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uptown · 03-01-2005, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Demeter

When my man treats me to a dinner out, I feel awful leaving food on my plate. After all, someone other than me is paying for it.
However, Temp, if you cannot embrace her for who she is/was/and may be one day...you may not be the man for her. What are you going to do if she puts on 10 pounds?

And if she sat there and pushed an over priced salad around on her plate
he'd be mad because she wasted his money.

When I spend my money taking somebody to dinner it's usually because I want them to enjoy really good dishes that they don't usually get a chance to eat at home.It's a special occasion. I'd never dream of making fun of them because they cleaned their plate or point out that they ate more than I did,heck I'd be pleased they enjoyed the meal !

Oh and another thing, a lot of those chicks who just sit there lanquidly pushing food around on the plate either ate before leaving their house or are snorting white powder on their frequent trips to the rest room.

Taking her out to eat,then making "jokes" because she actually eats smells like a setup to me cause there's no way she can win here.If she eats you can make pig noises,if she doesn't you can get huffy because she wasted your money ordering food to push around on her plate.

la petite moi · 03-01-2005, 05:22 PM

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Originally Posted by dlishsguy

hmmm....my SO is a nutirtionist/dietician, so i know a little about this...

Holy crap, if you call my SO's mother a nutritionist/dietician, she'll be really upset. Sorry, I just needed to point out that there is a difference. A nutritionist does not endure a lot of the training a dietician does.

dlish · 03-01-2005, 09:18 PM

ure right le petite..theres a huge difference..if my SO heard me say that she'd be upset too lol.. but i guess a dietician can also be a nutritoinist, but a nutritionist cant be a dietician..if that makes sense...but even i get mixed up sometimes

i had to endure 4 years of my SO's nutrition/dietetics course, passing with Honours.. pfft...so yeah she would be upset if i called her a nutritionist... i got thru uni by the skin of my teeth..hell ...my motto was.."a mark of 51, and i studied 1 mark too hard "

so yeah..she'd be upset cos shes a study be and im not. if i want to get on her bad side i call her a nutritionist and she gives me the "death stare"

Lockjaw · 03-01-2005, 10:46 PM

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Originally Posted by uptown

Oh and another thing, a lot of those chicks who just sit there lanquidly pushing food around on the plate either ate before leaving their house or are snorting white powder on their frequent trips to the rest room.

That's just about as insensitive and wrong as the guy making a joke to his girlfriend. Yeah girls that don't have huge appitites must be snorting coke. That's real nice.

And unless he said he'd be pissed if she didn't eat her food(which I doubt considering he himself didn't finish his food off) then I don't think it's wise or proper to put words into his "mouth" that he didn't remotely imply or say. We should be above such things right?

KingNurple · 03-06-2005, 11:01 AM

You said it "bugs her", so she needs to change the way she eats. No amount of working out will cause you to lose weight if you eat poorly. Working out and eating good will change her body very quickly.

Mel · 03-07-2005, 12:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Temporary_User

We were at a restaurant and having a few drinks, we were consistent on the drinking, because I was more having conversations and eating inbetween talking than drinking. She would finish her drink and I would have like 1/4 left each time. SO all I said to her was along the lines of geez, whats going on here, I feel bad Im supposed to be the one who out drinks and eats you.
I feel that was more a comment on me, and making me feel less 'manly' because Im not out drinking her @ the time.
Eating everything off of the plate isnt the problem I have w/ her, It's that I believe that diet is just as important as exercise.
I want to help.

If you truly want to help her and tell her about your opinion on food and losing weight then wait for her to ask you for help. I think you are doing ok, going on walks with her, but when it comes to food and dieting women can be very sensitive. You don't want her to get upset and develop an eating disorder or stop eating around you, so just wait for the right time.

gariig · 03-07-2005, 04:42 AM

I think you are looking for trouble where there is none. She cleaned her plate? Big deal. She should be having a lot of calories, if you are an inactive man then she should be eating more then you to compensate her working out. Also, the weight she needs to lose is it the "I'm 134 and like to be 130" pounds? Those are the hardest to lose and she may never get to her goal weight, maybe you should reassure her current weight. If you really want to help and she lets you, suggest a nutritionist/dietician to help with her eating habits.

kangaeru · 03-08-2005, 06:13 AM

Temp User...

