if you have to resort to a checklist of "what to do". Hot sex is hot sex. It'd be a cold day in hell before I'd do something because I read it's supposed to be hot. If you want to play dress-up(for example), cool, but you shouldn't have to "resort" to it.

[Plan9]

Hahahaha... you just scared me, NG.

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Yeah, I don't think any woman wants to put her oh-so-sacred mouth anywhere near my scragglefunkin' paratrooper feet.

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I get the distinct feeling that a lot of the "70 HOT NEW WAYS TO TEASE YOUR MAN" listed on the front of girly magazines like Cosmo... ugh, it just rehashes of the same stuff that real women don't do to their guys because real guys really don't like it. Something tells me* that actual manly desires like "road head" and "anal" aren't listed in there. The feathers and chocolate syrup and bondage ribbons and ice cubes have been done and America is moving onto candle wax and nipple clamps. Touch it, see it, touch it, feel it... woo! Sex in this country is probably like a cocaine addiction: once you've done it the first time, all the subsequent experiences are never quite enough... but that isn't nearly enough incentive to stop. Stop? Are you insane? Rinse, repeat.

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* Okay, so I looked.

[Glory's Sun]

This isn't so much a checklist as an idea creator..it helps to get your imagination flowing.. sure we all know that some things just don't work for people..for instance.. feet.. no fucking way.

I mean..really who pulls out a book and starts checking things off while they are in the middle of sex? I certainly hope nobody does this.

[snowy]

Originally Posted by guccilvr

This isn't so much a checklist as an idea creator..it helps to get your imagination flowing.. sure we all know that some things just don't work for people..for instance.. feet.. no fucking way.

I mean..really who pulls out a book and starts checking things off while they are in the middle of sex? I certainly hope nobody does this.

It's so not sexy. I can't say I even have a mental checklist...if sex is truly hot, trying to think should be impossible anyways!

[Glory's Sun]

Originally Posted by snowy

It's so not sexy. I can't say I even have a mental checklist...if sex is truly hot, trying to think should be impossible anyways!

right

this thread also serves a purpose for people to post their ideas as well as the real life situations they have that may be similar to what was in the article.. or completely different.. as long as it's legal and within site rules it's cool.

like I've said before if you aren't comfortable, use the anonymous box

[Anormalguy]

I guess that some people, inexperienced and/or unimaginative, can benefit from a list of things to try.

My wife knows that feet & bellybuttons are a turnoff for me.

[Strange Famous]

"100 ways to please you man" by some lady... ain't no 100 ways... that list is just four things long: just suck his dick, play with his balls, and then fix him a sandwich and dont talk so much

[Glory's Sun]

[qoute]"100 ways to please you man" by some lady... ain't no 100 ways... that list is just four things long: just suck his dick, play with his balls, and then fix him a sandwich and dont talk so much[/quote]

lame. seriously.

[genuinegirly]

Kissing. Any level of kissing. Little pecks on my forehead send me whirling.

[Plan9]

Story time, chitlins... gather 'round:

Hmm, I think the hot-hot sex animal sex, much like the mythical werewolf, only appears when the atmosphere is just right for it to have maximum impact. For me, it often involves being blindsided by a do-it-to-me look from a sultry partner when I'm distracted with something else. It's like getting ambushed by a flank attack initiated by a pants-piercing lust bazooka. It also requires you're alone or near an area where you can have privacy for doing the deed... not too many couples throw down in public.

A good example of this was had at Fort Bragg sometime mid-'05. My platoon had just finished an absolutely awful yet badass field training exercise (cold rain, followed by more cold rain for a week) and we were having a pretty Viking barracks party (beer, grilled meat, someone's car pulled up on the grass blasting music, T-shirts optional) with my then-girlfriend-later-more woman. It doesn't take much for me to get fuzzy, so I was bumping chests and telling tall tales like everybody else after my third Bud Light. Girlfriend was socializing with various half-drunk paratroopers and giving me looks that I couldn't quite decode. This isn't rare... around women, I'm dense like uranium most of the time.

The combination of the booze and the music and a bunch of sweaty guys yelling and telling war stories had her fired up like something off the Discovery Channel. At one point I went over and scooped her up (trying to imitate Godzilla) and she leaned over my shoulder and whispered, "I'm going to need you to take me upstairs and fuck me. Right now." Whew. Yeah, and you'd never seen a half-drunk honky push a girl up two flights narrow concrete stairs as fast in your life. By the time we hit the door, I had a leg snaked my waist, my shorts undone, and close to working on a boob with my mouth. Luckily I was Corporal Crompsin by then and had a room to myself. There was no conversation, we were a knot of tongue and hip-thrusts and I'm pretty sure that every North Carolina sodomy law was broken in the first iteration alone. I'd like to thank Equate personal lubricant for providing such smooth sailing.

I was made fun of the rest of the week for the screams that emanated from that concrete box. I had scratches on my back and neck like some wildcat had mauled me. It was the kind of sex where you walk funny even after you wake up from your two hour nap.

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That's totally how ya do it. In the words of Sergeant Charles Caudill, that's the standard, dawg. There isn't ever any plan for really hot sex (it's a surprise)... simply the right combination of elements coming together and... KABOOM... spontaneous combustion.

[snowy]

That's a really hot story, Crompsin.

I'm all sorts of fired up now...best take care of that...

[Xerxys]

See why this thread should be shut down?!?!?! Huh.... who doesnt have a tent at work now??????

[Plan9]

But I'm your tax dollars at work. Typing up smut on TFP and making it hard to stand up from your rolly chair.

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I think others should follow suit and type up hot-hot sexual war stories. Techniques. Lessons learned.

[ametc]

For me, it's just cuddling and touching and lots of kissing. Also, spanking. Lots of spanking. Spanking me, that is. A little biting and nibbling, too. I don't want to be attacked, but just knowing he can control how I feel turns me on.

The greatest sex, for me, is spontaneous and after a good spanking.

[MSD]

Originally Posted by guccilvr

I mean..really who pulls out a book and starts checking things off while they are in the middle of sex? I certainly hope nobody does this.

Well you have to do it right. If she has her hair up, sexy glasses, a doctor's coat, and a clipboard with a list of ideas to check off ... sorry, I got distracted, what was the question?

[Cuddly Knife]

we're learning these days

[Plan9]

Originally Posted by MSD

Well you have to do it right. If she has her hair up, sexy glasses, a doctor's coat, and a clipboard with a list of ideas to check off

Righteous... yeah, most of the girls I've been with totally fit into the "sexy librarian" category. *good shiver*

[snowy]

Originally Posted by Crompsin

Righteous... yeah, most of the girls I've been with totally fit into the "sexy librarian" category. *good shiver*

I was a naughty librarian for Halloween this year.

[murp0434]

One night me and a former SO were skinny dipping in Lake Calhoun in DT Minneapolis in the middle of summer...we'd been dating for only a few weeks at the moment... nothing like the feel of warm summer lake water against naked skin at night....oops my hand accidentally brushed here and caressed there...anyway we ended up swimming up to one of those anchored yacht sailboats that people leave in the water all summer...all aboard! I got in over the side, let the ladder down, opened up the cabin...she led me down the stairs and pulled me onto the table....mmm ...and what do you know, the owner had stashed a bottle of crown aboard...of course we didn't find that for awhile... few sessions, a few hours, a nap or two later and an exhausted pair of naked swimmers were ready to go find our clothes. Nothing like being nude and swimming, surprising touches, caresses, games, etc for hours before ...the need was strong....what a night