Sleepyjack

This isn't some love thread, or how to meet girls, so get rid of your preconceived ideas now.

OK, i like to be different. I meet a few new girls just at uni yesterday. During the usual introduction all i normally do is shake their hand or smile and wave. Well my friend said this is tom and tom this is so and so and so on, basic introduction.
However i've been thinking of new greetings or any other means in making an impression, rather than just the stadard handshakes or whatever. Namely what ARTelevsion said a while back in a chivarly thread. ARTelevsion is a really cool guy, so i was thinking of taking some notes off him

Anyway, basically he said that he kisses the hands of new ladies he meets or whenever he greets a woman.

My basic question is though, is this still a little weird to do. I know there may be a little bit of a generation gap, but me, as a 19 old, would that be really fucking weird and do more harm than good?
Anyone else still do it?

Any other possible different greetings?

just another one of my whimsical ideas i have *shrug*

arch13

I do it all the time and i'm only 22. It's fun, sets you apart in the gitls mind, and makes her laugh. And there's nothing better than getting a pretty girl to laugh.

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Sleepyjack

cool, noted.

skysooner

I don't really see a problem in using it as an introduction. It will set you apart. It all depends on what type of person you are trying to meet. Regardless of what you do, there are always going to be some people who won't appreciate a token like this. It could be that a perfectly cool girl might be put off by the presumptuousness of this from a perfect stranger. However if we all did everything we could do to avoid offending others, we wouldn't have much of a life would we. I would try it a bit and see what reaction you get. If it doesn't feel natural, practice might make perfect or it could be that you won't feel comfortable doing it. The key thing here is to just be comfortable with what you are doing and women will respond to the confidence.

Averett

Personally I think it would be a little weird. Then again, if I find myself attracted to the guy I might find it cute.

So basically I didn't answer your question at all!

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ARTelevision

Well, I believe if you check the threads where I mention this, I have stated it has to do with the fact that I love women very much - all women - as women - because they are women and, in my opinion, the very best this earth has to offer.

What I mean is it isn't a tactic or part of a strategy for me. As you know, I have two of the world's greatest women in my life already.

If you can catch the spirit of this, it's the same with any human gesture.

When something is done genuinely - because of altruistic and positive reasons, out of love, people understand it intuitively.

When something is done disingenuously - for calculated and manipulative reasons - people understand that intuitively as well.

So as with all things, take Shakespeare's advice:

To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man. (or woman)

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Redlemon

It all depends on the circumstance, but yes, I used to do this in college as well, usually to good effect. Most frequently to new girlfriends of my friends during his introduction, so they would know it was all in fun.

There are two basic methods:

1) Dry lips brushed gently across the back of her hand.

2) Hold her hand sandwiched between your hands (right hand under in the handshake position, left above), and give a big wet noisy slobbery kiss to the back of your own hand.

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jvwgtr

If you're meeting royalty, the actual "kiss" is supposed to be a touch of the nose to the hand, not your lips...I guess this is more polite and sanitary(unless you have a cold).
Old-Fashioned etiquette dictates that you should never shake a lady's hand either, unless she offers it to you.

A kiss seems a little forward and creepy to me...forced is maybe the world. But like ARTelevision said, if it's done from the heart, it may not come across that way.

How about a slight bow?
Simple, non-invasive, and classy.

BigTruck1956

Haha its funny you should bring this up. A few weeks ago after i had been drinking a little i was doing this to every girl i met at the party i was at. Sure they knew it was all in good fun, but i think the reaction was more one of humorous surprise, if that makse sense. The way i see it, if you san pull it off, go for it. Myself, I dont think i can pull it off!

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sillygirl

I think it's cute when guys do this. It makes me all warm and fuzzy inside. But, intuition does work, and we know if it's fake. Be genuine, and do what comes naturally.

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tritium

I'm a hand-shaker. I always have been ... it arises from my father's constant offering of his hand to me for a "good ol' handshake" when I was younger (he hates limp handshakes and wanted his "boy" to grow up with a good handshake). Doubt I'll ever kiss a woman's hand, I far prefer the direct handshake method.

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analog

when a girl puts her hand out, it's usually cocked a little, allowing either a standard handshake OR, what I always do, the simple hand-hold. You gently take the hand in yours, holding basically only the fingers, as if you were going to kiss her hand, and then just look directly into her eyes and smile. I've never had anything but wonderful (and never laughing or funny) reactions to this.

turbodriven

Just brainstorming here...

As you shake her hand, continue on into a secret handshake manuever. When she loses the flow of it... say to her "what you don't know the secret handshake?" Then follow up with something like "well I do offer personal tutoring if your interested in learning" or something along those lines. *shrug... being different and adding a little humor into an introduction could prove to go far.

Sleepyjack

Recently i hvae be doing the double hand hold thingy where i encompass her hand with both of mine. Although thats only on girls i already know so far. I think it'd be unnatural for me if i kiss them or something, would look quite preconcieved eh...