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streak_56 · 12-01-2003, 11:29 AM

Ok... I've been talking to this chick at school for a long time. She has a boyfriends unfortunately. But always seems to be complaining about him. I don't know if I should try to convince her that I'll be better for her or just let things be. I would prefer if chicks would post.

Averett · 12-01-2003, 11:43 AM

Umm.. weren't you just posting that you have a girlfriend? The threesome thing?

So you either
A) Have a girlfriend
B) Have a girlfriend who wanted a threesome
C) Have a girlfiend and want to cheat on her
D) Are completely full of shit

Sorry if I'm coming off as a bit harsh...

Either way, if the girl has a boyfriend, let her be. Regardless of how much she complains about him. Would you want some guy coming along and stealing your girl away? I doubt it.

Don't be one of those asshole guys.

Pragma · 12-01-2003, 11:59 AM

Agreed with Averett on this one - you need to get your story straight.

Convincing a girl in a relationship that you're "better for her" than her current boyfriend is a shady business at best, and can turn downright dangerous if her boyfriend finds out and wants to punch a hole through your face.

How would you feel if you and your girlfriend have a small fight and some asshole comes along and steals her from you?

If she's unhappy enough to leave, she'll do it on her own. And then she'll make her own decision about who's "better for her" - you or someone else.

sailor · 12-01-2003, 12:35 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Averett
Don't be one of those asshole guys.

I couldnt say it better.

1337haxor · 12-01-2003, 01:17 PM

No matter how much she complains; if she doesn't have the courage to leave him, she's no good to ya buddy.

-Robert

Sho Nuff · 12-01-2003, 01:21 PM

Read the Getting Girls 101 thread and let the chips fall where they may

Cynthetiq · 12-01-2003, 02:00 PM

read my sig...it's simple...

pocon1 · 12-01-2003, 04:07 PM

If someone is dating, and you re simply being charming and nice, and she falls for you, thats ok. If you tell her that her bf isa jerk and you are much better, that is not ok. Women are fickle, and they will change their mind. If you make yourself available, and make your intentions discreetly known to her, then she can make a choice. Until he puts a ring on her finger, she is fair game.

Arrion · 12-01-2003, 07:32 PM

best thing you can do is give her advice, but don't be too blunt on kickin his ass out the door

vveronica · 12-02-2003, 09:05 AM

Take the chance.. If she is looking for someplace to run to she will know you want more than just friend... If she is just looking for a shoulder to cry on then she will know your not looking for that... or are you???

Bloodslick · 12-02-2003, 09:34 AM

Subtlety is key. If she sees something and makes her own choice, you haven't "stolen" anything. If you start puttin' the moves on her and laying on pressure, you're a thief.

googleplex · 12-02-2003, 10:13 AM

What if you tell a girl that the guy's a jerk, but don't say that you'll be better for her?

It's ok to state the obvious, right?

erion · 12-02-2003, 11:34 AM

If you tell a girl her BF is a loser, the concept that you are better than him is implied.

Trust me when I say that trying to convince anyone the person they're dating is not worth it is bad news.

I had a very good friend who I thought was making a bad decision about getting married to a girl I felt wasn't right for him. I asked him many times how certain he was about the wedding, and once they sent out the invitations I let it drop.

Six months after the wedding she filed for divorce. I heard about it third hand because he hasn't talked to me in more than five years. And this is one of my male friends. I can't imagine the reaction If I had been a womand trying to convince him to date me.

Bottom line -- if you want to be in the picture, let her do the drawing. Don't try to pencil yourself in.

rocinante2003 · 12-02-2003, 11:49 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by erion
Bottom line -- if you want to be in the picture, let her do the drawing. Don't try to pencil yourself in.

That is such a damn good bit of advice. I like that one alot.

erion · 12-02-2003, 12:39 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by rocinante2003
That is such a damn good bit of advice. I like that one alot.

Hey it worked for me with my wife and we've been together for 8 years (5 married). She was dating someone when we met, as was I. Six months later she asked me out. All I did was make myself available to her.

12-01-2003, 11:29 AM	#1 (permalink)
streak_56 who ever said streaking was a bad thing? Location: Calgary	Need HELP Ok... I've been talking to this chick at school for a long time. She has a boyfriends unfortunately. But always seems to be complaining about him. I don't know if I should try to convince her that I'll be better for her or just let things be. I would prefer if chicks would post.

