lindalove

I have heard men and women alike complaining that the men didn't last longer than 15 minutes of actual intercourse. I know that for me, personally, 15 minutes of intercourse would be too long, and I know other women who feel the same way. In fact, the general consensus among my friends is that intercourse for extended periods of time is just uncomfortable or painful. The question is how long intercourse should go before it is considered an "extended period."

If it were up to you how long your partners lasted during vaginal sex, how long would it be? At what point would you want to stop?

abaya

Hmm, well ktspktsp banged the shit out of me last night for what seemed like ages but it was probably 15 mins tops, in the end. You're right, I probably would get a bit sore/raw after longer than, say, 20 mins. However, I can handle oral for probably 30-45 mins (since there is less friction in the vagina, but more on the clit, which gets more sensitive).

Then again, I don't really keep a stopwatch on hand for these events...

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snowy

After about 8 minutes of actual intercourse I start feeling a little overloaded. I tend to orgasm a lot and then start getting either oversensitive or completely desensitized. 10 minutes and I'm sore and tired...and definitely done.

Of course, like my friend J. said, sex with my current SO is more like the US invading New Zealand...you can only take so much invasion from something that size...(J is a male, by the way, which is what made this remark absolutely hilarious).

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thespian86

Actually... this is funny because I was contemplating leaving a post on this subject. I am finding lately that my penis is getting really sore, dried and desensitized becuase of how much sex I've been having and my SO and I have to take regular breaks. Is it a too much at once thing? Because sometimes with my depression meds I can go for a half hour without cumming. It seems like she's had four orgasms and I'm sore and in pain.

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NotAnAlias

Oh god we're about to get penetrated!!!

Toaster126

It starts hurting for the male as well. Take a break inbetween the sex sessions... you don't need to make it all one big thing.

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kentucky_lady

15 min. of actual intercourse is TOO much.

absorbentishe

I don't know, I've had 30 second sex, and I've had 3 hour sex. As long as she isn't getting uncomfortable, I'll keep going. She usually stays super wet, and wants to keep going. Unless we have somewhere to go, then as long as it takes. Lately, that has been 30+ minutes, but who's timing!

Ample

Im ready to pop after about 10 minutes, and if she has not cum yet Ill slow it down, but when I do that. I have to work it back up and that takes another 15 minutes. I dont know maybe Im getting to damn old. I have had to stop before I was done becuase she complained that she was too damn sore, or she dried out, and it wasnt good for either one of us.

Jinn

Three hours? I'm really starting to doubt anyone who claims to have had sex for that long. I mean it's fucking amazing but for three hours? I don't think I could do it, or want to do it for that matter.

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ShaniFaye

yeah 3 hours of actual non stop intercourse doesnt seem possible at all. 3 hours of playing and having some intercourse in there is perfectly believable.

I'd say about 10 minutes for me if Im on bottom, 20 minutes if Im on top then Im done lol Im too sore to think anything other than GET OUT OF ME RIGHT NOW

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la petite moi

I personally get very little out of penetration- I can't come internally. However, when it comes to foreplay, I could do that all day long, probably. So, I don't really care how long he can go during penetration, as long as it isn't just stick it in once, and then pull out. It especially doesn't help that his penis is so large, and I end up just getting friction and pain after awhile.

la petite moi

I've done it.

Supple Cow

It all just depends on how enthusiastically you are going at it and what you are paying attention to. I used to have sex several times a week for 30-45 minutes at a time. An hour and a half when we really dragged it out, and only 15 minutes when we were *hurrying*. Changing positions ever few minutes and a little lube go a long way toward keeping everybody involved and happy.

It just takes some exploration. You can figure out pretty quickly what kind of sex is most satisfying for your partner and what your own preferences are. If one or both of you doesn't have a consistently strong preference for how long it lasts or how enthusiastically you have to be going at it, a wonderfully varied sex life can result... with 5-minute quickies and steamy hour-and-a-half sessions to choose from. That's pretty much the way I am, so the length of in-and-out I can take is something I adjust based on my partner.

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Sultana

Maybe that includes dinner and a movie...

