sky_driver

My wife says that I don't communicate with her. What the heck does that mean?

Kadath

Can this go in Tilted Humor instead?

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vanblah

It means that she feels like the two of you don't exchange information in a meaningful way. Sort of like your thread start.

It would be helpful if you gave us some background information.

amire

I'd think that it means she feels you're hiding something from her. Not necessarily a dirty secret or anything, but she probably thinks that you're holding back your true thoughts on an issue or your feelings about whatever's going on in your life. She probably thinks that your actions, intonations, and facial expressions just don't match up with what you're saying. My guess is that she wants you to say EXACTLY what you're feeling.

But that's just a guess. Like vanblah said, more background information would help.

oFia

It could mean any number of things. I'm gonna guess (due to lack of background) that it has something to do with saying one thing but seeming to mean or think something else. (Like coming home from work pissy, being mad, but nothing is wrong, though something obviously is.)

And, to take another approach, it means exactly what she said. Your wife says you don't communicate and you ask a message board, not her, what she means. (Hopefully this doesn't sound too harsh... not trying to judge or attack.)

ratbastid

Look, if you can't communicate with US...

pig

last time it happened with me, it was because i stopped giving my girl the tap before i ejaculated during oral sex. consequently, she got hit in the eye a few times. i'd also fake things a little so i'd mess her timing up. finally, she gave me the old "we're not really communicating" line.

now, i don't think that's happening here. my guess is that you're a guy, so you don't talk about emotions much, or what you pondered during the day. and time passes and things get a little stale.

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Delirious

I try to fool my girl like that. She says that I always hold my breath so she knows, but damnit I try hard not to

Oh and the communication thing is caused by fear. Fear of what the other person will say or do when you tell them how you really feel.

dirtyrascal7

I find it ironic that you're asking US what SHE means regarding your communication issues. Obviously, you don't communicate well with her because if you did, you'd have asked HER what she means and therefore wouldn't have to ask us.

In other words... ask HER what she means.

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james t kirk

I have no idea.

I got the same thing from my last GF, now my ex by the way.

Exactly what communication were you looking for?

It's not like I don't say anything. It's just that little shit doesn't drive me crazy like it drove her crazy and caused her to act very badly. I don't need or want to analyze stuff TO DEATH and then talk about the same shit over and over until the cows come home.

Reminds me of a Sex and the City episode where Samantha decides to be a lesbian for a while and moves in with her GF and the GF drives HER crazy with all her over the top female analysis.

tecoyah

It means...she wants more of you....from you

I recommend you do so

The_Jazz

Why do I get the idea that this thread is a subtle joke?

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pignati

Ask her.

Rinndalir

Seconded, that's the best thing you can do.

Sultana

Seconded

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