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gabshu · 12-26-2003, 10:06 AM

This really blows. My boyfriend is studying abroad for a semester. He left in october and came back for christmas break. When we went to have sex, the first time was great, but I was begining to feel sore. The morning after it hurt too much and I couldn´t do it. It made me really pissed cuz I hadn´t seen him in so long and I was horny too

. We did it again 2 days after and he had to go really slow so I wouldn´t scream in pain. I don´t know what to do next time, cuz I´m not going to see him again until march and I don´t want it to be like this again. Does this happen to anyone else? What should i do?

Averett · 12-26-2003, 10:19 AM

That happened to me....

Went to Virginia to visit my college boyfriend (I had moved back home to NY, doing the long distance thing...) and the first night everything was fine. A bit sore but no big deal... 2nd night we go for it and there was no way in hell. It hurt, a lot. Then I got a wicked horrible cold and there was nothing going on for the rest of my trip.

I think it was just because it had been awhile since I had sex. And we started before I was ready, too quickly and all of that.

Another time after a long layoff I was a bit sore, but luckly the guy I was with knew what the hell he was doing and took it slow and everything. No problems after that.

My advice... make sure you're ready before you start having sex. Lots of foreplay and maybe even some lube. Since you don't see him very often, take some time to get used to things again. Hopefully next time things go better for you!

la petite moi · 12-26-2003, 04:15 PM

Yeah, after a long time of not having sex, things start to get all closed up. Teehee. Try lots of lube. Lots of lube...foreplay. And different positions. I swear, last night, my lover and I did it and for example: if you have chair sex [guy on bottom, girl on top] its waaaaaay tight and hurts a tiny bit. But using the same chair, if you get down on your knees in front of it and grip it, then have him push into from behind, it feels hellllaa good.

My advice short: Try different positions, after foreplay and lots of lubing up. Teehee. Good luck.

little limey · 12-28-2003, 06:04 PM

I usually just try to do it once or twice and then get rid of all the other horniness by having fun other ways. I have the soreness problem too after not having had sex for a while.

Angel · 12-29-2003, 11:47 PM

Yes, it happens, if you allow it. Your final question was "what should I do?" Well, for right now, you have to bear with the pain. But you can plan for your future rendevous. Go buy you a dildo close to the same size of his penis and use it! Not only will it keep you prepped for him later, you will also enjoy self induced pleasure with him on your mind while he is away.
*Just my two pennies*

sexymama · 12-31-2003, 11:37 AM

Angel is a wise woman. Prep for the future so that you are ready for your pleasure and his. Not to mention the pleasure you will experience in the process.

For now, lots of lube, as the ladies have said. Then, do it slow and easy and take your time. Mostly, enjoy what you can and don't obsess about "doing it all right now." You may be putting too much pressure on yourself to perform which may subconsciously cause anxiety and thus pain. Relax and have fun -- do ONLY what feels good.

Plummie · 12-31-2003, 09:23 PM

Sex should never be painful, especially with lots of lube. I would suggest you talk to your gynecologist and tell them the symptoms you experience.

Painful sex can be the result of many things including endometriosis, ovarian cysts, or the beginnings of a yeast infection. Better to be safe than sorry, I say!

12-26-2003, 10:06 AM	#1 (permalink)
gabshu Psycho Location: The capital of the free world??	Sex hurts This really blows. My boyfriend is studying abroad for a semester. He left in october and came back for christmas break. When we went to have sex, the first time was great, but I was begining to feel sore. The morning after it hurt too much and I couldn´t do it. It made me really pissed cuz I hadn´t seen him in so long and I was horny too . We did it again 2 days after and he had to go really slow so I wouldn´t scream in pain. I don´t know what to do next time, cuz I´m not going to see him again until march and I don´t want it to be like this again. Does this happen to anyone else? What should i do? __________________ Go Kool Aid. OH YEAAHH http://www.retrocrush.com/archive2003/koolaid/

12-26-2003, 10:19 AM	#2 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	That happened to me.... Went to Virginia to visit my college boyfriend (I had moved back home to NY, doing the long distance thing...) and the first night everything was fine. A bit sore but no big deal... 2nd night we go for it and there was no way in hell. It hurt, a lot. Then I got a wicked horrible cold and there was nothing going on for the rest of my trip. I think it was just because it had been awhile since I had sex. And we started before I was ready, too quickly and all of that. Another time after a long layoff I was a bit sore, but luckly the guy I was with knew what the hell he was doing and took it slow and everything. No problems after that. My advice... make sure you're ready before you start having sex. Lots of foreplay and maybe even some lube. Since you don't see him very often, take some time to get used to things again. Hopefully next time things go better for you! __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-29-2003, 11:47 PM	#5 (permalink)
Angel Naughty Just Right Location: Euphoria	Yes, it happens, if you allow it. Your final question was "what should I do?" Well, for right now, you have to bear with the pain. But you can plan for your future rendevous. Go buy you a dildo close to the same size of his penis and use it! Not only will it keep you prepped for him later, you will also enjoy self induced pleasure with him on your mind while he is away. Just my two pennies __________________ In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was within me an invincible summer. ~Albert Camus

12-31-2003, 11:37 AM	#6 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Angel is a wise woman. Prep for the future so that you are ready for your pleasure and his. Not to mention the pleasure you will experience in the process. For now, lots of lube, as the ladies have said. Then, do it slow and easy and take your time. Mostly, enjoy what you can and don't obsess about "doing it all right now." You may be putting too much pressure on yourself to perform which may subconsciously cause anxiety and thus pain. Relax and have fun -- do ONLY what feels good. __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.

12-31-2003, 09:23 PM	#7 (permalink)
Plummie Liquid Diamonds Location: Lexington, KY	Sex should never be painful, especially with lots of lube. I would suggest you talk to your gynecologist and tell them the symptoms you experience. Painful sex can be the result of many things including endometriosis, ovarian cysts, or the beginnings of a yeast infection. Better to be safe than sorry, I say! __________________ Kim

12-26-2003, 04:15 PM	#3 (permalink)
la petite moi Filling the Void. Location: California	Yeah, after a long time of not having sex, things start to get all closed up. Teehee. Try lots of lube. Lots of lube...foreplay. And different positions. I swear, last night, my lover and I did it and for example: if you have chair sex [guy on bottom, girl on top] its waaaaaay tight and hurts a tiny bit. But using the same chair, if you get down on your knees in front of it and grip it, then have him push into from behind, it feels hellllaa good. My advice short: Try different positions, after foreplay and lots of lubing up. Teehee. Good luck.

12-28-2003, 06:04 PM	#4 (permalink)
little limey Psycho Location: Room Nineteen	I usually just try to do it once or twice and then get rid of all the other horniness by having fun other ways. I have the soreness problem too after not having had sex for a while.