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Old 07-05-2004, 12:23 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Can a hook-up become something more?

All right, this is the first threat I've started, so if you guys could give me all the advice/experiences you could, I would be forever grateful(and keep you guys posted about how it goes)

Situation: A bunch of friends came to my house the other night for a small party(20 or so people), and brought a few people I didn't know. They brought this cute brunette, and we hit it off early in the night. I talked to her a lot, and was keeping her laughing. I think I even impressed her when a random guy walks in and trys to fill up a beer cup, and I kicked him out straightaway. So we play drinking games for a while, then the group of people I didn't know went to get food while my guy friends and I go grab a few more drinks at the bar. We meet up with everyone at the girls' apartment(the ones I met that night), have a few more drinks with the guys and watch TV. She doesn't live at this apartment, and her's is far away, so she was sleeping there for the night. I continue talking to this girl and we're having a good time. Soon, the place empties out, and the girl and I are still talking quietly to each other(the only other people in the room is another couple sleeping on the sofa next to us). We start kissing and she's worried about the people next to us waking up, so we take it to the porch. After a little while we decide to call it a night and share a couch to sleep on. We fool around for a little while longer then goto sleep. The next morning we hug, I get her phone number, and me and a buddy(who had hooked up with a different girl that lived there) took the walk of shame back to our respective houses.

My problem: Random hookups like this have happened in the past, where I definately made a connection with a girl, then totally wussed out(figuring it would be weird) and never called them back. We were drinking, but it definately wasn't a drunk thing(believe me on this one, I've experienced plenty of those). I have a lot of free time on my hands because school's out, and i'm working part time, and would like to pursue this and see where it goes. However, I'm afraid to call her because it might get weird. What do you think I should do?
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Old 07-05-2004, 01:28 AM   #2 (permalink)
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i think you know already know the answer. i mean it's pretty obvious. but in case you need more support...

GO FOR IT.

i don't understand why you wouldn't. there's a reason she gave you her number, what're you waiting for.

all life is is a series of random hookups. i don't really understand, are you expecting a fortune cookie that says "Tonight you will meet the woman you will marry. Her name is Julia."

besides, what's the worst that could happen. you have an awkward phone call with a girl that you didn't even know 2 weeks ago? relatively low risk of any permanent emotional scars i would think.
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Old 07-05-2004, 04:54 AM   #3 (permalink)
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call her for sure. whats the worst that can happen? dont regret not calling her because you thought it would be weird.
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Old 07-05-2004, 08:38 AM   #4 (permalink)
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So if it's weird, you still tried, huh?

Don't hesitate (and keep us posted)
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Old 07-05-2004, 08:49 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Well, mine ended up in matrimony .

Call her!
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Old 07-05-2004, 09:14 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Things can only get weird if you allow them to get weird. If you just don't go there, you'll be fine.

Call her. Oh, and don't do the guy thing and wait three days, that's stupid. Plan9 can disagree if he likes, but I think that's just dumb.
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Old 07-05-2004, 09:42 AM   #7 (permalink)
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I had a hookup that ended in a relationship. I think the simple truth to the matter is just don't let it end as a hookup. Call her (but everyone else has already said this).
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Old 07-05-2004, 12:20 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Thanks for the input everyone. I guess sometimes you just need a kick in the nuts to set you straight. I'll call her tonight and try to set up something simpmle for later this week. Plan9 would approve, cause it has been three days since we met . It's kinda funny, cause I always yell at guys for over-analyzing stupid sh!t like this, but hey, everyone's a hippocrite once in a while I'll keep you folks posted.
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Old 07-05-2004, 12:25 PM   #9 (permalink)
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As per the bulk of the group, I agree... go for it!

Randomness is just how life works. When you are set up by people (basically the opposite of a random hookup) there are expectations. If it doens't work, who is to blame sort of thing. Random hookups are perfect. If it doesn't work, it's nobody's fault. No one needs to feel bad.

I met my wife on HotOrNot. I had just come home from Basic Training and AIT. I clicked on "Yes" to meet a few new people. I wasn't even looking for a relationship at the time... nor a fling. I just legitamtely wanted to meet new people. I went out with Jen once and my life changed forever. Taking a chance is what life is all about. If you're too afraid to take chances, life will never be what it could.
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Old 07-05-2004, 02:26 PM   #10 (permalink)
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That's how people meet people, man! Get on it! Go get her! hehe
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Old 07-05-2004, 03:31 PM   #11 (permalink)
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heh it's strange how that works. you dish out advice but can never seem to do it for yourself.

it's just when you get too close to the situation that you get uncomfortable and uncertain. sometimes you just need an outside perspective.
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Old 07-05-2004, 04:22 PM   #12 (permalink)
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No idea why the hesitation. If you are reading this you are still wasting time.

Uhm now is a good time to call her if you haven't.
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Old 07-05-2004, 05:17 PM   #13 (permalink)
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much in agreement with everyone else - my hookup ended up in an awesome relationship! call her and let us know how it goes!
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Old 07-05-2004, 05:25 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Go forth young skywalker and proceed to pound that ass!
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Old 07-05-2004, 07:42 PM   #15 (permalink)
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Location: Wisconsin, eh?
So, I called her tonight, and she said she was going to go see Rhythm and Booms (fireworks in Wisconsin), and invited me over to one of her friend's place to watch them. It was kinda weird, because all the people there were her friends. I didn't really get to talk to her very much, and she went home early because she has class tomorrow morning. Kind of a let down, because it was so uneventful. I'm going to try to figure out something more personal we can do together. Any ideas?
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Old 07-05-2004, 07:51 PM   #16 (permalink)
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i'm going to assume you meant you called her last night otherwise it wouldn't make sense.

so let me get this straight, she invited you over, but left early and left you there with her friends, alone?
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Old 07-05-2004, 10:56 PM   #17 (permalink)
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No, i called her at like 7 today/tonight. and i knew a few or her friends, but i left right before she did.
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