Bottom line--if the girl is too chubby for you and isn't showing any signs of getting better, chances are she wont. Girls like this can be friends, but you can't realistically sustain a healthy relationship when deep down you are not happy with how your partner looks. Then you get into being ashamed subconciously when you go out with her...etc. To all the ladies up in arms over this...sorry, that's how it is. Sex is a part of a relationship, being proud of your partner is a part of the relationship, as I see it. If they don't take care of their bodies and their appearance, then I'm not gonna be with em. And this is not coming from a hypocrite--in high school i was 6'2, 210lbs. Not fat by any means but i was a husky kid. That was at 16/17. Now i'm 20 and almost a junior in college, I'm 6'2 180lbs, work out 3-4 times a week and lead a generally physically active life. Be the change you want to see--if you can't committ to taking care of yourself how are you going to take care of anybody else?

Go with what's gonna make you happy man. It may sound selfish but in the end you'll save both of yourselves some trouble.

03-01-2005, 09:18 PM	#43 (permalink)
dlish Currently sour but formerly Dlishs Super Moderator Location: Australia/UAE	ure right le petite..theres a huge difference..if my SO heard me say that she'd be upset too lol.. but i guess a dietician can also be a nutritoinist, but a nutritionist cant be a dietician..if that makes sense...but even i get mixed up sometimes i had to endure 4 years of my SO's nutrition/dietetics course, passing with Honours.. pfft...so yeah she would be upset if i called her a nutritionist... i got thru uni by the skin of my teeth..hell ...my motto was.."a mark of 51, and i studied 1 mark too hard " so yeah..she'd be upset cos shes a study be and im not. if i want to get on her bad side i call her a nutritionist and she gives me the "death stare" __________________ An injustice anywhere, is an injustice everywhere I always sign my facebook comments with ()()===========(}. Does that make me gay? - Filthy

03-06-2005, 11:01 AM	#45 (permalink)
KingNurple Upright	You said it "bugs her", so she needs to change the way she eats. No amount of working out will cause you to lose weight if you eat poorly. Working out and eating good will change her body very quickly.

03-07-2005, 04:42 AM	#47 (permalink)
gariig Tilted Location: Orlando	I think you are looking for trouble where there is none. She cleaned her plate? Big deal. She should be having a lot of calories, if you are an inactive man then she should be eating more then you to compensate her working out. Also, the weight she needs to lose is it the "I'm 134 and like to be 130" pounds? Those are the hardest to lose and she may never get to her goal weight, maybe you should reassure her current weight. If you really want to help and she lets you, suggest a nutritionist/dietician to help with her eating habits.

03-08-2005, 06:13 AM	#48 (permalink)
kangaeru Crazy Location: on the road to where I want to be...	Temp User... Bottom line--if the girl is too chubby for you and isn't showing any signs of getting better, chances are she wont. Girls like this can be friends, but you can't realistically sustain a healthy relationship when deep down you are not happy with how your partner looks. Then you get into being ashamed subconciously when you go out with her...etc. To all the ladies up in arms over this...sorry, that's how it is. Sex is a part of a relationship, being proud of your partner is a part of the relationship, as I see it. If they don't take care of their bodies and their appearance, then I'm not gonna be with em. And this is not coming from a hypocrite--in high school i was 6'2, 210lbs. Not fat by any means but i was a husky kid. That was at 16/17. Now i'm 20 and almost a junior in college, I'm 6'2 180lbs, work out 3-4 times a week and lead a generally physically active life. Be the change you want to see--if you can't committ to taking care of yourself how are you going to take care of anybody else? Go with what's gonna make you happy man. It may sound selfish but in the end you'll save both of yourselves some trouble.