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ShaniFaye

part of me really wants to make people that claim that prove it. I want to stand there with my clipboard and stop watch

and flogger so I can beat them when they stop

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healer

15 minutes would be way too short for me. mandy and I usually go for 45mins to an hour, with foreplay accounting for about half that time.

The first 10 mins of actual sex is when I'm at my most sensitive, with sensitivity dropping off slightly after that. That's when it's most enjoyable for both of us, because I can enjoy myself without having to worry about cumming too soon. 4-5 positions later and she'll do something to send me over the edge.

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mandy

i suppose it all depends on the people invloved.like healer said, 15 minutes, is way too short for me. the longest we've ever gone is for about 2 hours and i was really sore after that.

usually i'm a quick cummer so, i'll get mine out the way. i'll on average have about 3-4 orgasms and then i'll work on him.

we have to go slow in the begining, cos like he said, he's very sensitive in the first coupla minutes, but after that, he's like the energiser bunny..."never say die"

but, even after all my orgasms, i still find it enjoyable and dont feel sore all the time.

dont get me wrong, im not saying that we always have to have an orgasm, cos it's nice, once in a while to have the sex without the climax. it's alot of fun too

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jmad

Depending on the situation, I usually need at least 15 minutes of non-stop intercourse to blow my load. However, if I wear a condom I can go for over an hour without down time. My girl has never complained about soreness even when we have sex on and off for hours at a time. Although I have never worn a stopwatch during sex, I think 15-20 minute blocks of sex are the way to go. Throw in nap/foreplay breaks, rinse and repeat.

Edit: I forgot to mention that I'm studying abroad right now, so I party like 5 times a week, and only have sex about once a week. This is probably why I can have sex for indefinate periods of time without any irritation to my knob.

Doing the math, if you have sex for an average of 30 minutes each session, at 5 sessions a week, you're having more sex than me, which could be why people get irritation after a short time of intercourse(15 mins or so).

Martian

Three hours of straight sex.. I've done it, but it's definitely not something I'd want to do every day. That kind of sex can be great if and only if you go slow and take your time. It's amazing with the right person, but it's definitely not a casual thing.

I'm one of those guys who has a lot of control over when I finish, so I can make it last three minutes or three hours depending on the situation. I generally want to make sure she gets hers before I get mine, but there are times when a quickie is just what's called for.

Personally, I prefer to extend foreplay and keep the actual sex under thirty minutes. An eight hour sex session might include three or four instances of actual intercourse, along with a lot of play and a few short breaks to recuperate (usually consist of cigarettes and 'holy shit' sort of statements). After that kind of session I'm usually done for the day, at least.

I have in my time managed some absolutely unreal numbers that I rarely mention because it's unlikely anyone would believe them anyway. Hell, I'm not sure I believe them and I was there. Suffice to say I've done the whole gamut and can say with confidence that in terms of duration I prefer to be squarely in the middle or even towards the short side, depending on how you want to view it. An hour is plenty long, half an hour is more ideal.

Mind it also depends on the girl. If she comes easily, then it'll tend to be shorter.

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JStrider

one time we got a free sample of this maintain stuff... so we figured what the hell and gave it a try...

lasted a loooooooooooooooong time... at least a couple hours of pretty constant sex... lots of position changes too...

couldnt feel my penis during most of that time... was weird!

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Spaz007

See I got in to that yesterday. This is a hard one to muster, last night my girl and I when on from 12:20am-4:00am and for what ever reason she did not want to stop (not that she didn’t cum). Granted I would say that 1 hour of it was foreplay, the problem with me is using condoms during long periods of sex. I get subconscious about whether it's going to hold, I usually can go for 4 orgasms before I get to tired and just want to stop but every time, you use a new condom it's a little more slippery or you just don't maintain being as hard as you were (well not right away, for me). In the end this can cause me to get way turned off and just stop short or change to oral till my partner is finished. I think sexual interaction must go for a good 1-11/2 hours, but actual sex it depends on the mood. I judge it by two orgasms (for me) or till my partner is tired or starts to get heavy eyed. But again it’s the mood.