12-01-2003, 11:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
Averett Is In Love Location: I'm workin' on it	Umm.. weren't you just posting that you have a girlfriend? The threesome thing? So you either A) Have a girlfriend B) Have a girlfriend who wanted a threesome C) Have a girlfiend and want to cheat on her D) Are completely full of shit Sorry if I'm coming off as a bit harsh... Either way, if the girl has a boyfriend, let her be. Regardless of how much she complains about him. Would you want some guy coming along and stealing your girl away? I doubt it. Don't be one of those asshole guys. __________________ Absence is to love what wind is to fire. It extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.

12-01-2003, 11:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
Pragma I am Winter Born Location: Alexandria, VA	Agreed with Averett on this one - you need to get your story straight. Convincing a girl in a relationship that you're "better for her" than her current boyfriend is a shady business at best, and can turn downright dangerous if her boyfriend finds out and wants to punch a hole through your face. How would you feel if you and your girlfriend have a small fight and some asshole comes along and steals her from you? If she's unhappy enough to leave, she'll do it on her own. And then she'll make her own decision about who's "better for her" - you or someone else. __________________ Eat antimatter, Posleen-boy!

12-01-2003, 01:21 PM	#6 (permalink)
Sho Nuff Addict Location: Harlem	Read the Getting Girls 101 thread and let the chips fall where they may __________________ I know Nietzsche doesnt rhyme with peachy, but you sound like a pretentious prick when you correct me.

12-01-2003, 02:00 PM	#7 (permalink)
Cynthetiq Tilted Cat Head Administrator Location: Manhattan, NY	read my sig...it's simple... __________________ I don't care if you are black, white, purple, green, Chinese, Japanese, Korean, hippie, cop, bum, admin, user, English, Irish, French, Catholic, Protestant, Jewish, Buddhist, Muslim, indian, cowboy, tall, short, fat, skinny, emo, punk, mod, rocker, straight, gay, lesbian, jock, nerd, geek, Democrat, Republican, Libertarian, Independent, driver, pedestrian, or bicyclist, either you're an asshole or you're not. What's the best nation in the world? DO-NATION!

12-01-2003, 01:17 PM	#5 (permalink)
1337haxor Insane Location: PA	No matter how much she complains; if she doesn't have the courage to leave him, she's no good to ya buddy. -Robert

12-01-2003, 04:07 PM	#8 (permalink)
pocon1 Banned	If someone is dating, and you re simply being charming and nice, and she falls for you, thats ok. If you tell her that her bf isa jerk and you are much better, that is not ok. Women are fickle, and they will change their mind. If you make yourself available, and make your intentions discreetly known to her, then she can make a choice. Until he puts a ring on her finger, she is fair game.

12-01-2003, 07:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
Arrion Upright	best thing you can do is give her advice, but don't be too blunt on kickin his ass out the door __________________ I think I am. Therefore I am. I think

12-02-2003, 09:05 AM	#10 (permalink)
vveronica Psycho Location: northern california	Take the chance.. If she is looking for someplace to run to she will know you want more than just friend... If she is just looking for a shoulder to cry on then she will know your not looking for that... or are you??? __________________ ...We find ourselves in a struggle for our very right to exsist... We will not go quietly into the night... We will not give up without a fight...

12-02-2003, 09:34 AM	#11 (permalink)
Bloodslick Loser Location: a darkened back alley	Subtlety is key. If she sees something and makes her own choice, you haven't "stolen" anything. If you start puttin' the moves on her and laying on pressure, you're a thief.

12-02-2003, 10:13 AM	#12 (permalink)
googleplex Tilted	What if you tell a girl that the guy's a jerk, but don't say that you'll be better for her? It's ok to state the obvious, right?

12-02-2003, 11:34 AM	#13 (permalink)
erion Psycho	If you tell a girl her BF is a loser, the concept that you are better than him is implied. Trust me when I say that trying to convince anyone the person they're dating is not worth it is bad news. I had a very good friend who I thought was making a bad decision about getting married to a girl I felt wasn't right for him. I asked him many times how certain he was about the wedding, and once they sent out the invitations I let it drop. Six months after the wedding she filed for divorce. I heard about it third hand because he hasn't talked to me in more than five years. And this is one of my male friends. I can't imagine the reaction If I had been a womand trying to convince him to date me. Bottom line -- if you want to be in the picture, let her do the drawing. Don't try to pencil yourself in.